| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:42:15 PM | | Heck no.....if that person and i have decided to do the happily ever after thing.....there would be the for-knowledge of trust ...I am kinda stuck here....and yet I know that stuff happens....but....with me....if you are working hard at a decent job and I am as well....OR is in the case I meet a millionare or something?....this stuff that goes on with the freekin celebrities....is hilarious....heck....I have a good job.....meet the man of my dreams....as if....and he is donald trump....nawwwwww | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:46:06 PM | you might trust someone for ten years..but say you guys go threw a hard time and a bad break up(at this point there isnt trust)..
wheres the trust i need to protect half my stuff the other person doesnt own? | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:53:05 PM | First of all.......a marriage IS a contract
Second........how sure can you be that the way you BOTH feel now,
will not be different from the way you BOTH feel 10, 15, 20 years from now?
When I married we both agreed that there was no need for any kind of pre-nup.......
after all......we loved each other and would never do anything to hurt each other.
.........of course the things we each brought to the marriage would be ours if we
ever did split up.
11 years later........she wanted things that had been handed down through my family.........the things she didn't want she wanted sold and the money split.
She would never have thought that way any time during the first 8 or 9 years
of our marriage, but then she would have never thought of cheating then either.
Something in her changed.......she claims it had nothing to do with me? Friends
of hers have approached me to ask "what happened to her?....she's not the same person!"
According to law, anything you aquire during your marriage is to be divided, if you
have no pre-nup.......EVERYTHING becomes "our" property......and gets divided
along with everything aquired afterwards. Only when my ex saw that she was
losing in our divorce and custody battle.....did she decide to "work things out"
A pre-nup protects BOTH people......it seems to me that the people most against
signing one are those with nothing to loose. I own my own business and I'm just
not willing to give it up to someone who changes the way my ex did......and since
I honestly wouldn't want to take anything from someone I would marry.......why would
I have a problem signing one? | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:54:27 PM | | Now that I think about it, I probably would sign it. The problem would be that I more than likely wouldn't even read it and would sign it just to set my future husband's mind at ease that I'm not going to leave him and steal all his money. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:56:48 PM | See..
i dont wanna have that exp..
its sad when you think of all the good times and everything you shared..
and at the end they want half of YOUR STUFF .
isnt what you shared with someone enough to walk away with having such and exp.
i dont wanna get to that and her say i want half of everything...
i wont even live with someone long enough to be common law cause they can request half your stuff as well. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:57:37 PM | msg 54.... you can keep seperate property when you marry.
Keep your own checking account.... do not get credit cards in both names
do not co mingle funds. Then the law cannot make you divide things up....
as you have kept seperate property. It is not a hard thing to do.
It is different to marry in middle age when people have assets
than when young and people generally dont have any.
ON TOPIC:
I think anyone not having one is insane
but of course there are people with no real assets so they
cant see why someone would insist on one.
getting married at 19 is a whole other ball game then getting married at 40
or 50
its like apples and oranges | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 1:58:02 PM | exactly all it is ..is security ..
for you to agree would bring a great deal of pure trust to everything..
the trust you would earn from that would surprise you. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:09:33 PM | I agree Frannie......but when you're younger it's harder to keep things seperate......expecially if she becomes a stay at home Mom......which my ex started out as......because she had 2 children from her first marriage.
The less desire you have to take something from someone....the less bothered you should be by a prenup......
.......jus sayin.
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 63 | |
| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:22:25 PM | As much as I think a pre-nup would take the "fun" out of a marriage prospect, I would absolutely insist upon one, in the event I shall remarry... I think as long as a marriage is humming along quite nicely and both partners are very happy, I think there's less chance for assets and funds to get screwed up... However, once one of the partners in a marriage decides they want out, it's kind of like in the ol movies "take the money and run"... The sad thing in ugly divorces, is it is really the attorneys that get the money..
It also makes a big difference if you are in your mid 30's or older to get one, versus when you're 19 years old and get married.. | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 65 | |
| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:30:34 PM | It's interesting, because I find the argument of it's security, you shouldn't be bothered about it because you're protecting the other person. I don't believe it's like that at all, and I'm sure we're quite aware of this when signing a prenup. We're not protecting the other person's assets and finances but ourselves - and it's the other person's choice if they want their finances protected.
You wouldn't be signing a prenup because you felt your partner needed the security - it would be because YOU needed to have that security of your assets, business and finances to be protected. Sure, in today's divorce rate it's classifed as a 'good idea'. But, you're precisely thinking from the business dynamic. You may full well trust the person with your life, but yet you're leaving room for that divorce even though you cannot see it will ever come to that...this whole post has somewhat swayed how I feel about the whole thing and it's been invaluable...but I still feel I'm sitting on the fence of a marriage without a prenup. | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 67 | |
| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:34:53 PM | | Lol, it's not about how much it matters or not. It was a question that I was intrigued in with other people's opinions. All about the experience and advice to grow as a human. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:38:38 PM | but yet you're leaving room for that divorce even though you cannot see it will ever come to that...this whole post has somewhat swayed how I feel about the whole thing and it's been invaluable...but I still feel I'm sitting on the fence of a marriage without a prenup.
The first time a Woman takes you to the cleaners for everything you own then, You will understand and know where you stand on pre-nups.........did'nt You watch "War of the Roses"???????....half this thread is based on future tense You dont know how you will feel in the future about that person...it is a risk we all take.....look at is as a will almost | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 70 | |
| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:41:14 PM | | You're ultimately right GlimmerMan...the whole ignorance of not being able to comprehend it frustrates me, so I'll need to listen to others...and the whole mixed feeling about it from everyone has helped to see both sides. Thank ye kindly all, been an invaluable learning resource for me. | |
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Cyrix
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Joined: 8/3/2005
Msg: 72 | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:48:11 PM | if he's lucky it might never happen! not eveybody ends up divorced! but pre nuptial agreements! make it look like it's almost a certainty! | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:49:00 PM | Yes I would sign a prenup......but I would have a good look at it first and see if it sounds fair (being that having children would be involved).
I hope that never happens to me when I get engaged again because its a real romance killer in terms of planning a wedding and a future together. Engagements are supposed to be happy and hopefull times.
My ex fiancee asked me for a prenup which I found both insulting and un necessary because
we lived in a crappy trailer and his car was a old piece of crap and he didnt have much else.
I guess its just one of those things you have to really handle with care. | |
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| Would you sign a prenuptial agreement?
Posted: 3/18/2006 2:58:18 PM | | msg 74 seems reasonable! to me but the last thing the person should be worrying about when getting married! is SIGNING A PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT it would definetly raise a view doubts in my mind | |
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