| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 3:04:29 PM | Newintown - since when does going to a bar imply that you HAVE to drink? I don't think he ever said he wouldn't step into a bar or he would prevent someone from going to a bar.
OP: it sounds like you're targeting women who put their booze before anything else. There's NOTHING wrong with not drinking. I don't drink because I don't like alcohol and I never understood the hype of getting "a buzz." Really, getting a buzz is just a PC way of saying that you can't feel good enough without a mood-altering substance. When I go to a bar, I just ask for a virgin drink. Problem solved. | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 3:08:00 PM | | Wouldn't bother me, as long as the man doesn't mind if I drink....and since I myself only really drink maybe once a month...I would hope it wasn't an issue...More power to you if you can have fun with out chemical alteration. | |
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honkey
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Joined: 11/25/2005
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/14/2006 9:32:15 PM | | I don't drink either, even when I go out, maybe a couple of glasses of something and that's it. I find it sooooooo repulsive when people try to make me drink when I just don't want it. I'd love to date someone who doesn't drink, than I don't have to put up with that pushy bull at bars or even at houseparties. Just cause I don't drink doesn't mean I'm up to something and can't be trusted. What kind of a bull is that??? That's the biggest bull I ever heard of thus far. It is men who try to get woman to drink r the ones who shouldn't be trusted, so there, I rest my case. (Oh and what's wrong with being responsible and not drink and drive if u drove urself to the bar? I hate to take cabs, I'd rather drive myself and not drink so I can drive myself back. So now what? U're gonna call me crazy now? Like I'm boring? If u think fun is to go to a bar, get all drunk and try to get laid than pass out afterwards barely remembering who the f u c k u just f u c k e d, than call me childish and boring. Go ahead.) | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/15/2006 6:53:46 PM | | I have not a problem being around a man who does not drink. My ex BF does not drink, he did not mind if I had a glass of wine or two.. As long as a person is tolerant and non-judgemental if I have a drink or two, then I'm ok with his non-drinking... | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/15/2006 7:24:53 PM | | I had a boyfriend drop me when I was in college b/c at that time I partied and drank like a fish. Needless to say he dropped me b/c he said I drank too much. He was the only guy that said that too me. 2 years lated I got married. That guy is mayor of a city. No names mentioned. Even if I didn't drink like a fish, living my life in a fishbowl would never appeal to me. I am glad he is where he is at. I am glad for him. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/17/2006 8:22:59 PM | We used to have a saying in my previous career...
"Never trust a man who doesn't drink... Because any man who doesn't drink is an alcoholic."
It sounds silly but I live by it when it comes to business. | |
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Ldygmr
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Joined: 12/19/2005
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/17/2006 8:29:17 PM |
why dont women like a guy that doesnt drink alcohol????~wesleyptr
I think it might just be you. I'm sure there are other things about you that are a turnoff.
I don't know ANYONE who would NOT date a guy who didn't drink. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/17/2006 8:32:53 PM | | it's probably because you go for the young girls that are still in the party mode....when i was your age i was a total drunk myself among other things...lol now i only wish i didn't attract friggin alchies...lol | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/17/2006 9:47:23 PM | wesleyptr...........Your liver thanks you. And you will live longer. But if you meet in a bar, expect drinking with it. Some women, including me, are very nervous on a first date. Plus it lowers our inhibitions! I had a date that actually told me off the next day because I had some drinks on our one and only meeting. He told me that he did not appreciate that I insisted on going to a bar and being around all those people. There were about five people there for real. He was a control freak anyway. I had to have 4 strong drinks to tolerate him! But really don't take it personally.  | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/17/2006 10:51:47 PM | | I had something similar. I do not smoke pot, I met a woman who did. And so because I did not do that, she was turned off...I never had a problem with her doing it, nor do at all with anyone. But some judge others on if you drink or do drugs if they do. Sadly you just have to accept that outcome and move on. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:29:34 AM | actually....i go to bar all the time..an i dont drink..an yet i am the party of the night...very popular gal...its all bout being yourself an havin fun..without any substances. getting high on life is the best...
i perfer a man who doesnt drink..shows he can be himself.... | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:19:14 AM | .
