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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 7/16/2005 2:43:50 AM | i have read the replies with interest to my thread and thank everybody for their input...i am not being to fussy its just i find a lot of men once they have talked to u for a few hours in a pub or whatever most of them expect u to hot foot it into their bed...i just don't agree that its the done thing to go to bed with someone straight away am i wrong in thinking this... | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 7/17/2005 10:51:00 PM | | Ladygee.. i know how u feel.. its hard now adays... too many women out there giving it away.. puts us in hard situation... im having the same problem... as soon as u meet them, they change... hang in there... maybe ur like me.. trying to damn hard. Maybe u need a break from all this.. i know i do. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 7/17/2005 11:45:18 PM | Because if he was easy to find,
wouldnt make him special would it ?
Rocks are easier to find than diamonds....but somebodies rock is someone elses diamond....
if you dont give up youll find what you want...or they'll find you.. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 7/18/2005 2:33:01 AM | @wiz...
you are right...if we cannot enjoy our own company we cannot enjoy the company of others...
We cannot look to others to fulfill our needs ...nor should we.......
I just ask that she shares my joy ....and I share hers. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 7/18/2005 3:13:25 AM | sigh...it is 3am, I am studying, you don't know me at all....so why make these Pollyanna pronouncements on my life?
What is wrong with giving up? If I opt out of looking it is not necessarily a negative thing. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 7/18/2005 9:50:09 AM | | Its all bout timing and the allignment of the stars......................i think u should give up............when you look and want something too much u never get what you need and the cycle continues. Be true to yourself.....................follow your heart.............and when it time for you...........it will come. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 7/18/2005 1:00:37 PM | __If we would be easy to find, would we be special? Jerks are a dime a dozen. Special men are no more expensive but few retail outlets carry them. You got to do some searching to find us because we camouflage among the jerks. It's a survival technique.
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 1/15/2006 1:49:37 PM | no your not wrong ladygee if you don't feel comfortable! jumping! into bed with some man you've just met then he is probably not that special guy anyway always trust your instincts you will know when the time is right | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 11/6/2007 4:38:21 PM | The reason is that for the most part guys,men,boys,male persons or whatever you choose to call them are jerks they are usually to young to understand a womens needs. basicly they need the same thing that women need and that is a big dose of understanding.
Most men do not understand the first thing about a womans need for attention or their need to be seduced. It is of my opinion that all women are ladies wheather they act like one or not. And should be treated like one
And most males have a one track mind met a lady win the lady have sex with the lady see her a few times and then forget her.
It is a bad and disrespectfull way to be but unfortunately it is true. It is very difficult for people to date these days because most people are not mature enough to realize it is better to spend your whole life with one special person than it is to spend your life mostly alone with a companion for a week or month here and there. Never knowing if you have left behind a child or if the person having one needs your help or not. Or having to worry about if child support enforcement is going to find you and leave you with enough money in your pocket to pay youre rent with this month.
Yes boys and girls dating can be fun and the sex great but a broken heart can litteraly kill people. A lot of people have died not just from a broken heart but from the after effects of loving and leaving someone. It hurts people to think that someone loved them and then was left holding tha bag so to speak of a lost relationship. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 11/6/2007 10:45:36 PM | People are often stuck in rutts. Dating the same type of person over and over again expecting a different outcome. I have taken this last year off from relationships. I don't want to be attracted to or attract the same type of person I have in the past. In doing this I have found out who I am again. What I like and what I want out of a relationship. I also want to get to know a person before I date them. When people date someone they don't know already they tend to try to be the person they think the other one wants them to be. One can only keep this up for so long untill they have to revert to who they really are. Thus the change in behavoir after a few dates. I am a firm beliver that one must base a relationship on friendship and mutual respect. Any relationship just based on sex I don't belive will last the test of time. Let's face it we all are get older and most of us aren't getting any prettier. So why would you want to be with someone you could not stand to be with unless sex enters the relationship because if you ask me unless you like/love the person your with sex is going to get old.
Bottom line try dating a different bread of character than your norm. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 11/8/2007 8:34:55 PM | > for the most part guys,men,boys,male persons or whatever you choose to call them are jerks ... most males have a one track mind...
So, Bigoleteddybear1953, you're so self-loathing there that you seem to have made a convincing case for suicide. What keeps you from it?
And I'd have to say that all that worrying about whether "child support enforcement is going to find you" (or not) sure takes the fun out of dating and just shoots sex all to hell and back. At least ya got that right.
Maybe most women's 'special' detectors are broken, or are seriously miscalibrated. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 11/8/2007 9:22:44 PM | | it's because one searches too hard. When you relax, things happen. And when you finally get it, if you relax ....they don't like you. It's because many are addicted to tension and unnecessary excitement. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 11/9/2007 7:33:58 AM | Well a few factors might explain things. First, as numerous posters wrote, men might think purely in physical terms. In this light, I would just put the breaks on everything to see where they really want to go. My warning lights flash if a woman wants a relationhip before even meeting me (and my demeanor usually doesn't do much to dissuade this).
Second, it might be that the men are making up their minds. Our culture has taught men to woo women and romance them we shall. Still, one man might be romancing several women not to be a cad, but simply because it is within our cultural norm. The critical question is where this leads. Is it for the purpose of finding a long-term partner or to choose the gratification of the moment. Give careful thought to this and examine the way in which men interact with you. Romance is not always a St. Valentine's Day schlock thing, but also a conscious effort to establish a connection and understand a person. If an individual is sincere, empathy will demand things of them even if they decide you are not right for them. | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 11/9/2007 9:40:40 PM | I've grown to really believe a lot of advice is just more confussing.
I think it's really like this.. when you meet the right guy you won't even
need to worry so much about what you'r doing right or wrong, and then try to
make it work, then if that don't work.. try something else... All that trying is well..
Trying!
Be yourself, relax, if he ain't it ..he ain't it, ...and somewhere down the road you'll
be glad he wasn't it, trust me.  | |
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| why is it so hard to find that special man
Posted: 11/11/2007 9:57:42 AM | > I think all the good ones are taken.
No, they're all over on the "Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married?" thread saying "yes, I'd get married if I could find someone on the same page". I mean, I haven't checked `em out myself, but they look good enough to me for the most part. Better snarf them up before some other gal does! | |
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