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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 3:47:04 PM | He said he'd come to visit and he did. He's never told me he'd do something and not done it when he said he would. Maybe that's a small thing for some, but it's a big thing to me. His word is good, I KNOW that firsthand.
Bucsgirl, I'm envious...and happy for you. Love would be easier if everyone were like that. Without follow though it has no chance. People have to meet eventually I'm just glad for my heartsake that this didn't go on much longer. It hurt bad enough as is and I did look the fool. Maybe I've been pampered but I've never had anyone stand me up...leave me sitting in a strange town all alone waiting until now, perhaps it's easier to do that to someone that you haven't met in person. So falling for someone before you meet them obviously has it's good and bad points and first hand I answered my own question LMAO. Yessss it is so possible but is the possible result worth the risk? More than anything I'll miss our stupid chats about random things. It's not love if its one sided. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 3:55:41 PM | verissa Thanks hon, and I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Don't think or worry about looking the fool. What matters most is what you think of yourself, what others think comes secondary to that. I was only stood up once, and actually the guy was THERE, just didn't come up to me because I was chatting with an older man at the bar. Go figure!! What a putz!
It's all a risk, online, in person all of it. You have to decide if someone is worth taking a risk on. And noone should have a problem with earning your trust by DOING what they say they when they say they'll do it. That's a small step but an important one. WHen you know that he says he'll call at 7, I don't go get in the shower at 7, because I know the phone will ring. I don't go to the store for soda, I know he'll call. He always does. Why would I think any different when he made plans to fly here and visit with me? I was at the airport with bells on, a nervous wreck, I freely ADMIT!!  And sure enough, this tall handsome man with amazing blue eyes caught my eye, we smiled and strode towards each other. It was wonderful!! 
So you'll allow someone to earn your trust when you feel it's right. And take it from there at a pace that you're comfortable with. I hope you find a man as wonderful as the one I have!!
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~iiCe~
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 5:08:39 PM | | What can I say? I'm out numbered! I still don't believe it though and will stick to my guns, sorry. Maybe a few can achieve that, but it is few and far between. It is still not something I could ever fathom, and I am open minded. But for those who "think" they have found it, good luck! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 5:54:07 PM | | It's really just a fantasy, you fall inlove with the fantasy, I've had long distance relationships and they never worked out because one or the other gets frustrated about the other being so far away. eventually you find someone you like near you and you stray from your LD partner, it happens, I don't think I'll do that again, but I tried it for a year so that was something. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 6:00:46 PM | mandrake Speaking for only myself, I think your ideas and opinions are just as valid as any. They are your own, you're just as entitled to think what you want as any. What I think isn't always the most popular, but that doesn't matter to me. My thoughts are my own, I don't need anyone's agreement or affirmation. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 6:40:58 PM | hmm. this is a tough one. i'd like to be the idealistic optimist and say, oh yes, true love! at the same time, online is just too convenient. it is the perfect place to say and do all the right things. you can take your time, plan your words, and execute them at the perfect time. online is nothing like the real world. what's that saying about actions speaking louder than words? many guys (and girls alike, no doubt) will woo you with fantasies of candle-lit dinners, and walks under the stars and all that other sappy romantic bs. it's easy to love someone's words, and even what you assume to be their personality. you cannot, however, in my opinion anyway, know someone and how they react until you connect in the 'real world'
he sounds nice though, and it sounds like your feelings for him are true. don't give up, is it possible to meet him face to face? the groundwork that you have laid online will become a substantial factor in how your relationship will work in the real world! good luck!!:D
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/10/2006 7:13:40 PM | I dont believe it is possible to fall in love with someone you never met face to face. I do believe you can fall in love with the person that they are portraying to you, the person you might want them to be or think them to be, the person that is online or on the phone maybe be similiar to the one you have conjured up in your psyche , but certainly not the same person as when your standing face to face with them, exploring and interacting and feeling...love is not something that grows through emails or phone conversations. It is something that requires touch and passion in one anothers eyes..
to be touched by love you need to be touched.......
if you have found it without this touch I do wish you the best but I dont think it is common, maybe it's a miracle........
we have to believe in miracle's and so I wish you all the success with it......... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/11/2006 7:53:06 PM | jim33903
now that I read the entire thread I still stick to my original opinion.....
