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| How do you ask your NEW mate about past sexual partners?
Posted: 3/12/2006 8:38:40 AM | Right, its none of their business! But for mathematical purposes if you are doing a count just for yourself does oral sex count? How about half a point for oral (giving or receiving), three quarters of a point for 69, a full point for intercourse and two points for anal?   | |
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| How do you ask your NEW mate about past sexual partners?
Posted: 3/12/2006 8:49:09 AM | hehehehe Caressa...God I love you!! Ok if we're gonna give merit points.....we gotta go much higher here and mayber even get a trophy huh?
Giving oral....perfect 10....(ladies first just to make sure)
Demanding oral and not giving....-10. 
69.......evenly shared........perfect 10.
Full Intercourse.....Bang-On!......(if they do it right!)........perfect 10.
Anal.........Do it right and ya get another perfect 10.
Trophy goes to the best Guy with the most points and full frontal assault abilities.
Kit........Oh I know some of yours too. I say we give that trophy to Tracey. (Dick Tracey that is!) 
Awwww Never mind, just don't ask about past history.....it's way too Scary a subject. | |
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| How do you ask your NEW mate about past sexual partners?
Posted: 3/12/2006 8:51:38 AM | Simple... call her up and tell her before the next time you see each other you expect to have a list of the following..... arranged chronologically by date - most recent first...
Person's name, date of birth, present address, present telephone number, and names of any relatives/friends of that person.
Then call each person and verify the information.
wait..... what if she lies. To ensure accuracy of the information post an ad in all the newspapers close to locations where she's lived and ask anyone to contact you that she knows. Ask them any questions about her you feel would help.
Ummm... might as well give up on the dating cause you might be busy with the verification interviews and responses from the ad's.
Ok..... seriously, don't ask. Number of people is irrelevant. She could catch something from just one person - so what's the point in the numbers, unless you're feeling a little insecure or jealous. Just get tested together and carry on...... Good luck! | |
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| How do you ask your NEW mate about past sexual partners?
Posted: 3/12/2006 9:49:18 AM | I really don't care about #'s, maybe just good to know. Maybe not. But its good to raz you guys up. If you were with me and only with me, thats all the counts really. Past is the past.
I think in many perspectives, doesn't mean I am for or against something, just a good debater. This is one of those topics that really has no right answer. People are different.
and no, I have not slept with 1000 women. I don't think that is really what I am going for. | |
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lohki
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| How do you ask your NEW mate about past sexual partners?
Posted: 3/12/2006 10:32:06 AM | was I supposed to be keeping track?..
those kinds of questions start off innocent.. just trying to feel the sexual past out.
ask and he/she shall answer... you might not get the most truthfullest of answers, but that's what you get for asking stupid questions.
~how about.. how much experience have you had with >>>>>>
or ~have you tried >>>>
or~ how do you feel about doing >>>>> | |
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| WHY I THINK NUMBERS MATTER
Posted: 3/14/2006 4:32:17 AM | WHY I THINK NUMBERS MATTER
1 partner 1000 times VERSUS sex 1 time by 1000 partners
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1 partner 1000 times = only one sexual partner, lower risk of infection from std's
1 time each by 1000 partners = odds are greater that out of 1000 men one of em will have an std
simple math - lets say (and i'm just making this number up) 1% of the population has a STD
if you look at the stats alone, having sex with 1 partner your risk would be 1% that your partner is infected
 BUT.... using the same stats, 1000 partners.... and 1% have a STD, that means you've most likely had sex with 10 infected partners
CAN YOU SAY EWWWWWWWWWW!!!!
