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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/9/2006 6:45:55 PM | | not really OP.. I think you are actually falling in love with your perceptions.. which are mostly fantasy. Most people do this until they meet- and when reality is introduced they fall out of love just as quickly. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/9/2006 7:04:59 PM | Probably simply comes down to individual situations.
True story: Knew someone who was chatting/got to know a guy online. Months of it and phone conversing. Many many states inbetween them.
They finally met in person, neither had given the other fake pics/had provided up to date/recent pictures over the months as they communicated. Spent two weeks together. Went back to it being online/phone .... planned a wedding and were married. Been several years and they still are it appears happily married with no regrets.
Sooooo, who knows. Possible. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/9/2006 7:52:44 PM | | Yip it is possible. I had a friend I met on one of these sites and we talked forever and eventually I realized that I finally found the one I wanted to be with but because of the distance and the fact we both have jobs we cant leave really hurt the situation. We stayed friends and she knows 100% how I feel/felt about her. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/9/2006 9:40:59 PM | | Well, I beleive it is to a certain point. I once fell in love with a man that I talked to over the phone for almost a year, once a week. Does that count as never having met him? But truely, the certainty of it being LOVE did come after actually meeting him face to face. What I had suspected was true. I was truley, madly deeply in love and 30 years later, I still love him. He is no longer in my day to day world and never was for any real length of time but from him I learned what true love, not just lust, was and should be. And on that rare occaision when I hear his voice on the phone or hear a song that we shared. it takes me right back to that place and for that moment I am his. I have learned to live without him, but I never stopped loving him completely. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/10/2006 6:50:05 PM | To be IN LOVE I doubt it but you could love the person. I loved aperson that I had never met. We communicated for months via internet she even called me from eastern Europe. Russia to be honest. I thought the world of her and was willing to do almost anything and the key word was almost. When she asked me for $1500.00 US and I said no well I haven't heard a thing since. Now I know it was a scam and even beautiful women can bite you in the rear. So the morale of the story is yes you can either love the person or be in love with the idea of loving that person but not in Love. That is the total package and you need physical contact for that.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/10/2006 7:07:38 PM | I think it isn't. And I can easily tell you why. Like someone said on thier reply, it's only a fantasy until you have actually physically touched. I agree. This man or women that all of us think they fall in love with without meeting is only getting caught up in the moment. I have been there. So excited that someone really cares, that they really think I am beuatiful and no matter what he always finds something to say that makes me feel so much better? Well, that is the moment. We are on these online sating sites, because in some way or another we are alone and seeking something. This is where the being caught up in the moment fits. It's logical to want more, and think more, and even express yourself more, as you haven't met. This is a time where you can be yourself, and on the other end so can they. When you meet howeve, that isn't the factor anymore. It's more about what you were thinking when you were writing and now what you are faced with in a person to person situation. Believe me, it's different. Oh sure, sometimes it works for people and great for them. But realistically, words are only the surface, and honestly how much of this is just build up until the initial meeting? After that will either of you feel the same? I am just saying that LOVE is a huge and big commitment and from an online dating website, I don't know if it ever plays it's role so dramatically. I just think people shouldn't fall in love with what they lack......and when someone who can easily put those lacking qualities behind you it should only be motivation to consider meeting, not fall in love or even lose yourself in a dreamy conversation. The word is BE CAREFUL and don't set yourself up for a fall. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/10/2006 7:17:06 PM | | I don't understand? We are so badly looked apon, us single mothers. I mean so many women, chose those words I should be so lucky? But really, that is not true at all. For some of us single life is only the better half of us, and the chose was the better one. I two have young kids and not too old myself either, and just find that we are we so the ones to be wither put on the back burner or played as prey for guys who just want the control factor in their end of the ball court. What I am saying is, maybe that is why so many young single mothers are so willing to give up to this thing called LOVE? And many guys can sense that. Thye know what to say, but not always mean it. They know how to say it, but not always show it. And on this dating line, thier excuses are ever better. How come fourteen days and counting? Maybe this is a good thing? Or maybe he works out of town? Or maybe it's something with you. But I say, if you honestly feel like you are falling in love, then why wait? Why allow something to hold you back? Prove this feeling for yourself. and needing to get feedback........how do you really feel then? Confidence in the whole matter wouldn't allow you to feel the need for feedback........Right? | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/11/2006 3:52:46 PM | That is a hard question to answer. Verissa, may I ask you on why you two have not met in person yet? Until then, you do not know if it is going to be really true love or not until you actually meet the guy that may possibly like you. I actually had met someone off of another dating site about over a year ago and he is all the way from Africa. We met when I was chatting with a friend. We did exchange photos and wrote back and forth to eachother, but we have never met in person. I do not think we will ever meet anyway because he has been financially unstable for a long time now he said.
