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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:09:49 AM | well i disagree with optimistichappylady,i am a man of honor and yes i believe you can fall in love with some one you haven't met.and it isn't porn.she is just wrong for that comment. she must watch porn more than men or she wouldn't have made a rude and insensetive comment such as that. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:44:26 AM | goldberg-not sure what post of mine you are talking about. Did you miss this one?
Yes it can and does happen. I know first hand. You know everyone is so against online dating but think about it. If you live a distance from each other and cannot immediately meet you do what? You talk. You talk probably far more than someone who you would normally date. In depth conversations that give you the time to learn to love the person from the inside, not from the outer shell as you usually would.
The person I am talking about though turned out to be a conartist. I did not find this out until long after we met in person and eventually moved in together. (spent 1 1/2 yrs together)
So though I say yes it can happen, I also caution you to keep your eyes wide open because usually the things that seem too perfect to be true generally are.
I feel sorry for you that you feel the need to judge me....I'm not into porn. I merely replied to a comment posted by another person. Must be you are the porn watcher or you would not have been offended by my attempt at humor. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/13/2006 5:44:02 PM | For those that say you can fall in love with someone you've never met, you're not really falling in love with them, you're falling in love with the person you've created in your head.
ITA W/ THAT ONE forty-six and 2
I thought I was going 2 fall 4 someone whom all summer we were suppose 2 meet!
But realized... it's the fantasy of what ur looking 4 that they become when they tell u all the sweet nothings, not saying maybe a few are what U perceive of them?
But I think 90 out of 100% are not...!
CHOW....! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/13/2006 5:50:04 PM | to sweeter than honey - you say "for all those that say that you can fall in love with someone you've never met.... YOU'RE NOT REALLY FALLING IN LOVE WITH THEM, YOU"RE FALLING IN LOVE WITH THE PERSON YOU'VE CREATED IN YOUR HEAD."
this is only your own PERCEPTION , your own experiences and your own belief system and values....it is not a total fact, so it would be appreciated if you didn't state your words in that way.
it is indeed possible for some to fall in love with the actual person . from many others' and my own experience.
and i have met him so i know. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:28:09 PM | Excuse me (Us is the Best)!!!!!
Re Read my thread.... I had copied what another person said his nic is (forty-six and 2 )
and was replying to it not saying it myself....!
And I do beleive it's 10% possible that some ppl if truly HONEST can fall ENLOVE..!
But Facts state it's unlikely in 90% of online dating if u never SAW.. or MET... or even KNOW ...! what the person looks like let alone if their even being honest.....!
But heyyyyy (Us is the Best) hope it works out 4 u and wish u the best!
It's what were all hoping & looking for in someone...! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/13/2006 7:54:09 PM | when quoting another person they have added these neat lilttle things
it is [] with the word quote inside and then to stop you [/word quote]
so then it looks like this and no one gets confused thinking you're saying it yourself
Love is an ongoing battle whether its on here or in person. Generally I'm a cynic when it comes to feelings of any sort..but here I was in love with a man that I hadn't met and only knew from the inside. I don't know what set him apart..perhaps he was a soulmate..I don't believe we have just one. And then I began this and watch it as it grows full of hope and beliefe...I knew I wasn't alone but it is nice to see it has worked out for some bucsgirl..glad to see it's still going great! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/13/2006 9:58:41 PM | From a distance..the world looks blue and green...
From a distance...the ocean needs the stream...
Love? Live or memorex????
If you said his first name...you may get alot of responses!
Someone can be anyone...they want to be online..
I would take precautions..in the matters of the Heart!!
You never know what is hidden behind the masks...of miles...
It might make you feel like.. hopefully it won't end
making you feel like....
Keep a keen eye...for authenticity...always..
