| | why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??Page 4 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | >>But, I've found that women I usually would not want to spent time with, do have the qualities I seeking in a relationship. But, don't work out and take care of themselves, so I pass. >In response to budgirl1, how can you really determind if the guy your passing up doesn't have the qualities your searching for. I agree you have to try to find what you want!<<
Smacks of double standard to me.
Apparently it is OK for men to judge solely on appearance, but women should take the time to get and know the man, regardless of whether his picture looks like a troll under the bridge. Why are the expectations for women higher?
I find that many very attractive people, become much less so upon acquaintence and people I did not originally find attractive at all, become truly beautiful from the inside out on closer inspection. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/9/2006 7:31:51 PM | | I am a gal and I have the same question for the guys. I agree it has to do with your looks and location. I would like to talk to anyone but many of the men are so stuck up. It could be they don't see your IM since I don't see my profile listed. This site is misleading. I feel it has to do with it being "free" so they chose what they want to do with this site or who they want to post. Go look for my profile and I bet you don't see it. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/15/2006 9:47:11 AM | Spanisht: I see your profile just fine. When searching I think it's a "feature" to not show your own profile.
Some computers won't accept IMs and sometimes I'm at work where it would be really bad to IM. I assume the same is true for others.
Additionally, I tend to avoid IMs because of personal preference. This seems supported by the last two IM requests I got - they just wanted to cam and I'm not into that. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/15/2006 2:56:13 PM | Personally, I get a lot of IM's. I don't have the capability of carrying on 12 conversations at once, so a lot of guys don't get a reply.
And if I do reply, that usually leads to a push into giving out my phone number. Which I don't do that often. Which means the guy is going to get rejected anyway. So if I don't see myself being interested when first contact is made, it is easier to reject him off the bat.'
It helps if you have a pic. If you don't have a pic, you will never get a response from a lot of people, myself included. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/15/2006 3:15:12 PM | | The fact that women may not respond to your IM requests should NOT be taken so seriously. I personally don't like to IM because I don't care to type and type and type while the other person waits for my reply. I would rather message back and forth to see if such person is remotely interesting to me anyway. Remember...reel her in with something that is a sincere compliment or something that she happens to mention as an interest in her profile. If you are a copy and paste kind of guy a woman like myself can immediately pin point and conclude that you are dull and unimaginative. Just don't take it to heart so quickly because it likely is not even what you are imagining the issue to be. | |
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| Wrong AGE group:10,20,30 yrs YOUNGER than I = NOT Flattered to ME -age 59-60yo!
Posted: 7/15/2006 5:48:50 PM | 3 reasons WHY some IMs got NO replies:
1) the typist is AWAY from the computer - left on...while he/she is in the kitchen, bathroom taking a shower or whatever ....or even left the home for a quick errand?????????
some sites log you OFF and other good sites do NOT disconnect you from IM etc...
2) I frequently got back to the sites and I found only men 21 or 24, 27 yo IMing me. I block them instantly because there is NO point. I am NOT in my 20s, 30s, nor 40s.. and besides WHY Type ? it is much more effective to chat FREE UNlimited LIVE VOICE on Skype.com.... MY Skype: Professeur3 if You want to KEEP YOUr pHONE secret??
**no BIG DEAL FOR me... mY BAY AREA PHONE IS TRANSFERRED TO EUROPE OR WHEREVER i AM....
LIVe chat? 57-64YO PHONE CHATTERS READING THIS? midnight SFO = 9 AM in Paris France UNTIL 26 jULY 2006
Yes, I repeat MY AGE GROUP 50-64yo again and again to DISCOURAGE or PREVENT men younger than my ONLY Child: 28yo Engineer from WASTING THEIR Time and mine (I Block them because life is too short to waste time with youngsters or typists. I have FREE UNlimited long distance calls. thus to ME, CHATTING is with the HOT Lips for REAL People NOT seeking VIRTUAL INvisible TYPIST NETheads )etc.
3) THEIR PROFILES are NOT compatible i.e. seeking intimate encounters or NSA Sex. Thus, it is pointless to reply to those men IM the wrong people or. their profile put the age limit 25-43 yr... WHY THE HELL they IM me age 57yo+ ?? ....oh well, they are NOT TRUE to themselves.
N.B. I just wish most sites have IM FILTER for AGE GROUP...so I will NEVER be flooded with endless requests for IM in MOST sites by men in 20s,30s or early 40s looking for adventures-flings with mature women = very DEGRADING to me, a practicing Catholic! grin! ):
I feel very FLATTERED when a NONsmoking man CLOSE to age 60yo sends me an Instant Message = some hope of Earning Their Heart?? Smile...
