| Are Good men Invisble???*J*???
Posted: 2/13/2005 1:52:06 AM | now u see me...*holds a small leaf infront of my head* now u dont ^.^;; well girls say they want a nice honest guy but trust me they dont.. never be to nice.. u can be honest but maybe sometimes it's better to just shut up.
like i am about to now.
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| Are Good men Invisble???*J*???
Posted: 2/13/2005 2:07:45 AM | I think part of the problem is your pitying your self.. Poor me.woe is me..no one is attracted to that. . You have to get out there and build that confidence up brother..
There is nothing wrong with you.. Keep swinging that bat.. In case you haven’t noticed look around you.. The place is loaded with singles.. Some are good guys, some are bad boys.. Note the word single. There in the same boat as you.. So start rowing that boat and build up your self confidence and relax. I hate to tell you the terrible news.. But surprise you’re normal. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2005 3:58:33 AM | I've been invisible for years... about 4 of them... worst part is I was married to her. :(
Now I have the kid (weeeeeeeeeeee! I got the best part!) and am back in the dating scene... oh, hooray, my confidance is soaring! | |
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Posted: 2/16/2005 4:12:20 AM | I KNOW that there are good men left but honestly, I dont think there are any good women left and I wonder if there is such a thing as a good woman....is it
something we men made up to make ourselves feel better about dealing
with evil rotten b*tches all the time ? Do we lie to ourselves and tell ourselves that although most females are evil rotten b*tches, some of them might be
decent ? I know that 75 percent of the male population is made up
of decent individuals. As for the women, I dont think there are any
good ones left and I wonder if there had ever been good women on
the planet earth. All the ones I see are evil, man-hating, money-greedy
rotten b*tches from hell. It's the truth. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2005 5:09:07 AM | To address the issue of girls going after the abusive men when nice guys are right there....
For years my friends and family and potential boyfriends banged their heads against the wall trying to figure out why i was passing over great guys to date abusive egotistical idiots. Evevntually I started wondering the same thing, I mean I grew up with that crap, my father figures were abusive egotistical idiots, I should know better.
But heeeeeeeeeey, wait a minute...I dug out my psychology textbook just to be sure, but I realized that women, maybe not all, but alot (men too) choose men in the image of their father (mother for men.)
So there I was choosing men in the image of the father figures I have known.
As soon as I recognized the pattern, i broke it. Recognized what I was doing, the warning signs and I started trusting my gut instinct.
My relationships have improved to say the least.
Now I don't care what they look like, how much money they make or what their beliefs are. If they are nice, honest decent men then i am more than willing to get to know them.
nice guys aren't invisible, some women just don't see them until it's too late. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2005 6:40:22 AM | Let's not forget that nice guys don't get noticed because sometimes the things that get you noticed aren't always things nice guys do. Though nice doesn't mean passive, many nice guys are passive or at least not as aggressive in grabbing attention and tend not to push them selves out there to get noticed.
There are alot of great guys out there that are more aggressive socially, don't get me wrong.
I'm begining to think that if a guy wants to become visible, he needs to be more socially aggressive. I also think you can do that without becoming the jerk-guy. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 1:49:26 PM | No good men aren't invisible. I have a special anti-invisible spray! ssssshhh! | |
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| Are Good men Invisble???*J*???
Posted: 2/18/2005 3:13:54 PM | | So true, just dealt with a JERK(angry man that hates women and lashes out at them by ripping their heart out - he has been on here for 2 years (god knows how many good women he has hurt (because they did not have d boobs and got to close to him, to think he was cared for- nasty man) off this site and what you say truly makes the world of sense. That is exactly where i am at right now - bitter and less likely to know when the good man will come along. He made me distrust men (for now) however he cannot win - i will meet a man worthy of the best love of his life. I think we all will one day and if not well we are our own best friends! LOL | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 3:20:14 PM | | lara, keep the spirit. never give up hope. your right, you'll meet someone. the best thing to do is just be yourself and do what you do. it usually happens when you least expect it to happen. i'm glad to see that you don't believe all men are like him. your on the right track already. good luck in your search for happiness. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2005 7:36:17 PM | Dragonn... Couldn't have said it better, myself...
But you being a woman, would definately know the angle better than any man... Cool...!!! | |
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Posted: 2/19/2005 11:16:21 AM | | Also, it's hard too... When women have to wade thru all the crap, that's out there... So good men, might as well be non-existent, sometimes... | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 12:55:34 PM | When I was a young man/boy, I felt I was worth nothing. My life experiences "taught" me that. I was not a bad looking guy, and never had trouble meeting women/girls because they came up to me. But, I was never able to follow through with a successful relationship with any of them because I felt inadequate, emotionally.
It wasnt' until years later that I matured enough to understand that I was neither the worse person in the wold, nor the best. I wasn't the most handsome man in the world, and I was not the ugliest. And that none of that mattered. What I needed to be was happy with who I was, and who I was becoming. I also learned that most people in this world get into relationships to satisfy a need or desire within themselves. Mostly, the other person comes secondary in consideration. There are jerks of both genders out there. What do each of us do to not be that jerk in our relationships with others? I read the posts here, and they're uniformly self-centered. Why don't we start a thread where we each put in an example of where WE were the jerk/ass.../etc. to someone else? No one is perfect, and we've all hurt someone else.