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/14/2006 5:19:10 PM | | OH boy, this question got some people really playing dr. Phil. ok then here is my summation of it. There is truly a line you have to draw between Love and Infactuation of love. LOve is the whole embodiment of the true form of the emotion. Infactuation is merely the thought of the feeling and not always its great impersonator. You can fall in love without seeing somebody but you are only getting the infacuation side of it, not the true form of love. A pic will help with the emotion building as you think and dwell on what it would be like to be with that person but can never substitute for the acual touching them with your hands and feeling their skin against yours. that can not be replaced or even thought of as a representation of real love. just the heart beating for them is not enough to satisfy the soul. So to you Verissa i say only just be careful of your mind and your heart because Love has its sneaky way of getting to you at your weakest moment.At least meet and spend time before declaring True love. Its the safest way for your soul to be on cloud nine. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/14/2006 5:27:25 PM | Verissa,
You can find common interest but to really know the person you need to be in their corner of their world and experience life with them.
Honey your in infatuation which isn't all bad! However, you need to get to know how the person handles all aspects of life.
The good times, bad times, etc..Does He want to make you laugh ? Does He make you smile ? Is He fun to be with ? Is He poilite, kindhearted, sincere, loyal, attentive, Does He also show or feel secure enough to be weak ? Does He realize He can have a bad day ?
There's a lot of life that doesn't get experienced through a phone...and the phone isn't warm and cuddly...and it doesn't leave you room to caress the worries of His day away... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/14/2006 5:39:49 PM | | I agree with smile with your eyes, it cant happen until you meet him, yes the feelings that you feel are good and if the 2 of you click once you meet than go for it and enjoy the time together. I wish you well in the search and maybe this man is the right one for you, but until you meet him you will never know, good luck | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/14/2006 5:58:18 PM | | True Love is a choice served with trust, sacrifice and demonstration. It is not an euphoric feeling that comes and goes like the vapors in the wind. So yes you can choose to love someone whom you never met but after you meet you quickly fall out of that euphoria then it was just another vapor in the wind. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/14/2006 9:34:57 PM | Ty Verissa I wondered how they did that...! lol
I will try this ...Watch me screw this up tho....? WOWWWWWWWW I DID IT, I'AM SO GOOD...! LMDFAO
For those that say you can fall in love with someone you've never met, you're not really falling in love with them, you're falling in love with the person you've created in your head [/word quote]
ITA W/ THAT ONE (forty-six and 2)
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/14/2006 9:45:25 PM | I could totally relate to what you are saying. It almost happened to me. Well I can't say almost. It has happened to me, but let me just say when I met this person he wasn't who he potrayed himself to be. But what I soon realized is that he wasn't really potraying nothing. It was my imagination that had created this wonderful and kind understanding person. It was like I was living in a fantasy world. It was so strange. I am now back to reality and he turned out to be just like the other sweet talkers. I just think to myself they are not all like that, but next time I will wait to see him in action and not his words in play. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/15/2006 5:57:52 AM |
Well...the other danger is that even though you chat with this person you have no idea what they actually are..and go to some of the threads about liars on here. Not to be a buzzkill..but I've talked to guys who seemed perfect...their pics were nice...until you find out the pic isn't even them...and they look NOTHING like they said they did. When looks shouldn't matter...lies do...so trust me...you need to wait before you profess your love...until you physically meet.
If you meet..and you both click..then let the love happen..but don't put so much pressure on it until you meet..or you are putting him on a level he may not be able to jump up to. Good luck.
Listen, I just want to start off by saying, I am not bashing you, you apparently have your reasons for feeling how you feel, and it is your perogative to feel as you do. That being said though, just because some people got screwed over, just because you don't feel it can happen this way, does not mean that it can't or doesnt happen.
Again, I am not picking on you specifically, but rather people with the mindset you are displaying in general in this thread. Yes, bad things happen, yes there are liars, cheats, players, and con artists all over sites like these. It is simply because the initial anonymous nature of the "net" allows for this, sadly. That being said, if you persist in being jaded, and being cautious to the point of not opening yourself to other possibilities, not making room to trust, and not giving people a chance because of past bad experiences, you are never going to know if things like this can or ever will happen for yourself. Its like a self fulfilling prophecy.
