| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 9/4/2007 11:29:56 AM | Not a great deal.
My IQ is 129, which is shared by only 6.7% of the population (100 being average anything above being above average, anything below..well below to varying levels based on age category usually it can also vary). This effectively rates me of superior intelligence, which is nice, however..
Does a high IQ indicate high intelligence really?
IQ tests are really more about noting certain creative, logical and objective ways of thinking more than actual intelligence and knowledge of many, varied, and complex things.
So for myself I consider myself intelligent but more of an individual who is able to think more laterally and see things from several angles instead of just one (a valuable skill) but not necessarily smarter than the next person.
I do not consider myself very worldly or wise (though endeavour to improve both) though I do strive to expand what I do know and more clearly objectify and understand what I already know.
I have not found intelligence to be a factor in dating however, i may have more things i like to think about or speak of than someone who I am dating/seeing but that does not detract from the fact that they may have (and likely do) have things they know more about than me, the trick as ever is communication and the finding of common ground. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:39:00 AM | | I have a high IQ, am intelligent regarding some things and have difficulty understanding other things, as most people do. I heve dated my share of men who proclaim that they have trouble relating to most women due to their ( the man's) superior intelligence. If they feel the need to tell the world this fact (which is their opinion), then something is awry to me. Most seemed to lack vital social skills, which turned me off. I found that they had trouble relating to mose people, not just women. When I told one man that my IQ is 130, he said that could not be possible, since I was merely a teacher. Enough said about him. Many men are intelligent, and they are well rounded and never feel the need to talk about how smart they are. These are the men that intelligent, well rounded women (in my case literally) are seeking to find. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 2:55:12 PM |
Not all people are the same and yes common sense is also a measurement of how intelligent someone is or is not. Here in the south we use grammar that a lot of ya ;) would consider from the sticks. Does than mean we are dumb or something?
actually, yes, don't you know that you have a low IQ if you don't use the queens proper English all the time?
Not only do they know their IQ's but it seems we have an awful lot of the 2.25% of the population with IQ's greater than 130. (2 or 3 per 100)
130 is also the score for entry into Mensa on the SB-5 -
130 is the average IQ of PhD's
140 is average IQ of PhD physicist
Only one in a hundred has an IQ of 140 or above.
1 in 10,000-to-30,000 will score 160 or higher,
only 1 in a 1,000,000 will exceed 180.
Either we are in a group of the intellectual elite - or lots of people are telling big fairy stories.
Eternelle
I typically score in the the 99%tile on standardized tests like the GRE, does that mean I have an IQ of over 140 then? In fact, I have taken the same tests that some people used to determine that Bush's IQ is 125, and using their methodology gives me an IQ between 150-160(then subtract 35 points since democrats insist his IQ is only 90, and mine would still be 115-125 lol) . I agree that it may not be valid but I think all of this information taken together at least gives me a rough idea.
However, I don't think that an IQ above 90 has any bearing on how attractive one is to the opposite sex. For men, it is height, looks, status, and social skills that attract women, and a high IQ isn't required for any of these attributes. The only practical purpose extreme high IQ serves IMO is if you want to get into certain highly specialized occupations, such as a university math professor. For most things, even most high status occupations, I think an IQ of 120-130 will suffice. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 3:29:13 PM | | To a child, adult intellect is incomprehensible. The person whose intellect is more capable has ideas surpassing less capable. The effect is not only additive but qualitative, meaning you can think ways other people cannot, not just know more or be quicker. You can speak freely with like minds or else be tactful with everyone else. Or be utterly tactless and enjoy it to the hilt. It's all about choices. Do you want to be with someone for pleasure, companionship, like-mindedness, procreation, or something else? Intellect is only one part of it. I would rather be with someone kind than someone smart if I had to choose. Both would be best. Someone who is neither would be hell to live with. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 9/8/2007 5:07:19 PM | I think a lot of this question comes down to respect. I have a fairly high IQ, 145, but I also have 4 boys, all with very different talents, though all are bright. I think the question is, does the one you're dating have something that earns your respect. And vice versa! I'm OK dating a high school dropout who's in construction or a mechanic kind of thing, because those fellows (the ones I've dated anyway) are very smart mechanically, though not as much in book smarts. Likewise, I've dated talented artists and musicians that weren't the most common-sense oriented, but I could still respect them as a person/SO because they had a niche that I could appreciate.
And likewise, guys like that I can cook very well, can tell them how to spell a word, or help proofread something they are writing. If one can respect the other's gifts, that's a compatability that's beyond measure.
On the other hand, if one feels threatened by the other's gift (or IQ in the OP's question), or if one 'lords it over' the other that he's smarter than her, and continually points it out, well... that's just an ugly person and needs to be put to the curb with the rest of the garbage! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 5:32:47 PM | I have a high IQ and let me tell you, it doesn't have a whole lot of correlation with dating success. I won't say the number in here because I don't want to come across as pretentious, but I am a Mensa member (which puts me in the top 2%).
