| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/10/2008 5:59:13 AM | | Some people see a completely sober person as possibly being judgmental of their own drinking. This could be that they are concerned about their own inability to quit or maybe they see you as a prude? I go to bars,parties and I am just as fun as the rest. I don't need alcohol to laugh,joke or get crazy. I date girls who drink and it's fine if they get drunk. It's the behavior and the frequency that could be an issue. As for the post below you, she may need to think about her own drinking? | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:36:50 AM | | Sugar, I don't think the fact that you don't drink is the problem. Although a guy that doesn't socially drink is either their religion forbids it or they are a hiding alcholic and don't want a potential date to know it. I think the problem is in you profile. You say you love to gamble. THat is a big turn off to woman. They figure you are addicted to gambling. And they don't want to see their life savings going down the toilet because of that addiction. Because if you love to gamble. That is a addiction. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/10/2008 8:08:37 AM |
I drink, because I have to get relaxed to put up with some of you guys, but if you drink, you won't be with me.
^^Nice double-standard. It would make it easier to seduce women, though 
Sheteddy is right. There are only 2 reasons teetotalers don't drink---their religion prohibits it, or they are dealing with substance abuse issues. The one-in-a-million non-drinker who just doesn't like to drink is exceedingly rare.
Bottom-line: Teetotalers tend to be geeks, nerds, fundamentalist religious people, and recovering alcoholics. That's why women shy away from them. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/10/2008 10:00:03 AM | ooooooooooooooh... id love to meet a man (and keep it, lol) that doesn’t drink alcohol! of course, as long as the reason for such lifestyle decision is not due to being a recovering alcoholic (dated a couple already and its surely NOT for me) or some "past" "family” issue that would make him look down upon me with disapproving eyes when I have a beer... and as long as he doesn’t mind me having a drink or two when we go out.   | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/11/2008 6:22:42 AM |
Sheteddy is right. There are only 2 reasons teetotalers don't drink---their religion prohibits it, or they are dealing with substance abuse issues. The one-in-a-million non-drinker who just doesn't like to drink is exceedingly rare.
Or because:
-They don't like the tastse
-They are allergic
-They don't like the drama that tends to come with drinking (my situation)
-They don't enjoy the effect (also my situation)
-They take a medication which can negatively interact with alcohol
I'm sure there 101 other reasons that I haven't thought of yet. I'm noticing a trend here that strikes me as odd. It seems a lot of folks posting here seem to think non-drinkers need a specific "reason" not to drink. Shouldn't it be the other way around? Shouldn't we be asking why drinkers choose to imbibe? Or, maybe we shouldn't be asking at all. Live and let live. What difference does it make if someone choses not to drink alcohol? | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 1:39:08 PM |
might suspect you of being a recovering alcoholic
Oh my God, not a recovering alcoholic....No.............
When I read things like that I have to wonder..Hmmmmmmm.
Should I be on a list with all the "other" really bad people in the world.
Terrorist
Rapist
Murderer
Molester
Robber
Me
Thats some pretty shallow thinking! Being in recovery is an awesome thing. You would be amazed at how many doctors that operate on you sit next to me at a meeting. Judges that protect the public. Attorneys that defend you.. The teacher that teaches your kids...
~Belly~ | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 2:57:28 PM | | C'mon I love standing around talking to someone who has been drinking hearing their thoughts on world politics and how they will save the world.. Especially when they don't remember the conversation the next day.. Waste of time | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/11/2008 3:05:37 PM | Hmmm...I rarely drink because frankly I can't stand the taste of booze. Because of this I only drink when I'm out to paint the town red. I won't just sit down and have a beer (even one) for the simple reason that if I'm not going to be getting sloshed then I'd rather enjoy something tastier.
On topic though, I can understand to a certain degree why somebody wouldn't be comfortable with a non-drinker. They want you to have fun with them and if you're going to be the only sober one with them at the bar then that's going to make them uncomfortable. I'm not saying anybody is right or wrong , it's just a matter of choice. In this case, I'd rather not date a non-drinker as well since I'd hate trying to act sober all night even though my breath has become flammable. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 3:09:32 PM | Bravo to msusnicknel and Belly
I do not drink because I hate the taste (especially beer), and I cannot stand the feeling I have in the pit of my stomach and the pounding in my head if I do....
