| | Why numbers do matter!!!!Page 4 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | see i think its a double edged sword - if you tell your friend then you could be accused of gossiping or causing trouble, but then if you dont, you get yelled at for not disclosing
personally, i would just keep it to myself if i was caught in that situation - i wouldn't want to be involved
and just to be clear, this was only a question, i'm not implying anything about anyone on pof, its a situation that can be applied everywhere, be it the office, a small circle of friends and yes, possibly pof | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 11:36:38 AM | thanks basicallysweet, i tried for that nick but it was taken so used my backup one | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 12:58:04 PM | Actually, this woman is a real sweetie, definitely not a swinger. This was the first guy she had been with since a long term marriage broke apart. So, even though I smelled a player, I'm supposed to sit by and do nothing while this guy gives her a case of the latest incurable bug, or tears her heart open?
I don't think so. Try again. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 1:07:50 PM | | Well actually swingers are real sweeties too in case you didn't know. Sexual orientation and preferences don't change if you are a real sweetie or not. You thought he was a player and you obviously don't know if he was or not since after you interferred in her personal life she won't talk to you as you already stated. Life is a chance and you can get a nasty, incurable bug or a broken heart from just about anyone so if that's what you were truly worried about then I guess you best lock her up in a nunery and quick. Just cuz the guy is a swinger or supposed swinger, it doesn't mean he's a dirty SOB...swingers use all the protection in the world and are probably a lot less carefree than you think. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 1:16:42 PM | I didn't actually say this guy was a swinger. I said he was trolling on sites that were mostly for swingers. And he was looking for some, shall we say, "alternative lifestyle activities" - some of them where "protection" doesn't mean a damn. Friends don't let friends get f****d over like that. Period.
And as to your assertion that I don't know if he was a player or not - I know. For a fact. Verified by an email message with the headers intact. Do you really think I'd do something that would potentially destroy a close friendship on the basis of a mere suspicion? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 1:24:32 PM | Okay so you played a lovely little game on him and you call him a player? OMG your friend is an adult and she needs to find things out for herself. And obviously yes you did destroy a friendship now didn't you? And if you are not there when said suspicious activity was going on then you really don't have any right to say anything to her. It all comes back to it's strictly gossip and if I had a friend that went as far as you did, trust me he'd not be a friend for long. This chick doesn't stand for gossip from anyone.
I read your own thread that you started on said subject and it seems most on there agreed you should have kept your nose out of it unless she asked for your help. Had you simply just done that then maybe she'd still be your friend today. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 1:48:30 PM | Well, I think that numbers don't matter at all. I agree with most of what everyone has said previously, except for the
"ask him/her how many partners he/she has had unprotected sex with"
What difference does it make? STIs can be passed even when using a condom. Nothing is ever 100%.
Just get tested, and enjoy the current relationship. Don't let things from your partner's past make you feel insecure.. they're what made the person you're involved with. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 1:48:47 PM | If this is only gossip, then the fact that George W. Bush is the President of The United States is only gossip also. Have you ever actually been there when he's sitting in the Oval Office to verify it? Believe me, I have this guy cold.
In the thread I started, it was about 50-50 between tell and not tell, with most of the men saying don't tell (go figure). Maybe some people prefer the idea of running smack into personal disasters because none of their "friends" cared enough to warn them. Maybe they like cruising along with their blinders on until they hit that brick wall they didn't see coming. Maybe they like having an excuse to come out of it more bitter and disillusioned than before.
I suspect though that when it comes down to it, most people would choose to be warned. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 1:55:08 PM | | Wow, it never matters the first number allways grows with honesty over the years. lol | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 3:33:19 PM | good point partiallycooked
i guess my point is, if i was going to ask, i'd be more concerned about unprotected sexual encounters than encounters with condoms
bottom line though, i think if any questions like this are to be asked, its too late to be asking AFTER the fact, it should be done prior to intercourse | |
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Posted: 3/14/2006 3:38:28 PM | I was going to Date Angelina Joli but after learning that she was with Brad Pitt I decided that I didin't want to taste Jennifer Anniston..So the story goes..
What PartiallyCooked said..Sounds good to me too.. | |
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