| | What is the definition of a 'cougar'?Page 4 of 11 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11) | Smart man whothehellknows. My experience has been the younger men have sought me out. It caught me by surprise at first, and now I am just enjoying it. Age doesn't matter when you meet someone you can share things with on all levels. | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:08:39 AM | An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf. Cougars are gaining in popularity -- particularly the true hotties -- as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together.
That cougar I met last night, showed me shit I didn't know existed, I'm goin back for more.
Source: www.Urbandictionary.com | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/17/2009 5:21:31 PM |
I have had the younger guys tell me the exact same reasons why they like older women....not as much drama as with girls their age.
this is kinda funny to me....considering that most "older" guys like to date younger women cause they dont want to deal with women their age that are bitter and man haters for choosing bad men to have kids with ....
I was 36 last year and dated a 25 year old. She was pretty mature for her age, had her crap together. We eventually fizzled out. One thing I did notice is that she wasnt bitter towards men. She didnt blame men for everything she has went through.
It's true though..the young girls have drama too. It's not an age thing. It's a woman thing I think! I don't know..people are people..I know young girls who have drama, I know young girls that don't. The same go's for women over 40 or what ever age...
The sad part is that NOT ALL WOMEN OVER 40 ARE BITTER MAN HATERS..it ruins it for all of us CHILDLESS women who have to deal with men our age not wanting to be with us. It's sad..I've met many men that are bitter woman haters...why can't people realize that this can go both ways!
Everyone needs to stop Man/Woman bashing! People are people and if one chooses to hold it against the whole other gender for what one or two jerks have done..they are missing out on so many wonderful people!
Not all of us blame men for everything we have gone through...we all need to think outside the box on this! | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/17/2009 5:33:18 PM | Cougar... *laugh* Well, it's a sad, bitter older woman who thinks that by getting fu-cked by a kid makes her happier and feel younger. After all the letdowns in her life she convinces herself that no men her age want her and that only brats want her. The difference between a kid and a man is that the latter knows better and avoids garbage.
Cougars will never be accepted in the same way as older men dating younger women. That's the way it's always been. There's no reason for a brat to waste his time on an older woman. For a man however it's different since he can still get kids until virtually any age. | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/18/2009 8:40:31 AM |
The sad part is that NOT ALL WOMEN OVER 40 ARE BITTER MAN HATERS..it ruins it for all of us CHILDLESS women who have to deal with men our age not wanting to be with us.
I believe women and men who have never been married with no kids are the exception. Im in the same boat, no kids, never married. Im not bitter in any way at all.
Im talking about the women who have been divorced a couple times, couple kids, and mad at men that have "hurt" them in any way. They then turn around go out with younger guys, get used for sex, but its ok since they are "just having fun", yet when an older guy does the SAME thing, all of a sudden its an issue.... | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/18/2009 8:54:42 AM | | An insecure woman who does not want to admit she's gotten older and wants to try and relive her youth by letting young horny guys screw her once in a while. | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/19/2009 12:07:59 AM | Hmmmmm. I don't think the term 'cougar' is the problem for those in that age bracket who enjoy the company of younger men.
I get called a MILF by my daughter's guy friends, I usually have a good laugh about it. There are a couple of her friends that constantly ask about me, and she goes between being pissed and then telling me that it's pretty cool that her friends think I'm attractive and cool to hang with when they gather here.
I am not interested in having a fling with a guy barely legal, but it's nice to hear that I'm attractive. I'd be lying if I said otherwise. And I have to admit, guys at that age are physically just wonderful to look at, all muscles and six-packs and legs to die for...mmmmmmmmmm.
But I like to fish in my own waters, and I have an amazing boyfriend who is the right age for me. So, I'm a happy camper.
Beth | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/19/2009 2:54:52 PM |
Hmmmmm. I don't think the term 'cougar' is the problem for those in that age bracket who enjoy the company of younger men.
I get called a MILF by my daughter's guy friends, I usually have a good laugh about it. There are a couple of her friends that constantly ask about me, and she goes between being pissed and then telling me that it's pretty cool that her friends think I'm attractive and cool to hang with when they gather here.
I am not interested in having a fling with a guy barely legal, but it's nice to hear that I'm attractive. I'd be lying if I said otherwise. And I have to admit, guys at that age are physically just wonderful to look at, all muscles and six-packs and legs to die for...mmmmmmmmmm.
But I like to fish in my own waters, and I have an amazing boyfriend who is the right age for me. So, I'm a happy camper.
Beth
Right on. I have some friends who have single mothers and all though I would never get involved with them, I do let them know they are hot. I think I do it more to boost their self confidence than anything, because confidence is everything. :) | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/20/2009 1:23:49 PM | Okay all definitions aside....why is a woman over 40 - who never hits on guys younger than her - but gets hit on all the time by them -- called a cougar???
