| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/5/2009 4:43:21 PM | | This is an interesting question and my experience with online dating is one of being turned down by a few women and I was told specifically because I didn't drink. I always figured women would view the fact I don't drink as a plus but was surprised when I found it worked against me with some of them. But.....I'm not about to change the fact I don't drink for the sake of getting a date. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/5/2009 4:45:34 PM | I have had women question me initially why I do not drink and I always assumed they were asking to see if I have or ever had a drinking problem. It just seems kinda strange that because someone does not drink the first immediate reaction is that maybe they have a drinking problem.
Since the socializing aspect of our society as a whole revolves around alcohol to some degree it is understandable to an extent. Alcohol just doesn`t do anything for me.....be it the taste or the buzz. I could take it or leave it....
But I never had a woman shy away from me because I do not drink and if she did shy away because of that....... that would be fine with me.... its all good.
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 1/8/2009 4:41:09 PM | | Well I know that in my experience I dated a few guys who had a problem with alcohol and that is all they could talk about. They would tell me all the trouble they would get in with it and that they stopped drinking a month ago.... yikes! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/4/2009 10:16:32 AM | | what crap ... people have choices . if they dont drink then that does not say that they have problems ......or had problems ...ok so its rare , but why jump to a conclusion .. wrong wrong wrong ..... me , i just dont like it .. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/4/2009 12:03:05 PM | I don't think it is an overwhelming majority of women that do this.
I don't have issues dating a guy who doesn't drink so long as he isn't the type to act self righteous about it and act condescending and judgmental about me doing it.
If he simply doesn't drink and that's that. It's cool. I would be curious as to why though but it wouldn't prevent me from dating him. Although I guess I would feel strange about us going out and me havign drinks and being a little tipsy and he's not. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/4/2009 12:16:07 PM | I almost never drink and I have ``Do not drink'' in my profile. I haven't been asked about that here, but in general, when I'm asked about it, I just say that I have nothing against using alcohol or other drugs as long as a person's life isn't controlled by them. I add that I used to drink and that I've done other drugs but the novelty has worn off and at the moment those things don't interest me. I further note that I don't think anything about it either way unless someone brings it up.
I don't think anyone has been put off by that, bit I don't know for sure. However, I'm rather put off by people who don't treat alcohol as a drug and/or who can't separate harmful from legal. As drugs go, alcohol is more harmful than most when abused and no less harmful than most when used responsibly. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/4/2009 12:56:27 PM | | Because some want a drinking buddy and they may feel guilty drinking when you dont...I dont have a problem either way... if i want to drink I will.. I am grown... but I am not a alcoholic by any means and can handle my liquor well...it should be a persaonl choice if you wantto drink or not... if those women dont want to be with you because of that fact then consider it to be their loss.... if that was what made them decide then they are extremely shallow to start with... count your blessings... | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/4/2009 1:58:46 PM |
Because some want a drinking buddy and they may feel guilty drinking when you dont
I figure that anyone who feels guilty doing something, probably is the type of person who shouldn't be doing it, so perhaps they are doing a non-drinker a favor if they are bothered by a drink with no alcohol in it. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/4/2009 3:31:16 PM | LoL... I don't drink if its illegal (frequently go to Bermuda, though)...
For some reason some people have this overwhelming idea that no alcohol = no fun...
these people irritate me... if you need a drink to loosen up a bit than you just might have a few issues that you need to work on... | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/10/2009 3:51:56 PM | | Personally, when I see that someone doesn't drink I assume that they are a recovering alcoholic. It is very judgemental but I feel there will be so much baggage I don't want to deal with. I am an upbeat joyful person and don't want to be dragged down. Also I am very non-religious and find that alot of recovering alcholics are into the "Let Go and Let God." I think this attitude just is an excuse to not take responsibility for your life. Very complex. I don't need complexed. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/10/2009 3:56:43 PM | I am all about having a designated driver... I LOVE men that don't drink.
Maybe they think you're "not cool" or maybe they really, really, love to drink... I can't say that I've ever passed that judgment. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:04:45 AM | | maybe women think that you have a problem with alcohol?? i may have a drink once in awhile - but i don't need to get drunk to have a good time. a girlfriend of mine sees non-drinkers as uptight or no fun even though she doesn't drink much herself. i don't mind if someone drinks a bit - but i do not want to be around drunks - just not my thing. i KNOW i'm never making a bad decision because of alcohol. LOL maybe you're looking at the wrong kind of women? good luck in your search : 0 ) brenda | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:19:45 AM | Never trust a man who won't have a drink goes the saying. Drunk sex actually is good for men. helps get erections says new medical reports.
I shot down a woman who wouldn't touch the stuff since she was a recovering alcoholic. I just wanted to avoid her period. Too many problems. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/11/2009 12:32:31 AM | Maybe it's because "sober guy" doesn't find drunk slutty girl funny at all?
Or could it be that "sober guy" doesn't buy the "I was drunk" b.s.?
Drinking is something your supposed to do "while" having a good time. Not something you do "to" have a good time!
Aw poor baby feels guilty about getting drunk just because I don't drink?
Funny, there are a lot more reasons to feel bad about getting drunk!
I could care less about dating a woman that drinks even though I don't. I don't preach or lecture. just as I don't except it as an excuse for poor behaviour. I give no sympathy in the morning after either! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/11/2009 1:22:45 AM | i don't drink. never have, never will. and my reasons are because it's not healthy; physically or mentally. simple as that. why would i pay to put something in my bod that's obviously not good for me? after all, we only get one body in our lifetime. take care of it, it takes care of you.
if a woman won't have anything to do with you just cuz u don't drink, my man, just move on to the next chick. if something like that is a dealbreaker, then that chick has probs that you probably don't wanna deal with anyway. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/11/2009 1:53:27 AM | The right type of women won't care if you drink or not. I don't drink either, because of my religion (Hindu) which believes that one should only change one's consciousness with meditation and one's connection to God. I have never found this a problem in dating relationships unless the man was an alcoholic or else very judgmental of other people's differences. If people judge you negatively for that, they weren't right for you.
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:15:46 AM | Personally, I shy away from guys that drink. It's really hard to find someone that doesn't drink (which I dont understand), but yea, I think my perfect match would not drink often.
I dont want to deal with drunk people. Ugh. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 5/10/2009 11:27:04 AM | | if they like to drink that much you dont need them, thats why there single,they have to drink just to cope with life,there not worth talking to.i referr to them as barr flys | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 5/10/2009 1:28:35 PM | Hmm I'm also someone who doesn't drink, mostly for the reason I don't like the taste of the stuff but with being near a city that good for its clubbing and pissheads along with seeing it as I've walked out of city on a few nights of fightings and faces that have cuts from broken glass, it just keeps telling me to stay away from it. If the women want to judge me based on if I want to get drunk? Well they are not the person I would like to mix with.
It's not just drinking that can give me some stick from people, it's also smoking too. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 5/10/2009 2:33:01 PM | I rarely drink, but once in a while I like to "get my drink on" and I'm sorry but doing that with someone who is drinking lemonade,would be a downer and boring to me.If I'm going to get stupid,I want someone to be getting stupid with me,not judging me on my behavior.
With that said,I certainly wouldn't want someone who needed to drink all the time.
There is nothing wrong with not drinking,you just need to find someone who feels the same way and there are plenty out there who do. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 5/10/2009 3:29:18 PM | | There are plenty who don't need to drink to have a good time, it's just finding them that's the task that you have to undertake. As with just about nearly every topic on this forum, not all women are like that. | |
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