It is PAST 3 AM in Paris, France (9 hours AHEAD Here-Paris)....Good Night
Peace
P.S. I live 5-7 months a year in Europe: ALL springs and summers... to AVOID HIGH Hay Fever POLLEN Count in bay area
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/15/2006 6:56:20 PM | first of all...they have a much better selection since the ratio is at least 5:1 men to women. So why would they pick yours (or mine's) sorry ass?
However, REVENGE is sweet..if they shut you out right away such as seeing their IM window "open" then "closed" right away (confirming they recieved your IM) and your lucky enough that the girl has a pic up for rating...... I am not saying I do this of course.  | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/16/2006 7:31:28 AM | When someone IM's me I take a qiuck look at their profile. If the profile does not interest me. I don't bother to answer the IM. Why bother just to reject the caller. I don't think that that is very kind. I have tried all of the nice ways to let someone know that I am not intereseted but some are very persistant. So if you don't start a conversation with someone you are not interested in it's better for everyone.
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/16/2006 9:33:15 AM | | Simple my friend, you have to include your yearly salary. Just throw in one extra zero and you’ll be amazed at your success. Next to money, the next thing a woman looks at is your picture. This problem can’t be solved by simply adding a zero. However, there is a lot of great software out there for photo editing that can give you the cutting edge for online dating. If you like a particular woman and she does not respond to your IM, then she does not like you. To solve this common problem edit the picture by inverting the colors on the whole picture. This will make you the opposite race. If she is not feeling vanilla or the sexual chocolate then try another race. Since there are like 5 races, the look of the other three can be made by darkening or lightening your skin. For this to work you must say that you are an exotic mix, since most women like that word. This is step is crucial since woman only see skin deep. Repeat this process until you obtain success; just change your name every time. Now if this doesn’t work, it means two things, the woman has either died, or she does not like your body type. Quick fix friend. Spray paint the fat away with the appropriate background, or just add an extra zero or two to your pay check. (Extra Zero is easier). With this knowledge, you may now become the king of online dating. Just look at my picture, I was once a poor Hindu man. Now I am white and make millions. That is all, happy hunting. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/16/2006 11:55:54 AM | | I AGREE WITH YOU MOST WOMEN HERE SAY THEY ARE LOOKING FOR THE HONEST MAN OR LOOKING FOR MR RIGHT BUT IF YOU DONT LOOK A CERTAIN WAY YOU ARE NOT THE ONE. ALSO I FEEL LIKE MOST MEN THAT ARE SPEAKING HERE THAT THEY ARE HERE FOR THE VOTES AND FEEL BETTER THEN THE NEXT. WITH 400 FRIENDS ON THERE LIST OR BEING CHOOSY. THEN THEY ARE THE ONES COMPLAINING ABOUT THE GUY THEY DATED THAT DID THEM WRONG. GEES COME OUT OF THE BOX. IF YOU KEEP DATING THE SAME KINDA OF GUY DONT YOU THINK IT IS TIME FOR A CHANGE. AND THE LADY SAID EARLYER WRITE A SENTENCE OR TOO HAA TRY IT AND SEE IF YOU DONT SEE UNDER YOUR MESSAGE READ DELETED WITH OUT A SORRY NOT INTERESTED. AS FAR AS HURTING FEELING MEN HAVE BEEN REJECTED MORE TIMES THEN YOU KNOW WOMEN HAVE HARDLY EXPERINCE THIS. AND THERE ARE MORE WOMEN THEN MEN IN THIS COUNTRY. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/16/2006 11:59:59 AM | | I AGREE SPANISHT I HAVE NEVER SEEN YOU BEFORE. AND SOME OF THE WOMEN IN THE FORM I HAVE NOT SEEN THERE PICTURES AT THE TOP I HAVE BEEN ON THIS SITE FOR A WHILE. I HAVE DELETE MY PROFILE A COUPLE OF TIMES BUT SOME OF THE WOMEN IN THE FORM I HAVE NEVER SEEN BEFORE UNTIL I GOT HERE. THEY DONT ROTATE ENOUGH WOMEN THROUGH THE TOP PROFILES. | |
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| Funny I always get deleted
Posted: 7/18/2006 8:00:51 AM | | I emailed a few profiles and all but 2 deleted my email. So they do read the mails but have such a stuck up snobby attitude of arrogance and so just treat this as a game to vent on men. | |
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| Funny I always get deleted
Posted: 7/18/2006 8:25:19 AM | But isn't it one of the benefits of online dating that you get to pre-screen all the wannabe Romeos?