I think it's the term young men have started calling older women so they don't have to tell their friends they are banging their buddies mother!!  | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/21/2009 10:30:54 AM | | Ouch! I dated, seriously dated, a guy 7 years younger than I was and I was stressed about the cougar stigma. Unless he's a hell of a guy, I doubt I'd take anyone under 30 seriously. The stigma of older woman/younger man is hypocritical given that men do it all the time and there's nothing negative attached to it. | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/21/2009 11:07:07 AM |
Men having been chumming up to hot young thangs for centuries and they get a pat on the back, but if we do it we are desperate aging women preying on innocent young men. WTF????
stop the pity party. If you told your g/f that your getting some sex from some young hottie as you call it. All your girlfriends would be giving you a "you go girl"....
I could care less if any 40 year old man or women for that matter is banging some 20 something "hottie"...
I just get annoyed by men and women who do this and try to sell me that they like younger men and women cause they "get along better with them"....
you get along better with them cause everyone has one thing in common.....sex... | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/21/2009 12:00:44 PM | Hey Buff...no pity party here, and not doing any 20 somethings either. Just stating it like it is, and you do have a point. My friends would high five me like mad, IF I did that. All in all it's just odd that we have a name for something if women do it and not for if men do....ah the inequities we must endure, LOL!   | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/21/2009 1:12:48 PM | MILF is a women that young guys want to score with.
Cougar is an older women who "preys" on younger guys.
NOT the same thing at all actually.... | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 8/21/2009 3:52:45 PM | What do you call a 41 year old woman who's been asked for her phone number repeatedly and decides "why not?" and ends up going out with a 24 year old?
I never realized he was 24. He's all heck of a lot more mature than some of the guys I've dated. He's polite, funny, intelligent, responsible and he makes me smile . We have the same tastes in movies as well as books and can actually hold a conversation without making obvious sexual overtures.
I laugh at my friends who call me a "cougar" because he doesn't act like a 24 year old. If you looked at him and his actions - you'd have guessed (like I did) he was in his early 30's.
Who cares what happens in the bedroom as long as it's consenting adults. I enjoy his company. He enjoys mine. If you see it as a label (whether positive or negative) it really doesn't matter unless you are the one dating them.
Besides, there aren't many people who can see "Silence of the Lambs" and "Hannibal" for what they truly are... a love story - sick and twisted... but that's what it is.
Nor | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 9/1/2009 7:05:41 AM | | It's funny, but the younger guys flock to me, I don't even TRY to act "cougar-ish" or whatever. I'm not on the prowl really but if someone finds me and wants to have some fun and I'm not seriously dating someone then why not? Have fun girls and protect yourselves! | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 9/5/2009 1:55:54 PM | A cougar is a horny old gal who likes young men.
Everybody knows that.
When the gender is reversed, we call them "dirty old men" and "perverts." | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/10/2010 1:07:09 PM | An attractive woman in her 30's or 40's who is on the hunt once again. She may be found in the usual hunting grounds: nightclubs, bars, beaches, etc. She will not play the usual B.S. games that women in their early twenties participate in. End state, she will be going for the kill, just like you. Associated with milfs
An older woman who frequents clubs in order to score with a much younger man. The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf. Cougars are gaining in popularity -- particularly the true hotties -- as young men find not only a sexual high, but many times a chick with her shit together.
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/10/2010 2:07:28 PM | "What is the definition of a 'cougar'?"
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An older, horny woman who's ashamed of her own age and thinks that by hanging out with people young enough to be her children will make her younger. It's one night stand material both ways obviously, and rarely worth the trouble and possibly the drama as well. Basically I pity them as men their age no longer appeals and they make up excuses for it, too. It's an unfortunate trend as opposed to men dating younger women which has been going on since b.C. It's not even generally accepted and looked down upon for obvious reasons. But then again, who takes ONS material seriously anyway... | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/12/2010 5:56:49 AM | Yàll who think all us over forties women are getting old and scared and ashamed etc should take a look around.
Like myself, there are lots of women who take care of themselves and look great in their forties. There are not that many men our age can say the same thing - certainly not enough good looking ones.
I think a lot of older men resent the ease with which we can get young guys (if we want to) and have turned cougar into a derogatory term - like all the other terms - but I think it`s just jealousy and competition that made it derogatory. If we don`t want men our age but they see us with someone younger and hotter it makes them mad.
When I first heard it 10 years ago it was from a hot young guy admiring a hot older woman and that`s the only way I`m going to think of it.
