| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:17:42 AM | | I would like to date a smart man. But, I don't want to be constantly told that I don't understand this or that (especially when I do understand). Plus a lot of smart men can't handle smart women or they feel competitive all the time - this is so boring. I don't care if anyone thinks I'm smart or dumb I just want someone to treat me right and have a good sense of humor. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:38:10 AM | | one more thing...prions are filled up with people with high IQ's. So dating a person with a high IQ should be irrelevant.... | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/16/2007 10:43:47 AM | I am one of those with a high IQ (156), but I don't think that it makes that much difference in dating... We just seem to catch on to things quicker than some.
Also; what some lack in brain power, they make up in other ways. Everyone is good at something!!
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/16/2007 11:48:23 AM | A high IQ is only part of a personality.
Some people are very clever but crap at relationships.
Some people are stupid and are very easy to get on with. | |
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Posted: 8/16/2007 12:13:28 PM | "one more thing...prions are filled up with people with high IQ's. So dating a person with a high IQ should be irrelevant...."
Who woulda thought-
Genius causes mad cow disease. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/16/2007 7:25:42 PM |
Some people are very clever but crap at relationships.
Some people are stupid and are very easy to get on with.
Yep - the opposite is true too.
Some people are very clever and are very easy to get on with and some people are stupid but crap at relationships.
Some people with average IQ's are crap at relationships and some are very easy to get on with.
There are more people with average IQ's who are crap at relationships than there are people with high IQ's who are crap at relationships (same goes for being easy to get along with) but that's just because there are more people with average IQ's than there are people with high IQ's.
A fascinating and famous research study about what happens to kids with high IQs began in 1921 by Lewis Terman. Terman is the man who put the "Stanford" in the Stanford-Binet IQ test - the first IQ test in the US. For better or worse, it's Terman we have to thank for this legacy. His study followed the lives of approx 1500 children with high IQ's (they became known as Terman's Termites). Although flawed in many ways, the results are interesting... For example, the Termites as adults achieved (on average) a higher income, a more successful career path, were more likely to attend university and more likely to pursue graduate study. They showed no greater likelihood of mental ill health than the normal population and had the same suicide rate.
"Terman's kids got divorced, committed suicide and became alcoholics at about the national rate. They were no more -- and no less -- stable than the general population." (http://www.stanfordalumni.org/news/magazine/2000/julaug/articles/terman.html)
The link above is to an article about the study - although there are lots more online. If you're really interested in the effects of IQ according to some hard data as opposed to the popular view-check it out. Warning - you might need to lay to rest a couple of stereotypes.
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TL040
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/19/2007 5:37:31 AM | hi dawn..........
.......what i meant was is that we all gotta go thru the same test OF LIFE in many different forms ,of course. No one person has the exact same test. Quite like our finger prints.
So what i was saying in that was that the test of life is the most important test and not so much those man-made IQ tests and all the other tests this forum speaks of in the former pages here.
I just wanted to express my opinion and say that the only real test that produces real and truely accurate results by far from any other test is the one I speaks of, the one no one can escape from, and mess with the results or cheat on ,really. So therefore rendering all "intelligence testing" kind of silly . Life teaches us whats important and continually tests us.....sometimes the hi IQ doesnt help u at all. In fact a high IQ won't be the thing to get you thru certain situations etc. and if that's ALL u have then " I pitty the fool" ......who has nothing else. Do you get me now??
hmmmmmmm 
(Eternal's facts prooves the point i'm trying to make here , in this sometimes silly forum) | |
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TL040
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/19/2007 6:15:55 AM | And thank you E.......
I JUST GOT BACK FROM READING THAT ARTICLE........it was great and i feel totally backed up by it!!!! ty.. ...especially how it got all summed up in the end. Its exactly how i summed up my responses in this forum b4 reading it.. Prooves I have the ability to form and have my own opinions without any other influences except what life has taught me.(thru its many tests-not man made)
and yes for those of u who are curious about someone like me... i had many "self-appointing mentors", if u will, that i rejected/reject for the same reasons some wished they had in that article. Others i rejectedreject because they come off with strong arrogance as if they think they know better than me!!without proof,really....... either because i'm a woman or i lead them to believe that they did (for awhile) until i get/got tired of that role. Merely to test them out to see how far they would push their arrogance upon me.
Well i think i've posted enuff in here for now y'all. lol
the 'TL"
A l'il advice....to the lost and/or feeling stupid or unintelligent/intelligent alike....JUST LIVE FREE AND BE HAPPY....no matter how smart or dumb u or others think u are!! ok?ppl  
Got a question for you E----> since you are a psycologists,right? How do u rate me based on my postings? From your professional point of view???? I'm curious,now--lol in a friendly way,i mean. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/23/2007 1:31:44 PM | | I have dated someone with an extremely high IQ, but a an extremely low EQ, didn't have a clue about personal relationships etc. Not a good match whatsoever. A person needs to have balance | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/23/2007 3:26:17 PM | I've dated many a man with a high IQ, but were dumb as a muskmellon when it came to common sense. I'm smarter than the average bear (as I've been told), but know that a high IQ is overrated if it isn't developed, tweaked, improved, and re-evaluated at certain stages in our lives.