Having said that, I will ask you this question; What does physicallity have to do with "Love"? "Love" is emotional, it takes place in the head and the heart, not in your loins. "Love Making" is a physical expression of love, but not love itself. If as the OP suggests, that this person has captured her soul via her mind, then why is that not possible, that she could love this man, and he love her in return, without having ever met? Hell for that matter, its commonly said, that our most powerful sexual organ is not our reproductive ones, but rather our brain.
Should she be cautious? The answer is undoubtably YES! But that being said, she needn't excercise any more caution than she would if she had met that person in person. A Lie, a scam, presenting false credentials is not something exclusive to those we meet on the internet that we haven't met in person. You jumped to conclusions that this man may not appear in person as he does on the internet. Perhaps she has seen pictures (perhaps several of them), perhaps she has even seen him on web cam (we don't know). All we know is that she has been talking to this man for quite some time, and she is possibly in love with him, even though they have never met.
Now the main question; can it happen and does it happen. I can tell you from personal experience it does in fact happen and can happen. It so happens that many years ago, in a news group about writing, I met a young woman from Australia. We talked for a long time, and became very fast friends. We began to collaborate on our writing, and spent an unsual amount of time together talking. Over the course of a year we fell in love, and continued to talk to each other every single day; on the phone, via email, webcam, whatever way we had available to us. Time zones, and schedules presented numerous difficulties, we were both young and as such the expense of getting together was rather prohibitive. It continued for 3 years, until she died at the tender age of 34. She was an incredible woman, and incredibly beautiful woman, so full of life, it was painful to watch that life fade away. But I know we loved each other, there was no question about that, and yet, we never met in person, because we couldnt. So yes Virginia, there is a Santa Claus.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/15/2006 6:40:23 AM |
I have had men here on POF tell me that they have fallen for my picture .. think that they are in love .. something about my eyes yet ..how is that poss when you have not met or even spoken on the phone ..
Not gonna profess love for you, but you do have very beautiful, soulful eyes Callies (leastwise in that picture). I think what they are expressing is infatuation, which isn't all that bad, I suppose. Infatuation is a good starting point, and it can either turn into love, or nothing. I believe Infatuation does have an expiration date. I think that is where that "3 month" rule I have read about, comes into play.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:14:41 AM | One answer for such stupid question::::::
Bang our head on the wall. For it is even stupid to fall in love with someone you already know.. lots of headache.. what more if you havent met this one... gees take 5000 beers | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/15/2006 2:35:53 PM | ^^^^hehehehe smartass...if you'd taken the time to actually read. I know who he is and had a general idea of looks but the pictures weren't that great. As he works out of town a lot he had no way of putting a better one on here. Also I didn't say I didn't know him, I know him inside and out I had just never met him face to face at the time.
I have now and I can say with all honesty that the feelings I had then are the same now...I'm not saying that it will work, who knows, but I do adore him unconditionally.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/16/2006 10:36:15 AM | @ verissa.....?????....it was not a remark about you??? your remark made me read all you said in this forum......Hummmm...now a remark is to you.....your one of many ...you know the man from what he has told you and wants you to know... as for the photo.."no time/way to put a better photo on line".. you might want to suggest... walmart has cam's for 12 bucks......oh and just so you know....this is all in fun Im sure your a very sweet trusting girl
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 9/16/2006 11:11:20 AM | ^^^^^I still think you're a funny smartass...I can be a bit sarcastic...may have come across as offended but I'm not in the least.
Yepp I'm a silly & naive for sure and I suppose I only know him from here and the short time I spent with his friends and family, and the weeks of days and nights we spent together. As for the pic...yeah I'm sure Wallmart does and that’s all well and good but at the time he was in the bush working on the gas rigs...somehow I don't think Walmart has a franchise on site.
It’s something special to fall for someone on the inside. I can be, like many others, semi superficial about looks and whatnot. It was an amazing feeling to fall for someone on the inside. Too may people lie and that makes it hard to really trust someone. I'm just glad that he is who he is. We're not together but we're still in touch and you never know what will happen. You can get to know someone and care, even love them from talking... | |
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