| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/21/2008 2:28:10 PM | Because they are women like other women, what is wrong with that ? is it a horrible fate for a server ?
I was in love with a server at Applebees, I went every lunch just to see her, I never said anything to shy and knew alot of guys hit on her, so I did not want to be one of them , when I go to the mall and see her inside still get butterflies. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/21/2008 8:47:46 PM | I served at a banquet hall, for a stag party once. That was interesting.
Although the strippers were wearing WAY less clothing than me in my silly tuxedo and bow tie get up, the groom asked me if I wanted to see his penis. When I politely declined, he insisted it was very big and was I sure I didn't want to see it? Ah.... pretty sure! And even more sure your future wife would appreciate if you kept that in your pants, friend!
Clearly he was smashed. Then his groomsmen told me I was cute and offered to buy me a drink . At this point I am thinking to myself "DO I LOOK like I am part of the entertainment feckers??" Man, I just pick up the plates.
Oh by the way, stripping has many varied interpretations these days.... | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/21/2008 8:52:08 PM | | lol that is the lamest movement I ever heard of. If the guy was that interested in getting to know you he should have be more upfront and asked you for your number. And you take it from there weather you do or not. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/21/2008 9:04:19 PM | maybe its to do with submissivness or the fact your serving? Hmm I dont know it ,could be becuase you have a nice smile and are extremly pretty.
Maybe it depends on the guy and how game he is, the line he used seemed like a rather drunk and hopefull cheesy one though. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 7:56:37 AM | Regarding the guy in the OP, he showed no class.....maybe he was drunk. Just ignore something like that.
But people meet their future sweetie in all kinds of places including when their working, it was one of the best ways before internet dating.
Maybe it still is.
Two past relationships where women I met when they were waitressing.
Another one kept coming to see me when I was working on a construction site.
You just never know who could be there around the next corner. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 11:16:59 AM | | Because some woman is finally paying them the attention they've been craving, and they're too stupid/intoxicated to realize she's paid to do just that. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 12:00:25 PM | | i've worked in bars and resturaunts (even though i can never spell it) for a long time and have seen it alot. Many reasons but a few are because your probably good looking, your being nice and after so many drinks they forget your getting paid to be nice, your probably not going to be too mean about the rejection, so the guy can save face and say he hit on someone and not be told to f.o. and die. plus if its a popular club, your highly visible and probably "the hot women at ..." as a bartender i can say that more women will hit on me while im working than in any other place im at. Ive had women hit on my while i was working, gone out the same night and seen them in a club and they paid no attention to me. so who knows really. and yeah i would hit on a bankteller if she was cute | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 12:21:11 PM | I worked in nightclubs, bars and restaurants in my youth. Put myself through university and supported myself during the "artist years" by doing it. And yes, you are right. Men hit on waitresses. Some of the reasons are
alcohol - provides chutzpah
reputation - girls in clubs are easy (NOT)
you have been serving and "caring" thru the evening - very appealing
looks - club owners tend to hire attractive serving staff
I and my fellow waitresses had been hit on by some pretty high-profile men in the clubs we worked. However, it was less often asking us for a "date" and more often wanting us to go home with them at closing time.
The very worst were the guys who openly flirted with their waitress while they had a date at their side. Those men were held in the highest disdain. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 5:23:08 PM | Quite often the establishment has hired very attractive women. That is a big plus. I remember the first bartender that caught my eye. She was pretty but no more than other women in the place. So why the attraction?
Attitude. While she may have been friendly she was still there to work. She was not too concerned at whether guys or other women are looking at her and what they thought of her. Women out on the town tend to care how others see them. The servers in a place are in general not putting on a show.
I did ask the woman out but only after months of getting to know her. I never expected to but it just happened at an excitable moment. We did go out for a drink eventually but nothing happened between us but we remained friends for years. She did recommend me to her roommate, also a bartender in the bar. Mind you this was after they stopped working at the bar.
I did go out with a waitress that I knew from the same place but that was years later after she left also. Most bar staff will not go out with their customers. Since I was now just someone she knew she took a chance on me.
I would guess some guys hit on the staff just because it boosts their ego because they tried and yet they do not have to worry about the results of a yes. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 5:33:10 PM |
Most bar staff will not go out with their customers.
However, I have heard of "hanky panky" going on between members of the staff....typically after they shut down for work, and join each other after hours out on the town. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 6:37:55 PM | | Bar staff tends to party with other bar staff. They are in the hospitality industry and are not above having a good time themselves. Why would they not? I am sure when the customers are all gone that a few of them might knock back a few. Quite sure actually. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/22/2008 7:54:08 PM | I'm gonna have to agree with the majority here and say it's because you have an attractive, pleasant person who is paying a lot of attention to you, feeding you and bringing you alcohol. They also depend on tips, so they're being extra sweet and attentive to you and it makes you feel good.
In ten years of tending bar in New Orleans, I can tell you that the majority of guys just enjoy flirting with a nice girl who is being nice to them. It's a pleasant way to pass the evening: food, booze, female smiles and attention, no complications or expectations.
It's true, some guys are pigs who are just out for the conquest (oh, lordy, Mardi Gras was the worst when every 20-something year old dweeb was competing for the title of who could bleep the bartender first!) They automatically think that because you work in the service industry (especially if it's a bar) that you must party like a rock star. If you don't, then surely you know people who do, so they try to latch on for the ride.
