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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:19:32 PM | OK trying to get this back on topic. The real trouble with dating someone with a high IQ is to not take everything they say so personally. A smart person will notice EVERYTHING -- it's the nature of the beast. The is a difference between being critical and pointing out an anomaly. Just remember that a smart person isn't perfect, but will often strive for perfection. It is true that intelligence often results in a deficiency in some other area -- most notably social skills. If you are a confident person then you will be able to see that when an intellectual makes an observation about something, it's just that -- an OBSERVATION! -- t
PS. in case anyone keeps score, my IQ was formally tested at 158. I took one of those quickie online tests a couple months ago and still got a 146 | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:38:02 PM | I've had my IQ tested multiple times in my career; I always score just above 130 which
is above average but I can't be described as an intellect. All it means is
that I know a little bit about almost everything.
Intellects; too much education is a bad thing. You start to gloat and use
large words to stroke your own ego. You become a bore and few people
enjoy the company of someone who's on an ego trip at your expense. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:40:16 PM | Not all people with high IQ's are socially maladjusted and awkward. Even some of the people you party with now, might be gifted in the IQ department.
I had allot of difficulty socially when I was in grades 6-9. I decided to spend some time thinking about the problem. I decided to work on my social skills by stopping all things geeky for one year and studied what makes the social buterflies tick. I managed to get in with the cool crowd and hung with them as well as the geeks for the remainder of high school. By the time I was 19 I was a team lead for a R&D software development project and had people twice my age working under me, which kind of freaked out my non-geek friends. I was also going to bars, partying and have a great time meeting people and have stayed pretty much in that same groove since...though a marriage got in the way, so I'm trying to relearn some of it now ;) | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:41:41 PM | As Einstien once said, "Why should I memorize everthing? All I need to remember is where to look it up."
That message above, about sums it up nicely. What you really need is a resercher. LOL. I think the E.Q. thing is more important..but really...even the most generous in spirit, creative, caring, loving intellect type will only be as good as YOUR relationship with them is.
I have met a man or two that I thought was a real jerk through and through. There has even been quite a bit of consensus on the subject of their jerkedness, but somehow they ended up with some very surprisingly nice woman.
I think compatibility comes when we least expect it sometimes. Try to stay positive and keep an open mind, and maybe the right one will find you. Perhaps there is a Myers-Briggs for compatability. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:44:09 PM | I like intelligent people - but intelligence is based on many different levels. Theres social intelligence, emotional intelligence...and then your basic IQ for logic and memory application and problem solving...yada yada
I wouldnt data a NASA scientist if he wasnt capable of being warm and a little goofy. But I do like someone who has a bit of intelligence in at least some of the above areas | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:49:34 PM | I can honestly say that being someone who's on the higher end of the IQ scale...it sucks to date someone who obviously isn't. Of course it can have it's pitfalls but I really need someone who can challenge me and be challenged.
I'm not talking about about education per se...that can often ruin an otherwise gifted person...LOL. I just appreciate someone who is a free thinker...
Cheers,
Dave | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:49:51 PM | | A person's level of intelligence is pretty important to me. I can't be with someone who doesn't challenge me, it gets boring way too fast. I went on a couple of dates with this guy, and he called me one day and said "What are you doing?" I replied "Procrastinating right now, how about you?" And he actually said "Procrastinating..??!! What's that mean?" I was thinking "oh boy.. what have I gotten myself into?" But of course, being the nice girl that I am, I explained it to him, so that he could learn a new word. lol. I tried to let that situation roll off my back, and decided to see him again. We were watching a movie, and one character called another character anal. He looked at me like something was really wrong, and asked "why would he call her that?" I was like "Well, what do you mean? Why not?" and through a bit more conversation about it, I determined that he thought he was calling her an 'anus' or a 'rectum' or something of the sort. He had no idea that anal was a word that could be used as a personality trait. YIKES! | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:53:02 PM | love a guy with a high IQ, not too high because they tend to become socially inept.
too much education is a bad thing. You start to gloat and use
large words to stroke your own ego. You become a bore and few people
enjoy the company of someone who's on an ego trip at your expense
wow that's a first!? they should start kicking people out of school who want to continue in the learning curve, since it appears it is "more harmful to the health than good" lol
people who gloat and try to use big words are dummies trying to appear smart. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:55:04 PM | Mandy,
An ex of mine was in london at a museum with her bf and they stood before the exhibit of the rosetta stone.
