| Is it ok for men to have female friends when they are married?
Posted: 4/1/2006 6:08:20 PM | | Any relationship is honest and open. It should be like one. His friends are yours and yours are his. If its not its not an open relationship. Closed relationships sow the seeds that lead to the feelings you are having right now. Tell him to come clean or get out. | |
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| Is it ok for men to have female friends when they are married?
Posted: 4/2/2006 7:35:29 AM | I hate to say this, they will eventually end up cheating "sorry" ! Reason why ??
The thrill of getting away with it . It's new ,its a spark in there life !
Anyway ,you are better than them , good luck and kick his butt out ! peace | |
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| Is it ok for men to have female friends when they are married?
Posted: 4/6/2006 5:04:31 PM | | I had suspicions of his fidelity from when we were just married 6 weeks. Every woman that has left a message about having a good time with him last night or sending me a detailed e-mail about the sex she had with him before he came to Canada (that was 6 weeks after our marriage) are evil women trying to make me jealous and are liars. I don't know any women that had the motive to do that. Everyone is a liar but him. Our old neighbour approached me me last summer that he had seen and had been told that he was at our convenience store trying to get the girls to go out with him and hitting the neighbourhood bars the same way. This was verified by the girls at the store and by the bartender at the bar and a friend who runs the pool league there. They all knew who he was and he was in the bar almost every night trying to get girls to go out with him. For the most recent girl, he could have talked to her as a friend but it is odd when she had a husband that the guys weren't the friends. I did call her - she said she didn't have anything with him and that she has a husband which I don't know is true or not. But she knew everything about his life. The icing on the cake was the night she left the message that she was coming down the mountain and the text message after that she had to go. She would not tell me whose idea it was, but that he didn't show up (he had to work until 2:00 a.m. that night). Cell phone records show there was lots of communication that night. Lots of calls other nights when he was knocking off work at 12:30 & 1:00 a.m. Lots of calls on his dinner breaks. They were regular daily calls like our calls were.There was no saving our marriage - no discussion or counselling to have when he admits no wrong-doing and he is innocent of everything. When someone will not admit their past wrongs and unfaithfulness, how can you trust or reconcile? You can't. You start checking their cell phones every minute, you call #'s you don't recognize to see who answers, you listen to their voice messages, you search for papers with phone #'s on them. You seek the truth. You start investigating their whereabouts and questioning people. That is when you open your eyes and find out how long and the extent to which you were being deveived. When they lie about everything and I mean even things they know you know otherwise - there is no getting through to someone with that mindset. He told me that I would never find a better man than him. A man that hated my daughter, hated my cat, that hated everything I had before I met him. I was played pathetically and abused emotionally but thankfully it's over. | |
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