The girls who turn me on are almost always smart, have a passion for something, can hold a good conversation, and articulate themselves well. I would say they typically have an above average IQ, but IQ is just a number. Having a high IQ does NOT make you good with relationships, or mean you have a high emotional intelligence.
Only once has having a high IQ helped at all with girls. My ex girlfriend, upon finding out that I was a Mensa member, exclaimed that it was sexy. The words "Mensa" and "sexy" were words that I never though I would hear in the same sentence. That will probably be the last time it will ever benefit me in the dating department.
Intelligence is potential.
Knowledge is information.
Wisdom comes with experience.
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Posted: 9/8/2007 5:43:35 PM | IQ is a load of BS.
As long as the communication between two people are in sync, intelligence scores do not matter.
I came across a few guys who's only reason for joining mensa was so that they can impress to get a date. | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 5:51:02 PM | Klugarsch,
You are SO right. Brains are damned sexy! But I have found, in my dating choices, that it is rare to find one as you described; that is, one who has the brains AND can express them via a sense of humor and a good personality. You should keep her around if you can!! | |
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Posted: 9/8/2007 11:14:49 PM | I have not read all responses to this question - so I apologize if I'm repeating a comment that may have appeared somewhere between page 3 and 12.....
Intelligence does equate to educated and vice versa...
That being said - As an intelligent woman (I don't honestly know my IQ, but graduated with honor in my undergrade and masters), I find intelligence extremely attractive.. which is why I don't judge a book by it's cover.
I have met men that were not initially attractive, and then... they talk... and I findthat their level of intelligence can spark an attraction for me...
So - for all you so called "dorks, brainiacs.... etc..." there are some woman out here who just need to hear you talk.... and we can fall for you... so take a chance... we are not all superficial.... | |
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Posted: 9/9/2007 10:42:36 AM | Hello all,
Just adding my thoughts such as they are,
IQ score of 149, another test rated it 143 (bad day on the beer?) I know it is not supposed to change. I think people get a bit wrapped up in the score and use it as a yardstick generally because it is the only yardstick we have avilable in this area.
I think it is abused.
With a high score people tend to have less 'common' i am a fairly typical example of this. I might understand a complex feeling your having without you saying something and we can share that BUT then forget to take my coat, does that make sens to anyone? To factor in IQ as a reason to date or not date someone is like factoring by hair colour. The one thing it will give you is a small and i mean small indicator that you will understand each other because you will be alike in this respect. Sometimes opposites attract better though!
Intelligence manifests in so many ways IQ addresses only a small part of it. I would prefer someone who has intelligent conversation and humour although i know it will be said the two go hand in hand - not always the case in my experience. In my profile i say i want to meet someone intelligent - but this will not be determined by an IQ score.
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Posted: 9/9/2007 4:35:36 PM | I'd rather date someone with charm and charisma than a total Einstein. Think Rita Hayworth.  | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 9/22/2007 10:21:52 PM | hey the average IQ is 118 for the educated which brings into the the threshold of 140
most below this mark never have received or have knowledge of an IQ quotion
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Posted: 11/16/2007 8:16:24 AM | | There is a vast difference between an intellectual and someone with a high IQ. Most psychology recognizes 8 different kinds of intelligence.... | |
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Posted: 11/16/2007 8:46:33 AM | | I wouldn't use the term high IQ, but most of the guys I've dated are intelligent. I prefer that. I think guys who are of average intelligence tend to be intimidated by intelligent women. (Low intelligence- no thank you.) | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 11/16/2007 9:19:05 AM | | I love smart women since intellectual dialogue to me is a form of foreplay. So no intimidation here....... if anything I would encourage you to never dumb yourself down ever. | |
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 11/16/2007 9:22:13 AM | At that well-known pay site which features Dr. Phil, they have a small area on each profile for people
to state their turn-off's and turn-on's. The ratio of women who have "brainiacs" in the former
category compared to the latter has to be at least ten or more. From this, one would expect reports of
someone dating someone with a high IQ would be highly skewed against the male being the one with
the high IQ in favor of reports where the woman had the high IQ. Just something to keep in mind.
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Posted: 11/16/2007 9:25:48 AM |
GIT ' ER DONE !!
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I surely do wish that peeps would stop blowing the thread's borders with this kind of
posting. Makes it nearly impossible to read a page.
Thank you for your consideration of others. . . .
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| Dating Someone With A High IQ
Posted: 11/16/2007 9:39:56 AM | Well being the Fountain of Useless Knowledge that I AM. I did read once that you should have IQ's within 10 points of one another to be true soulmates. I think it was Neil Clark Warren--sooooo we know where that goes----Eharmony Come now?????
I would like to prove that this is untrue. In various tests for personality and left/right brain compatibility I have read no such garbage and have seen have no sort of evidence in my educational studies. Edu-ma-cation and intelligence are two different things. | |
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