| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 10/4/2006 3:08:51 PM | | you say that you seen her come up on your matches on site.. think that would have to give you reason to move on, and the other if she reads these forums she must see that you have started this thread, may be harsh ,, miss her yes.. but if it going nowhere have pride and never let her know that you miss her in this way, think you may have only really seen the good parts and that is what you miss and blocking the bad way in which it ended. | |
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 10/4/2006 5:56:55 PM | | Be a big boy and get over it......you'll find someone else - time buddy, time fixes everything..... | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 6:46:09 PM | | They say the best way to get over a woman ,is another woman, i am not sure if this is a good idea or not ,never tryed it ,i have always just suffered threw it for a year or 4 or 5 lol ,which i think is really the best way ,because by than you are ready to give your all to the new woman in your life ,and after all she does deserve that . | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 7:29:42 PM | | Lee-People leave for all kinds of reasons. She may have thought that she was not worthy of you because of self esteem issues due to the way that she was treated in the past, or had something going on that honestly had nothing to do with what her feelings for you were. What sucks is that you will probably never know the 100% truthe complete truth as to the reasons. Whatever they were , if she means that much to you, I say contact her on plentyoffish and "go for it". All you really have to lose is pride and that can be easily rebuilt. At least you can walk away knowing that you gave a 100% prior to walking away from it and that there is nothing more that you can do except for try to move on. I heard this quote from "men in trees" and thought that it was great for all of us singles out there: "The truest thing that I know about relationships is that sometimes we don't know anything at all. You can't always get the one you want and sometimes the one that you get might not be the right one at all. But if you have hope, the universe has a funny way of showing you exactly what you need. The challenge is to let yourself be alone until the right one comes along. You can't hide either. Heartbreak sucks but not having a heart break sucks even more. The answers are not in a book , but maybe if you get yourself happy, you'll find the right one. That;s the thing about love...if it were that easy, everyone would have it. " | |
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cher51
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Joined: 10/1/2006
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 10/4/2006 7:39:34 PM | | YA boy do I hear you , I was in a 4 mth romance and am going thur the same wish you luck they tell me we heal !!!! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 10:27:11 PM | One of these days you will realize- she did you a favor! | |
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Posted: 10/4/2006 10:50:44 PM | | I did the nice guy thing, next time do the YOU thing | |
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shebaa
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Joined: 2/28/2007
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/15/2007 2:40:43 PM | Hello Lee
About eight months a go I had the same experince. I was seeing a guy from my work. I really liked ( was in love) him and he wes going through an awful divorce. He was very hurt, unsure, and confued. He wanted to go out with me and I waited him to be healed. I went out with him a year after his divorce. We were togther and that was the happiset time of my life. He was not really nice to him but I enjoyed him very very much. Suddenly he dissappeared. This is now eight ago I do miss him a lot but I have decided that I will move on, cause life is too short and different to kill ourselves over somting meaningless. Look for seomone who could like to be woth you. You are lonley and some what depressed, and dissoppinted. Well move on and you will get what you want and I beleive in it. Are you a reader? If yes then please read the book " The Secrect" or watch the movie " The Secrect". I belive what you attract in life you get that. So be positive and you will get it.
hope that you will feel and find the true happiness.
truly,
sheba | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 3:38:48 PM | Hi Lee,
I feel your pain buddy. I was in the same situation a few months ago. Don't expect someone else to heal your wounds though man. First of all, if you're not on your own two feet, you'll probably end up turning off women who are worthwhile. Those women sense guys who are needy, or depressed, and they shy away from them. And I mean who in their right mind wouldn't? If you enter a relationship with the hope of having it accomplish something for you, then you're dooming that relationship from the get go.
Work on yourself. Take the time to really get over her. It's tough, but in the end it's worth it. The only person who you should meet to help you heal is yourself. Re-discover who you are, what your interests are, what is meaningful for you, and you'll be a better person for it.
