| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/13/2008 11:02:54 AM | | I definitely like to think that I can still find true love! Unfortunately most of the emails I get are from younger guys and I am not interested in someone the same age as my kids! | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/13/2008 5:27:48 PM | The difference between the title of this post and the OP's first post through me for a loop at first. To me, love and money are not connected. I was married and then divorced from a guy who made a lot of money back in the 80's but I was a lot happier with a man who made only $35,000 a year a few years ago......... It's not about the money. It's about being able to live together and be real with each other and have fun just being together.
Now I admit that I can't get attracted to loafers or guys who just want to be toys. I worked most of my life and I don't see why most men can't work most of their lives.  But the amount of money doesn't matter to me.
But I will admit that I had a friend who placed a personal ad and I was shocked when she said the guy HAD to make at least $75,000. I mean, she didn' t have that much money! Why did he have to have it?
So I now there are women out there like that..........but I also know that there are women who can adjust to the income that is coming in..........if they love the guy. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/13/2008 6:08:33 PM | Well im glad to hear there is someone out there that feels money is not what it's all about!
there is a woman on here that said in her profile, She wanted a man with enough money to burn a wet horse, She said after that she was kidding, and I believe she was!! But it seems that for some, thats what it's about ! | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/13/2008 6:12:15 PM | True love over 60?......................I am sure of it.
Getting past the financial barriers......................not a problem for those of us that can leap tall buildings (or the smirks and jeers of family and "friends").
Why should it be so difficult? When a person is financially stable at whatever level of income they have achieved and the the only thing missing is the partner... ..why isn't it acceptable to share what is available for the benefit of both? The label society puts on a woman without the money is gold digger. If the male doesn't measure up financially he's a gigilo. If either becomes involved with a person in a lower financial status their friends and family snicker "he/she could do so much better".
The romantic in me sees happiness just as easily attained with $ than $$$$$ as long as the person I'm with makes my heart do flip-flops. The only person responsible for my happiness is me. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/13/2008 9:34:46 PM | | I don't make or have enough money for any connection I make with a man to be regarded by anyone as him being a gold digger, lol. However, for me, it would be essential a man can take care of himself, as I can't take care of him. It is also very important to me that he is a person who had worked hard and works hard to take care of himself. A lay-about, a person without ambition and drive, that is someone who is a real turn off for me. It isn't about a lot of money, but it is about enough to be responsible and independent. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/14/2008 10:24:30 AM | I agree about having the ability to share and help one another fiscally besides the basic elements of a relationship. It doesn't mean you sit down and go thru accounts and stubs to inventory to the last penny. My financial means take care of my needs, the house and property, along with the furbrats. I work part time also more to get into the mainstream but I thoroughly enjoy my job. A partner would be welcome, if he can or could contribute in other ways, not splitting things down the center or going for the set in concrete 50-50 all the time. The idea of marriage would cause some consternation due to the pension and SS issues also, one point some have not noted in late blooming relationships. You can find it but sometimes testing the frogs can be aggravating.
A nice plain presentable man who can carry on a conversation, hug, help out, with minimal nudges needed LOL Egads would love to find one to share life with but with the 200-300ins of snow and dog rescue make my resources very few. If I have live life solo well so be it not by choice but necessity then I will travel that path not too willingly but with a smile. Am not ready for polyester, rocking chair or bingo dauber by any means. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/14/2008 1:50:37 PM | Ismene1,
I couldn't agree more. I'm not rich. But I am completely self-supporting. I work a full 40 hour week, in part for the insurance & income, in part for the social aspect. I didn't post my financial info on my profile. Don't think its anyone's business. Doubt I'll ever be one to sit in a rocking chair & watch soaps. If and/or when I am ever in a LTR again, the man will have to carry his own weight. At this stage of my life I wouldn't expect a man to fully support me. Am I wrong to expect the same? | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/17/2008 8:03:22 PM | | This is just a thought, but it seems to me we don't have the stats on this. Do we actually know how many women who are financially secure have "accepted" a financially less secure man? Some men--notably men in developing countries--have a lot to offer besides money. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 5:41:21 AM | I like Older Women,but it seems to me they always filter me as a player after their money.(for those that have it) Too bad. Charlie Daniels said.....I aint asking nobody for nothing...if i cant get it on my own......
