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| Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding
Posted: 5/17/2006 3:49:25 PM | This is actually a delicate subject to bring up if your trying to get a date. If you say you like certain sci-fi stuff it can be like a babe-repelant. One example is this one woman who messaged me first on here. I wasn't too interested but was being polite and she had some interesting topics she was talking about, and she was starting to intrigue me. She mentioned really loving Back to the Future, so I brought up another Sci-fi show that I enjoyed wacthing. After that I never heard from her again. It's not like I said I dressed up like the characters and went to a bunch of conventions, just that I enjoyed watching it.
The same can be said for women and chick-flix, most guys don't like them, but I pretty much expect a good majority of women enjoy them, so to each there own. I don't even mind watching some of them as long as it has a good story and doesn't have a male bashing tone to it. | |
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| Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding
Posted: 5/17/2006 7:06:00 PM | I know what you're saying. Not many men enjoy hearing my Yoda voice. Sci-Fi is loved in my family. I'm surprised at how many people I meet who just aren't interested. I love sci-fi novels also. Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card is fantastic.
Horror is okay. I just get so freaked out and irritated when the characters do stupid stuff. Gore does not bother me though. So far for dating if a date doesn't like sci-fi then I've found our personalities don't really match. | |
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Posted: 5/21/2006 10:06:42 PM | | well I've loved sci-fi 4ever..my latest favorite show was Farscape on the Sci-fi channel... i hate it that it is off the air! when i have the tv on, it's set to the sci-fi channel...so i end up watching a lot of stargate which is pretty well done...i think harry potter, star wars & star trek are all ok..but farscape spoiled me for most movies/shows now... | |
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| Is sci fi fantasy and horror more a guy thing or the women out there hiding
Posted: 12/19/2006 10:19:58 PM | Hmmm, from one of the guys that talked up over here maybe im too open about my interests though it does some that there are some women on here that do like stuff that interests me.
I guess when getting to know people it's best to keep certain interests to yourself. I used to hope that I would find someone that had simalir interests by openly being geeky on here. Since I hope to find openminded people. Though I guess in the end people have to love you for you and not what catches your attention. Shared interests are just a bonus.
What I hate though is when people stigmatize someone for their interests. I understand being afraid that someone will talk about something too much. Though I think there isn't a person on this earth that dosen't do that about something and strangely we gravitate to people for different reasons. Theres some people where Ive told them about my interests but don't exclusively talk about my interests other than breifly. It depends on the person I figure. Theres some people where I don't even bring up my interests and usually it's more of a sharing the fact that your just excited about something than really the actual thing that excited you. I think people don't get that aspect.
I mean Im sure men have to deal with women being excited by things they couldn't care less about the joy comes from seeing that the other person is happy.
Somtimes even I think people misunderstand another persons geekyness. Sometimes ill get excited about a revival of an old eighties cartoon. And ill go up to my brother and be all look what they brought back! Then he will get all serious and fuddy duddy about it not even realizing the real reason I brought it up was more because of the fact that it takes me back to when we were innocent and carefree kids. Then because of the fact that I still enjoy a lot of those things. I mean those were the things we joked and laughed about as kids and woke up every morning to watch before school. Sometimes people fail to realize your trying to bond with them by sharing that feeling of nostalgia toward the childhood you both shared. Everyone thinks about things differently I guess and handles what they think they should enjoy and shouldn't differently.
I remmeber going to an animation school and I thought the people would be cool there and that you could happily laugh about all the cartoons we grew up with. Some people were cool and weren't all that uptight and they didn't have to have any precious image and you could have fun talking about stuff that was fun for us as kids. Some of them were so uptight it wasn't funny. I fully get how people don't want to come off as geeky or want a certain level of spontaniety in their lives. Though I found it to be very uptight honestly like people couldn't admit they woke up every morning and watched cartoons before school. Like suddenly they were too good or too mature to laugh about their childhood and talk about what inspired them to become artists and want to be animators. I think it was hard for them to realize that even if they may have become adults that it was okay to share what they enjoyed that led them to where they were. Ah well.
Heck im kind of reminded of a conversation I had with someone at work. When I usually work with most employees I tend to accept them for who they are. I just enjoy what their talking about. If a guy is just full of hype I usually just hold conversation with them and be kind to them anyways. Since I can't really tell if the person is just showing off or lying unless I have proof. So I usually smile and just talk to them enjoy what their telling me.