Take care,
SSG | |
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Posted: 3/15/2007 3:52:19 PM | | you suffer from the classic madonna syndrome,you thought too much of her and treated her like she was made of glass.i can tell you respected her,but were you really treating her like a fellow human being as well | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:01:53 PM | | i bet i can get her before u get her back ahhahahahahaha | |
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freja
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Joined: 12/30/2006
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:07:22 PM | | I think its hard for anyone to give advice about this. We dont know how she feels and cant possibly tell u what to do either. I would say u can wait for her for a while, but dont wait too long. Time waits for noone.... And has she had any contact with u at all? Showing any interest in you? Have u had any contact with her? | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:08:17 PM | Do you people realize this happened over a year ago ... and
the OP .... is no longer on PoF ... to answer you.
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:44:25 PM | When you love someone ..........you care about the way THEY feel......
Time to move on because if she loved you she would not have hurt you like she did !
Its over .............. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:56:55 PM | You can't hold on to something that wasn't yours. Move on. Time really does heal all wounds.
Both the statement about not being able to hold on to someone who was never yours and that time heals all wounds are true.
However, what is involved in moving on in a case like this? My experience tells me there's not much point in initiating something with someone else until the feelings have run their course.
When I've tried to do otherwise in the past I've ended up in relationships where I was emotionally absent from the get go. Of course those didn't last either. Better to take some alone time I'd say. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 4:58:38 PM | "Do you people realize this happened over a year ago ... and the OP .... is no longer on PoF .."
Welcome to POF thorb, where people drag up threads from the Jurassic era and start replying to the OP, who probably died 3-million years ago, as if they are still around. | |
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freja
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Joined: 12/30/2006
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| Still Can't Let Go
Posted: 3/19/2007 4:58:59 PM | Thorb
His message was sent 2006.12.03.
You do realize this was for soon 4 months ago. i dont know where u got 1 year from? Maybe u think its the year 2008???? sorry hun, its 2007...... | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 5:15:55 PM | I must say I have been thru the same thing you are going thru and it wasn't that long ago, I actually went back to her, when she told me that she came to belive that I was probably the only person in her life that ever truly loved her including her family but after a very short while I realized nothing had changed within her, she didn't do anything to better herself or her life and as painful as it was I had to walk away again and for good for my own sake, she was just too emotionally mixed up to love anyone including herself and no matter how much you love and care about a person or how much you give them if they themselves cannot accept love or even believe in their heart they are worth the love you give them it will only end in heartache for you, it's very harsh and yes to some point unfair but it's not anything to do with you, it has to do with her and there is nothing you can do to change her, she has to want more for herself and unfortunately you or no one can do it for her.
Good Luck
Shannon | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 6:53:26 PM | You can't live in the past. I lived in the past for along time and that got me no where. I have not had a relationship for 4 years now because of it. So please let go and move on when you are ready. READY.When you love someone it is hard to let go.You will think of her that may never end.
Wolf | |
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Posted: 3/19/2007 7:02:06 PM | | I feel the Same way, and just got shit on, Just becouse of a few little things, I was really nice to her and Now look shit on.... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2007 4:51:40 PM | hi my name is mike im interested in talking to you if you are interested in knowing more about me let me know i hope to hear from you soon take care mike | |
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Posted: 7/22/2007 5:02:29 PM | | you will never be able to commit to a new realtionship when you still have such strong feelings for her. Take it from me I have been there and now know that I can't get her back. I think it is a real shame when woman say they don't want a player and then the burn the honest nice people along the way. I don't know what to do either. I am trying to just move on and see what happens. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2007 6:03:15 PM | I think this thread will really open up your dating potential on here | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 11:03:17 AM | freja ................. I'm glad you left to learn to figure out dates..........
for the post was 3/12/2006
that means the 12th of March 2006 ....
it is over a year dear. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 11:04:43 AM | my gosh leee how pathetic, grow some gonads and get on with life already and stop crying about something that is over and done with.
msg 73...
you and me both.
LOL ! | |
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