Though, he started to write me more friendlier letters and telling me that he is starting to fall for me and wants to marry me whenever he could come to the U.S. He even asked me over the e-mail and I was not sure because I only saw a photo of him and not being able to meet him. I got an advice from an elderly lasy and friend of mine and she told him that is is not possible to fall in love on just a internet site. He may need to find a way to come here to the U.S. first before maybe considering me.
After her advice to my friend from Africa, he slowly came to reality and said to me that my friend was absolutely right that it would be impossible to take me as his wife already when he is too far away and we have not even met yet. After awhile as the months rolled on, we lost contact and he wrote me asking why I stopped suddenly talking to him. I still have not wrote back to him and I just would like him to figure on his own that it just might not work out after all.
He seems like a person, but the distance is just to difficult to keep going. I don't want to give him the wrong message that we are going to develop something more. He needs to understand that. Anyway, just be very careful with this new guy in your life and when you do meet him, always work on friendship first! Really important and good luck!  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/12/2006 4:25:46 PM | Is it possible...yes
never know, but the "lust" element is there, love comes later, but then again can one truly fall in love by never meeting, or is some cases never have the intention of meeting, for the chase is more fun than anything, nothing but flirting, and when it could happen, they back out...i have seen it time and time again..i think, their loss, not mine at least i went to the table, where they did'nt even show up
well everyone have fun | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/14/2006 7:30:19 PM | | yes...the build up is exciting, lusting over this perfect individual that has adapted to all your physical and emotional needs...then you meet and he turns out different, all your hopes have died in fact that character that you built in your head has died and all you can do is mourne untill the time comes to LOG ON AGAIN! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/15/2006 11:18:46 PM | | Yes, It's call a well refine understandable, romantic, open minded person and perhaps, he was on a relationship that he shared and haven't lost the trust to love again. how ever, be carefull things can change just as fast. Or he is a real good bull shit of a person, Good luck. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/16/2006 2:05:14 AM | No Its not possible and Im stunned theres people out there who think It Is as I am a total romantic, believe In love at first sight bla bla. But even I know you cannot fall In love with someone you have never even been In the same room as. You do not know real chemistry ( just your Imaginations delusions of It ). You do not know how they walk, talk, body movements. Quirks and actions, smell, cleanliness and on It goes.
And frankly to top It all off you dont even know If Its him or his cousin berty who jumps on cam here and there. Even If you do see them on cam - and actually cams dont show severe acne scaring ect.
Basically your lonely and making up dream realities as some do over Brad Pit. Not a go I think we all may have done It when we first hit " dream date " I think we all got a slap In the face with a cold fish upon meeting too.
It can TURN Into something real but even then your odds are about one In ten thousand. Look how many people go on dates from here - how many pair up? I dont think any of them went in thinking WOW bad chat - ugly pics - bad phone convos they are soo not the one Im going to waste a date on them.
Meet them fairly quickly so you can see the reality of the situation, not the one created along the way.
All that negativity ( actually reality  ) but hey I do hope your that rare couple where Its real .. but let him fork for the ticket and come to you  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/16/2006 6:28:43 AM | Interesting question to ponder and the answer will be different for everyone, because the definition of what love is means different things to different people. The great thing is there is no right or wrong answer - just a sharing of perceptions and opinions.
I agree about being infatuated by a profile photo or text as ones interest is stimulated. Is it love at first sight? For me, no. I need to know more about the man. I am intersted in a total package - chemistry or spark by looks and intellegence, knowledge about the type of man he is, common ground on things that are important in each of our lives,in person seeing his animation and reaction to jokes, comments, compliments and difference of opinions, touching his arm or holding hands and wanting to do it again or not let go, and desire to move the connection along to intimacy. That is a lot of ground to cover before I could tell a man I love him and it takes time and being together in person to know all of this. For me, giving my heart and myself is much more than a casual passing. But that is only me - people are different and need to do what they need to do and it is not my place or anyone elses place to judge.
Would I like to say that a met a man online and our relationship turned into a fairy tale romance - without a doubt. Will it happen, I'm not sure, I do know that I have met some very interesting men and have had some great conversations and spent some nice time online and have had some great in person meetings - but they didnt work out - not just on my end, but also I wasnt what the man was looking for.
