| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 5/24/2007 3:26:18 PM | I have friends that complain about being alone. I just don't get it because, you are right, they aren't even trying. There's this whole philosophical argument where a person sits in an empty room and waits for something to happen. There are a lot of folks like that. Some are spunky: "It'll happen for me". Some are just plain pessimistic: "It'll never happen". The truth is, no matter what it is in life, only you can make it happen.
One of my friends is approaching 40 and is into everything a 12 year old boy would be into, not a bad thing unless that is all you are about. So a lot of his actions are just plain strange when it comes to women. He wants to be with one, he is smart, not bad looking, but just wants it to sort of happen for him. He even said something to the effect that my ex had never set him up on a date with any of the many women she knew. Instead of trying he would rather be into whatever thing he is into at the moment. I think he is happy but he is not happy being alone.
I think if you are lonely in this world today, you aren't trying or you have such bad hygiene and social skills that you repel others. Wait a minute, I take that back. I have been around some college mixers and that rule isn't necessarily true either. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 7/29/2007 6:04:52 AM | I don't agree. Plants need sunlight, people need oxygen, fish need water. These are not preferences but basic needs. We can eat something we are terribly allergic to only so long before we realize that some food may be detrimental for us. The same thing is true in dating. Most of us truly want to find someone but we know what we are 'allergic' to. Not a preference but a need. We do give up some preferences but not needs because we want the relationship to have a fighting chance of survival, in my opinion. Most of us do not want serial relationships, just one.
But I am putting together a life now for my future, preparing for if I should wind up alone so I won't be living in regret and remorse. Would rather be alone than be with the wrong person. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 7/29/2007 8:54:13 AM | Not trying is what some people call it. The rest of us call it just living our lives.
A person can get all caught up in the search. Get all stressed out over it. Deal with the emtional rollercoaster of the search. Or they can just be themselves and acccept it when it does finally come to pass that you meet the right one. | |
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| We are alone cuz we really don't try...
Posted: 7/29/2007 8:54:23 AM | Not trying is what some people call it. The rest of us call it just living our lives.
A person can get all caught up in the search. Get all stressed out over it. Deal with the emtional rollercoaster of the search. Or they can just be themselves and acccept it when it does finally come to pass that you meet the right one. | |
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