Good men are not invisible. I've been both the 'bad boy player' and the 'good guy'. It's a matter of maturity and caring about others. What do you want from life, what are you willing to do to help others achieve their goals/dreams/etc., and are those compatible. Relationships are about what we can do for our partner to help make their life better. They're about sharing and love, not only about what we get out of it that satisfies us. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 1:15:17 PM | | those doing the looking are blind due to fear and mistrust.This is why in my opinion the good guys are never seen | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 1:39:37 PM | I'm a good man. I know I am, and have been told so by many people. I've been lucky enought to have had more than a few amazing ladies want to spend their lives with me. The timing just never seemed to be right.
So, good guys are not invisible. I get seen all the time. Maybe that's because I put myself out there, and look at others first. | |
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| Are Good men Invisble ???*J*???
Posted: 3/6/2005 1:42:23 PM |  YES,GOOD MEN ARE INVISIBLE,
JUST LIKE ANGELS...
I COULD LEAVE POF FOR YEARS AT A TIME,AND HAVE THE EXACT SAME CHANCE OF MEETING OR BEING DESCOVERED BY A NICE GIRL THAT I HAVE NOW,BECAUSE I AM INVISIBLE!!!
NICE GIRLS SPEND THE BEST YEARS OF THEIR LIVES BEING BEATEN AND ABUSED TILL THEY ARE TRANSFORMED IN RAVING WITCHES,THEN THEY TURN THEIR WRATH ON ALL THE NICE GUY'S OF THE WORLD,,,  AFTER WICH WILL CAUSE THE NORMAL NICE GUY TO EATHER TRANSFORM INTO A STARK RAVING BASHTARD OR RUN FOR THE TRANQUILITY IF HIS WORK,NEVER TO BE SEEN AGAIN...   | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 1:46:10 PM | | Never confuse low self esteem for being a good man. Part of the attraction to the bad boys is their confidence. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 2:58:45 PM | I just read this on another post. Seems fitting........
Why is it so hard to find a (good) man?
The answer is actually quite simple. It all boils down to the law of supply and demand. If women truly wanted men who are funny, intelligent, nice, and sensitive, there would be a much greater supply. However, since women are actually more attracted to material wealth, muscular mass, or men who mistreat them, this explains the abundant supply of men who are workaholics, muscle heads, or jerks.
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| Are Good men Invisble???
Posted: 3/6/2005 3:47:21 PM | Nice guy are not invisible. They are being overlooked. As soon as the bad boy puts the women in a no win situation she comes running to the nice guy shes been ignoring while she was sleeping with the bad boy. She knew he was nice she just did not find his kindness attractive until she needed help. Trust me brother they know you are here. They know you want to be a good man to them. They just do not see any need to be around you unless they need help.
And of course as soon as she feels better shes off to the next bad boy.
The trick is to economize. Do not waste time, money, or energy on a woman that would rather be lied to then loved. Know that you are a good man that will find a good woman and that it is not your job to do damage control for a grown woman.
There are woman that want nice guys. They are rare but you can find them. You just have to make up your mind not to "throw your pearls before swine." | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 4:09:26 PM | Invisibility is just an illusion. Open them eye's a lil wider and look again, with no thought, just look.
"Through the eyes of a baby, everything is seen without rules and logic. What do YOU see today?"
Buddah | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 4:10:43 PM | | I think that the question is, what are you looking for in a woman, does she have to be slender, have a beautiful face, have gorgeous hair or does she just have to have a kind heart. Us nice girls, who are looking for nice guys, get caught up with the bad ones because the rest of you wont even give half of us the time of day. I am not a model, so that means Im out. Even you so called nice guys look at the outside first. why dont you disreguard the picture and look at the heart. I am not a bad person, but you probably wouldnt notice me at the grocery store, because people are so caught up in how you look. I cant say that I dont look, that would be lying, but I can say that looks arnt everything. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 4:10:51 PM | | I think that the question is, what are you looking for in a woman, does she have to be slender, have a beautiful face, have gorgeous hair or does she just have to have a kind heart. Us nice girls, who are looking for nice guys, get caught up with the bad ones because the rest of you wont even give half of us the time of day. I am not a model, so that means Im out. Even you so called nice guys look at the outside first. why dont you disreguard the picture and look at the heart. I am not a bad person, but you probably wouldnt notice me at the grocery store, because people are so caught up in how you look. I cant say that I dont look, that would be lying, but I can say that looks arnt everything. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2005 4:10:57 PM | | I think that the question is, what are you looking for in a woman, does she have to be slender, have a beautiful face, have gorgeous hair or does she just have to have a kind heart. Us nice girls, who are looking for nice guys, get caught up with the bad ones because the rest of you wont even give half of us the time of day. I am not a model, so that means Im out. Even you so called nice guys look at the outside first. why dont you disreguard the picture and look at the heart. I am not a bad person, but you probably wouldnt notice me at the grocery store, because people are so caught up in how you look. I cant say that I dont look, that would be lying, but I can say that looks arnt everything. | |
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