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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:25:33 AM | Bucsgirl said:
We DO communicate through words, mostly. Spoken, written, typed, faxed, emailed, IMed. We also communicate through body language, voice inflection and facial expressions, but not just those by themselves. Of course, in person face to face is by FAR the best. But just think if you could fall in love or you DO fall in love with a person through their words, through communication. That's how we get to know someone, to feel and respond to them emotionally.
Bucsgirl, you have said this about as good as anyone can. Thank you. As I have said before in earlier posts, it happened to me. I'm a little put off by those that want to say it was not real. That it was a fantasy etc. I know what it was. it was love as pure and simple and as sincere and real I've ever known.
Your words made me think of something I don't think has come up. When we chat on the Internet with others, I feel that we tend to open up more. We have less fear of rejection or being embarrassed when we are typing to a screen. Some things that we might not share with someone in person, we will share on-line with even total strangers. So from my own experience, I can tell you that I know I got to know the lady I feel in love with because of two things.
One, she opened up to me and shared things she said she never shared with anyone else.
Two: I opened up and shared things that I would find very hard to share with someone over a dinning table on a date. So what I'm saying is, we knew each other and all our insecurities, deep dark secrets and more that lead to us falling in love.
For all of you that say it is not possible...You are wrong! It just never happened to you. The proof is what happened to me, Bucgirl and a handful of others that are intelligent enough to know the difference between love and fantasy. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:27:13 AM | Delights, the point of my post was that you measure genuine love on the longevity scale. It's Mr Right, not Mr Right Now. It's easy to get along for the first year, but when the honeymoon ends and financial problems start, eyes start roaming, job pressures mount... then you find out the depth of the relationship. And with divorce as easy as $200 and "I don't want to be here anymore", 2/3 fail.
You can fall in lust and into fantasy love without meeting, but I don't think the real deal starts until you start being together every day. At some point you start thinking "Do you HAVE to do that annoying breathing thing you do? In and out... in and out...."
How do people stay married for 50 years? Man, if a wife of 50 years asked me what I wanted to do for our anniversay, I'd probably say "kill you." 
Oh yeah, I'm a real day at the beach..... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:30:48 AM | HB2 said:
It's possible but remember there is an inherent risk in that he/she may meet someone IRL before you get there...
Very true HB2. Or likein my case, she finally got tired of the hardship involved in keeping an on-line relationship alive.It is a lot of hard work. We were both realizing that it was not in the cards for us to ever be together. It was her that was the strong one and ended it. But all that is another story. But it was very real for the both of us. Three beautiful years of knowing how much we truly loved one another. Sad to think about it today. But it eneded and now I know it was for the best. She will always have a place in my heart as I know I am in hers. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:45:29 AM | Thanks for what you said Jim and I tend to agree, you only don't believe it if it hasn't happened to you yet. It does seem like a fantasy just to discuss it, but if you've HAD the experience, it's different. I think if you don't believe it can ever happen, then it probably won't. THe internet is only a medium of communication, whether it's words on a screen, over a telephone, written on paper or spoken to you in person, they're still words. The only difference is the medium used. That's just how I think about it, anyway. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 10:03:16 AM | It happens and if/when it ends it hurts just the same...
Don't hold back from it tho cause the good parts are well worth it!
It's like telling a teen they don't know what "real" love is...
Yes they do and they experience all the ups and downs just like us adults...
Sooooo listen to your heart and not the naysayers...
If it's love you're feeling then I think it's simply grand! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 10:27:16 AM |
...the point of my post was that you measure genuine love on the longevity scale.
How can you,Eddie,until the love is over???
Love ends for many reasons,ranging from incompatibility to death,so how can you measure genuine love on the longevity scale when not all genuine love lasts as long as a lifetime?? . | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 11:01:58 AM | My point, Sas, is that if this person is genuinely the one you are destined to be with and share love at the base level, it doesn't end. Ever.
Only my humble opinion, but true and genuine love would overcome any obstacle and never end. People who do the "Ships that pass in the night" thing are more about infatuation.
Our society in general has become virtually desensitized to true emotion. Sad but true. People don't respect each other any more. People don't care about each other any more. As long as they get theirs...
