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 fiery redhead
Joined: 2/25/2006
Msg: 78
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in a word....YES
 SweetieGuy_81
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 79
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Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/4/2006 11:20:51 PM
why are you lot judging a bad relationship if the sex is bad.

sex is meant for someone you love not for just fun, dumping someone because the sex is bad, is not a good enough reason and never will be.

Ok, so a relationship is good if the sex is good?

ok, so if a guy was physically and mentally abusive to a woman he was with, but the sex was so good, then the relationship is good? oh please...soooo stupid.
 thegreatrockyhill
Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 80
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:00:07 PM

Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?


I don't think so. Maybe I'm foolish, but I believe that if two people truly love and care about each other, the sex will work itself out.
 Idunnit
Joined: 10/28/2005
Msg: 81
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:11:21 PM
Sweet Sensations, I think we dated the same guy.

I tried to teach. I tried to raise the bar using fantasies. No go, he still just didn't have the oomph I needed.

Edit: to those that say we shouldn't be ending relationships over bad sex...there's bad sex you can live with, and then, there's BAD sex.
 ivegotwhtuwant
Joined: 3/31/2006
Msg: 82
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:11:48 PM
Yes. I mean obviously talk about whta you like and dont like and try again but if its still bad .. It would definatly be a deal breaker for me.. we all have our bad days but if its always bad.. :P thats just me tho
 Juicee Fruit
Joined: 3/9/2006
Msg: 83
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:23:14 PM
Yes - bad sex is a reason to stop dating.

great friendship + great sex = great relationship

great friendship + bad sex = great friendship
 thegreatrockyhill
Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 84
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:25:41 PM
Well I can see how bad sex might be symptomatic of deeper problems. But just because too people can't keep their hands off of each other doesn't mean the relationship is AOK either. In a lot of relationships, the sex is the only thing that keeps it going. I mean, can't you communicate about it?
 Juicee Fruit
Joined: 3/9/2006
Msg: 85
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:33:53 PM
true.. a lot of relationships are kept up by the great awesome sex they are having... but that's a different type of relationship. It's the infactuation, full of lust, hot and wet type of relationship that porn is made out of.

a relationship like that may not be able to survive on it's own... but a good relationship with crappyass sex will not survive either

EDIT - yes - communication is key - once you have exhausted all communication it's time to call it quits. that goes for if you're great lovers and can't become great friends and vice versa, you're great friends and you can't become great lovers
 thegreatrockyhill
Joined: 12/26/2005
Msg: 86
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 7:41:57 PM
Well, if the sex is just plain BAD and unpleasureable, I think it says something about how you feel about each other. But, can't the sex get better if you're truly in love though? It might start out so-so because of nervousness or whatever.

The way I see it, if the sex is bad and isn't getting better, then you're not in love with each other. It's not a good relationship.
 Verissa
Joined: 1/7/2006
Msg: 87
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 8:36:30 PM
Yes! Bad sex is bad sex...give it a while cause sometimes its just strange at first...but if it still sucks after a while oh my god stop...it won't work...unless you're one of those odd people who don't like sex then this kind of relationship may work for you.
 leak73
Joined: 3/8/2006
Msg: 88
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 8:37:55 PM
Depends I guess. If the sex is bad because of something he/she can't really change, then yeah, get out of town. But if it is something that you can train him/her to do better, then stick around.
 sexi_bella
Joined: 1/18/2006
Msg: 89
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:02:22 PM
Man if the sex is bad and that is a big part of the reltionship then ya i would, sex is another way for 2 ppl to connect, and what are they bad at, they can learn teach em
 dud
Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 90
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:03:41 PM
a relationship with bad sex is like going to boot camp for a vacation
 sexi_bella
Joined: 1/18/2006
Msg: 91
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:04:26 PM
I totally agree with dud awsome man.....

Your a cutie
 beavisHchrist
Joined: 3/18/2006
Msg: 92
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:42:53 PM
yea. and bad kissing too. you know those people who are just too wet when they kiss you or they just taste yucky, or theyre cold. i had one like that, every kiss was just cold wetness. ugh
 oceanpearl202
Joined: 9/21/2005
Msg: 93
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 9:58:32 PM
This is a sad story..lol. Grab a kleenex girls!

