opeth
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Joined: 8/4/2004
Msg: 26 | |
| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:33:42 AM | | awwwww how can any woman be cold to you? Your sooooo cute!!!! Id date ya if i were closer..despite age gap but age is just a number **winx** | |
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lee720
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Joined: 2/13/2006
Msg: 27 | |
| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:35:02 AM | | What do you suggest? At this point anything is worth listening to. | |
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lee720
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Joined: 2/13/2006
Msg: 28 | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:40:21 AM | work on your self esteem....
stop looking for someone to complete you and make you feel whole.
Become whole in yourself.
You are afraid to let go and be alone.... this is not a good thing.
This is a self esteem issue and you CAN work on it and overcome your way of thinking which is not going to get you anywhere or have a happy ending.
Your happiness is something you are responsible for.... not something someone
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:45:42 AM | What do you suggest? At this point anything is worth listening to.
I agree with Fran...some of it sounds like self-esteem ......
Women are not looking for mushy walk over Men........Some things that attract Women is a Male that is in control of His enviorment and things around him,,and other People...some Men are gifted to have this type of energy..it is invisible to some, but Women see it right away and find it attractive.
It can be aquired but it takes time with out changing Who you really are......
Drop the Nice Guy out look on Yourself is very important.........
the "nice guy label" is some thing you want to drop from now on in.....
If You ever hear the words "Nice Guy" on a date...don't even bother asking for a second date........ | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:47:51 AM | OP I just noticed your age...
you know you can go to counseling and therapy to work on this....
maybe your insurance through work will cover it ?
It would be a VERY SMART thing to do. | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 11:55:28 AM | Theotherwhitemeat's Rule of Rejection:
There is no appeal process for getting dumped. Get over it, move on and move out! | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 11:58:31 AM | Can't let go of someone?
Then visit your local church and see what they have to say about it. | |
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lee720
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Joined: 2/13/2006
Msg: 34 | |
| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 12:09:44 PM | | I am in therapy and it has helped me out tremendoulsy. I went last night, someimes your to blind to see whats happening to yourself and you need someone else to make you aware of that. After seeing her last night,it became more aware and clear to me what kind of person she really is. cold heartless, distant,thinks she smarter than everyone else. Something I should have realized early on the the relationship. I was to blind to see it. Yes I get mad at myself for that.But I learned now, she's not worth having someone like me in her life.Knowing all that now, makes it easier for me to move on and find that special woman who will give me what I need and me give her what she needs | |
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opeth
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Joined: 8/4/2004
Msg: 35 | |
| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 3:10:13 PM | Dear lee,
Please do not fret, there is much better out there waiting for you to arrive in their life. It is hard to let go yes, its hard indeed. I am going to tell you a sad story what happened to me and it took me a few months to accept this ....
On january 19th of 2006, I awoke happy , as I was going to see my boyfriend JJ , we were going to try and work things out that day for we were having relationship problems and we were going to start over and try to make it work out as I have known him for over 7 years, and could never abandon him as I loved him. I called his house looking for him since he never called me like he promised the night before. His roomate answered the phone and told me some terrible news telling me there was a terrible accident and that JJ was nolonger with us... I started freaking out on the phone calling him a liar and that he was just saying that.. The roomie told me ''its true he hung himself in the basement lastnight''.. From that day my whole world came crashing down on me and I could never let go and I blamed myself for his suicide.. It took me almost two months to finally let go and seperate myself from his death. As I learned how too I had too .. My friends kept me occupied and I thank them deeply.. Dont get me wrong there is a certain day or two I still feel awkward and still cry myself to sleep. Though it only has been 2 months since he killed himself I feel I made a loooong journey with myself to follow through a healthy lifestyle and I am proud of myself . So please dont be sad, move on at least you know she is alive and well.. at least she has a chance to love another where JJ couldnt.. She has a chance to talk to you again if she wanted.. She has a chance to see you again if she wanted etc... Move on hunny, there is much better out there peace, and God bless your aching heart | |
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lee720
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Joined: 2/13/2006
Msg: 37 | |
| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 3:49:17 PM | I am so sorry that happened to you. I got emotional just reading what you wrote. You are so sweet. I would love to meet someone just like you. Are you okay now? I hope so. I would like to tell you some stories about me, but I don't want anyone else to read them If you have an email address, that would be good. I hope and pray for you that you will find true happiness in your life, which I believe you all ready have, you are definetly on the right track. You sound like your doing great now, I know I don't know you that well, but from what you have told me, I'm real proud of you for taking that long journey with yourself through a healthy lifestyle. That's awesome, I admire you for that. Keep up the good work.
