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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 8:31:47 PM | And of course nobody ever lies about themselves in real life.
You could just as easily go down to any local bar, or coffee shop for that matter, and fins a seemingly perfect guy with a great smile and BMW, who also happens to be hiding his wedding ring in the glove compartment of his Honda Civic.
People lie on the internet, people lie in real life, some are far better at it than others. And if you've been hurt by lies in the past it's easy to see why someone would be wary of it now.
Basically, the only thing that someone could lie about online that they can't in real life is how they look. And if they have a webcam, and chat live with you, that can be taken out of the equation quite easily.
I'm not saying that falling for someone online means you'll be together forever, or that there isn't a transition from the net to real life, as there certainly is. But you can find love before you meet in person. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 9:34:59 PM | | NO... Love takes a long time to build.. You have not lived with this man.. they are annoying as **** to live with.. God.. I was in love with my BF for like 2 years before we moved in together then we did.... BIG MISTAKE..now I'm back on the dating scene caues I could not handle him 24/7... So no.. Lust is not LOVE. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 9:42:44 PM | Okay, I’m bending over while I’m writing this cause I know everybody is going to want to pound sand up my A$$. But Verissa hun you asked for it. {Edited cause I put the wrong name in here]
We all know that many of the people on here are not honest in their profiles and that some use pictures of people other than themselves. How do you know he isn’t out to con you? I mean that is what some of these people on POF are isn’t it? Look at the theory behind "cons" or "confidence" people. That's how they work isn't it? They put you at ease, they agree with everything you say, they pour out undying and heartfelt emotions almost immediately.
“Sure people met, fell in love and married that way all the time!”
Hellooo! This is not the 1800s.. we have the means, we have the technology. Why don’t you use the very thing that made this meeting possible and do a background check on this person? Why would ANYONE make this kind of argument to validate their feelings for someone else? If you blindly jump into a relationship with anybody without checking first - I'll expect to see your story on the news sooner or later.
The fact is - "LOVE" is not possible without physically meeting someone or spending "considerable" time in getting to know them. I won’t argue that infatuation is possible, or that feelings of joy, contentment and overwhelming desire are possible. But the "connection" between two people who have not met, or have spoken for a month or so online is not. NOT POSSIBLE!!
Why the rush to love? You people aren't going anywhere.. I can definitely understand the feelings of loneliness and the wonder and joy of being "in love" and having someone who "loves" you in return. It's Wonderful!! But….. it takes a bit of time. Anyone who tells you they love you and has only known you online is a liar!.
There, I've said it - it's out. Would you believe anyone who, in real life, told you they loved you if they'd just met you the week before? No way! And in person it might be possible, however unlikely. Same rules apply here. When and if you hear those three little words that mean so much, step back. Step back hard and tell them you are doing just that. If it's "real" or "true" love, it will last forever and stand the test of time, and they will respect that you question your feelings and theirs. If it's still "love" after a another few weeks or a month - meet and meet soon!! But do it in public. You will know when you meet in person if what you felt online is what you feel for them in person.
This was too confusing for somebody, so I deleted part of it here.
Please use lube!
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 9:47:18 PM | Uh nice rant dude..but what the hell did Squirrly do to inspire it? She was making a point..and a very valid one...about INITIAL meeting...a loved one going over seas has NOTHING to do with INITIAL love or infatuiation....perhaps you misread it?  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 9:54:04 PM | it happened to me...and that's all i can tell ya.
some would say it's impossible...cuz they've never been there. yes...*physical* attraction and initial chemistry is VERY important...but with what you described, i've been there =) i was so inspired by him. i still am...but now just think of him as a dear friend [since that's all we could ever be...due to distance]. i've stopped making art, and because of him, my gallery [online] just grew...having him as my muse. he just makes me wanna be a better person overall.
i've never met him, probably never will. yea...i guess it's a fantasy....but i believe it's possible to love some1 you've never met face to face. i love him [cuz i care for him dearly]...but not INLOVE with him. for me, it takes physical contact to actually be INLOVE with the person. or well, it just seals it all up to make it feel real. [no, not mainly sex...but being able to feel his warm touch and soft kisses]...something like that.
anywho...let us know how that goes...g'luck with that!  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 11:03:45 PM | | Yes, I do believe it's possible. I met a guy online going on four years ago and i feel like i am in love with him. The sad part is, he lives in New Jersey and I live in Victoria B.C., we'll probably never meet. We have been through a lot together. I can talk to him about anything, i can tell him anything. He always makes me feel better when I'm down, he makes me laugh, he's made me cry. We've talked on the phone numerous times,and his voice gives me butterflys and makes my breath catch in my chest, we've chatted online while we're both on cam. We've seen tons of pics of each other. So from my experience, yes, it's possible. Now if only I could meet that man here in Victoria. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 11:17:30 PM | whoa, sister...pull back on those reins. i'm sure you can have feelings about this man, but "love"? i'd reserve judgment until i actually met the guy.
i'm having a lovely correspondence with someone who has the soul of a poet. i told him he is making me fall for him...which is true...by painting pictures with his words. but there's a way to go between that and "love" (or being "in love", as some have put it). i'd need to meet him, and then see what happens, and where it might go...could be love, could be nowhere... only the meeting will tell. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 11:17:43 PM | | Yes it is very possible for a person to fall head over heels in love without ever seting eyes on a fellow. If the person is honest and sincere and open with their feelings and thoughts and opinions. If each person in the picture is up front and honest it can happen. Of course if one is blowing a smoke screen around themselves then probably not but if each person is totally being truthful yes you can. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/21/2006 11:30:17 PM | | emotional contact... yes it can happen without meeting face to face.. physical contact.. sure that has to be in person.. But pure emotional feelings can happen by phone, e-mails, letters and loving messages.Especially if a person is emotionally ready to experience a heart felt experience. It can hit you like a tidal wave and cause you to daydream and reflect. I know someone that happened to. It has caused a vast change in how she looks at life.. She has never met the fellow.. What a change in her... | |
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