No need to make it so negative and women should not buy into the negativity either. It`s just done to keep us down and I`m not buying it. I`ve never chased younger men but with all the bitterness I see from guys my age perhaps it`s best I do. | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/12/2010 8:51:48 AM |
Like myself, there are lots of women who take care of themselves and look great in their forties. There are not that many men our age can say the same thing - certainly not enough good looking ones.
Laughable. You think more older women take care of themselves than older men?....I need some proof please. Other than your OPINION.
I`ve never chased younger men but with all the bitterness I see from guys my age perhaps it`s best I do.
Laughable. Is this really the reason why you would go after a younger man? | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/12/2010 10:54:02 AM | Well, I'm not quite 40, but on the cusp of being 'cougar age' and I have seriously considered dating men younger then me in the last year or so. Why? Because men my age and 5-10yrs older than me rarely seem to want to date someone as 'old' as me.
DISCLAIMER: Yep, this is my opinion and only based on my experience......
I rarely come across a profile of a 39yr old man willing to date a 39yr old woman. Their profiles much more frequently say the woman should be no older than about 34/5. But of course they are happy to date a 25yr old.
If they have no children and want them, I've noticed the age gap they look for widens even more and the more over 40 they are, the bigger the gap as well.
I've met a number of men IRL in the last year or so, just in social situations who are my age or a couple of years older and many of them are relationships with women 10 or 12 years younger than them.
And of course no one bats an eye. But if a woman does the same.......
Men who date younger only seem to get 'negative press' if the women is 20+ years younger and/or less than half his age. Women on the other hand cop a beating as soon as the gap is around 10 years. Totally hypocritical.
I have recently gone out with a man 13.5yrs older than me. Everyone around me thinks nothing of it and that the age difference is not an issue. But you can bet your life if I was dating a 26yr old, I'd be attracting far less encouraging feedback left, right and centre.... | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/12/2010 1:15:28 PM |
Men who date younger only seem to get 'negative press' if the women is 20+ years younger and/or less than half his age. Women on the other hand cop a beating as soon as the gap is around 10 years. Totally hypocritical.
it's entirely dependent on who you talk to. i seem to read a lot of 'you go girl!' encouragement on here when women say they're dating 10 years younger or so. and likewise, men can start earning the 'unrealistic perv' label when the age gap is 10 years. you can't worry about what people think.
I rarely come across a profile of a 39yr old man willing to date a 39yr old woman. Their profiles much more frequently say the woman should be no older than about 34/5.
don't fall into the literalness trap. we all have an idea of an ideal partner that we might list on a profile. yes, some people insist on every single micro-item on their shopping list, but lots of people are more realistic and have some flexibility. those 39 year old guys who list 34/35 are still talking about their peers. few will pass on a hot, interested 39 year old simply because she's 39. | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/12/2010 10:36:08 PM | /\ /\ /\
That's all very interesting, but I'll take the thread back to the original topic.
I'm quite sure the definition of a "cougar" isn't all that complicated and really isn't about the age of who's dating whom. What defines a cougar is the aggressive pursuit by a middle-aged woman of younger men for sexual encounters. The male version, in my day at least, was called a "wolf."
A woman my age (52) who "dates" younger men isn't a cougar, any more than a male my age who dates younger women is a wolf. A person my age who prowls bars or similar venues with the explicit purpose of finding a young man/woman ONLY for night or few of carnal pleasure is a cougar/wolf.
It's the method and nature of the connection - the on-the-hunt factor - that defines the stereotype, not the age.
Of course, the cougar term is tossed about willy-nilly. Sometimes it's mean-spirited, sometimes it's jocular. A true cougar, I imagine, could not care less either way. Nor would a non-cougar who just happens to date younger men. Heavens, the stuff some people say about men (in general) in the dating realm would be slanderous if we were to get all thin-skinned about it. | |
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| What is the definition of a 'cougar'?
Posted: 4/13/2010 4:58:47 AM | Ms Dawn you've done quite well in bringing this back to topic---the post directly preceeding yours seems more like an info-mercial for one chick and doesn't even remotely address the OP! It is hilarious though in its self-promotion attempt---kudos for that effort!
One problem so often encountered here is these terms that are tossed about willy-nilly---the almost complete lack of a universal agreement on their exact meaning says it all to me. As with so many things in the dating world the terms and words are given a bit too much weight while the intent or method is forgone. Its no wonder so many seem confused by their experiences and encounters if they rely more on such terms and words instead of the actions. Just like the term "friends with benefits" once meant casual NSA sex it has now morphed into two people being sexual with one another while having a strong bond of friendship-----yet isn't that the very definition of a relationship? LOL
And you're also correct those who practice connecting for the more sinister reason don't give a flying funt what others think---they're having their own fun! | |
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