Lee | |
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opeth
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Joined: 8/4/2004
Msg: 38 | |
| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/14/2006 3:54:35 PM | Lee if you could move on fully I will admire you for that I do admire you for giving it a go for going to councelling about it.. you can contact me on yahoo messanger
haunted_desires
the reason i post my name in public is in case others may want to talk to me about losses, and other things that I could possibly help in giving advice as I have been through alot this past new year.. or Lee you can just message me here on pof whichever you prefer, but dont feel bad for me think of yourself first :) | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 6/2/2006 4:59:56 PM | Hi dude let it go.I know its hard to do and youve heard it a million times but it does
get better.Been there myself. You must get more respect for yourself. | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 6/2/2006 7:56:24 PM | | Get some therapy. Seriously, if it still bothers you after that kind of time, you need to go talk to someone who can help you out. | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 6/2/2006 8:40:13 PM | Time will heal all - wake up tomorrow- look at the good qualities you have- then join back into society.. Join a gym, while you are sweating the pain from you- the six pack will be forming- As a result, you will not only look great - you will feel a whole lot better... A boost to your self-direction is needed here.
goodluck
sierra | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 6/2/2006 8:51:49 PM | Sometimes, letting go can be as simple as saying "fuggit"
Steve | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:39:03 PM | | She's obviously looking to be with someone else and maybe it's time for you to do the same. Why do you say you guys are going to get back together possibily? Did she leave you with that hope? Or are you holding onto that and it's causing you not to let go? | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:45:17 PM | Did NO ONE ELSE notice that this thread was from March?
The first reply today seemed to address the OP!
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Speaking generically, having residual feelings, even strong ones for someone who told you 'no' is very difficult to deal with moving on is hard.
Speaking specifically I relive the emotions of a particular final discussion and wrestle with them often...and that's never fun. | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 6/2/2006 9:57:22 PM | | Ooops...nope. Hopefully all is well with him now!! | |
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anjila
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Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 46 | |
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Posted: 8/29/2006 10:03:55 AM | | lee by accidant i found this as no zilch bout the world of internet... all i can say is wot is 4 u will neva pass u, i mean that literly, each person who enters our life is 4 a reason u just need 2 look inside and c it... so many people enter our lifes but only few leave footprints and they leave a part with us that makes u, u. smile, walk and neva turn around and look bak... keep walking ur path, its ment 4 u,,, and ul c y wen u walk it xxxxx karma and love anjila | |
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Dasee
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Joined: 1/1/2006
Msg: 47 | |
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Posted: 8/29/2006 10:56:09 AM | if you love something....set it free
if it comes back .....it was yours
if it doesnt....it never was..... | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 8/29/2006 12:19:08 PM | | I still care about my ex boyfriend greatly. We dated for almost 5 months. I still love him and part of me always will. He is an amazingly wonderful guy with a heart of gold. I wish him only the best in life and hope we can still maintain a friendship. But I know that as much as I care about him that we just weren't right for each other, at least not at this time in either of our lives. There were too many things that we weren't able to compromise on, etc. You cannot hold onto the hope that you will get back together with someone. It is so much easier to say than to do. Did you ask her if she wanted to get back together or would give it another try? You could do that but be prepared that if she says no you have to accept that. I know right now that I am trying to get back into the whole dating scene and that when I do start dating someone that part of me will hold back a little bit in the beginning until I can learn to trust my heart again. But I also know that I wouldn't take back being with my ex for anything. I learned a lot and perhaps that is what the relationship was for you also...a learning experience...as to what you need, want, what she needs, wants, etc. | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 8/29/2006 1:08:45 PM |
Maybe part of it is meeting someone else being open and seeing what happens, once that happens the growing feelings for her, her being my new partner will get better and the feelings for my last relationship will become less.
Be careful with that one OP. It's better to wait for some time before getting into a new relationship. A lot of people try to use a "new" person to sever the bond with the old. It most often fails and people get hurt. If you want to get over her quickly, avoid her here, don't look at her profile and so on. Have no contact with her. Give yourself time to get over her before getting into something else. | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 10/4/2006 1:13:57 PM | | Get her out of your heart first before you bring someone else into your life.It's not fair to the new person or you.My Mom tells me ,just wait the Lord will give you someone when you stop looking. | |
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