| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 2/20/2008 11:38:36 PM | It seems that sometimes the 20-some year old girls are more interested then ever simply because some men in their early 40s no longer show serious interest in them, but preffer women to girls. I find it curious that no one has mentioned that factor.... It is after all an ancient and eternal formula of the immature, human courtship.
...I only say human, because the animals are so much more "honest" about it.  | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 2/21/2008 1:49:47 AM | | I'd gowith C Deacon on this, it's a question of attitude. if you look after yourself, have a positive attitude, you'll be attractive. Start looking back and feeling negative about yourself, you're on the slippery slope. Yes, physical appearance counts for a lot, but personality shines out regardless... | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 2/22/2008 4:52:27 AM | I'll go with C Deacon and alephi in terms of attitude. IMO, it isn't so much the age factoring into attraction of a younger woman to an older man, but the attitude and self-perception of the man (also the woman but staying OT) that will make or break the attraction, regardless of the physical appearance (and irrespective of age). Think "old" and one will be "old". Perish that thought!
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 2/22/2008 3:36:52 PM | I'm going to be 40 this year and I'm attracted to younger women. Mid-20s is perfect. I've seen lots of attractive women closer to my own age but their attitude kills me. Desperate and synical are not a good mix. Mid-20s single mothers are the best. They have thier priorities in order and generally have a great outlook on life.
I like to get out and have some fun every now and then, when I'm not busy with my own kids, but I'm not looking for marriage or a soul mate. I'm looking for friends that I can hang out, have fun, be flirty, and maybe have some meaning with. I've generally found this in women who are in their mid-20s. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/4/2008 12:55:34 PM | | Women in their 20s are more lively and apt to do more fun things. Just because a man hits 40 doesnt mean he enjoys the day-to-day with a boring woman. Single moms tend to work harder at pleasing it seems......sounds crude....but some of us like to be appreciated ! | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/18/2008 12:33:20 PM | I apprarently prefer older men-when I was 22 I was dating a 42, when I married at 28 my mate was 17 years my senior. My friends redirect me when we are out adn I settle down talking to an older guy- they think I need to stay in the 38-48 age range- I have always found older men sexier myself.  | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/19/2008 3:25:14 AM | I really don't understand how much "younger" we are talking about...20's...30's? Am I to old to be answering this question?
I have dated older and younger and for me it depends on the person and whether or not we are compatable. There also has to be mutual attraction and shared interests between us.
It seems that the older I get, I seem to find what I am looking for in men who are older than myself. I would have no problem dating someone even 15 yrs older than myself as long as they are still young at heart, take care of themselves and can keep up with me! | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/21/2008 12:55:57 PM | | I work with a pretty good looking 51 year old man sometimes - think actor Sean Bean cross with Robert Redford. The young women tend to flock over. He flirts back but of course nothing more as he's happily married. But he could easily attract loads of 20 to 25 year olds in the blink of an eye - he looks after himself, fruit/veg/exercise. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/21/2008 4:40:36 PM | In a way I think it's kind of unfortunate when younger women are attracted to me. I know I couldn't provide them what they need in the long run and doubt they understand what they're really looking for anyway.
I have a much younger friend (20 years younger) at facebook who wrote yesterday and confessed that she had more than a friendly interest in me. She said she likes my self confidence, honesty, and integrity but I had to tell her that I was flattered but couldn't really consider the possibility of a relationship with her.
Gorgeous she may be but 6 months or a year down the road she would be looking for greener pastures. Better to remain friendly and not end up hating each other. Besides, at 43 years old I've had my fill of heartbreak and really see no reason to seek it out.
On the other hand maybe it's just this damned integrity that's unfortunate. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/22/2008 3:47:30 AM | | I think the secret is stand tall (not hard for you!), and keep smiling as if you know some big secret that you're not going to divulge, keep mysterious but friendly, keep good eye contact, show those nice teeth! Good luck! | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:29:01 AM | Watch out for the barracudas. Young 20 something gals who have figured out that guys their own age are often still teenage boyish in the maturity dept., don't keep a girlfriend or job very long, still playing video games for hours on end, can't pay the rent most of the time. Then along comes Mr. Divorced who is much more established and can afford all the things Jr. could not, alimony payments aside. Lotsa chicks develop a taste for finer things early on no matter what their own personal status is money or career wise. His ex-wife might knwo a thing or 2 about that. One of my neighbors is 23 and has a 50+ year old living with her in the house she inherited a few years ago. She doesn't work and he pays the bills. When he's not there, however, someone else is. It's a constant revolving door - at least until the end of the month. Yeah I know, I'm nosey
To the men over 40:
I'm sure there are younger women out there who have a geniune attraction to older men. But, if you're looking for more than just sex and the young lady isn't interested in quiet nights at home just the 2 of you then it's time to rethink what's going on in the relationship. Unless you are ok with the way it is, of course. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/23/2008 10:16:21 AM | ^^^^First of all, YOU are over 40 and you don't have any PIC lol, which is VITAL for a site like this, otherwise rumours will go on about you how unattractive the person must be since they don't have a pic lol, I don't judge that way, just saying that OTHERS do!!
