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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 10/21/2006 11:55:39 AM | Isn't it obvious?
If enough's good, more is better. And too much is just right!
So show that cleavage. And if you don't think you have any just show your chest. We guys are great at imagining things.
Heck, just show up in a see through blouse and no bra. That way, even if the date doesn't go so well at least we'll have a little something of a thrill to remember it by. You might even get an honorable mention in our next fantasy.
As for me personally, cleavage can be useful in determining a significant portion of a woman's personality. Some women use their cleavage to attract and enjoy the attention they get. Some women use their cleavage to trick and as soon as they see it's been noticed they go off on the guy and all mankind. Some women use their cleavage to distract from some other area that they are less happy with. Some women use it to entrap by making us poor guys forget our vows to be gentlemanly and melt into a pile of throbbing mush. Different women use or don't use their cleavage in many different ways.
And don't forget the use of cleavage can be quite dangerous. Cleavage can cause a guy to walk into doors, door jams, glass doors and posts. Cleavage can cause guys to trip on stairs or fall down entire flights of stairs. Cleavage can cause one to walk out into the street oblivious to oncoming vehicles. Cleavage can cause a feller to shoot himself in the foot or stick his foot in his mouth. So if you plan to use cleavage please do so responsibly and with great care. The health, well being and even life of multiple men you do not even know and will never meet could be at risk. Not to mention your date.
Should a woman show cleavage on a first date? Depends on how she plans to use it. | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 10/21/2006 3:14:18 PM | Episode, your post made me laugh. 
I never wear cleavage on a first meeting/date. As I have been looking for a serious relationship, I want to project a serious image. However, on the first date with my boyfriend, I did wear a blouse with just a hint of what was underneath.
We met for drinks, and afterwards he walked me to my car. He hugged me good-bye, and I got into my van. He told me later that he was so disconcerted with our hug that he was almost hit by a cab as he went to cross the street. Even a shadow of cleavage can be life-endangering (as can hugs...)  | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 10/21/2006 3:28:33 PM | In a perfect world (according to me), a woman should be able to show up naked and not have her physical attributes become a distraction--both sexuality and authentic intellectual attraction start in the mind.
But, it is not a perfect world, and the majority of men seem to value a woman's physical beauty over her internal beauty, especially upon first meeting.
In the past, I did not give much consideration to how much of "the girls" were showing, because I was under the naive assumption that the man I was dating was interested in getting to know me as a person.
I was proven wrong, so now I show up with all assets covered. And, they will remain covered until a tangible commitment is made. | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/5/2006 11:10:51 PM | Honestly, I'm having a rough time with this whole cleavage thing.
Hey, I'm a normal male, and find a woman's body very appealing. Hell yes, I love looking at breasts.
But darn it, so many women say "Don't treat me like a sexual object!" I want to treat them with respect.
By why the heck to women show so much cleavage? Don't they want us to look?!
If you don't want me to look, don't bare so much skin. | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/6/2006 2:40:08 AM | | Why not? As long as she feels really sexy in what she's wearing, then it shouldn't be an issue :) I understand that you have to look your " best " during a first meeting, but cleavage should NOT be automatically interpreted as a " bad, sleazy " thing...breasts are beautiful :) | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 10:15:16 AM | I've been with my current SO since the end of September, and I have yet to display cleavage on a date. He's a real gentleman, and it never occurred to me to dress other than conservatively with him.
Well, he's invited me to his staff Christmas party in Toronto in December. It's this posh event at a downtown hotel. I asked him the dress code, and of course it's formal.
Then, as a joke, I asked if I should wear something with cleavage or not. To my great surprise, he opted for cleavage! He said that there's something erotic about a woman on his arm who has something that other men would want and can't have.
So, I've gone out and bought a formal black chiffony dress with outrageous cleavage. (I do have a lacy camisole to put underneath in case I chicken out at the last minute...)