//soap box mode on
Gas is almost $3 a gallon yet rich people people still flaunt their 11 mpg Hummers just to show off to the world that they have money to waste. I have actually been looking for someone who would champion a bill to charge a luxury tax on gasoline for all SUV class vehicles. I drive a car that gets 31 mpg on the highway. If everybody did that we could cut consumption by 1/3 and bring prices back down.
//soap box mode off
Until people start caring about people again, the 67% divorce rate is likely to go even higher. And add to it the number of couples who rush into a marriage because the sex is good..... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 11:02:00 AM |
i have read all of Verissa's threads,,,and all i can do sit here and laugh,,,im either chicken sheet,,,or just not interested, in fantasy land dating...as for being ugly,,,lol,,,sure, whatever she says,,,must be true,,,just know,,,when i havent even met her, and she calls my parents house,,,seeking info,,,,i consider that, just a lil f,ing crazy,,,so we both learnt something,,,its all bullsheet
I don't think you're ugly. A little untruthful, and if you're not into meeting people put e-mail chat. It wasn't a fantasyland dating thing, and it wasn't all bull. And ya it's crazy for someone to call if they're worried about you.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 11:35:48 AM | | I do indeed think its possible to fall in love with ASPECTS of a person you have never met. Very much so, guilty of it myself, unfortunately. That being said, i dont think its possible to be completely in love with someone until you have some time one on one. Seeing how that person reacts to certain situations, how they eat their food, things that you might find repulsive but not know yet until you spend time with each other, you know?? Does that make any sense?? | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 11:36:13 AM | | well i guess i was acting like a jerk myself,,,so i am apolagizing to Vicky,,,for my uncontrollable actions,,,i actually did care for her,,,i just dont know how to do the right things sometimes,,,so it all falls apart before my eyes....ya win some, ya lose some,,,best of luck to Vicky,,,she deserves a good man.... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 12:22:58 PM | | Falling for a person you have never met? Never happened and never will! Sorry, but I don't agree with some of what I have heard here. You might fall in love with an idea, or the attention, or even the affection that words seem to provide. If you are online and want to kiss a screen full of phoney words then be my guest. That is not my way of thinking. I deal with common sense and reality, not fantasy and figments of imagination. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 12:27:57 PM | | mandrake That's why I suggested the rewording of falling in love BEFORE you meet. If you love someone you surely would WANT to meet them and the sooner the better. In the case of long distance, it's a little more complicated than jumping in the car and heading down the street. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 12:36:08 PM | | That's the point, though how do we get to "know" someone, anyone without talking to them? Those are words, spoken in person perhaps. The same words written by some have the same affect. I'm not saying anyone or everyone would be open or receptive to that idea. I think the written word has more impact as it requires more thought than speaking. These are just my thoughts noone has to agree or disagree. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 1:04:53 PM | | No it is not possible. Unless there is an emotional or spiritual connection going on, but otherwise it is always good to meet the person and just see if they are trustworthy and open and caring and have a good character and personality in person. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 1:12:33 PM | Well I for one am very happy for you and cheer you on,I am glad that you remain positive
in your endeavour, preytell that you donot get too caught in the moment and compromise your safety, but other then that i do hope it all works out in the end,and if he see's you as a goddess then cool, he sees something thats outstanding in you and if you have any doubt please stick to low lite places LOL. PLEASE DONT forget some woman are too bitter
thats why they can't get a man. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 2:33:16 PM |
Is it...even plausible...to fall in love without ever meeting someone? The thought of their touch burns you up, the thought of their kiss makes your knees weak...and oh my, the thought of holding them in your arms is too good to be true. I tell him my weaknesses and he makes me feel strong. I tell him my faults and he thinks that they are cute and I'm wonderful. How can someone make you so happy and fulfilled when you've never laid eyes on one another? Is it possible?
Sorry I'm late...
How do I say this...
