| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 6:39:57 PM |
Doesnt mater my dear if you dont have first hand knowledge..even you have a dutyto report it, if you know who she is.! #%#$^**
hell, message me who she is and I'll report it for F**KS SAKE!
As I said....I don't know the girl well.....only know her first name and don't know where she lives, so how would I be able to report her? | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 6:41:54 PM | And if you know that..why bring up my profile?? that was a mistake, and maybe you should think about it next time you decide to slam a person trying to help children...
or maybe you dont give a shit..
I sure hope its never your children... | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 6:42:00 PM | Quote:
"As I said....I don't know the girl well.....only know her first name and don't know where she lives, so how would I be able to report her?"
Very Easy......you call your friend who started this thread......and you say I'll give you 5 minutes to make the call or I'll report YOU in that you know of this and YOU will be charged for failing to report...... | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 6:46:46 PM | | ^^^^No doubt, hey Parry - it's not like one has to be a rocket scientist to figure out how to do this. It's just shameful that some moms on here can sit back and do nothing - while others think it's no big deal. It makes me sick, quite frankly. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 6:50:16 PM | Felanie,
The only thing I think you can do is back away from her and let her figure it out for herself.... Just cut her out of the circle of friends and do not invite her to do anything with you folks. She will soon ask why and you can tell her that you do not approve of the behavior.....and will not include her until it changes. I know she is your friend and you love her.....but sometimes it has to be " Tough Love "......you know ? Make a stand and hold your line. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 6:53:23 PM | There is probably nothing you can do Felanie. You could try taking a picture or pictures at the right time and show them to her later. She is way triggered. She will be an empty shell when he's done. The road back for her will be hard.
Right now she has very little if any analytical thought or thought processes. She is in animal mode. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 6:55:19 PM | Why do I get the feeling a few of us sane people here are being forced to witness a really bad version of the movie "Deliverance"........
this is sad that some people are mostly worried about the relationship between the OP and the idiot mom........instead of these poor kids.......
Banjo music please...... | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 7:40:03 PM | | Marol - I fail to see how a person (alone) liking to wear no pants while lying under a blanket on the couch compares to 2 people here doing so - in the presence of children - given the other descriptions of their behavior. That's like comparing apples to oranges. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 7:59:03 PM | Either way as i said ..her friend isnt going to call the police..so maybe past the information on to someone else as i said in my last post ,who will call..
past that you cant force them to change ,hence why letting someone who will take a more serious approach to deal with it is a good idea.
most she can do is tell her friend that she feels its wrong.
cause if she could deal with it she wouldnt be here, not knowing what to do. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 8:35:00 PM | This is a tough one... if she wa a really good friend I would knock some sence into her... if that didn't work... I would call the authorities... which she would expect from me since I am the authorities as my living.... but most of my friends work there too... so...
my friends are important... but more so is the mental and physical health of a child... the long term damage of what she is doing is sad... | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/16/2006 11:22:20 PM | OMG!!!! I gotta say......I'm with Supa on this one 100%
If this guy was exposing himself to the children on his own you'd likely not think twice about reporting him........but because of your friend.....who you say is not like that.....when obviously she IS........you don't want to report them.
I have a 13yo daughter and if they were "making out" in front of her at my home I would toss them out.......and ONE time having sex with the kids in the room is reason enough for the kids to be taken away.......if it was my BEST friend I'd make the call......I'd offer to take in the kids......but I think you protect the kids no matter how much it will upset your friend.
Wether she was in the past or not......they are BOTH lowlifes! | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:28:54 AM | Yes you are all right. The girls had a meeting last night, and we agreed that there is no point in talking to her, I am going to take the kids, talk to them, and make arrangements with their father to take them until she gets rid of the creep.
If child protective services takes them, the father will have to fight for them, and she might never get them back.. This has to be a temporary lapse of sanity.. I am beside myself.
And just so you all know, if I didn't care, I would never have asked for advice.
Thanks for your ideas. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:37:17 AM | Hey Felanie: We all know this is a realy tuff place for you to be, but try to do the right thing, and I think you have a few peopl here that would realy CARE to hear the outcome....
A Freind:Remember the kids come first. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:54:40 AM | Let me tell you about child protective services.....
if you call them... they will be there at the flash of light....
and they will investigate.... they will follow up.
If you do that, you can rest assured it WILL be looked into,
investigated and taken care of.
If they do not find any proof of "abuse".. then their most likely
isnt any. Trust me when I say they will follow through.
They will interview the kids, check into how they do at school...
EVERYTHING.
