| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 9/2/2009 5:14:31 AM | well, you said it in your opening statement....being young...a future of 'possibility'...and a lot less hurt and bias , and misunderstanding behind us....that would propel almost anyone headlong into love and relationship.
push the clock ahead...10, 20 years....or more....we realize that Love is...not necessarily that 'elusive', or hard to find...but it is hard to maintain. We have all failed...failed miserably at maintaining the loves of our lives. OH, we have perfected things like blame and unforgiveness, and shots at them for being abusive or so incorrect in judgement......
yet, the fact is, that people don't really want to Love and relate that much anymore. It has come to be my conclusion that this must be so. For , we have the most highly developed brains and skill systems on this planet, yet we use most of our energy to find fault in people and the world around us. I mean...read on here...the forums....every day I tune in...it's pretty much the same arguments.....and one trying to get a leg up on another.
Its amusing...and sad...and entertaining....and like a bit of a sideshow...and there is a bit of knowledge and real humanism in here too......it's a circus...and so far admission is free....so, all in all.....not a bad deal.....these days.
best to ya'll
Kimbo ~~  | |
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| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 9/4/2009 8:14:49 PM | I have a damn right to be picky 'cause I only live once.
yes I judge by appearance, actually I look at once face and eyes which can tell a story all by itself and how they carry themselves.
I don't dig girls who think they are all that or always they are the shit because they are wearing some high cloths.
I don't do long distance relationships anymore cause they don't work although this same chick I used to know wants me back still and thinks it can work. But I don't have enough time on earth to wait it out anymore.
You have to not be lazy and shit on your ass on welfare while smoking mary jane
you can't be divorced more that twice
you can't be a nympho that is so hard up for sex that she will consider a dog or orgies to satisfy her, I don't play that way.
I stay away from druggies and alcoholics, this happen to be something to be very important to me lately.
I happen to think i am good looking enough to have high standards to date women who rate pretty high on looks. | |
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| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 9/5/2009 12:17:15 PM | | I don't think we expect perfection. However, as we grow older and mature, our needs change. I am 40, and can tell you I have no interest in a woman who I cannot talk to about "mundane" topics. It's not that I am less interested in sex or having fun por whatever. It's that as I've grown older, I've found myself more interested in other things as well. This is usually what happens. | |
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| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 9/5/2009 12:34:17 PM | Fear from past experiences have settled in and made us picky. We've put blinders on allowing us to only see what we want using the "We deserve no less" as our mantra.
Quite stupid if you consider another thing we seem to have forgotten thanks to fear..
"Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like no-one's watching.
Sing like no-one's listening.
Live like there's no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone." | |
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| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 9/5/2009 10:06:27 PM | | I'm a pretty happy person and enjoy my life and where it is. I don't look at having standards so much as being 'picky' as,"Your presence is either adding something positive to my life or it's not. And I don't have time for downbringers who need an audience." Period. | |
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| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 10/20/2009 4:05:48 PM | yeah
I find I'm not really the picky one, if I like the person inside I'll go for it
However I find it hard to meet women in their 30s like me because they're all so picky
Its like they have a criteria list and if you fail to meet one of the criteria they're like, see ya!
annoying. | |
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| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 10/20/2009 5:26:29 PM | it's bizarre.
I was thinking about this exact same topic earlier today after a chat with a co-worker.
There are x number of single men in the world and x number of single women.
I don't know who is more picky, but I would say we live in a society that is dictated by media (for the most part) and all signs point to us being happy with ourselves..which really can be a tough call some days! The problem I see is that we get so ingrained in our own passions and excitement that we sometimes miss the passion and excitement that other people could bring into our lives. I generally message people who have something funny or interesting to say in their profiles. Something that catches my eye and is beyond the 'norm'.
And if I'm not their cup of tea...well, too bad for them ;) | |
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| How come we all get so picky after 30?
Posted: 10/20/2009 6:54:49 PM | I don't know.... I guess everyone has baggage and less patience in their 30's.
I find myself getting impatient with dating in general. It seems like a chore sometimes.
In my 20's everything was fun and a new experience. | |
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