| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:22:20 PM | | Almost every girl I know is 7-10 years younger than me, but we never seem to have an issue with it because we're on the same waveelength. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 3:38:31 PM | I met a young lady who is 22. I am 40. As attractive as she is and as much as I enjoy her company, I can not pursue this any further.
She has a lot to offer, and I think it would be a great relationship, but I feel that she would be better off in the long run with someone younger then me.
I am making the decision for her.
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/22/2006 6:47:11 PM | | Why is there so much emphasis put upon age? Really it's only a number when your mature... yes 25 and 16 is a bit od a gap there. I think your only as old as you feel. If you hold yourself well and are able to be mature enough to connect mentally on the same level, age shouldn't be a factor. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:33:01 AM | I rarely connect with women who are much younger than me. Unless I'm kidding myself for sex, but who does that?  Way different head space. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 8/30/2006 11:41:47 AM | [I am 38, and she is 29]
Older guy and younger girl, no big deal, it has been done like that for ages! I wonder is it all right with 6 year difference, when he is younger... | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:35:19 PM | | 9 years are you kidding me. I'm not datimg anyone unless they are at least 16 years younger than me. My dad was 18 years older than my mother. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:35:40 PM | the guy I'm dating is 8 yrs younger then me.....but.....poor guy....he does have a hard time keeping up w/ me........lol | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:37:19 PM |
The last two guys I dated were in their 30's.
So, age doesn't bother me.
In your case I would date you in a heartbeat fbarbiedoll if you lived close to me. Many many women your age just let themselves go, no makeup and they just stop caring. Your a very attractive woman who cares about your looks. Makes all the difference in the world. I'm 36 your 46. 10 years would be no big deal for me. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:38:28 PM | I prefer to date only people with at least a 150 year age difference. Either younger than -114, or older than 186. Either way, makes no difference to me.
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 4:49:05 PM | What is Age anyway? Its just a number. Maturity or lack there of, is what you need to focus on. Do the two of you make each other happy, and fill the void in your hearts? Do you have things in common, strong enough that would last into the future?
Yes, I agree, when you are in your 20's it makes a big difference, however, once you get past the drinking and partying, have a child or two, go through a divorce or break-up, and experience a little bit of life's joys and struggles, that's when maturity sets in...
We all know women tend to be a little more mature than men, so I would say go for it! Give her a little time and get to know her, and let her get to know you. There may be some things you remember from your childhood that she may not have experienced, but the fun is teaching her things about life she may not know.
Personally, I prefer the older male. I get along better with them, and tend to have more in common. If it seems to be a problem with either you or her, I would have an open conversation and talk about it, both the pros and cons, and together, (if she is something you are interested in, and vice versa), make the decision, together, of what happens next...
CowTrucker
Chapman, Kansas | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:01:25 PM | No, a nine year difference doesnt mean anything. Yes, if she is like 13 or 15 or whatever. But if she is like 19 and you are 29 that doesnt mean anything. Some men like the women younger, and some women like their men younger. It all depends on the preferences. My friend she is 26 and her husband is 43. that is 17 years. but so what? Look at it this way, she is almost 30 anyhnow.
Good luck and dont worry about age .... | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:07:44 PM | Personally , I wouldn't have a problem with a 20 year difference . .
. . on the Younger side, that is . .
That's Still older than my Kids . . but there is a Maturity Factor, too . . !!!
It's a rare woman, indeed that looks Exceptional .. much beyond 50 . . !!!
- Now . . Jane Fonda . . ?? . . Great at _70_ . . !!! - | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:26:21 PM | | Two thoughts came to mind in seeing this: no problem if I were 98 and she were 89. First is if one had alzheimer's that so COULD be a problem in dating anyone younger. The other is, why bother at that age? LOL. Oh wait, a third thought came to mind: EW! In between too young (illegal age range) or too old (needs a respirator to breathe even)then if you have things in common and it is more than just lust, why not find out? | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 5:49:50 PM | | I am casually dating someone 14 years younger than me. Niether of us are interested in sex at this time and we have been dating since last Feb. We go out to a few clubs for drinks, shopping malls for afternoons, Starbucks and a walk, It's not so much the age difference for me but the feeling of being attracted to a much younger person. And for her it's the feeling of muturity and financial security. We are talking about long-term and although I have reserved feelings about it. For now it's very refreshing and uplifting. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:00:14 PM | Im my experience the age difference however big is not as big a factor as the idnviduals involved. Maturity and self awareness are after all no garuntee simply because people are closer in age.
The trick of course is working out who is capable of relationship despite the age difference, rather than startign one and discovering one or other party cant cope part way into it, which inevitably leads to upset. working that out is not always the easiest of things. | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/3/2007 6:05:49 PM | By now, I would hope you have gotten an answer to satisfy. But...I figured I would note something I haven't read on any of the replies. My parents (ages 19 and 24 at my birth) were married for only 7 years before they divorced. They each remarried years later. My stepfather is 11 years older than my mom AND my dad is 12 years older than my stepmother. Each have been married for over 20 years. I personally think it's a better thing to have such an age difference. It seems to have worked well for them anyways.  | |
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| Is a 9 year age difference too much?
Posted: 9/5/2007 5:56:08 PM | 9 years are you kidding me. I'm not datimg anyone unless they are at least 16 years younger than me. My dad was 18 years older than my mother. maybe it's why you have such a success in dating | |
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