I am a true believer that you have to believe it before you see it. We ARE more than just physical beings. Touch is just one of our brains million perceptions. I have fallen in love with a woman and before we ever laid a hand on one another, I knew I would love the way she felt in my arms. I knew I would make Love to her rather than just have sex. The reason I say this is because, before her I just had sex. Sex to me is everything but your inner soul feeling the other persons. Love is not needing hide things about yourself from the person you're with or feeling inadequate.
Male Joke: (I heard this one once)
Q:How long adoes it take a woman to cum?
A:Who Cares!
Sad, but most of my male friends think JUST LIKE THAT!
How many men on here can say that they know exactly when their woman is going to orga... melt in their arms? It only takes me a second after touching my woman to make her... That's the easy part, the getting her there and keeping her in that state is the important part.
It has nothing to do with size, or speed, or how much you paid for it... It's all about what this woman is confused about. The side of us we should all listen to more often.
I say Go for it! 
I was going to share something I wrote, but I'd have to rewrite it, I only have it in an image.
It's called Random Events if you're interested.
Anyway, L8r
RuMoR
P.S. Sorry if I babbled, I have a habbit of doing that. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 3:02:50 PM | Manrake said:
Falling for a person you have never met? Never happened and never will! Sorry, but I don't agree with some of what I have heard here. You might fall in love with an idea, or the attention, or even the affection that words seem to provide. If you are on-line and want to kiss a screen full of phony words then be my guest. That is not my way of thinking. I deal with common sense and reality, not fantasy and figments of imagination.
Sorry Pal. I usually agree with much of what you say. We have become friends and I do respect your thoughts. But you are very wrong with this one Pal. No, I fell in love with the person, not phony words affection or simply the idea. Hell, I was not even looking. Who said any words were phony? They were not from me to her or her to me. I too deal with common sense and reality. The common sense is we got to know each other via IM's, E-mails, phone, pictures, and web cam as well, and most likely better then had we lived next door to each other. ( in person, may not have opened up to each other)
Come to think of it Mandrake, you and I have become friends over the Internet. So are you saying that is not possible either? Are you saying my words that you read are phony? If so, then I guess our friendship is not real....right? ( it is Pal, just making a point)
Isn't love just another emotion achieved between 2 people that found mutual attraction beyond looks then made a bond based on a hell of a lot more then just looks, or how the eat, smell, or walk. We grew that way from communicating with one another like you and I have, but going much further then just a friendship? Mandrake, you can't see it. it never happened to you. Be thankful of that. But it happened to me and many others. It is as real as any other love I've ever had. When it ended between us, I took it harder then any breakup I've ever had. I would not take the loss of a fantasy as hard as I took this...trust me on this one.
To me , LOVE is sacred. It requires ACTION, not words. Words are easy to speak, easy to write, especially on-line, because there is no accountability.
Mandrake, there was a sacred vow between her and I as real and perhaps even more important due to the distance between us. You ask for action? We had that too. Just not in person. Words are easy to speak, easy to write..very true! But words can be just as shallow and empty in person. As for accountability...I was never so true to anyone in my life. I was accountable to myself and my own integrity in wanting to be all I could be for her. You will just have to take my word for it, there was accountability without lies and deceit between us.
But I will state once again....If this had not happened to me and lasted as long as it did, especially after we finally met, that maybe I'd agree with all that say it can't happen. I think I would have said that before it happened to me.
But now that I know it is possible from my own experience, no one can ever tell me it's not possible. I can tell from Bucsgirl posts that it definitely happened to her too. Who knows, maybe she and I just have more of a capacity to love then those that would turn away from the reality of it happening to them.
It is as real as some of the friendships you've made on-line Mandrake. And youu made one with me Pal. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 3:07:53 PM | | Actions matching words is a HUGE thing with me. Again, with long distance this is a bit more difficult. But if he does what he says he will, I'll email you later tonight. Bingo it's there. I'll call you around 7, the phone rings. He said I'm here whenever you need to talk to me, he is. I was upset one night, as soon as he came online and read my email, he said I'm off in 3 minutes and my phone was ringing. He said he'd come to visit and he did. He's never told me he'd do something and not done it when he said he would. Maybe that's a small thing for some, but it's a big thing to me. His word is good, I KNOW that firsthand. | |
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