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now to answer the original question, i dont think i'd ask how many partners someone slept with, instead i'd want to know how many UNPROTECTED partners they had slept with and I would ask only PRIOR to intercourse
Additionally, I feel its ONLY responsible to get a full range of STD testing done before entering a new sexual relationship, regardless if it was safer sex or unsafe sex. | |
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| WHY I THINK NUMBERS MATTER
Posted: 3/14/2006 4:42:07 AM | there was an old joke you can do on a calculator
if you take 1 person plus 5000 partners, and they each do it 7 times
5000 + 1 x 7 = 35007, if you turn the calculator over you get the answer lol | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 5:48:14 AM | allison, obviously anyone who would have had sex once with 1000 partners would be a damn fool to have unprotected sex...i was just hypothetically speaking that it doesn't matter if it's with one person or more than one, the number of times you have sex really shouldn't matter to a new partner nor should the number of partners....what should matter is if you are clean and that is an entirely different thing...it only takes ONE partner to infect you and even if you slept with just ONE person over and over and he/she decided to get it on behind your back with someone else that same ONE could still infect you...keep it wrapped and get tested together and hope to hell you can trust that your partner will remain faithful...there's really nothing else you can do besides abstaining and i don't think too many are doing that.
well maybe other than dart cuz his bed post has no notches in it. | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 6:46:29 AM | | I tried to pay her to put a notch in there, not for sex just to have her say I had sex. | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 8:45:34 AM | sillychick, i agree
thats why i think if a question needs/should be asked it should not be how many partners but how much unprotected sex a person has had
now i have a question to stir things up a bit
how does everyone feel about fishies having unprotected sex in our fish pond?
i'm aware of a fair number of fishies having unprotected encounters at events
the #1 excuse i hear is "i was drunk"
but i think all it takes is one stinky trout to polute the pond, and well...
although our pond is big, its not THAT big
comments?
anyone else worry about this? | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 8:52:05 AM | | when 2 people copulate it's their business if they do protect or not and when they go to invade the next fishie that's up to those 2 to decide what they want to do....none of my business what 2 fishies do together or what their excuses are..hell i'd not even think of asking....oh btw when you slept with ABC did you 2 go bareback or wear a raincoat...just not my style..i worry about what i do when i'm one of the people involved and worry about where's he's been. | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:10:59 AM | agreed... BUT WHEN....
they approach you
with something like "i found out they had herpes after having sex with them"
would THAT concern you then?
how would you handle it if a friend was then getting involved with the partner
personally, i just dont wanna know these things
BUT IF AND WHEN YOU DO...
how would you handle it?
would you mind your own business OR warn your friend who was thinking of getting involved? | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:15:08 AM | Wow you sure do know how to stir things up, whatever people do do at our parties is their business, we are adults not kids, and GOSSIP/ASSUMPTIONS suck large rice balls.
It's not the fish that polute a pond it's the innuendo.
Done and out | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:16:23 AM | Personally, I'm an adult and I don't need anyone running to me with info on a potential partner. I consider myself intelligent enough to take care of me and to find out what's what from my own conversation with the potential date......i'd keep my nose out of my friend's business the same as I expect them to keep theirs out of mine.
Unless I'm the one he gave herpes to then it's strictly a rumor now isn't it? And if I am so stupid to go bareback with him after a party then I'm probably stupid enough to go bareback with many others as well so how could i say for certain that HE is the one that gave me herpes. | |
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:17:17 AM | I would tell the friend, but ask them to keep it in confidence where they heard it.
I have just gone through something similar actually, and I posted a thread here about it:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3605097.aspx
Basically, a close friend was getting involved with a guy I had my suspicions about - so I did some looking and found that, among other things, he was trolling all the swinger sites actively looking while at the same time sleeping with my friend. So I told her in person then emailed some screen shots of profiles the guy had posted. She still has not spoken to me, and may never again. But I did the right thing - there could easily have been an STD there if he was getting the type of action he was looking for.
I don't think telling is a bad thing - especially if it is a friend blinded by their emotions or by lust. I would want to be told if I were about to make a bad choice.
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| Why numbers don't matter!!!!
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:21:42 AM | | So telling her your suspicions might have been wrong, how do you know she was not trolling swingers sites as well to partake in them with him? I say keep your nose out of your friend's business unless they ask you to look after them. | |
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