What ever happened about sharing your life? This includes things. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 7:34:33 AM |
The problem is falling in love with someone who falls in love with you!
............and, who lives within a 10 mile radius, are the desired height, weight, age, enjoy the same hobbies & social activities, have similar lifestyles, are both morning people or night people and the list of criteria goes on and on........
Oh, Mr. R......... IF ONLY it was that easy.
Finding true love >Fact or Fantasy? Well, from my own personal experience, it's a fact that most people have a a "fantasy list". | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 9:43:23 AM | Dang ... this is all too confusing
the title ....
the OP ... from 06
then revived in 08 with a new dumb question / premis
what to say .... oh what to say.
Finding true love .... fact or fantasy ..... at any age.
[we think we do then [x]years later find out we were wrong.]
after 60 ... we are constantly wondering if we have that many years left.
[seeing so many in my family didnt make it much past 70 ... if that]
now the money thing ..... well .... we do want to maintain our lifestyles but did money every get in the way of feelings .... more likely after we got married.
ok ... the new question .... age differential .
hey cougars are popular these days
dont hear that much about the dirty old man thing ... except with Heff
Just a thought .... if you are too busy looking for true love
you will probably miss all those good friendships that possibly could develop into true love.
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 10:37:33 AM | | I read the whole thread and there is more about money than finding true love. If this is a money topic, I will add my thoughts. Why not just agree to spend current incomes his and hers and not get into live savings. My investments pay me an income every month that I would not mind sharing, but spending my assets down whould be a problem . Just me. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 10:49:37 AM |
............and, who lives within a 10 mile radius, are the desired height, weight, age, enjoy the same hobbies & social activities, have similar lifestyles, are both morning people or night people and the list of criteria goes on and on........
Awwww, Phoebe, you are just too picky.....I limit myself to those who are sexually compatible, have a positive outlook on life and are flexible enough to be able to construct a new relationship from scratch...... | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:35:33 AM | Awwww, Phoebe, you are just too picky...
I prefer to use the word SELECTIVE
I guess you missed the fantasy list part of my post, EH?
Well, Mr. R ........both men and women have a LOVE-list, of some sort. Unless, I've misinterpreted other poster's on these fora. After all, you've shared your LOVE- list criteria: #1 sexual compatabilty, #2 a positive outlook and # 3 flexibility. These must be important to you. Some might call them fantasy and someone else may call them fact. | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:41:38 AM | Well, I do confess that making love to a fantasy is ultimately less appealing to me than making love to a real person, that is sexually compatible.....and ..... flexible!
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 6:32:32 PM |
Well, I do confess that making love to a fantasy is ultimately less appealing to me than making love to a real person, that is sexually compatible.....and ..... flexible!
...Hi, I'm new here, and my name is Fantasy.....I have been told that all my body parts are anatomically correct and I am quite flexible and bendy as well.
...Hi, I'm new here, and my name is Fantasy.....I have been told that all my body parts are anatomically correct and I am quite flexible and bendy as well.
...Hi, I'm new here, and my name is Fantasy.....I have been told that all my body parts are anatomically correct and I am quite flexible and bendy as well.
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 9:26:23 PM |
Ms. Mae you are such a naughty girl and I am sure a lot of mens fantasy.
...Naughty Moi?....
Hey, what can I say, when I'm good, I'm really, really good...but when I'm bad, I'm even better
...maeflowers | |
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| Over 60...Finding True Love >Fact or Fantasy
Posted: 11/19/2008 10:38:11 PM | Well we do have the first name in common (lol).....she was a saucey one wasn't she...always pushing the limits..... and a big flirt too
...maeflowers | |
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