Her: "OMG - it is the rosetta stone!"
Him: "What is that?"
She dumped him shortly after :) | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:55:40 PM | Vorax, people that aren't so bright tend to be attracted to me.
Honestly, people's first impression of me usually lead them to believe that I'm not all that intelligent. On I.Q. and other such tests I score rather high, but unfortunately, I'm a scatter-brain as well. I guess the intellectually-challenged are picking up the scatter-brain vibe and not the "I CRAVE INTELLIGENCE" vibe.
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:57:22 PM | Jumpypants, some people just can't be with someone who isn't well versed in a lot of subjects.
I suppose you can't help who you're attracted to. Right?  | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:58:51 PM | april,
I agree - in part - with the Einstien quote you posted.
I don't want to memorize everything either. But rather than look it up, I'd rather understand how it works, so I can figure it out.. thus eliminating the ned to memorize it.
I'm a geek. I can not tell a lie. And I love math too. *blush* | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:59:35 PM | Mandy,
Yup. I would rather deal with the issues of dating someone with a high IQ than the issues of dating someone with a low IQ :) | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 3:59:57 PM | An ex of mine was in london at a museum with her bf and they stood before the exhibit of the rosetta stone.
Her: "OMG - it is the rosetta stone!"
Him: "What is that?"
She dumped him shortly after :)
she sounds like a bit-chy snob, sorry. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 4:01:24 PM | Jumpy, I agree with you 100%!!!!
I would never be able to handle the boredom of dating a doorknob (for lack of a better word).
I want to be challenged. I'm picky though, and don't want someone that is way above me, because I want them to be able to learn from me as well. I need the 'give and take' stuff. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 4:02:33 PM | wow that's a first!? they should start kicking people out of school who want to continue in the learning curve, since it appears it is "more harmful to the health than good" lol
Maybe I should have framed it slightly differently. Perhaps people with high-intellect
are not stimulated in the company of the neanderthal and true to human nature
they get off on an ego trip....that's why they are boring to hang with. They're
more stimulated by things that don't really matter in life. The best times of our
lives did not involve a geek - yeah, crude but to the point. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 4:02:35 PM | | We feel most comfortable with someone close to our own IQ level. For me the sexual side of relationship also dies if I feel too much diffence in mental levels. | |
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Posted: 3/18/2006 4:05:07 PM | I happen to have a 142 IQ. At least, that was what it was about 5 years ago when I went and got tested. In High School, I took an IQ test, at that point it was about 130. Either way, it's pretty high.
IQ doesn't mean that much to me. Some things I grasp very quickly, some I don't, just like anyone else. Drive, common sense, emotional being, etc. are all important, too. My flaw was that I was lazy as a teenager- I did what needed to be done to get by, without really trying. It's a habit that probably kept me out of a better future. I'm an accountant at an investment firm now, so I guess I do ok...
I have my quirks, I'm very good with numbers and with solving puzzles. I can do several things at once with high accuracy. I like to read the encyclopedia instead of the sports pages. Other than that... Just a normal guy.
And trust me, even with a 142 IQ, I'm still quite the dumbass sometimes!
Personally, I prefer dating someone who is intelligent. There are just more subjects to discuss, I don't have to think about if what I'm saying is dorky or not, etc.
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Posted: 3/18/2006 4:10:00 PM | @jumpy yeah I figured that much lol she was and "ex" for a reason
@Mandy speak for yourself, I would never dump a dude because he did not know what a specific hystoric artifact was...I put value on other things, Í'm not out to quiz guys on their hystoric/artistic/current events/ or trig knowledge. anyone who would dump a person because they did not know of a famous peice of art or artifact is a bit-ch as far as I am concerned.
I also hate people who say "if you don't read books then I am not interested in you" well why not? not everyone likes to read books, it's a hobbie/past time like any other. Only a person trying to be something they are not would take that snobby highroad. People are intelligent in their own way, and trully intelligent people are more accepting of others and DON'T expect others to be as gifted as they are. EQ is just as important as IQ
@Havan Joe I loved your post, I am 138 IQ myself and I agree with your 100% I can do the dumbest shiiit lol | |
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