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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:33:12 PM |
But how can I take what isn't mine,
Oh believe Me a good lawyer could find a way...they are lining their pockets too.
This would not be a one sided pre-nup what if He came after your stuff what then???? | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:36:57 PM |
This would not be a one sided pre-nup what if He came after your stuff what then????
I personally don't really have any assets other than my car and a few things and a little money. If I lost it all it wouldn't be a huge blow to my life. He could have all that stupid crap if he wanted it. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:40:16 PM |
msg 18 ANSWER stay single and keep your dam assets! they obviously mean more to you than your relationship! anyway!
Oh, kindly piss off! I don't have any assets, I can barely pay my rent. And not having assets and struggling to pay my rent is a huge part of why I live this "all work" life that I do.
And I don't have a damn relationship, either.
Thanks for going off on me.
Glimmer, I have no "stuff" that ANYONE would want. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:42:53 PM | | Yes. I would. In fact, I would insist upon it. For the purpose of protecting our respective, previously acquired assets, and to take the materialistic aspect completely out of the equation. It has nothing to do with showing my partner that I love him, or that he loves me, but simply that we respected each other's current financial position and our intentions were to be fair, no matter the outcome of our union. A marriage is (or should be) a partnership on all levels. My understanding of a marriage is that two people become one. If the two within the one, or either one of the two within the one, decide they no longer wish to be one, I believe they should be able to part ways and become two individual ones again, as intact as possible, or one of two with another one. Give a bit of thought to this situation: Your parents are divorced. Your elderly mother is quite financially secure and about to marry a new man with very few assets of his own. They are in love. Would you advise your mother to get a pre-nup? | |
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Joined: 9/4/2005
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:50:04 PM | Yes I would definitely sign one. I have assets now I want passed down to my children, and I've worked very hard to make sure I will be able to put them through school. The only thing a prenup does is protect whats yours when you go into that marriage, to make sure whats yours will stay yours. I don't want anyone elses money, thats not what I would get remarried for, but I sure as heck want to make sure whats mine stays mine for my kids. Maybe if I didn't have children I might think differently, but I'm all for it...
In a perfect world, nobody would get divorced, this isn't a perfect world, I learned the hard way.. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:50:42 PM | No way in hell. If I didn't have the sense that things wouldn't stay all happyass I'd not be interested in marriage. Hey wait a minute, I'm not interested in marriage anyway, carry on talk amongst yourselves.
Never once forget the cause of the alarming statistic of divorce. Marriage. | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 36 | |
| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:54:01 PM | This actually clarifies quite a lot to me with the divorce rate, and how we as people cling to our plasma televisions, fast cars and cable TV. Of course this is only my opinion, and I'm not to say who's right or wrong, as no one is, but it's always good to see the other side of the coin to make a proper conclusion on how one feels and to revaluate their opinion. This is how I see it -
All the people saying "if he/she loves me then he'll sign it". It's ironic that people insist on a legal contract which can lead into the courtrooms, opposed to actually taking your partner's word and verbally working it out, should it ever come to that. When I enter marriage, the thought of divorce will never cross my mind. Perhaps one day, it may happen of course, but I won't ever think about divorce during our marriage until it actually happens.
And if that sad day occurred, all the materialistic objects and possessions will mean nothing to me, for I would have lost something far greater than any man made product. And If I truly knew the person which I would, we could work out what I may take and what she may keep, and I'm sure she wouldn't leave me financially screwed. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 12:59:46 PM | Why would you marry someone that you didn't trust to not screw you over? I don't get it.
If marriage is really that awful why do people do it? Jeez.
I still stand by my answer too. No way no how would I sign one. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:12:25 PM | .
Some people are not thinking this through properly. Us “older” people already have families we wish to pass things down to.
Now . . . I have two very good women friends who were well paid professional women all of their adult lives. Both are widows now and both have children and grandchildren. Both were married to professional men who also made a lot of money. Now as widows, what with insurance monies, selling their husbands' practices & such, they are both sitting on a large pile of money.
So what happens if I were to marry one of these women? Should I share in that wealth (both husbands were also good friends of mine, incidentally) or should that money be put away for her kids and grandkids?
If I married one of them, there would not only be a strong prenup, I would insure that they had a huge portion of that money locked tightly away in trusts and whatnot for whoever she wishes to get the money. Then, we would go about our merry way living well enough on what we would both contribute.
Point is, I would look unfavorably on the woman if she did not have that stash of cash locked up properly for her family.
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:15:37 PM | db
its not like that for me.....
**** I would prefer to have one in the event of a divorce..... that is what I see them for..
not to keep my spouse away from my assets.
I know there are people who do this (how you view them). That is not what I consider a prenup to be
for.
I see them only for the event of divorce... not as a way of ensuring and providing inheiritance to
children and extended family. | |
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dud
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Joined: 9/9/2005
Msg: 42 | |
| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:16:34 PM | ^^^^^ good post
i dont know why people are so against pre-nups. i know it doesnt sound romantic, but i think id like to be prepared for anything. not saying id go this route for sure, but im not against it.
it only matters IF you split | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 44 | |
| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:19:03 PM |
omg you're so young and innocent. God help you.
thai_paradise, of course I agree with you. Immaturity and lack of life experiences always exists in youth. I have not been there and have no desire to do so, but I still stand by my opinion. I just find it a little hard to believe that with years of marriage that your mistaken soul mate's intentions would be to rob you blind, but of course I'm not saying it doesn't happen. All I would need is enough income to get some accomodation, the essentials to live (i.e - tables, chairs, etc) and if I had any kids - pay maintenance, education, medical, etc.
If the person you married turned out to suck the life force and every single asset you had, I pose the question, did you ever really know him/her? Yes, people change, but they change for a reason, and where does those reason's derive from? Perhaps their partner finds out they're cheating on them, and that's the reason for the divorce, but the revenge plan is to suck the other person dry financially. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:21:10 PM | In the real world feelings can change and relationships can end..
if you needed was the persons love..why wouldnt you sign...
greed would be the only thing that would stop someone..
its like if you make me unhappy i,m taking half of what you got.
isnt the exp and good memories and what you shared enough to have when walking away..and of course what you both own together ..well split that..
why do you need half of my stuff if you dont love me anymore?
of course you should sign.
hence why this idea was created to make your partner feel safe that you wont take half of everything they have if that loving feeling goes away..
i truly think anyone who disagrees does it out of greed .
my opinion. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:28:08 PM | msg 42 because it's a COLD HARD BUSINESS CONTRACT. and see no point in this kind of relationship! marriage is supposed to be about sharing! sorry see no reason to marry. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:29:09 PM | why would anyone marry.. using a prenup to
make sure their spouse didnt get anything if
they stayed together?
thats not what they are for !!!
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:34:53 PM | Is for me...if it isnt signed ..and we break up on bad terms..she can take half of all i have...
its one thing to live in the fantasy bubble of what relationships and love are all about..but when it goes bad...and your taking half his stuff and money that doesnt belong to you..
should he be ok with this idea..
or deal with real life relationships and how the world really works and get that signed ..so you can at least split what you own together..try to heal and keep the good times in your heart?
or is the right to half of what he owns that you dont own..something you dont want takin away? | |
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