Sometimes I will drink, if I’m home. At bars, though, I always drink the same thing: Tonic Water with a double twist.
Very few people know that, but the bartenders where we go do. It looks like I’m drinking just as much as everyone else. But, nope, I’m enjoying watching them get tanked. ;-)
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/18/2006 3:06:40 AM | Initially, I would stop to find out what the reasons behind the non-drinking issue are. Be it preference, religion or overcoming a dependancy to alcohol.
I actually don't drink that much. Don't keep alcohol in the house but do enjoy a nice cold beer or two when I do go out. I've dated non drinkers and I have to be honest. It makes me feel very uncomfortable to have someone sitting there drinking pop or water when I'm having a beer.
I think its great you don't drink because I myself wouldn't want to date someone that drinks every day. Sometimes I don't drink in a bar but have a pop or water myself, and its true, nobody notices or is any the wiser. But realistically I enjoy going out a couple times a month for a bite to eat and having a beer or two to unwind. I would prefer to date a person that could and would do that with me. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/18/2006 8:15:47 AM | Sad that you have to drink to be accepted these days. I grew up in my teens to early 20's not drinking and all my friends respected that. I started to drink because a glass of Coke was $5 at a bar and so I felt why would I blow the same amount of money on Coke as others do on alcohol. So I started drinking mixed drins because i do not like the tatse of alcohol or beer.
Sadly though the respect for being a non-drinker is not there these days. I barely drink, last time I had one was almost 2 months ago. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/18/2006 8:33:54 AM | | The women i know are all glad i don`t drink, they go out with me and get hammered, knowing full well i`ll get them home in one piece, plus i like to remember what happened the night before.To each there own choice and booze really ages you fast.Cheers. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/19/2006 9:59:15 AM | i agree rapid... seems pressures on for substances now days.... i get alot sayin oh have a few...well i dont want a few ...i am havin a good time with that drink....but it bothers them when i dont drink...then they call me wuss...wtf is that bout? i try to remain positive in life ...i dont need to drink to enjoy my life....i do have the occasional one when i am in the mood for a drink....rarely....but if i need to have a few to calm my nerves..then its time i work on my nerves right.
i like the fact ..one doesnt need to drink to feel comfortable round me and to be themselves. | |
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| why do women shy away from guy that doesnt drink??
Posted: 3/19/2006 11:35:47 AM | It's clear, even from this discussion, that many people have specific feelings on someone drinking or not drinking.
I think it is easy to say someone is not worth knowing if they have a problem with a non-drinker. However, knowing that does not make it any less disappointing for the non-drinker.
I have known people that have had long-term relationships with a non-drinker and it having been an uncomfortable issue the whole time. Many people just cannot help escape the feeling they are being judged by a non-drinker. That doesn't make the drinker a bad person. At worst, they are just insecure. Adding fuel to that fire is the fact that some non-drinkers ARE judgemental.
For other drinkers it is just disappointment in not being able to share something they truly appreciate. Let's face it, there is not much sex appeal in the latest flavour of cola.  I think a guy who loves cooking meat on the BBQ might feel the same way dating a vegetarian. He wishes she enjoyed his passion even if he respects her choices.
The one thing, that is likely truly disappointing for the non-alcoholic non-drinker is people that assume they have a problem. There are lots of reason to not drink. While I agree that it is useful to find a person's reasons. It is too bad it is an issue at all. When someone orders a salad for lunch, I don't sit there wondering if they used to be obese. I think part of this problem is that there are many more non-drinkers out there than people realise.
Well, I hope I walked the middle line on this one. My message is simply that we really should try to understand where people are coming from.
Cheers, Bill. | |
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