| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 8/22/2008 10:32:56 AM | As far as I am concerned, the closer to my age they are, the better.
I know there are a lot of people that say that age is a number, but that is just a rationalization. The truth is simple: in a vast majority of the cases, the people that are the most likely to be at the same stage in their life are likely to be roughly the same age. And that is the way I prefer it.
Believe me, I do know what it's like to date someone who was in a different generation. When I was 19, I got involved with a 34 year old woman. At first it worked great. But those little inter generational gaps eventually seeped in and destroyed the relationship. After this, I would not date anyone more than four years younger or older.
I will admit that I have stretched the limits of this in the last couple of years, because opportunities have decreased exponentially in the last five or so years. Even so, if a twenty five year old came up to me and expressed interest, it would be a no-go for me in any case. I draw the line at eight years. And believe me, I am firm on this.
Now don't get me wrong. I do know that some of these sorts of relationships can work. But if I was a betting man, the odds are against it.
Besides, if I am so insecure that I constantly worry about whether or not I would be attractive to younger women, I am not likely to have any luck with any age group. Insecurity is a HUGE turnoff for most people.... | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 8/22/2008 10:45:54 AM | | As most have said it depends on the person - people involved. Almost 40 myself I can say that younger women (21-35) are definitly attracted to older guys and older married guys too. If you take care of yourself and have a good personality you wont be concerned with age and attracting women as they will find you that is if you want them to find you. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 8/24/2008 6:52:50 AM | I think it depends on both the man and the woman - Chemistry doesn't check the date on your birth certificate.
But really, why does this matter? For a long term relationship, you need to be in about the same place in your life. Personally, professionally, etc. And, as much as a young, in great shape, 25 year old LOOKS good, and it would be flattering to have her interest, I doubt anything could ever happen. Aside from one or two nights........  | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 3/20/2009 2:05:53 PM | you'll get to spend a ton of money on them in the process until they tell you I'm too young to settle down...
And that never happens with older women, too "(whatever, usually insane)" to settle down?? | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 4/20/2009 4:01:14 PM | | You're kidding. Since I turned 36, the number of contacts I get on dating sites has dropped like a stone (that was 3 years ago). You may or may not be attractive to them "in the flesh", but for sure when people are looking for ideals, as they tend to on dating sites, the reality is very different. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 4/26/2009 7:34:54 PM | | Actually, there's a guy I kind of have a crush on who's over 40 (but he's not a good match for me to actually date long term, so it's just staying a crush). If I like a guy's personality, and we click, I don't really care if they are over 40. Not a big deal to me. However, sometimes too much of an age difference, is simply too much. Sometimes an age difference can lead to not having enough in common if the age span is too great. It just depends though. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 9/23/2009 2:16:49 AM | Yes... If they have some Father issues to work out...
Oh and are looking for someone with MONEY also...Better odds with an older man than a younger one, right?
As for them being "more mature" ...well, ONLY to someone who IS younger would that appear to be...I've met MORE than my fair share of men in their 40's and 50's who are still addicted to video games...
I often hear men in their 40's talk about how younger women are "less complicated" (translation: easily dazzled by toys and various forms of superficial distraction not to mention not yet having experienced all of the JOYS of being with a man 20 years their senior when things really start going downhill!!)
Do men really believe that a hot, young 25 yr old is REALLY attracted to their balding heads, graying pubes AND ED?!?!? Puhleeaaase!!!
I'm not saying that there are NO cases where "true love" has triumphed overall. including age difference ( just step AWAY from the keyboard and finish reading before responding!) But let's face it that's RARELY the motivation on EITHER side when dealing with older men and younger women...Men are there for the tight butt and perky breasts while women are largely seeking some form of security in a mad, mad world!!!
Let the slamming begin....
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 9/23/2009 6:00:11 AM | What is it with the age thing? If two people like each other, then let them be. Everyone has their own thing. If an older guy wants to date someone young enough to be his daughter, so be it. If an older woman wants to date someone young enough to be her son, so be it.
In my experience, I've found I have a lot more in common with younger people in general, and it seems that 90% of the men who write to me are younger..a LOT younger. But in reality, I'd prefer someone in my own age group with similar life experience. But..they are all too busy being chased by young things..LOL..ok.they are doing the chasing..but isn't that another discussion?
A lot of younger women like men over 40 because it's "cool", they have the toys and are more established then men their age. The older men love this, because they like the hot bodies and the smooth skin. (apparently these guys don't look in the mirror and notice they aren't looking like this any more).
