| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:24:41 AM | | you know it isnt that im looking for an attractive girl and a fun girl, i guess i always get the younger inexperienced ones, my last relationship lasted about 2 years and the girl i was with started out not drinking at all then she got a job as a waitress at a bar (whitch had no problem with) but she started down a path of self destructiveness and started to mingle more and more with the bar crowd, then she started drinking every day and every night she became completely dependant on alcohol to get her thru the day | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:26:39 AM | At your age the women you're meeting are wanting to have a good time with drinking. Lets go to a party, drink, let's go out for dinner & drink, etc, etc. I wouldn't feel ashamed that you don't drink, and until you meet someone that wants to enjoy the moment with you, don't worry, the right one will come along.
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| Why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:38:44 AM | I have not really found it to be the case, that women shy away from a guy that doesn't drink. For me alcohol brings back a flood of unpleasant memories from the time immediately following my fiancee's death 5 years ago - memories I would rather leave buried. Plus I never really liked it anyway. I can't say I will never have another drink again, but I do know that the last time I can remember having a glass of wine was over 2 years ago on New Year's Eve - and it ruined my party mood for the night. I still do like going out to a bar with friends occasionally (I have never used them as pick up places), and not drinking provides extra entertainment - ever watch how men and women act in a bar at midnight when they've had a few? Hilarious!
Basically, if a woman has an issue with me not wanting a drink, then I am dating the wrong woman. I mean, does it really matter if I'm having a great time anyway that I did not need booze to get there? I don't mind if she drinks, or even has one too many on occasion. I would draw the line at a heavy drinker, though.
Maybe one of the previous posters was right. A few women might think you are an alcoholic in recovery. But I think most wouldn't really think about it at all after a brief thought to themselves that it's slightly unusual.
Anyway, just my $0.01722 USD.
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:42:44 AM |
people that booze it up on weekends or every night prefers the people they hang out with do the same. Then their boorish behaviour doesn't seem out of place.
don't let a couple of alcoholics ruin your perspective
these women do not feel comfortable enough with themselves without that alcohol boost
why do you care if you are shot down by a woman because she loves alcohol and that party lifestyle.....?
I think someone like that would be doing you a favor to shoot you down.
So women who go to bars and have a few drinks are automatically alcoholic whores who are too insecure to handle life sober, huh? Aren't we a judgemental bunch today?
I dont mean this in a rude way.... but maybe you have low self esteem
I don't think the OP seems to have low self-esteem at all...what are you talking about? | |
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| Why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:42:51 AM | | i guess im just one of thase lucky guys that is blessed with a great personality that doesnt need alternative substance to complete who i am i can have fun wherever im at, and whoever im with, the best company for me... is me, i wont go anywhere without me! | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:49:05 AM | | thankyou newintown503, i do admit going thru high shcool i was on the lower side of the self esteem pool, but once i started to experience life i realised that life is about having fun, making the most of life on this planet, or as this being... whatever your religion allows, i dont need a woman to complete me or make me better at all, i want a woman to laugh with and have a great time with, at this point in my life sex doesnt really matter that much.. not saying it isnt a sublime thing, but a relationship would help for those bad days, just a little cuddling thats all i ask for | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 10:03:07 AM | If I can go without alcohol five out of seven days a week then
I'm obviously not an alcoholic. Why do I need to stop drinking?
I like going to bars, it's fun and social. It's about the only social
activity around my area after dark. Yes, there are lots of fun
things to do other than drinking but they don't happen in rural
areas. There is one country line dancing place that does
not serve alcohol that is open on the weekends but there's no
one under 50 in there. So why would I not go to a bar?
Edit: I was responding to purpleturtle. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 10:09:27 AM | I don't know if it is the age thing like someone said before, but I know plenty of girls that don't drink. I actually would prefer a man who didn't drink, because I do not drink. I don't like the taste of it. I got drunk once in my life and that was on my 21st birthday... Will NEVER happen again... I don't even like to go to bars...
I have a suggestion on where you can find women who don't drink. Haven't read your profile, so I am not sure if you would be receptive to it or not... But anyways here it is....
CHURCH.
Ok I will stop preaching now. LOL...
Genny | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 10:26:03 AM | I dont drink...only lightly in social situations.
I also have been given that question "why dont you drink alchohol?" in the past
Really if I dont drink it doesnt mean my partner cant.
Reasons for my none drinking? ...my dads a alchoholic....I aint going there.
Its a freedom of choice lol
I think you can enjoy yourself just as much sober as drunk.
Some not all rely on it too much as a form of escape.
When someone says "I wont pick someone because they do/dont drink" is just limiting there choices in friends me thinks. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 10:31:36 AM | | see i cant pinpoint my non drinking revelution, i cant blame it on my parents, or previous relationships, i use to drink a lot before it was legal for me, but now i dont, the only thing about drinking that i disapprove of is the drunk driving, understandibly there is a limit to how much you can safely drive on, its just one of my personal morals that i have grown to feel strongly against | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 10:49:43 AM | Well then wesleyptr it sounds as though you've already exhausted your fascination with booze in your teens and have simply moved on... Nothing wrong with that, I wouldn't exert as much thought over it as you seem to be doing. It's not a negative trait, so you should simply explain it casually when you're on a date IF the topic even comes up. If she doesn't say anything and doesn't ask you about why you're not drinking, then you needn't bring it up at all.
At your age it may be difficult to find girls that don't drink if you're dating University girls (ahh so many fond memories of those days  ), but if a girl only drinks socially and socially means weekend outings it shouldn't be too hard to find someone you like AND are compatible with. Hell if she's spending part of her time with you, she isn't likely to be drinking excessively since you aren't, and if you don't care what she does when you're not together then you're fine on both counts 
Now what was that bit about sex not really being important to you at this point in your life? What keeps you going at that point brother? I may not drink but I don't think I could survive without the prospect of some carnal relations...  I always say when people ask me if I have any vices at all that I looked at the list, and picked the sanest one of all: lust  | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 11:02:11 AM | im not saying im deprived at all, but sex, from what ive found, is better in a relationship,
ive had the one nighters that blew my mind, but nothing was better than getting freaky everywhere with my x | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 11:55:19 AM | I'm right with the OP. I don't drink either and the misperceptions are....
1. Recovering alcoholic.
2. Judgemental anti-alcoholic.
3. Boring stick-in-the-mud.
I really suspect it's that it's awfully hard to get taken advantage of when all your brain cells are functioning. I like all my wits about me at all times. That actually makes me a more interesting person. And I have never puked on a dates shoes or had to have anyone hold my hair back.
Anyone who won't date someone who doesn't drink--probably doesn't have much to say in the first place. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 12:07:18 PM | I used to get the raised eyebrow cause i didnt drink..."hmmmm ...wonder if he turns into a drunken a**hole"...they thought. Truth is not everyone has to be an "X drunk" or "recovering" if they dont drink anymore, some like me, just dont enjoy being a drunken buffoon. Been there did that....now someone pass me a drink its happy hour
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 1:51:26 PM | | i dont drink either but it is for other reasons it is the alcohol it can kill me i cant even have it in food of mouthwash. it work out for the best my insurance rates are lower | |
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