Yet then I have other employees complain about how some people will talk about how good their at their job or some such. Then I end up telling them that it shouldn't be a big deal a lot of people just want to feel good about themselves or the job they did and just want someone to smile and be a little happy for them. I think everyone enjoys when someone listens to what they have to say. So I don't mind people in general. In the end people are just looking to feel good and be accepted by others a lot of the time. So I try to accept everything if I can. I think people don't think about how others are the same like them just looking for people that will accept them and enjoy them for who they are. I agree there has to be good conduct between people but I wish people were more openminded and accepting of others. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2006 7:00:33 AM | "This is actually a delicate subject to bring up if your trying to get a date. If you say you like certain sci-fi stuff it can be like a babe-repelant. One example is this one woman who messaged me first on here. I wasn't too interested but was being polite and she had some interesting topics she was talking about, and she was starting to intrigue me. She mentioned really loving Back to the Future, so I brought up another Sci-fi show that I enjoyed wacthing. After that I never heard from her again. It's not like I said I dressed up like the characters and went to a bunch of conventions, just that I enjoyed watching it. "
What I can't stand about it is the contradiction that you already mentioned. It seems like it's always okay for a woman to like this and that, guy listens smiles and nods. Etcetera, etcetera, etcetaera. Yet as soon as a guy mentions something about himself kapow right in the kisser.
I met people that have eccentricities out of the wazoo and ive accepped them and then foolishly thinking hey if this person can be that open with me maybe I can be open too. Oh what a wonderful mistake.
I think the way the world is breaks my heart. I used to beleive that people could like others for who they actually are and not for what they pretend to be. Being on here reminds me of the reason I closed up from society years ago people seem to be overtly judgemental instead of seeing where things go before actually deciding if somethings a dealbreaker.
I hate the fact that I have to learn to wear a mask because to me thats dishonesty but it's like you have to make up this person for people to like you. I hate it because it feels like non genuinity to me. Im not young and as idealistic anymore though guess I have to accept the big cutthroat world of ignorance and stupidity and just follow the cattle herd like everyone else.
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Posted: 12/26/2006 10:28:45 AM | That is too true - I love SciFi, fantasy and some horror (mostly written - King, Koontz and McGammon) and I find it really scares off the "normal guys". I do like reading up on the real science too - I know I am pretty nerdy for most guys that just want a fluffy chick.
Chick flicks - ewww!!! | |
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Posted: 12/26/2006 3:26:10 PM | PS: ask them what a flash-bang is, and make sure to note it cannot be their last date.
You will see.
He's write you know, there all in on it, drag trekkie outta the basement and expose his shamefullness to the world...
They also own most of worlds banks and they run Hollywood....
Come on, most girls probably dont watch sci-fi or read good fantasy novels, but thats just cause they have a horrible taste, which by the way is also why i'm single. but some girls like this stuff. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2006 8:05:04 PM | you know there are some pretty good sci fi programs that i like and some horror shows,
i am not into pc gaming. i like to read sci fi books as well as mystery and historical. some books can have some really interesting parts that show some horror but over all it is not a given in every book.
i was a good looking woman and liked sci fi and as i have aged and still look pretty good that does not mean that that music self help books and life channel do not interest me.
i watched twilight zone, battlestar, farscape, stargate,the 44oo,kingdom hospital by steven king and dreamcatcher the movie. i read alot of sci-fi like marion zimmer bradley,diana paxton etc. when i was a teenager -star wars came out and i 've enjoyed all the films and i am a big lord of the rings fan. i find some guys are not into alot of sci-fi. i guess maybe everyone has the right to love or not love certain movies , t.v shows and music. my son is 22yrs and loves horror movies and every girl he has dated liked watching with him,and my 24yr old daughter likes horror too,but will watch sci- fi ,life channel ,a&e the bounty hunter and loves lord of the rings, and the harry potter movies. both kids like the new movies and the old black and white horror and b-movies. it is probadly because i watched a little of everything.