They will find out much more than you could. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 8:01:57 AM | | You are doing the best thing for those children getting them away from this enviroment. I certainly pray nothing has happened with them in the meantime. I myself was a victim of abuse and note that most predators (approx 85%) look for children with certain traits and that they know will not tell (So the spoiled brat tattletales are safe in this instance) and they begin to "groom" them so they call it. The other 15% of predators it doesn't matter because they end up murdering the children. This is a very serious matter and time is of the essence! I don't care if it was a complete stranger I would be on the phone with CPS like now! And it is also a crime not to report any type of child abuse in the USA as well. My daughter had a friend growing up that I got wind of abuse going on and I talked with her friend and immediately called CPS and had her removed from that situation the same day! No child deserves to go through such things! | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 9:17:50 AM | Thank you....I'm so glad that you see that no matter, the children come first. I sincerely believe this man is well on his way to being an abuser. Get her away from her friends, not caring about her family, not even her own children!!!! My skin literally crawled when I read "I mean.. She screwed him on the couch in front of her children"! I came back to the thread later, so see that he is exposing himself to the children.
Just report this. Your friend is not thinking clearly and you must do the thinking for her right now. How much worse do you think she will feel when she finds out that her kids are all screwed up from being all screwed up! Give me her name, I'll do it for you, if you're really that concerned about her and her feelings. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 9:28:42 AM | | Hey if they want to show affection in public more power to them. Life is short people, and so what if the kid's see? As long as they don't see any innappropriate part's there should be no room for concern. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 10:54:31 AM | | I don't know if he has exposed himself to the children. I am not sure they would ever tell if he did. As I said, this is not the kind of behavior that my friend has exhibited in the past. Everyone is shocked, and appalled, and we all feel a loss of what to do. I am pretty sick about her being under the blankets with her boyfriend with no pants on. And yes her daughter was in the room. Were they doing it under the blankets while she was in the room? I don't know.. I would suspect YES. But I was NOT in the room. The reason for our concern is that they seem to have absolutely no control over themselves while in public, is the same thing going on in the house. He has recently moved in with her, and I do worry about the kids. They SHOULD not be exposed to this. After meeting with my girlfriends last night, I know I have to do something. They have been over there lately. I have removed myself since their antics at my boyfriends place in front of all the children. So I wasn't privy to everything that was happening. I will however take the kids this weekend and make alternate arrangements for them until my bestfriend gets her head screwed on straight. Why do you think she doesn't see how creepy this guy is, when the rest of us all shudder with revulsion every time he is around??????? | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 1:56:20 PM | Felanie.....I know a lot of the responses here may seem harsh, certainly mine included.......the most scary part of this is the effect it can have on the children. I have never been one to suggest involving family services carelessly. Once they get involved they can be relentless.........but thank god that they can. I don't think there's any doubt here that their involvment is necessary. The way you describe their public behavior makes me shudder to think of how they are in front of the children in their own home........and pantsless under a blanket in front of a child does NOT fall into some gray area......you seem like a smart caring woman........how does this compare to your behavior? The fact that you and the rest of your friends are appauled is a telling statement. Public displays of affection are great......and show children love, affection, and tenderness.....when done appropriately.......with your clothes on......"making out" is entirely different.
I applaud you for looking out for the children and I wish you the best of luck in dealing with this situation.......I suspect it won't be easy and you may loose a "friend" if she doesn't straighten out......but maybe she doesn't see how creepy the guy is because for some reason, she's become pretty creepy herself. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 3:02:23 PM | | The scariest part is the kids being exposed to their behavior. If I wasn't concerned it wouldn't have been brought up. Yes she has become creepy. Slutty, whorish, disgusting, irresponsible and noone wants to hang around with her anymore. We all love her so much, and this is TOTALLY out of the norm.. she is a sweet, kind, caring, warm person normally. And usually. but you put him in the same room.. and its gross. I really thought that the remarks about me being jealous of her having happiness were stupid, but I took that into account too. No.. I don't want anything like what they have. I have a man who would never disrespect me that way. We jump apart if we are kissing and the kids walk into the room. I have talked to her repeatedly about their consistent groping, and she said that if I couldn't be happy for her then I wasn't her friend... Well I guess I am not that good of a friend. | |
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| My best friend is dating a sleaze!!!!!
Posted: 3/17/2006 5:24:53 PM | Felanie Im proud of you for doing something.
The comments she makes about not being happy for her whatever...thats crap and dont buy into that...
Caring about what is going on there proves your love and desire to see things get better...that is the measure of a friend. Furthermore, being a good friends not always about doing and saying what they want to hear..in fact its the opposite most of the time.
*hon the kids will thank you someday, and even if they dont you'll know you did the right thing. | |
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