A lot of younger men like older women because of their "experience" and because they have it together. The older women like the younger men because they can get it up, they have hot bodies...LOL..same old same old.
If both parties are aware of why the other person is with them..and accepts it for what it is..well why not? If they actually truly love each other (rare, but it happens you know)...then why not?
Let it be! | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 9/25/2009 4:27:13 PM | Reading this thread is depressing, with all these women taking cracks at frumpy older men and spewing bile at younger women, who, we all know, can't have anything going for them but looks, right?
I've dated all ages but I'm pretty sure I like older men better. I feel like they appreciate me more for who I really am, and are more solid emotionally. Lately I've been dating someone who's 45 (I'm 28). When I was 23 I dated a 52 year old. I have yet to encounter ED or libido issues (except with younger guys who were drunk), and trust me, there are plenty of older guys with hot bodies. Practice makes perfect too, if you get my drift.
I guess I'm lucky, coming from a military community (my parents were both officers and my dad a SEAL) where people are extremely fit to begin with, and work to stay that way throughout their lives. Even the old people are still trim and in good shape. So that's my standard.
Money isn't and never has been an issue with my relationships. Since high school I've always made my own money, and right now I make way more than my BF does. I'm writing this from California where I'm visiting my BF for the weekend (thank you, JetBlue!) I bought my own ticket because I wanted to see him. So there! | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 9/26/2009 3:24:36 PM | Well!!! I consider myself TOLD!!!!
And your youth shines on through hun if you think that he appreciates you more for who you are and not what you look like....As for emotional stability...well perhaps you have been lucky that way.
But again I said that was a general rule and not that there aren't exceptions...
Funny how most folks have a difficult time reading things in anything more than absolutes.
Good luck with that! | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 9/27/2009 7:36:03 AM | | it just depends. if a guy has money...yeah very attractive to a woman at any time. if a guy looks a lot younger and has his hair, took care of himself, and looks younger then yeah he's still attractive to younger women. it's just weird when you obviously see a balding, old 40 something trying to hit on the 25 year old. not gonna work...just law of attraction | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 9/30/2009 2:06:11 AM | | I would personally like to thank all the young ladies on this thread that appreciate an older guy. I thought for sure it would be a wholesale bashing of older guys, but I have found that not to be the case. So, thanks! That's all... | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 9/30/2009 4:55:54 PM | | Speaking from my own experience, I think it depends on the girl. I'm 41 and my last girlfriend was 26. We lasted about a year and it was great. I still get approached by women in their 20's and 30's at most bars and it is very flattering. Some women just find older men more attractive and/or interesting. Must be because we don't play the games like the young**** guys. | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 10/1/2009 7:54:19 AM | | Yes, men over 40 are attractive to me. The ONLY downfall is the are usually happy being alone and dont want a LTR. (well the ones i've met and are friends with) I guess i'll never remarry lol | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 11/2/2009 6:59:38 PM |
"less complicated" (translation: easily dazzled by toys and various forms of superficial distraction not to mention not yet having experienced all of the JOYS of being with a man 20 years their senior when things really start going downhill!!)
Do men really believe that a hot, young 25 yr old is REALLY attracted to their balding heads, graying pubes AND ED?!?!?
you got my funny bone there, hun!! actually, though, i think you hit on something re: the superficial distraction. sometimes, whe one is younger, things can seem oh, so exciting. once you've been there & done it, then it loses its glamour. sorta like the thrill of 1st getting your driver's license. same thing with most things in life. once they lose their mystery, they kinda lose their thrill. another thing, though, i think when guys say younger women are less complicated, they have a point in some regards: the younger women aren't feeling insecure about their ages yet, so they tend to be a little more foot loose & fun-loving. on the other hand, older women, in a different way, lose their inhibitions. anyone does over time. you just experiece so many things that you start seeing what's really important...and it's not usually the superficial glamour. get what i mean? | |
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| Man over 40…still attractive to younger women or not ?
Posted: 11/3/2009 5:59:34 AM | | Some men over 40 are attractive, some men over 40 aren't. Same goes for men under 40. It's all a matter of personal taste. Why does everyone make such a big thing about age? I used to only go out with younger men. I'm finally realizing that people are people .. whatever the age. No, I won't date a 60 year old or even a 55 year old, but not because of age...mostly because of interests. | |
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