| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:10:14 PM | I tried.......
I mean I tried..... over a year I tried.....
met so many guys I couldnt count em....
I tried....
I saw.........
I went running like my hair was on fire.
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:32:36 PM | So Patrick.. .. how's it working for you so far??
I don't need the threat of death to motivate me.. . .I try my azz of as it is !
~Pour | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:38:09 PM | This thread just broke Me...I'm a total mess.........
all this time I did'nt realize I was'nt trying hard enough.......
I'm deleteing My account...I cant handle this... | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 7:38:32 PM | I completely agree with you.
Spent 12.5 years with the father of my children and have never been lonlier.... it was a completely disastrous relationship (can't even call it that)... he underminded everything I did with my children, was manipulative, abusive, complained about everything, controlling and just an absolute a$$hole, 100%.
Those were definitely the lonliest 12.5 years of my 34 to dat. The last 18 months have been so much better.
So, as much as I am still lonely, I would love to meet the right guy to share my life, to support each other, to have someone to cuddle with, hold, talk with, a real companion and partner, in everything, raising my children (12 & 10), 50/50 relationship in all aspects, and as much as I really find it difficult to support my family by myself, as much as I truly do want to find this person, I am just absolutely not going to settle for anything or anyone. It has to be right- we have to right for each other or it will just be another "lonely" relationship- and trust me, the lonely relationship is a heck of alot lonlier than being alone ! | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 9:33:11 PM | | I am 41 it's not that great. The one that said the oldre you are the harder it is to find someone, I think that is true to a certain point then there seems to be more widowed. just can't win But I guess maybe living where I do doesn't help any either. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 10:04:43 PM | I didn't say you should be happier alone......I said you should be able to be happy alone.........there is a difference.......it also doesn't mean that you should be
happy about being alone.......sorry for the confusion.
What I meant was......if you can't experience happiness on your own,
and you constantly look to someone else to provide that happiniess
for you.......you are not likely to find happiness in a relationship either....
.........at least not on a permanent basis.......can you make someone else
happy if you don't how to be happy?
I'm presently alone......and while I'm not necessarily happy about being alone,
I'm still happy.......I don't let the fact that I'm not with the "right person" at this
time keep me from being happy.
(ok.....I re-read that....and I don't think it's gonna make you happy! lol) | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/17/2006 10:16:16 PM | | Funny thing is.. for the first time in my life I realized that people weren't my answer.. society dictates you "need" to have a bf to be "normal" .. the whisper "wow she doesn't have a bf whats wrong with her".. guess what people.. NOTHING.. but I didn't realize that til recently when I hit rock bottom when it comes to dead end relationships.. had to analyze it and figure out why the hell I wasn't happy with anyone including my 10 year marriage that broke up.. guess what I found out.. cuz people don't make you happy.. U MAKE U HAPPy.. now.. I love spending time with myself.. I Can stand the silence and I actually enjoy being ALONE.. People aren't ur answer so thinkin u can't live without a date if its been longer then 6 months.. its been 7 for me .. and Im ok with that. .I accept it..and I chose to be alone.. why is that you ask? ..cuz im waiting for mr. right to find me ..when Im ready to have a relationship that will last.. no rushing.. no expectations.. no thinkin he is my answer.. he is a bonus to my life not a requirement.. try that analygy on ! | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/29/2006 8:22:00 AM | | do you know what really makes me angry...there are so many men in this world who complain that they are alone then when they have a good women by there side they are still looking for others . some cheat and get caught and if they regret it they will never humble them selves enough to realize that she was the one | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/29/2006 8:28:59 AM | thai paradise;
hey that's an awful long time! you wanna go grab some coffee?
Yep, coffee makes everthing better...meet you at 4 pm for Latte (pretend the mug to the right is coffee)  | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/29/2006 9:16:41 AM |
hmm happier alone? no such thing.
Some people are. Just because you can't fathom it doesn't mean others don't find happiness in their own way. Just like I accept that some people actually are happily married. I can't fathom that, but I think I have seen one actual happy marriage. I also can't fathom how anyone can hold contemptuous hate based on race or religion ... but it happens.
