| | the ex- did he find someone else?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | I have been through the same thing that it sounds like your friend has. He says he loves me, yet he stays away for a few days or so then comes back. I got fed up of the constant on / off thing adn went on a date with someone else after not hearing from him for a week and a half and he then came back and was so mad at me, but I had the right to do it, he left me alone all that time and after putting up with it for over a year, i was tired of it adn over it totally! We did get back together and it was the same again. Now we are broke up but he still text messages me to get back wiht me or at least talk and make sure we are not hating each other. I do miss him adn love him, we were actually engaged and almost eloped several times. I am just better than that and deserve better. I need and want someone who is going to be a constant in my life and I will wait for that person, your friend deserves that also. This is just not the man for her if that is how it is and if I had gotten over him and on with my like months ago, i would be a better person today, but now I am dealing wiht the hurt, it does get better, she just has to look at things in a different way and not focus on him. There are approx 2.5 billion people in the world so why should one person make us miserable when there are so many out ther that will make up happy like we want to be. I have moved several times and each time I move I meet people who resemble friends I had in the previous town I lived in. She will find someone...
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/19/2006 7:04:19 PM | | This appears so many times in these threads. What the crap? The dude is an 'X'. Who cares what he is or isn't doing. He will probably get a disease! When a relationship ends. . .walk away and don't look back. He obviously isn't that into her. Otherwise. . .what is with the intercom crap? | |
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 12:08:48 PM | Whether or not he's moved on is none of her business now. Maybe some new chick was up there. Maybe he just didn't want to risk her coming up to his place and letting her try to change his mind. Who knows.
Either way... it's over or he'd be more receptive to her. | |
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Hezron
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 1:11:57 PM | | Probably the new girlfriend...does this make him evil...of course not. People always want to think unconciously that when they break up with someone it will devastate them for years to come...the reality is in most cases men and women move on and do have the ability to move on quickly. That is actually a good thing when you think about it. Just don't tell her the other option which is that the car belongs to the girl he has been seeing for the last year!!!!! | |
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 3:19:26 PM | | yeah but dont u think that if he was talking to her and fighting with her over the intercom AND had a new girl at his place, the new girl would get pissed and realize that they just broke up and there is a possibility of getting back together | |
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Hezron
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 5:22:49 PM |
yeah but dont u think that if he was talking to her and fighting with her over the intercom AND had a new girl at his place, the new girl would get pissed and realize that they just broke up and there is a possibility of getting back together
Yeah and they probably both laughed their asses off after she left, too.
Geez, I don't know who needs to hear it more, you or her. Move on. He broke up with her. For whatever reason, he says he's done. If he's got a new girl already, then he REALLY IS DONE. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 5:33:47 PM | The truth hurts. If he's seeing some one else, which I'm betting he is.....let him be. Who wants to be with some one that doesn't want to be with them.
Its not worth it. I hope you friend comes to understand this and heals in time. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 5:37:07 PM | | who hasnt driven past their exs house numerous times heaps of us do that ,be supportive and loving of your friend she needs this time to grieve | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 5:37:21 PM | Ok she's finding reasons to drive past his house. Thats stalking no matter if a man or a woman does it. She needs to stop before he gets worried. Other than that everyone has thier own remedies for a breakup.
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 5:44:30 PM | I have a friend kindof like this she gets into new relationships real fast and real serious she too also drives by the ex's places to see if they sre home and see if she can see anything and like i tell her WHO CARES there not with you anymore and don't wanna be and probally for a good reason. Get over it, there's plenty of fish in the sea | |
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 5:57:39 PM | Its none of her business. She needs to let go. The fact she is still counting out his movements is starting to border on obsessiveness. They are broken up. She needs to get over it - what he does now is his business - gee I cant think of any more ways to say the same thing
And no, I disagree one strange car parked next to his there means a new g/friend. it could be anyones. But either way its none of her business
Oh wait I already said that................hope you can make this sink in to your friend. | |
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 6:01:51 PM | Is the friend really you
you have so much information
moving on is hard do it at your own pace
dont think about him just work work focus on friends and fun | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 6:23:25 PM | | no, its not me - my friend has been obsessed with her ex everytime they break up and i am really worried about her...and i told her i posted on here and she checks it .lol - i think shes heard some things she doesnt want to, but she needs to accept it | |
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| the ex- did he find someone else?
Posted: 3/20/2006 6:47:24 PM | | she has no right to be upset since he is now single. technically, there's no reason why he shouldnt be with another girl as early as the day after the break up. now the question is, is ur friend upset because he moved on so quickly while she's still mourning the end or is she upset because she thinks he was cheating on her? | |
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Posted: 3/20/2006 9:14:32 PM | It once took me three whole days to replace a girlfriend, tell her they were probably having hot monkey sex the night she when over to get her stuff.
She need to get on with her life, or get a dog or a cat !!
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Posted: 3/26/2006 8:54:18 AM | MissJenna;
She shouldn't worry, because she is out of his life, now i know you won't say it that way to your friend, but she does have to realize he has moved on. If she tortures herself by creating drama in her head then this break up is going to seriously damage her emotions.
I think he is seeing someone, and it is probably just a rebound girl, something new and possibly easy (pun intended).
I hope you can help your friend, I have been in this situation before, and i can see it is really bothering her.
Somebody called her a whack job for driving past his house to check up on him, well haven't you ever done anything abnormal for love.....dont judge unless you want to be judged, that's what i always say! | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 8:57:53 AM | It is natural to look for reasons why thinks didn't work out when a relationship fails. Yoyr friend should assume the worst, their was someone else in his life, and move on.
It take some time to let go, get past being hurt and betrayal, but the sooner your friend does this the sooner she will heal too.
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:30:02 AM | | Not only am I pregnant with my ex's child, hes moving in with his ex girlfriend at the end of april and he was seeing her all along, of course he says they are just friends. Whatever, the way I get over it is knowing that it was a dead relationship for a long time and it can never go back to where it was and im only cheating myself by pining for him. It does kind of upset me when im lying in bed and thinking of them lying in bed together, but then i manage to start thinking about the good aspects of my life and how im going to hurt now but in a few months or a year ill be more content that its over and eventually ill find someone much suited for me and that usually relaxes me enough to sleep. I realize what hes doing shows his true character how he gave everything up for his selfish desires and know im better of with out him. It really helps. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:35:16 AM | | I also dont believe she is a mental case for driving by his house either. She is so caught up in it and she should distance herself...knowing is probably just going to drive her even crazier...she should just focus on her own life move on and have some self respect..if they keep breaking up and she keeps taking him back hes never going to stop walking all over her...its something she needs to learn on her own though, when shes ready to stop taking him back then shell get over it alot faster. But she has to be ready and if shes not there is nothing you can do to help her. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:37:12 AM | Hy Sammy
Break up aren't always easy. I can only share with you what I do when I end a relationship with questions still unanwered. I write my ex letters that I never send. This way I get a chance to let out all that I feel and all that I wish I could say to him. Some men are too scared to tell you the truth about all the why's it ended. So to find peace of mind and mend a broken heart, I write letters that I never send and one by one I burn them till like all the memories we once share turn into ashes and I let the wind of change blow them away. I know you must hear this too many times but better love awaits and he lost one of life's blessings love. Hoping, this helps a little and hold on that it does get better with time.
take care
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SUN-2
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Posted: 6/27/2007 7:26:12 PM | | Not to sound like l am tooting my own horn, but my ex wife of 10 years bought a condo one floor above mine... how wierd is that?!? | |
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