I am a nice, sweet, down to earth girl. I am not a man hater, or a gold digger. Still, I don't answer a majority of my IM's. Does that make me a bad person for not wanting to waste my time or the time of the guy I am talking to?
I have also found that if I DO talk to man that I am not interested in or who is not my type, they can NEVER take the hint after that. So I don't give them a chance to start.
It's not just about looks, though that plays a role. Physical attraction is important, though I have met a few guys off of here whose pics didn't necessarily impress me and I had a good time with them. But do I think that I get a million IM's because men are interested in my personality? That would be a delusion and I think that the bitterness needs to stop from some of the men on this thread. Play in your own league and you might have a shot. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/18/2006 12:15:42 PM | Why don't most gals respond back when you IM them?
Well I think it's like this.
Think back to that film in high school biology where a large egg is surrounded by a hundred or so sperm all wiggling their little tails.
That's kind of the way it is with women and men. For many women, there often too many men surrounding them with tails a wagging.
I can see where a woman just shuts off and only lets one in...like the egg in the film.
Best wishes on finding the right gal. Maybe you'll be the one.
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Posted: 7/18/2006 1:29:19 PM | HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA that is a perfect visual for it Uncle Enrico!!
just to put my two cents in it.....if, and when, i have not responded to an IM or email, its not cuz im picky, or "stuck up" like sum emails have stated ...LOL..its just like most ppl on here have said, just not interested..for wut ever reason it may be..and its usually not looks but maybe da approach , or somethin stated on da profile..regardless, i think we all on here do NOT have the obligation to respond if not interested... and if they dnt respondc dont take it so seriously and curse dem out cuz dat jus proves y dey shouldnt respond psycho!  | |
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| It is obvious
Posted: 7/18/2006 3:59:21 PM | that few women on here understand basic grammar and English language. So, for me, best just to wait for a decent foreign lady in Brasil or Eastern Europe UNLESS a decent educated sweet lady with brains and charm can snatch good men up. Online dating is kind of an inside joke. Think about it.. what would you do if you had to tell all your friends and family that you have to resort to online dating rather than meeting someone in real life?
I am not saying all women on here are bad or generalizing. Just seems quite large majority have serious issues that I would rather not deal with. Not all, just most. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/18/2006 4:26:42 PM |
i think we all on here do NOT have the obligation to respond if not interested
This is a sensible approach. There's no overt rejection, less pain, and no tedious excuses. It's faster and simpler.
It's like a simple hang up on a telemarketer. The telemarketer can move on to the next call and the person called can get back to their life with no unwanted discussion.
Now, try cancelling your AOL account. You'll be tied up forever.
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/18/2006 5:58:13 PM | Reasons why I don't respond to IMs: Sometimes if a guy is way out of my geographic area, if he's married, if his message seems way too sexual.
But sometimes my computer is just too slow and the IM disappears before I have time to reply! So maybe you shouldn't take it personally and send an email just in case. You never know. I'm surely not the only one still working with dialup, or not quick enough to get to the IM before it disappears, so blame technology instead of thinking it's a rejection and write a nice email note as a backup. You never know. She just might be frustrated that she missed your IM. That has happened to me before. Good luck. | |
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| It is obvious
Posted: 7/18/2006 6:06:28 PM | | Mixxalot your on here as well, lol. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/18/2006 6:24:07 PM | | Depends on what you say. You have to give someone some kind of incentive to respond beyond just " hey, howya doing? " Try to notice something in thier profile and comment on that, or ask a question of some kind. It's interactive and more fun for them. The more creative you are the more responses you'll get. | |
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| why is it that most gals dont respond back when u im them??
Posted: 7/18/2006 9:02:28 PM | maybe because they don't like the im message you sent
or checked your profile and they didn't like what they read and saw
i mean your pix
in my case, i always reply to every e-mail i get and all im's
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| Dating sites
Posted: 7/18/2006 10:42:59 PM | Actually I only joined this dating site because it was free. I have zero expectations of meeting anyone compatible. If it happens, thats nice but I am not worried too much. I like these forums. Very entertaining and so many fembots on here like to complain about a shortage of "good men". :jumper
Unrealistic and false expectations make relationships difficult to create and last. On both sides.
Actually I believe that men are less demanding than women in the perfect relationship. Men just want a woman who is not obese and looks decent. Personally, I just want a lady who does not smoke or do drugs and who does not have a ton of debt and who likes fitness and has a decent figure. Not much to ask. Hard to find.
Women want that Brad Pitt guy who is six foot four, makes ten million dollars a year, is a poet and sensitive wuss and drives a Bentley or Ferrari. Well at least it so appears in San Diego based on what I have observed.
What an insane world we live in!
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