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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 9:48:34 AM | | I think its possible to have feelings but not love, it takes a lot to love someone and you haven't even met him yet when you do or if you do he could have different looks or really bad habits or you guys could just be opposites. Its not love its lust | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 11:07:19 AM | Midlandgirl…
Wow girl you and your friend sure found some special guys. I don’t know if it’s going to be love and I already know that it’s infatuation…thank god I don’t have to wait much longer to find out…and after reading your post I certainly reiterated the fact that I like men with “all” their teeth, and hands, feet. I don’t want a pirate showing up on my doorstep. He laughed…and indeed has all of his appendages and a full mouthful of pearly whites. I have no doubt that he is genuine and not deceitful like some others on here. But I’ll know in 14days…
To those who have had experiences like poor Midlandgirl and her buddie...better you than me..thats too funny. Was it at least a nice ring when he proposed? lmao | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 11:08:00 AM | Yes its possible been three years for me and i knew i loved him almost right away we chatted for 9 months and then we met he was everything i thought he would be only thing keeping us apart is job location so hopefully that can be sorted out soon and always ask to see your love on CAM cuz theres no excuse these days and you can get a cam for $20 so that way theres no surprizes waiting lol  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 12:39:52 PM | Verissa & Midlandgirl,
Midlandgirl - I don't know how it is out in Midland, but out here in Grand Rapids, it's not quite as bad! ;)
I think people running into people with strange looks and persona can rule these things out 95%+ of the time, by putting realism in perspective from the get-go.
Midlandgirl suggested that the online scene is a world of fantasy -- and I would say that it *can* be a world of fantasy, and that's how people get wrapped up in strange situations.
I think if someone seems really great and there's a connection, through knowing them via online and phone conversations, they will many times choose to step away from realism, because they don't want to ruin it. They'll many times TRY and carry out a fantasy land, and envision it in the most dreamlike light that works with the other person's claims about themselves.
I think if someone doesn't put all their emotional eggs in the basket of a pen pal, and that's known by the other party, there won't be any drama.
My 2 cents! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 2:57:16 PM | we've all been there... kiss a handsome prince and he turns into a toad. Just PLEASE be very careful, you could easily step into a whole world of hurt! We'd all like to think he's for real, and not just creating an illusion for you. I agree with the webcam thing completely. But even that isn't "fool" proof. I met a wonderful man who not only swept me off my feet, he took my breath away over and over. I was back home, and he was back single. This was the man of my dreams! I was so swept up in it all, I refused to think straight. We signed a lease. We moved in. For 1.5 years it was perfect. The next year I spent most of my time crying or waiting. The next year I refused to share a bed with him. It can be very lonely even when there's someone with you. I know I changed. I was miserably unhappy living with this stranger who looked so much like the man I fell in love with. I know he changed. Then we both changed... our addresses! On the internet anyone can be anything or anyone they want, just as everyone has said. Hey! I can be filthy stinking rich... that doesn't mean I am. I also was swept up last year by Mr. Wonderful, until I found a piece of paper in my car that fell out of his pocket, his password for a website for people looking for someone to have casual sex with. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 3:07:44 PM | absolutly not.....unless u have touched that person..it means nothing....words on a computer screen are just that words!, spoken words are just more intimate in nature but still have the same meaning they are just words!...if u truly feel this way meet him...god help u if the mental attraction is so not what u are expecting the physical to be..then u are heading for a broken heart and trouble.good luck | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 5:26:29 PM | mid land I wish I talked to you before I lost my mind and thought I was in love with and web camming picture sending,phone calling ,con myself, dont know what he was after for sure but he got away with breaking my heart. i realize that mentally i needed to be in love and tried to fulfill that task with the words of a maniac.some one who purpuse to do weird things to women such as make them fall for them emotionally and vanish what the reward is for them I dont know just know it happened.verissa dont think you are more than you are darling and that it can't happen to you.