Tell me that when you're 60, tell me that you are happy alone.
Be here on Dec. 30, 2034. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/29/2006 10:01:23 AM |
Life should be about taking risks and going for things that might scare us, maybe something great will come out of it.
more people should adopt this attitude !
What if someone told you you would die if you didn't meet someone within a year.
makes me sad.
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Posted: 3/29/2006 10:04:48 AM | i agree for the most part that people are alone because they "choose" be to alone. I mean... if you want something bad enough, you'll find a way to get to it or get it.
However, on the flip side, sometimes your careers or situation does not allow for you to achieve what you want at the moment.
So here's my 2 cents, basically, if you can, go out and meet people and have fun. If you cant, try to meet people anyways... just dont try to hard to find a person. The best tend to come at the most akward times and out of nowhere... lol | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/29/2006 10:04:56 AM | personally i think a lot of people are sending out mixed messages. They may say they want or don't want a relationship but there actions speak louder than their words.
Be happy single, but open to new relationships.
the whole desperation / not complete until i am paired with someone is a whole society thing that people fall into and since they arn't happy with themselves how in the helen can they be happy with the relationship?
Relationships are awesome but i'd rather be alone than in a bad one.
Jen | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/29/2006 10:11:14 AM | | but has anyone ever wanted someone so bad it hurt in their heart, all the way up to their throats why is that what did you do. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 3/29/2006 10:15:50 AM |
We take very few risks, I won't lie, I want to go out with this girl from this site, but am I really trying everything possible to meet her? 'nope'
because that would be called "stalking" lol
there's a big difference in wanting "someone" to be with, and
wanting "the right someone" to be with.
so true... | |
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Posted: 3/29/2006 11:40:00 AM | | You are part right, part wrong, because if I had to make sure I had found someone within a year or I died, I would definitely find someone. But I would "settle". Plain and simple. I have had many opportunities that I passed up, because I knew that she wasn't right for me. Since I know that whether I live or die has nothing to do with being single, I figure I can wait until I do find a woman that is right for me, rather than settling. | |
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Posted: 5/24/2007 9:21:28 AM | I will only talk from an "I" or "ME" context. I would never tell you what "You" should do.
Only when "Let Go" was I able to move ahead. You see, I always wanted to control my destiny. It wasn't until I let go of what was, and what wasn't meant to be, did I find peace of mind. I had been in a 9 year relationship and two children and a white picket fence. Then because the "Foundation" of the relationship was not solid...the whole thing crumbled when the winds of change blew. Then, all I had was a pile of bricks...so, with those bricks I built a wall around myself swearing to myself I would never let love pass through the fortress around my heart.
I was only doing what can be described as instinctive and at that particular time... neccessary.
Time does heal the wounds but like any other wound when it heals it leaves you with a scar or reminder of the battle fought. So, with the knowledge and understanding of what has passed you will "Move-On" with the wisdom of it all.
When Thomas Edison failed 1000 times at the making of the light bulb...he was ridiculed for his failed attempts. When asked' "Why do you bother" surely you know that your dream is not possible? Thomas replied "I haven't failed at my dream 1000 times...I have been shown 1000 ways that it will not work...and my dream is very much alive".
So, Mr. Edison did achieve his dream...at 1001. This my friend..Is a true story.
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 5/24/2007 11:40:47 AM | Some people want what they want in a relationship...and are not afraid to do without until they find it...
Some people have never known just what they wanted in a relationship, still don't know, and never will...
Some people want what cannot possibly exist in a relationship, realize the truth in that, and are forever bitter and resentful toward the world as a result...
Some people would like a partner with a personality that mirrors their own, and feel that's the only thing that can possibly fit in a relationship...
Some people definitely have more than the usual quota of screws, wingnuts, and lock washers loose upstairs!  | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 5/24/2007 12:39:26 PM | | Wow, you're a genius, that's an earth shattering revelation. You're like the modern day moses delivering the ten commandments! | |
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