| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 6/15/2007 6:38:11 PM | | I personally do not shy away from guys who do not drink. I wouldn't want to be with a guy who felt that he had to have a drink to have a good time. I have nothing against people who do or do not drink ... as long as they treat me right thats all that matters. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:08:41 PM | Wes,
I have done that, drink 0-2 drinks a year, or more! Someone like you wouldn't scare me at all, but rather impress the heck out of me! If a guy says he NEVER drinks, that is great! But then i get leery, wondering if he's a "recovering alcoholic," which may not be a bad thing if he has years of sobriety, but not something i could ever really understand.
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:25:51 PM | | Interesting question I never really thought much about it. I never really drink much but I usually have a few shots socially. I have since stopped. It felt pointless to me since I don't enjoy the taste of alcohol. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 6/15/2007 10:27:20 PM | We don't all feel that way. I don't drink very often either and would much rather share my time with a date that doesn't drink on a regular basis. I really truely am against drinking and driving and also believe that loosing your composure to the extent that your true values are diminished is just simply irresponsible and too risky.
I don't find that guys that hang out in bars on a regular basis are guys I want to date at all. I'm more into a guy that is responsible, doesn't want to pick up a drunk woman to sleep with and doesn't have a drinking problem. That makes ME want to run the other way. Best of luck to you. If a woman doesn't want you because you aren't a partier, why would YOU want her? Best of luck in your search and keep your chin up.   | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 6/15/2007 11:01:32 PM | In my case not recovering alcoholic, just doctors advice, but maybe it would seem that way if I didn't explain the why of it? Tonight I was at an engagement social, and bought drinks for my friends, and dabbed the inside of my soft drink glass with a tiny bit of dark rum not even enough to taste.
Calisparkle, I will be in Ontario in October, let me know what the locals prefer for restaurants.  | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 6/24/2007 10:48:23 PM | To Roadrage311....how sad that you think women prefer to be mistreated. I can't think of anything further from the truth. I also have to admit some of us older gals are in damn good shape and sagging hasn't happened yet kiddo and attracting a man is not a problem thank you very much. Maybe you should rethink some things about women in general if you want to truely attract a nice girl. Contrary to your belief, most of us enjoy peace and harmony and finding a guy with a positive outlook and a desire to have a wonderful friendship that makes us feel the fire is what your typical girl wants for excitement. We, just like guys though are generally looking for that physical attraction and then something special within. Even us older chicks feel that way;-) Best of luck to you..... | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/26/2007 1:07:39 PM | | I am thrilled to meet a guy that doesnt drink.....I am surprised this has been an obstacle for you....You are probably better off with out these particular woman in your life....keep looking and stay true to who you are | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/26/2007 3:45:51 PM | I rarely drink and i get the same reaction from men as well. They almost are clutching their chest in pain and horror when i say" sorry i just don't care for alcohol" . I also go on to say i have nothing against alcohol and see nothing wrong with people who have a drink occasionally .
I have never understood the people who have to go out every weekend and get sh!faced . It just has never appealed to me at all. I have no desire to have someone in my life who has a need to have an alcoholic beverage regularly. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/26/2007 9:52:49 PM | | I'm sure it has been a factor in my being single. How many times have I went to meet for a drink and had to explain why I do not? Really, I haven't touched a drop in more than three years since I got out of the service and I'm doing better than I ever have in my life, but I stopped drinking because I had a drinking problem, not because I'm such an angel. I couldn't blame a girl who would rather date a regular guy who did not have a problem and could have a couple without turning into Jim Morrison. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/26/2007 10:18:45 PM | | It sounds to me like you might have had little luck latley in the so called fun department. Each to their own, but being too extreme is also not a good thing. All things in moderation for a long and happy life!!! Enjoy all the pleasures life has to offer!!! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/26/2007 10:33:27 PM | Man goes into a****ail lounge and approaches a woman sitting by herself :
Man: "May I buy you a****ail?"