I just should not have posted until I read the entire thread and I would have put a different ending..that is the only difference | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/12/2006 5:28:50 AM | Well...I have proof that it does...I have found my fishy & it all started with chat/email/cam. You have to be open with it, be yourself, speak the truth and you can fall for one another if you can stimulate each others minds. There are many levels of a relationship, if a person can reach you at some of those highest levels through chat etc...it will only get better in person.
Now some of you say well you'll get sick of those little habits they have etc....WHO CARES, everbody has flaws....if your looking for a flawless person...I wish you luck, because there is no such thing. You have to look at what you are looking for in a partner, are you looking at all the good qualities they have to offer or the few bad ones.
For all those that have experienced the feeling of connection this way....congradulations!
For those that haven't, I think you should really broden your outlook and take that chance that it could happen. You may surprise yourself. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/12/2006 5:29:30 AM | Mirage9 said:
jim33903
now that I read the entire thread I still stick to my original opinion.....
I just should not have posted until I read the entire thread and I would have put a different ending..that is the only difference
Hi Mirage9,
I value your opinion as much as any other. But if you read all the posts, you can see that it happened to a number of us. So maybe you could have said that it is not possible for YOU. But it is very possible and very real to others.
Thank you for your response. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/12/2006 10:43:29 AM | | My answer is yes and no. Ive done it often, then gone and got into an airplane, met them face to face, had it go great for a while. All the conversation, admiration, then you meet and there's nothing clicking on your part or his. Ive got to the point where I dont want my heart so invested that the trip back home hurts. Meet early. There are elements in a relationship that dont communicate over a phone, and some of them are pretty important. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:25:30 PM | Seen as i've been through this situation before i thought i'd give my two cents...
I believe you can fall in lust at first sight but not love. Most times it's been this fantasy played out in my head and then when we've met, reality sets in. Sometimes in person the connection isn't there. It's a tough situation, just keep yourself grounded and remember that it could be very different when you do eventually meet  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/12/2006 6:32:13 PM | In my opinion if you fall in love with someone you have never met, you are falling in love with what you imagine that person to be like. It takes really getting to know someone face to face to know if you can really love them -- what seems perfect online or over the phone might turn out to be a guy who is five inches shorter than he said, or he picks his nose and wipes it on your bedding, or he's got more body hair than Chewbacca, or has all sorts of annoying flaws once you get to know him that never came out over the phone.
It would be nice to think love at first sight can happen, but I think it takes a good six months to even really know someone, let alone to love them. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/12/2006 8:05:23 PM | | You can fall in love with who you think they are. When we pour out our soul to someone online it is easy to hear the answer you want to hear. Many times we give the answers away that we would like to hear. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/13/2006 12:23:04 PM | Yea I hear ya on that one!!!! LMAO you know....people seem to know what love means. (shrugs) I would love to feel that,,,,feeling up my spine..heart welling up in my chest..tears of joy when he holds me, but I never really felt that yet so,,I cant really say too much. I can say that weird things can happen these days. Love comes in many different demensions. If you feel that feeling,,,then good for you and go for it. Make sure it isnt lust or infactuation because let me tell you,,,it can get you into a lot of disappointments. You are talking to someone that has been through it and THOUGHT it was love. *smiles* You are a pretty lady and I dont want to see you get hurt or be disappointed so,,,keep your guards up just a little bit before you completely put them down. Meet the guy first..ok? | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/15/2006 10:08:47 AM | | what it is .is a good dream something you want in a man . no its not possible.it takes time for there to be love . he just seems to be every thing that you are looking for.waite untill you meet him you may change your mine give it time because he may be lying too you . he may not be all he says he is . | |
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