so there are nice ladies that watch sci fi and horror. i watched the the birds when i was 8 by
hitchcock and those black andwhite movies of his are still really good.but, some remakes are not like the original. so to each their own view. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2006 10:43:44 PM | Don't think it's just a guy thing - I think it's just a personal preference one that can fluctuate and that there can also be exceptions to what any one of us usually enjoys. I used to love horror movies as a teen and still enjoy the old ones from back then. My tolerance for visually graphic horror lately has definitely decreased (there are just some images I'd rather not have in my head) but the appeal of them has not vanished completely. I still like sci-fi/fantasy/horror books and to a lesser extent sci-fi movies too. I don't like most "chick flicks" cuz happy endings annoy me. I wish someone would make a fairytale movie that isn't cartoon and Disneyfied; old fairytales were so beautifully brutal.
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Posted: 12/28/2006 8:28:18 AM | "Don't think it's just a guy thing - I think it's just a personal preference one that can fluctuate and that there can also be exceptions to what any one of us usually enjoys."
Thats true, really it's not a mainstream thing. Most of my brothers guy freinds are all into Mob films and sports. Which is almost pretty typical (not to sound rude) among italian guys.
Well... I do like the mob films Goodfella's, Godfather etc. Though it seems the more jocky/Gino type Italian guys identify with those films alot even try to talk like them. So their geeky in their own way without realizing it.
Soccer dosen't appeal to me theres just no story and without a story I just see pointless action which is hard to care about. I mean a movie sci-fi, horror, action etc if it had no story to create a feeling for the characters and their values they would be boring as well.
I mean I can watch stuff like Wrestling, the Rocky films, or any sports movie because of the added drama. I need character development to feel driven into something. Yet sports itself is pretty boring to me.
So yeah it isn't that mainstream with guys either. I remmeber talking to one of my brothers freinds online and he asked me what I was doing. I said I was looking at pictures. He quickly assumed I was looking at porn. When I showed him I was looking at Transformer pictures he started teasing me. Man I must be the only guy I know that goes on the net to look at pictures of giant robots. :D | |
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Posted: 12/28/2006 8:40:43 PM | | Hmm... Whats with all the chicks on here name dropping to try to prove that they like Sci-Fi to someone they don't know? Honestly... You watch (Insert list of sci-fi shows here) and read (insert list of sci-fi authors here)... I could see if this was an open forum ABOUT Sci-Fi, to discuss shows/books/etc... | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 10:46:57 AM | Not a big fan of the chick flick at all! I like Rodriguez, Tarantino, Anne Rice, Stephen King and a good B movie or one with Bruce Campbell in it etc. Don't get me wrong, I will watch other types of films, but have always enjoyed my horror.
Always look forward to seeing Nicotero's name in the credits. I recommend Incident on and off a Mountain Road from the Masters of Horror series.
Strangely enough, don't really know that many men that are into the horror genre like I am.
The horror section in chapters has become abysmal. I now look forward to going to a sci-fi store instead. I do like my sci-fi with a touch of horror though.
I wonder if everyone gets that Tim Burton always has a fairy tale type story going on around his gloom? Then again, fairy tales = grim anyway lol.
That said, I'm not much of a gamer - I was bad enough at the basic Nintendo, so put me on a P3 and I can't keep track of which buttons are which lol. Although, pretty sure I would change my mind if I tried some of those VR games. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 4:40:39 PM | Love horror,and scary movies. I was forced to watch all the Star Treks during my marriage until one day I realized I had been brainwashed  , for there I sat ALONE trying to second guess the time warp battle that was being played out before me...
I detest Taratino for most of his movies are just blood, blood, and blood. I prefer a psychological thriller or a haunting anyday.
I still would like to find the character in a movie that frightens me as much as Frankenstien's monster did when he picked up that little girl by the river...
Gotta love the first Star Wars on the big screen,,, AHHHHHHH | |
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Posted: 6/30/2008 6:06:36 PM | I don't keep it to myself and can't understand why anyone would do that....their gonna find out anyway...and that goes for pretty much everything you like or dislike.
<div class="quote"> still would like to find the character in a movie that frightens me as much as Frankenstien's monster did when he picked up that little girl by the river...
Was that one of your first horrors? There's never anything like the first ones and a movie with a good scare is pretty hard to find now. True horror affects your mind anyway.
I like the bloody stuff too, but to use a metaphor, it's on a different shelf than the stuff that really scares you. | |
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