I was once in a relationship with a man for 6 years. I was really young when I met him - only 19 (I didn't have much sexual experience) and he was, at the time - 26.. anyway...

In the 6 years together...

I never once saw him naked in the daylight (He had to be in the dark while having sex)
I never once saw him in the shower - he refused to shower together or let me see his penis.
I never once had an orgasm
I never once saw his face when he orgasmed - he'd hide away his face, plus it was dark..lol
I never once used a sex toy in that 6 years because he wouldn't hear tell of it!

I actually met up with another one of his ex girlfriends recently and she gave the same horrid description (a chore really) of making love to that man.. ick, ick, yuck!

It was the most mechanical, awful sex imaginable and the son of a b$%@# wanted it like 3 times a day..lol

I became an asexual being and .. uhm.. spent a LOT of time in the shower..lol. I began to wonder if it was me, but he kept saying it wasn't - I realize now that it couldn't because the f'er wanted it constantly!!!!

I know what you are all thinking.. was this man a goblin? Did he have a funky penis? - I touched it, I was near it often - nothing seemed out of alignment or odd as far as that went.

I think that most of you ladies on here would think that he was a good looking man

Just had some really obvious sexual and self esteem issues surrounding his penis!

On the plus side, he was a good kisser and was a really fun guy to be around, but to f#%^ . AWFUL!

Don't worry about me though, I've since had a katrillion orgasms. I have never before or since had a partner so awful - I'd never stay in a relationship with a person that I didn't feel sexual compatability for again.. it's horrid! Mutual attraction can't last without good sex.

WHAT WAS I THINKING?????????

OP
 sweet-mary
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 94
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:01:24 PM
yes, hello duh, but i dont want to teach someone. bad sex and if they kiss badly they are gone it just happens when u connect with that person and u know the sex is going to be amazing now that is a wonderful feeling,

And the kissing part is my clue as to what the person will be like in bed.
JMO
 sweet-mary
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 96
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:08:42 PM
yes there is bad sex example if a guy doesnt go down on you or his kisses are to sloppy and wet do u really want me to go on lol

at my age, i always know by kissing them...if i want to sleep with them or not
JMO
 sweet-mary
Joined: 4/3/2006
Msg: 97
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:11:11 PM
and sorry i forgot to mention that kissing is a big thing for me
so if he isnt a good kisser, out the door.....sorry just me
 FantasyFlavor
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 99
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:45:10 PM
marshw-[Forget bad sex.Bad kissing alone is enough.].

I have to agree with you there.I love kissing too much..
(add bad sex?...sorry,nope,I can't stay.)
 FantasyFlavor
Joined: 1/4/2006
Msg: 101
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:56:49 PM
^^^not necessarily...haven't you come across a bad kisser?

though I've not had bad sex,I'll agree with you on the o.k. sex.
 EZP
Joined: 10/26/2005
Msg: 102
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/5/2006 10:57:26 PM
For those who refuse to be trained properly...........yes...see ya.......
 hopeful_di
Joined: 7/7/2005
Msg: 104
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/6/2006 3:54:44 PM
Yes... How do you stay interested in your significant other if the sex isn't good, especially if he shows no interest in learning how to please you? To some, it's not something they instinctively know. If you try to communicate to him how you may have different sexual interests/preferences than his exes, and he thinks what he's always done will do the trick, you will end up frustrated and possibly bored. These relationships never last. I guess, I'm waiting for my sexual hero. *Smile...*
 sassyvgirl
Joined: 4/2/2006
Msg: 105
Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/6/2006 5:39:06 PM

Yes - bad sex is a reason to stop dating.

great friendship + great sex = great relationship

great friendship + bad sex = great friendship


I agree....of course, if everything else about the relationship is great...try to communicate what you like before ending it. I can't imagine a longterm relationship with someone if we are sexually incompatible...hell, if the kissing styles are incompatible....bad sign from my experience. Call me shallow, but if the sex is bad...then it's not the kind of "relationship" I wanna spend the rest of my life in. Just my .02
 John50001
Joined: 4/1/2006
Msg: 106
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Is bad sex a reason to stop dating?
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:02:57 PM
Sex only represents 5% of a relationship, but if it is bad then it represents 95% of the problems in the relationship...so it's best to be good in sex...
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