Having a high "IQ "can never measure up to having "True Wisdom" which can only come from gaining the maturity of living life, making mistakes, learning from them and knowing to not make the same mistakes again. Now...THAT is a person with a high "IQ" in my eyes.
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/23/2007 10:22:05 PM | ^^^^ Or, as Alan Kay of Apple Computer put it, "perspective is worth 50 IQ points".
75 on a really good day. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/23/2007 10:59:09 PM | I guess first, the OP is no longer a member.
Second, IQ tests are biased on the language you take them in. I was tested 3 times at age 13 and twice at . Both ages the tests were done in English and English was not my first language.
Third, what do people consider a High IQ?
I've never compared scores to my dates but I can say the ones that did try to compare with me weren't as high a score as they thought.
So, of the ones whose IQ's I knew, never dated anyone with a higher one than I. My tests at 24 years of age gave me a 175 the first time and since they thought I cheated the second test resulted in a score of 180.
But I'm just a silly guy
with an IQ that's high. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2007 3:09:05 PM | to be honest.. dating someone with a high IQ is down to what a person defines as a high IQ... apart from the actual mensa tests...
Is it actual knowledge = anyone can learn they just need the tools
Is it wisdom = thats a totally different thing, and much more important than any IQ - in my opinion.
Is it spiritual= again if its the kind that makes you a wonderful, giving decent person, much more important that IQ
I have dated smart people, some not so bright and some v. wise and cleaver people as long at you don't treat your wisdom, IQ or knowledge in arrogance towards other people... thats the key.
No matter who you are someone else will always know some piece of information or knowledge that you don't... | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/24/2007 3:28:10 PM | Small historical fact....my dad knew the guys that developed the IQ test in 1960. The test was designed to measure inteligence as opposed to accumulated knowledge. To test to see if their draft exam was not based on accumulated knowledge they determined they must test it on someone under 18 (you will find internet references to this). They asked my dad if they could try it on me being 5 at the time. Seems I scored into Mensa range so they came back and retested me to make sure but I duplicated it....it was shortly after this they started having kids take tests in school. But they stopped because of just what some of you area saying, you are using it to rate yourself against someone else.
It's what you do with your inteligence that counts. A buddy of mine passed pre-med with no intention of becoming a doctor, just the hardest thing they had to strech his brain at the time. He is now a computer tech, wears cowboy boots and likes cheep beer from the Legion....no pretention of inteligence there. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/24/2007 3:49:57 PM | Well, there are actually alot of people who have a high degree of aptitude in many different areas... raw intellect, creativity, practical know-how, social skills, and physical problem solving. I've been told that true genius' are generally strong in ALL areas.
Of course, there are more than a few very intelligent people, who, for whatever reason, are elitist snobs... riducling others for *not being able to* step up to their level and entirely *unwilling* to communicate in terms their audience can actually understand. And how smart is *that*?
And of course, too much intelligence can also lead to a person outsmarting themselves in various ways that are strikingly similar to idiocy. Afterall, any idiot can over-complicate a matter.
In the end, like anything else, it's a toss up. Like simpleness, it may or may not be a good thing depending on the individual. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/25/2007 1:09:58 PM | I use all of my IQ for spelling. Now excuse me while I concentrate on not drooling on the keyboard for awhile...
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That's better. I'm lousy at multitasking, y'know. | |
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medana
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/25/2007 3:24:35 PM | ive had a few w very high IQ. its like any other people, they can be positively integrated in society or not. the first one, we were together for 4 years. he used his smarts to analize human behavior and see what approach gives what results, but in a good way. he sure had his woo-ing technique down
he he he
the last one was earlier this year. man, he was so full of himself nothing else, not even air had room in there. total turn off and a waste of his gift for the rest of the world. his idea was that he was god and everyone had to bow at his feet.
no thanks, there is a reason why the ancient romans called 'hubris' (arrogance) the greatest sin responsible for the fall of gods and people. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/26/2007 5:22:38 AM | | They are all just some nose picker you went to school with......find one who doesnt eat it. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/26/2007 6:32:45 AM | As long as they keep me mentally inspired or on my toes, by virtues of their thoughts and words....then I'm hooked. It doesn't matter about the statistical, hard facts or numerical values of IQ.
I'd rather go for the " under rated " genius ( those who DO NOT even know they're geniuses, simply bc they don't care to proclaim it ).....than someone who starts a conversation with " Hey, my IQ is at 160 ...what's yours? ". Right then and there, the latter already lacked the SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE to forge an initial pleasant impression on people. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 8/26/2007 9:52:15 PM | | Although I think it's nice to find someone with a high IQ, particularly if their IQ is high enough to change your light bulb or to do your tax forms (okay, tax forms are a lil optimistic, but shoot for the sky!). Isn't it more important to find someone who's a good match for you? There are so many facets of a person that are more pertinent, like whether your high IQ date bathes regularly. | |
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