Woman: "No thank you, alcohol is bad for my legs."
Man: "Sorry to hear that. Do they swell?"
Woman: "No, they spread .." | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/27/2007 12:47:07 PM | | I don't drink either, not even casually. I've never found it to be a problem. People often find it weird at first and want to know why. If you have a valid reason why, most people are very understanding. It's not because of a dark past either. Anybody who doesn't like you because you don't drink, I think that might be a blessing in disguise. Anybody who values alcohol that much I'd rather not attempt to start a relationship with. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/27/2007 1:03:32 PM | | i wish i could find a guy who doesnt drink my ex was an alcoholic and after years of mental abuse while he was drunk he turned violent and i left him. So now when i speak to a guy if he says he likes going the pub or drinking quite often i wont meet him . Dont get me wrong i dont mind anyone having a drink but in moderation but some go to extremes ! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/27/2007 1:11:28 PM | | I would love to turn that around, because i feel that men shy away from a woman who doesn't drink. I do not drink, but i don't mind if the man i am with wants to have a drink. I guess it all goes back to compatability. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/27/2007 2:19:56 PM | | You are categorizing women, and I hate it when people do that to either gender. I am not into men who have any addictions, and alcohol, can be in that category. I am not saying that everyone who has an occassional drink is an alcoholic, I am merely saying that I am not into men who are dependent on alcohol for any reason. You have apparently been hanging out in places where you are meeting women who are not your cup of tea or glass of abstinence, or you have been gravitating towards women who have a propensity for continual indulgence and only want a man who shares their partying, let's toast tonight personality. So before you pass judgment, inquiring, "Why do women shy away from a guy that doesn't drink?" Ask yourself why you keep being drawn to only that type of woman. Then, you might be able to capture the stone, Little Grasshopper. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 8/27/2007 2:29:51 PM | | I think drinkers like drinkers. period. If you don't drink, like I don't, you are seen as a social freak in a way. EVERYONE drinks. To some degree. But those of us that don't have a very hard time finding someone who will hang out with you if you don't. They seem to feel uncomfortable. I think if someone is confident and mature, it doesn't matter!!! Good luck!! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/7/2008 8:20:46 AM | | to tell you the truth,, im in the same boat. ill have a beer from time to time. its only a once in a blue moon thing. ill have wine but only at certain times. the last time a reacall drinking was like 6 years ago. had couples camp out, and that day my girlfriend cheated on me. the whole plan fell apart, and ended up being 5 guys sharing a full keg of budlight. well ,, i wasnt walking for a good day and a half.. since then i just lost interest. i found there are so many other tings in this world that can give you so much pleasure. the big thing with me, i never drink to relax. all that is is just relying on something to do it for you. i guess it just shows immaturity heck if you cant stand the heat get out of the kitchen right? man we are far and few between, i have alot of respect for you. dont let them get to you ,your better then that. it just shows they were not the one for you thats all. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesn't drink??
Posted: 1/7/2008 9:58:20 AM | | I have exactly the same problem! Every time a guy finds out I don't drink, sometimes a glass of wine at christmas, I get questioned as to why. I usually reply by asking them why they drink! I always get the answer 'to loosen up and have a good time' As if everyone who doesn't drink doesn't know how to have fun!! Ok, rant over. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesn't drink??
Posted: 1/7/2008 10:09:13 AM | | The least of my worries is whether anyone smokes or drinks. Whether they over- do or can handle it is the big question. I can take it or leave it. I don't care either way. I have been involved with women who partied till we became exclusively involved, and then they wanted to settle down into a nice domestic situation. Fine by me. If they still want to party more than occasionally after becoming a couple, they aren’t ready for a relationship in my book. Can’t sit at home every night, though. I had pretty much quit, but I decided that it is stupid for a single man not to have some fun. Trust me, if you stay on POF long enough, you will start drinking out of frustration! | |
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