I did my little stint of drinking at 19...what a year, lots of fun, but lots of horrible stuff too.
I also saw a few people die due to drinking...in accidents, and one suicide. Don't care to see that ever again.
Belly, glad you are proud of who you are....you deserve it for all the hard work you have done! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/11/2008 6:10:15 PM |
Shouldn't we be asking why drinkers choose to imbibe? Or, maybe we shouldn't be asking at all.
Yes, we should be asking about non-drinkers, because that's the question the OP posed. He wanted to know why his dating life as a teetotaler seems to be failing.
"The only good teetotaler is one who falls off the wagon!" (just kidding) 
Let's be truthful here. For most people, not drinking at a party or function is a little like having a bad haircut; your shirt on inside out; or your shoe untied. It sets you apart a little. No one wants to be stuck in the corner with the odd-man out or the wallflower. Many teetotalers (though not all, of course) come off that way, and it makes sense that their social lives will take a hit. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 6:24:00 PM | | I can't drink due to the fact that I have epilepsy. Alcohol could negate my meds. Honestly, I never was much of a drinker anyway. If a woman isnt into me because I dont drink, then A. She is either extremely shallow. B. Not secure enough to be herself around me or C. A chronic drinker herself. All of these things would make me run to the hills. If someone asks me "why arent you drinking, I simply point to my bracelet and reply "I cant" and continue sipping my Sprite. I would take it a step further & just hang out in bookstores & other places, rather than exclusively in bars and clubs. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2008 8:42:44 PM | Hey I have lots of friends who don't drink, and that doesn't hamper their (or my) social life at all--in fact they are more fun to pub crawl with because we don't have to worry about each other puking our guts out or getting into a DUI or worse an accident. We laugh hard, and enjoy our times together--without the need of alcohol to enhance the experience.
Cheers  my friends' O'Doul's and my one Heineken with dinner | |
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Posted: 1/12/2008 11:37:30 PM | | I like a drink now and then but most of the time don't because I drive a lot and the hassle isn't worth it. I haven't had the problems that you are experiencing, although I don't like it when a woman puts her love of a drink before anything else and they don't usually get to see me again in that case. Do you have an attitude about drinking that puts them off? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2008 12:50:55 AM | Your not alone Wesleyptr, I have met plenty of men that dont drink.....its never bothered me, I only drink on occasions myself, we still have a lovely time!
Just keep being the beautiful man you are, if they cant except it........they are the ones missing out!
I would differently rather a man that did not drink then one that drank too much! | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 9:02:40 AM | Hi Younger lady,
Im a 57 year old mother and I have a daughter older then you are but I just wanted to take the time to tell you that I enjoyed reading your profile. Maybe if there were more young woman like you they're would be so much of the drinking that goes on.
Lots of luck with your kids!
A friend! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:06:43 AM | Just because it says they don't drink doesn't mean they won't drink. I used to enjoy it till it got old so I no longer do. But I don't rule it out for the rest of my life.
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:17:12 AM | [Bottom-line: Teetotalers tend to be geeks, nerds, fundamentalist religious people, and recovering alcoholics. That's why women shy away from them./quote]
hmmm . . . is that so? Please explain to me Mr. Ted Nugent . . . . he doesn't drink (or use drugs) and claims to never have. Would you consider him a geek, nerd, fundamentalist, religous, or recovering?
i CHOOSE not to drink, and have a handful of legitimate reasons why.
I tended bar for 5 years . . . have heard EVERY SINGLE excuse, listened to all the rationalization, and seen first hand what alcohol does to people. It wrecks lives, ruins marriages, breaks up what were once happy homes, I've seen people go bankrupt and also to jail. (DUI, domestic violence, fighting, rape . . . the list goes on and on).