But, mostly, it's that they find you attractive, you have an interesting job, they have your attention, they know where to find you if they want to see you gain, blah, blah, blah. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/27/2008 11:37:03 AM |
Bar staff tends to party with other bar staff. They are in the hospitality industry and are not above having a good time themselves. Why would they not? I am sure when the customers are all gone that a few of them might knock back a few. Quite sure actually.
Yes and no. When you get off work at 3 a.m. there really is nothing else to do. Everyone else who is in the industry is also getting off at those terrible hours and they're the only folks to hang out with (and date.) Sometimes it's just boring and you have a beer or two, say hey to some friends and then go home, make food and watch infomercials.
Many people in the industry are indeed notorious partiers. Sometimes they choose to work in the industry specifically so they can party at work and make lots of money doing it (which is why some of the best waiters I have ever encountered are raging coke-heads.)
It's natural for customers to assume that you are automatically going to go out with other industry people, hang out in bars with strippers, musicians and drug dealers and party the night away, which is why they're so desperate to tag along.
I always chuckled at the response from my customers when they ask what I do for fun. I told them I go home, lock the door, refuse to answer the phone, listen to Puccini and read a good book. It was true, but they were so disappointed! | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/27/2008 4:48:41 PM | Because a lot of men can't tell the difference between someone who is professionally nice to them and personally nice to them.
Waitresses subsist off tips as much or more than their salaries. They are professionally nice to almost everyone. There are studies that show that a female waitress that touches male customers -- on the shoulder or the arm guys -- gets more tips than one that doesn't. Similarly, signing their names on the bills causes slightly higher tips on average. Smiling, eye contact, joking: ditto.
I learned this relatively early, but some guys take longer to figure it out and some never do. On the other hand, some guys hit on anything that moves just on principle.
Cheers,
Mike (don't get me started on actresses) | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/27/2008 8:43:28 PM | That is funny and kind of cute... in a playful way. BUT ONLY IF HE WAS SOBER.
I don't know why but I have met my share of girls at Target...
You can introduce yourself to people anywhere | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 11/28/2008 4:31:36 AM | OP and all, believe it or not, this type of behavior not only takes place within the hospitality industry but elsewhere as well.
I am a consultant, somewhat of a public figure by virtue of what I do, who works with a broad mix of people out here and during the course of my work, I have been hit on and asked out for dates. Now, I DO have a very strict rule that I do NOT get personally involved with my clients.
On the chance that I do get asked out, I just smile, graciously thank them for their interest, and tell them I am already spoken for. Whether or not I am is immaterial. I just have a line I do not want to cross as some of the accounts I have are very large and don't want to ruin that with a less than professional relationship.
But that being said, I personally have never worked within the hospitality industry, but have had friends who have and they have shared many many stories. Most of the time, when they were hit on, the person doing so was drunker than a skunk and didn't even KNOW what they were saying. As all we know and have most likely experienced, drugs and alcohol loosens the inhibitions and turns people into instant idiots. When that happens, it is time to call a cab and have them taken home! | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 1/7/2009 3:45:58 PM | i've never done it, I think it's pretty rude when she is just trying to do her job. I would feel like an idiot anyway if she ignored me or something....especially in front of other people.
I saw some show once where this one guy asked out a bank teller though...and it worked so you never know.... | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 1/7/2009 4:44:47 PM |
I always chuckled at the response from my customers when they ask what I do for fun. I told them I go home, lock the door, refuse to answer the phone, listen to Puccini and read a good book. It was true, but they were so disappointed
I agree with NOLA chick. I work part time as a bartender. It's true that most service industry people do hang out with each other because they work the same hours, understand the craziness of it sometimes and they talk about the night they had. But then you have others who just want to go home at the end of the shift and relax but some people do get disappointed and think you should party like a rock star all night. That's kind of hard to do especially when you have a full time day job too.
As far as people hitting up on you....The only time it usually happens is when they are drunk and feeling a little more confident than they normally would. I don't know maybe it's just me but I have never dated or even gave my phone number to someone who approaches me at work. I'm there to do a job and make a little extra money not to meet people. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 1/7/2009 8:50:04 PM | simple. You are the one bringing the beer. After a few that influences the man's mind, but not enough to forget who's bringing the beer, and the woman who brings the beer is the most beautiful woman in the place.
I once watched a guy getting ready to sail to the bahamas. His wife, who was not going with him helped him load beer in the boat. Now that was a keeper. | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 1/7/2009 9:04:22 PM | Can you honestly say you have never flirted with a guy while he was working? It usually tends to be when you are working at something where you "feel" accessable to someone, and are working in a casual setting, and where they can have an opportunity to talk to you one on one, very simple, describes a bar waitress and tons of other occupations
Chances are, if you had been as interested in him as he was in you, you'd have gone out with him | |
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| Why Do Guys Try To Pick Up Their Servers???
Posted: 1/7/2009 9:51:44 PM |
not that i do it..but i think its because there has already been an initial contact made already ..either through ordering drinks or exchange of smiles , so if the server/ bar girl smiles at the guy ..this could be misinterpreted as "she must like me" ...so makes it easier for the guy to approach you.
also bar girls have a bit of a reputation maybe thats the real reason!
Thats basically what it is in a nutshell..a lot of servers have either a flirtatious tone of voice or smile and most guys mistake that for "she likes"..i bet if most serves werent smiling at lot of the times "seem flirty" guys would not hit on them so much?...i know this because it has happened to me many times though i dont usually act on it because i come to my sense and realize that she is just "nice" like that because its part of her job.. | |
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