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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/9/2006 12:56:16 PM | | I'm sure all these internet guys never look at porn. Perish the thought. Well, out of the frying pan and into the fire with you then. Just an FYI, single guys are understanding, because thats how they get girls. Relationship guys tend to get a little comfortable, as would any of these single guys if you dated them. You would wind up trading six of one for a half-dozen of the other. | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/9/2006 2:07:42 PM | | Ok I need to restate this in another way. Normal guys will lookg at porn whether married or not. i dont care who you are. Maybe not every guy looks at it but 99% of them do. A guy saying he does not look at porn is just as much of a lie as if he said he didnt masturbate. | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/9/2006 3:02:46 PM | You both have needs and desires - this forum is your internet porn - it is meeting a need of yours. If he is looking at internet porn I can imagine what one of his needs might be - not that we need to have that need to need to look at porn - it's like driving and seeing a beautiful sunset why wouldn't you want to look at it while touching yourself inappropriately?
We are all just human and we all yearn to be heard and understoof - and touched inappropriately.
Your husband also wants to be heard - Triangulating is transferring relational anxiety outward away from your partner - empower yourself and express yourself - speak calmly of your anxiety to your husband. Learn to listen well to him - reiterate what he Say's - speak of intention and impact - speak from a place of feeling - and a vision towards the future you want.
Be the change you want to affect.
There are times in every relationship where we feel unheard, unappreciated - and in turn we start to appreciate less and listen less - if we aren't careful we can start to compare the strengths of others to the 'growing edges' of our partners and ourselves-
To hang our hopes on the whimsy of wishes
while embracing shadows unmet
A dance of despair to swim with the fishes
While living a life of regret | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/9/2006 3:22:35 PM | LADIES AND GENTLEMEN!!!!!
Here we have a perfect example -- in the OP -- of why guys complain that the jerks get all the girls!
He's a nice guy: he doesn't beat her, come home drunk all the time, blow the house payment gambling, or cheat....but he's "boring".
So, she wants a bad boy. Someone who will also be viewing porn, will use her and drop her, may give her broken heart or broken bones.
HELLOOOOOO! This person is either a troll or a cheat or both.
She's also a selfish, shallow idiot. | |
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Rouxx
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Msg: 31 | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/9/2006 3:31:14 PM | After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
If one were to read this line only, then one would understand why you wouldn't want to be married to any man . . . 
@Smiles--yeah, so what? I can still joke, can't I? | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/9/2006 3:32:55 PM | what does meeting anyone HERE have to do with it?
if you want a divorce, you should get divorced irregardless of 'who else is out there'.
i don't think you should let a dating site persuade you.
kinda juvenile. | |
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~iiCe~
| | Joined: 7/26/2005
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/14/2006 4:21:20 AM | What makes the men here so understanding? Would they be as understanding if you were coming home to any of them? May any of them become boring as well over time? Sounds like you are the one who may feel bored. What intersets do you have? Do you spend any time with your girlfriends? What things have you always wanted to do and never made an effort to follow through. Too many people have disposable relationships today thinking that the answer is switching his or her partner for a newer model. Everyone becomes more familiar with time.Maybe your husband is equally bored. What would be the harm in bringing up how you are feeling to him? You may be pleasantly surprised or not. Good luck with your search for answers.The answers are already inside you, you just have to become still enough to hear them!  | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/14/2006 4:32:57 AM | Wow, you want the bad boys, lol, they are gonna use you and lose you. They talk to you like they will pamper you, gee, you are safe for them right now, no threat to their singlehood, no worries about committment.
How many of these guys have you met in person? You are in for a rude awakening when you do meet them.
Sorry, guys, have to rat on you, they are players, you can count on it that they have other women they tell the same thing as they tell you, lots of them. Now, I am talking abou the "bad boys". Their pictures are usually old, very old, and they are usually much older or much younger than they have told you. A good many of them are married.
But then, thinking again, your husband doesn't deserve someone like you, he deserves better. Go ahead, divorce him, leave him, some woman who wants a GOOD man will snap him up in a hurry. You can have all the bad boys, lol, and I am sure you will have LOTS of them. Try to get one of them to marry you, lol, GOOD LUCK, they are in it for sex, for fun, fun, fun. | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/14/2006 4:37:52 AM | | So, while you were committed "till death do you part", you decided to shop around for a replacement online, and having found so many here, you have decided to break the commitment? Thanks for making me happy to be single. | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/14/2006 4:40:34 AM | Hey, pretty lady. Is your nicey-nice husband not treating you right? I'll pamper and empower you. Just come on over, and don't forget to bring the condoms.
Yes yes - I know. She's already deleted her profile. But I had to comment on this thread before it gets deleted. While I sympathize with unsatisfying marriages, the OP is doing nothing more than logging into PoF for emotional stroking-off. She is the female equivalent of a guy slipping off to BeatYourMeat.com, and oogling over the perfect breasts and tight, shaved who-who's of 19-year olds.
None of those "bad boys" understand you, dear. I've got no qualms with fantasy, but, wherever you are, that's exactly what it is. | |
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/14/2006 4:56:52 AM | Well not sure why your on a dating site when your married?
Maybe you should work on the relationship you have first or end it so you can both find happiness. Alot of the men on here will tell you whatever you want to hear, be careful.
As for the porn, just pictures, not contact with real people.
Maybe instead of being discusted you should have joined in!!!
Sounds like some spice is needed.
I would find your looking for a new one on here more of an insult than the porn deal.
Seems more like an intend to cheat
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/14/2006 5:23:59 AM | | Please reconsider your decision. Remember the saying that grass is always greener on the other side? It's not ! I wouldn't base my decision to divorce on talking to a few guys on this site-it would be a huge mistake. Read the book "Relationship Rescue" by Dr. Phil McGraw it's an excellent book. People who are addicted to internet porn aren't bad people necessarily--it's common in today's society with the prevalence of the internet etc. although it definitely doesn't make it right, I know. It's a huge ill in society today, unfortunately. I guess what I'm trying to say is to STOP and really think about what you are doing. Talk to an objective third party if you need to because it's hard sometimes to see things clearly when you're in the middle of something like this and the consequences of a wrong decision could be a HUGE one--especially if you have kids. Unfortunately, the kids end up paying the biggest price of all when everything is said and done and they certainly ask to put into a situation like this. Take good care and good luck ! | |
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jty98
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| After meeting some of the men here, I am about to divorce
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:54:33 AM | So, let me get this straight wifenomore, you, by your own admission, have a "nice, boring guy".
And you, by your own admission, want to be "understood and empowered" by some bad boy. What do you consider a bad boy? I work with and have met and have fought with rapists, murderers, con artists,thieves, gang members, hookers, junkies, and drug dealers. Do you consider them bad boys? Oh and don'tforget the child molesters. The fact that you want to be understood by such, if that is what you consider a bad boy, is very telling. Sounds like to me you want to be dominated by some media determined image of what you think is sexy. Let me tell you something, stick with the nice guy, if indeed these are the types of "bad boys" you want to attract. Even if these aren't the "bad boys" you want to attract, the only person that can empower you is you. Yes, he shouldn't be looking at porn. That's disrespectful and cheating on his committment to you. It sounds like you both need therapy. My 2 cents.  | |
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