So, in response to the question posted in this thread, in my case, I'd say that I would not wear cleavage on a first date, but I may do so down the road a bit... | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 10:32:57 AM | | Its funny most guys agree that women can show a lot of cleavage as long as its not their girlfriend showing it,,,I know lots of married guys that donot like their wives flaunting it,but its ok for the girl next door. It seems to be the fashion now for all ages. So guys I guess we just have to put up with it!!!!!lol. As far as a first date sure why not ,be yourself and if thats you,,why change for someone else. Really first impressions went out the window with internet dating. | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 10:38:36 AM | A woman should dress however she is most comfortable......
So she will feel sexy and secure.....
It's all about having fun.... and enjoying yourself.
Yeah I think that men love to see cleavage.........unless they are married and they don't want other guys seeing their wives goodies! | |
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kce33
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Joined: 4/8/2006
Msg: 265 | |
| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 12:39:33 PM | who cares if a woman wants to show her boobs cause thats all most guys want to see, therefore it gets the guys attention even if thats all they are looking at.....LMAO
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 2:23:44 PM | | No I dont think they should. Gives the wrong image right off the bat. And secondly you should stun them with your mind and laugh, not your boobs. | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 2:49:07 PM | Thank you, I Love Hockey! I'm of the same camp. As I believe eyes are windows to the soul, the eyes can be provocative enough. As I stated previously, I used to not give any thought to how much cleavage was showing--but that was during a time when I met guys through friends, school etc., and I was pretty naive.
Not to say that I don't wear a bikini on the beach, or have one special occasion when I do show SOME cleavage in public (always tastefully)--but that's under special circumstances and there's alot of sunshine between me and the family-oriented audience. But this internet dating is a totally different playing field. Since I'm looking for long-term, I intend to set a stage for mutual respect first. It's not so much about showing my goodies that's the problem, but my loss of respect for a man who would rather look me in the boobs than in the eyes. I mean really!
Gardennut--your situation is different. You are going to a classy function with a man who is your partner. In my mind, that the PERFECT occasion to wear something sexy in public. Why? Cause your safe, being escorted by a man who already loves and respects you. | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 4:06:26 PM |
No I dont think they should. Gives the wrong image right off the bat. And secondly you should stun them with your mind and laugh, not your boobs.
I THINK the girl should wear whatever she feels most comfortable in - I wear shirts that show off some cleavage sometimes when I go out on dates - but only because I am trying to take all the attention away from my fat ass!
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 4:11:11 PM | | most definitely, not just on the first date, all the time, I don't know what I'd do without mine, probably just pay a lot of speeding tickets. j/k | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 4:22:45 PM | gardennut 9/27:
This is a timely issue for me. I have a POF "first meeting" this weekend. To flash cleavage or not to flash cleavage? As this fellow is clearly a gentleman, I think not. Second date, maybe...
gardennut 10/1:
Okay, here's an update. In an earlier post I mentioned that I had an upcoming "first date" and I was pondering just how much/little cleavage to reveal. So, I sent the fellow an email putting the question on the table (referring to this thread). He indicated that the impression one should give on a first date, regarding the cleavage issue, was "somewhere between a tart and a cupcake". I told him I'd go right out and ask a saleslady for an outfit meeting that critieria. We met Friday night. After chatting for a few minutes, he leaned over to say in my ear: "You got it just right with the cleavage." So, there's the definitive reply: Somewhere between a tart and a cupcake.
gardennut 11/8:
I've been with my current SO since the end of September, and I have yet to display cleavage on a date. He's a real gentleman, and it never occurred to me to dress other than conservatively with him.
Hmm, so which is it, gardennut? You showed up with enough cleavage on the first date to be "somewhere between a tart and a cupcake" or you "have yet to display cleavage on a date" with him and "it never occurred to me to dress other than conservatively with him."??? Methinks its a good idea to remember what you posted before when making new posts here.  | |
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| Should women show cleavage on first date
Posted: 11/8/2006 8:02:28 PM | No no no, Dallasflier, you misunderstood my first post. I did not show what I would consider to be serious cleavage on my first date. I wore something with just a hint of what lies beneath. I was definitely leaning towards the "cupcake"--which is what my fellow considered to be "just right" for a first meeting. What I wore that night was definitely on the conservative side.
What I plan to wear to his Christmas party would qualify as "cleavage" in anyone's mind.
But thank you for pointing out what you considered to be my inconsistencies. One wouldn't want that to go unnoticed.
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