Second, it is wrong to say it is only the guys fault. Many times it is not. Lets put it like this, it is ussually if not all the time the person who acts silly and foolish that is at fault.
Anyways, the answer to the question here is offcourse men in their 40's can be attractive, but they have to worry about some women their own age being alittle..... bitter sometimes? I don't beleive anyone is ugly, the only reason some people are "ugly" is because the other person who is beholding them MADE them look that way through their perception. Remember the saying people....you are what you THINK. If you THINK someone else is ugly, then.... most likely you ain't too pretty, or something in you ain't too pretty. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/23/2008 3:17:01 PM | " ^^^^First of all, YOU are over 40 and you don't have any PIC lol, which is VITAL for a site like this, otherwise rumours will go on about you how unattractive the person must be since they don't have a pic lol, I don't judge that way, just saying that OTHERS do!!
Second, it is wrong to say it is only the guys fault. Many times it is not. Lets put it like this, it is ussually if not all the time the person who acts silly and foolish that is at fault.
Anyways, the answer to the question here is offcourse men in their 40's can be attractive, but they have to worry about some women their own age being alittle..... bitter sometimes? I don't beleive anyone is ugly, the only reason some people are "ugly" is because the other person who is beholding them MADE them look that way through their perception. Remember the saying people....you are what you THINK. If you THINK someone else is ugly, then.... most likely you ain't too pretty, or something in you ain't too pretty."
Are you talking to me? Disregard my reply from this point on, if you were not.
Ever wonder if a missing pic isn't just to give a person a chance to wade in? Small town people like to talk. Alot. So. No pic. At least not yet.
Who said anything about it being only the guys fault? All I said was watch out for the barracudas. I was actually slamming these types of girls. Read it again now that you know this, it might make more sence.
About being alittle.....bitter...It's wrong to say 'it is only the girl's fault.' Becoming bitter isn't a life goal for most women and we don't get this way all by ourselves.
Ain't too pretty? You're way out of line. Reply's like yours are why I didn't include a pic. And do not intend to. 2nd reply to my 2nd post on this forum was more than enough. You're so sweet!
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/23/2008 7:54:57 PM | everyone has a type. i personally find myself attracted to men younger than myself (5-7 years is my preference for dating, i've pushed that range further on occasion but tend not to have as many expectations in those instances). on the other hand i have a gf who's in her mid 20's and she consistently goes for men 10 - 20 years older than herself. similarly some young guys are totally hot for an older woman, whereas others prefer to date younger. there is no hard and fast rule that applies to everyone, nor should there be.
i like what i like, you like what you like, and neither of us should be made to feel guilty for our preference. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/24/2008 2:33:03 PM |
i like what i like, you like what you like, and neither of us should be made to feel guilty for our preference.
^^^^^^^^^well said........To me I prefer women my own age or 5 yrs either side.
Iam not really interested in too younger women.....they are nice to have as friends, but not relationship material to me......JMO. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/24/2008 4:17:18 PM | | lol I just posted my own thread about this. I can only speak for myself though,and no i am not attracted to men over 40,hell i'm not even attracted to guys in my age range (30's),but i'm extremely picky so don't just go by what i say. But dont people in general prefer people in their 20's? That's the age where most people look their best and are in their prime of life. Maybe early 30's for women...but men start to go downhill in their late 20's LOL | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/25/2008 6:37:05 AM | I think that women, in general, don't experience quite as much of the stressors that men do as they age, plus they don't have the very physical things like hair loss that many men go through, so there comes a time, usually in the 40's that men begin to show their age much faster than women. I see a lot more "older" woman on here who still look really good, than I do "older" men. Luckily, women look at more things than just physical attractiveness. Maybe that's why God made women better looking then men... He knew men would be less forgiving in that area so He gave woman an advantage. Just a thought. ;)
BTW, it's only a concern for people who for some reason are looking outside their own age range. If you are judging people based on age, how in the world can you complain if those people are also judging you? | |
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