I am an beautiful black intelligent and important woman in my community how ever lonley cause town is small I choose not to date here. anyway he plan to meet april 14,2006.
he stopped filling the IM ON 3-3-06 i ASKED HIM FOR SOME EXPENSE MONEY seriously to prepare for his 2 week stay here or at least 10 days of his leave he is in iraq for real i have the care packages sent to prove he there.
now he is a figment in my imagination i am only on account here for the forums.
mightyspoliedmikey is his name and webcamming unsuspecting women for what ever the secret side is his game. so v we as women need the wisdom of each other and the courage to test the theory.
i am hoping for some answer to concerning michael nance kansas city.
dont wait til he get there if he get there to know his secrets V.
ciao
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| Right now he's perfect in your head
Posted: 3/22/2006 5:50:19 PM | | Verissa, if you've never met this guy he hasn't had an opportunity to really screw up. When you truely love some you will love even when they harmless screw up like forget to put the toilet seat down. And yes guys do will forgive their woman when they do stupid things like take 2 hours to get ready etc. Intill you meet this guy you won't know. | |
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| Right now he's perfect in your head
Posted: 3/22/2006 6:10:26 PM | fstar - sorry to hear of the weirdness...glad you got wise
Last year, I met a man, face to face in a social setting, not "my" type of people I'd choose to be around, work related deal...anyway -
This "man" (gag) - did just what you are describing. Had women all over the country and overseas, all of them had bought him cell phones, I think he had over 30 of the damn things. Each of the women were strung with a story as well, thinking he was "the man of their dreams".
He didn't work, but instead, traveled from house to house, harem to harem. And he does all this via the net....
It's not that uncommon to have happen. They are everywhere.
I can't remember what they call this type of thing, but there is a name for it, and it's beyond the generic: "player" label.
There's a million ways and reasons for this kind of stuff. When money plays into the electric romance, true colors really start showing... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 6:31:27 PM | beautiful face is skin-deep,what account is personality,but still can't resist the physical attraction,if it is possible to fall in love with someone you never met,you would be easily disappointed and hurt.
Go ahead ,meet him.observe and smell...then make the decision.
Good luck! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 6:36:02 PM | Ohh i hear ya !!! i have met a guy off here !! ....we are just online friends and phone friends......we talk all the time like once or twice a week ....we joke around all the time......we both r busy ppl.......but on weekends he doesn't answer his cell ........( hmm player).......we just haven't took that next step......even though i would just like a male or female friend.........
now there is the other side of the story to........ i know......he /she might be saying " omg i will never meet him/her but keep him/her as a online and phone friend "........the lead on !!!!! yes someday we will meet but........he/she knows he/she doesn't want to meet u .........but won't say it.....head games | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 6:57:38 PM | Verissa,
You are an absolutely beautiful young women. I don't know the reason for your insecurities, but I can assure you that we all have them. One thing. Dont' ever think for one minute that this guy or any other is doing you a favor because you're a single mom with 2 children.
You might be doing him the greatest favor by letting him in your life.
I am a hopeless romantic. I believe that two can find love any where at any time via any connection. It all depends what's most important to the two people. When you sit on the phone with a person for hours at a time, and you're both being true to yourselves and each other, and you do this for weeks at a time and are consistent, well that would be like having an equivelent of many dates if you were to live close by. I've gotten to know people better, and know what they're about over the phone quicker then I've gotten to know people that I actually have spent time with.
If this guy is being who he is with you. And that doesn't change. You have to "watch for the change." Very important. That's also what I meant about being consistent. But if you meet this person and he is every bit of the person you now feel so close to, then the only question left is how important is the physical connection. And is the mental/emotional chemistry so strong that it can override any physical imperfections (which we all have them).
So, can you fall for someone before ever meeting? Absolutely. Can you stay fallen once you've met? That all in what's important to the two people.
Good luck, I can feel your anticipation and butterflies.
Have a wonderful time and May God bless you both.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 7:31:17 PM | Thanks Denimandlace,
I just felt very passionate about this and my heart taked to the page. Of course, it's still just my opinion, but I had to say it.
And I wanted to tell you that you are very lucky out there in ontario. From what I've seen in the different postings as far as the mentality of a lot of these guys is that it appears you have a lot of nice guys to choose from out there. I'm sure there's plenty of the other kind to, but looks like you've got a good start.
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