Are there liars, people of poor character, others who are desparate and needy - yes and they come in female and male models of people online. I know that the other kind exists as I have met them and know them. So believe in story book romance, only do your homework and research and prove that what is shown or printed is real. Make sure the person you hook up with makes you feel good about yourself, makes you feel desired, sexy and important. If they don't - then do they really deserve your love as I am sure you are doing your best to make them feel that way. To me its all about respect - self respect and respect for the person you are meeting.
Keep fishing and Good Luck
Sue | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/16/2006 8:15:36 AM | I was kinda in the same situtation until i met him face to face and we actually CLICKED the second laid eyes on each other.....I even asked him if it were possible to have feeling for someone you never met and he said yes.....
I too thought he was "to good to be true" the things he said, the little e-mails he sent me at work so when i went in i had a "happy" thought every day....and after almos 4 months he still does it......He always tells me I am "Beatiful" even after we met.....he also sees my insecurities and tries to build me up.....we have gone through alot of the same things in out marraiges and we understand each other more for that.....our insecurities. our children, and our past issues......
we have had two meetings now and both times it was like we knew each other for ever....
I think getting to know someone heart and soul first helped with that.....i felt a bit better once we were on the web cam then when you meet inprson you know it is the same person you have feelings for....althougjh not sure if it is LOVE yet but yes there is definitley something there....
So good luck with your meeting and i will tell you from experience that the minute you see him you will know if there is something there or not......once you look deep into his eyes you will see it....... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/16/2006 8:24:02 AM | Well I hope for your sake that when you do get together he is all that you feel he is. The problem with the net is people hide behind the screen. You never really get to know the person and often the shocks are endless. It's easy to deal with a hissy fit from a distance love. Sorry! I sound terrible at the moment.
I really do hope that there are no hiccups.
Good luck
Jennie | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/19/2006 10:35:13 PM | | Nope..it's ALL in your head. It is a selfish kind of fantasy-love that has gaps filled conveniently, and almost always in your favour I might add, by your own expetations, unchecked by the reality and actual feelings of the other person. Once, perhaps twice around the sun with that person is the wisest course, only then you can truly know love. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/20/2006 1:34:04 AM | | Nobody can make someone feel a certain way. You allow yourself to feel that way. That said, I met a girl online and I fell in love with her. We met the next day but I think I was allowing myself to be intoxicated by the thought of her having the same feelings for me. Guess what......I was fooling myself. Maybe I did love her who knows because My heart felt like it was broken for awhile. I just need to be careful whom I allow myself to love in the future. Taking things slow is a good idea. Be upfront and honest. Also I wouldn't advise introducing them to someone who might jeapordize your chances with that person until that person gets to know a lot more about you.. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:04:28 AM | Good morning I read your answer to the other person. You seem like a levelheaded woman I have a question for you maybe you can help me. I met someone from this web site we met things were wonderful. We met again and things were wonderful this has been going on for a couple of weeks. When we are together it's like to teenagers but then she says the need to take things slow. My question is how do you do this when you cannot get her out of your mind. I have stayed at her house a couple of times in the spare bedroom. I can tell she cares about me but I'm not sure. About how to take it when she says take things slowly any advice from responsible women will be appreciated. I don't want to lose was one so I'm asking for some pointers on what not to do and what to do. I'm not sure this is the right place to post this but it's a start. She is absolutely perfect in my eyes so some positive feedback would be appreciated. Because Annb is the most perfect person I have ever met on here or in my travels. This one is a keeper but I feel like I'm smothering her a way.
Mark | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/20/2006 4:26:40 AM | | Nope. But I'm a skeptic. I could never fall in love with someone I have never even touched much less sat across from with a coffee. Then again, I've been on computers my entire life, so I don't bother with all that "mushy" online stuff that can develop...my theory, gotta see them, touch them feel them, talk with them, and make sure they are for real before I feel anything. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 10/20/2006 8:16:53 AM | Sure.....i think it is possible. However, we need to meet them in person to affirm what we have been thinking or feeling. Sometimes all the right words can be said through an email or chat..........then when we meet them in person it sometimes is not there at all. Some will say whatever it takes to make that first meeting happen. It's down right scarry what some will say to win another's heart via emails............meet them first before you give all of your heart to them.
good luck............fairy tales can come true!!! | |
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