I'm a musician and don't find it necessary to drink . . . . moreover, I use my music, and playing live as "my drug of choice". There is no better feeling than bringing a room full of people to a standing ovation after one of my brutal drum solos. And watching women dance and move to the beat that I AM THROWING DOWN, well . . . . speaks for itself.
if you need to justify or rationalize how much or how often you drink . . . . why? And if you need to keep track, hmmm . . . . Perhaps you have a thing or 2 to think about . . . of course . . . this is simply my own humble opinion. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 9:24:00 AM | | ^^Most people aren't problem drinkers. As for Mr. Ted Nugent---Ted Nugent is great. He's one of those guys who (even if he doesn't drink like you've claimed) is a great guy and is not awkward around those who do drink. If you watched the "Damnocracy" show, Ted was surrounded by drinkers/drug users; but he never acted like a self-righteous tool. Ted Nugent is the exception to the rule when it comes to teetotalers. | |
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Posted: 1/18/2008 9:31:30 AM | Mottleydude...the saddest thing around is a RocknRoll partying guy like you that can't move on to the next phase of their life. I didn't bother to check age etc. but I've known men like you that couldn't function any other way. ....always seeking the next "party".
I know I'm much older...but I've enjoyed every phase of my life.....including drinking my guy friends under the table. After doing that a couple of times and living to tell about...it has far less meaning than it did before.
OP, I've basically been a non-drinker for several years. Not because I have an issue, it's just that I don't have any desire to be hung over or to upset my meds by alcohol. It has not
been a problem for me. I would hang out and play cards with some of my guy friends and some drank, some didn't. Just do what you feel best with. But don't make an issue out of.
If you just order and make no big deal about it.....if your date ask you...assure her that you have no prior problems but that alcohol is not the big thrill it used to be for you personally.
I know many ladies that would love to have this "problem" to deal with. I've noticed some of the younger posters here in the forums lately, making far too familiar references about getting wasted. Crazy and dangerous at the same time.
Keep looking....you will find what you want.
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:34:04 AM | ^ ^ ^ ^
agreed . . . i once did a paper on this topic . . . i believe the numbers I came up with were something like; 36 % of society actually "drink", and of those, less than 10 %
were problem drinkers, or drank alcoholically. So, IF those numbers are accurate, the 2/3 of society does not drink . . . .
However, all the statistics and numbers in the world will never serve to explain or justify the stigma that society attaches to those who choose not to indulge. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:55:18 AM | The Answer, is quite simple...
Police are warning all men who frequent clubs, parties & local pubs to be alert and stay cautious when offered a drink from any woman.
Many females use a date rape drug on the market called "Beer."
The drug is found in liquid form and is available anywhere. It comes in bottles, cans, or from taps and in large "kegs". Beer is used by female sexual predators at parties and bars to persuade their male victims to go home and sleep with them.
A woman needs only to get a guy to consume a few units of Beer and then simply ask him home for no strings attached sex.
Men are rendered helpless against this approach. After several beers, men will often succumb to the desires to sleep with horrific looking women whom they would never normally be attracted.
After drinking beer, men often awaken with only hazy memories of exactly what happened to them the night before, often with just a vague feeling that "something bad" occurred.
At other times these unfortunate men are swindled out of their life's savings, in a familiar scam known as "a relationship."
In extreme cases, the female may even be shrewd enough to entrap the unsuspecting male into a longer term form of servitude and punishment referred to as "marriage." Men are much more susceptible to this scam after beer is administered and sex is offered by the predatory females.
If you fall victim to this "Beer" scam and the women administering it, there are male support groups where you can discuss the details of your shocking encounter with similarly victimized men.
For the support group nearest you, just look up "Golf Courses" in the phone book.
  
A GRAPHIC demonstration of how the drug works, and the effect it has on men, can be witnessed here: http://www.brackenspub.com/beer.swf Be Warned! it IS graphic! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/18/2008 9:55:52 AM | | Either because they're scared of you for making them feel less self-disciplined and classy, or they're turned off by the fact that you're scared of alcohol. Which is it? You don't just "wake up" and decide that you're going to do something counter to the social status quo. Come back with a better reason so that we can investigate the matter further. | |
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