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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/22/2006 8:58:15 PM | Hi D.
I've heard that it is absolutely from quite a few people. I've never been there. My son who just turned 16 just went with his dad this past summer. And he saw a few things that made him say he wants to go back there when he's of age. Gee wonder what could have made him say that. hA. I think the open minds and he beautiful women.
Maybe I will take a trip one of these days.
You know, I was just thinking that with all of the beautiful women here. From every size and color to hair color and style, What's wrong with so many of these men. You have a free site here with so many beautiful women. And still the games go on. Hard to digest...
Oh well, I'm voting for V. and her distant love. May they get together and still feel the love
as strongly as they feel it now.
M. | |
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Posted: 3/22/2006 9:02:08 PM | Verissa, I did the same thing a couple of years ago on the old "Kiss.com" site... and was horribly hurt right before I flew to see this woman at Christmas/New Years when she told me she was seeing someone else for the Holiday's... but for a couple of months, we chatted, IM'd, phoned, etc etc, and exchanged photo's, gifts, and all of the romantic stuff you can think of.. I felt I was "in love", and was preparing to try and move across 3 states to be with her... good luck with your Man. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 4:34:54 AM | Optomistic, I'm with you on this one. I beleive that it can happen, and if it does it is like you say, it is from the inside out. However there is a difference I beleive between "Loving someone" and "Being In Love" with someone.
And it is a proven fact that anyone can hide their true personality for up to a couple of years at times before the real person comes out. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:14:01 AM | Verissa
I truly believe that one can fall in love with another without meeting. I was a non-believer at one time.
That all changed the day i met someone special on the internet. By the way it wasnt from a dating site or anything like that. In the beginning, it was part of a friendship as we shared similar interests in a group. Eventually exchanged email addresses, added one another to messenger, exchanged phone numbers. No photos of him until six months later, and that photo wasnt a clear one. It didnt matter as i got to know him for what was in his heart and soul. Then we had the webcam to share, sometime after the six months of daily communication. Rarely used the webcam.
With this person I grew to respect, admire and love him for the inside. This experience opened my eyes and my heart.
It was a wonderful two years of day to day conversations, emails, special phone calls. There were snail mail cards and gifts sent on both parts. We were able to have serious conversations, disagree, agree on topics, great discussions, and shared our life stories, faults and all, whether they were painful ones or silly ones. We laughed sometimes so heartily, and other times we would cry about situations. Plans to meet a few times. Talks of a future together. My friends laughed at me, telling me i was being a fool. This person brought so much joy to my life that i had never felt in such a long time.
Sadly to say something started to happen, after the two year mark.
The emails and beautiful cards became less, the phone calls even lesser. Past issues were popping up for him from a previous relationship, he was honest with me. He started to become accusatory towards me, then he would apologize. We had issues to clear up on both sides. WE both made some mistakes. The plans to meet had not been discussed anymore. Either he had moved on and didnt want to tell me, yet insisted there is no one else whatsoever. Now and then i do hear from him, and its like we just talked yesterday. It is as if no time has passed between us.
But i also know that it is not enough for me in my life, to go on not knowing anymore about the goals and dreams we once shared.
Even though, our relationship has changed, even though we dont have the daily contact, i dont regret ever any moment of spending time with him. This person helped me to realize and be aware of what is important to me in my life. This person taught me so much in other aspects i never thought possible. This person believed in me, encouraged me in my life. This person helped me to open up my heart again from being so closed for such a long time.
I still believe (and i know some will say im naive) that the person i was involved with was genuine. And no matter what his circumstances in his life, i only wish him the best.
Just because i have had a not so happy outcome from this relationship..does not mean yours will be the same.
Be cautious with your heart and your feelings, and know that there is a possibility that he may not be all that which you have known about him. Be thankful for the experience and what ever it is you have learned from this. And one never knows until they try it could possibly be 
Wishing you all that which will bring happiness to you. Hoping your meeting will be filled with wonderful memories.
Hope to hear back from you after you meet to see how it goes. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:30:45 AM | October, I mean no disrespect toward you by making these statements, so please understand that I am simply being objective.
I read your post three times to be sure I had it right in my mind. It sounds to me like you were in a place in your life when you wanted (or needed) somebody, ANYBODY, to share some feelings with. And you found someone.
2 years later you were left deflated.
Only you can make this decision, but was the pain in the final outcome really worth the somewhat satisfying relationship that was likely going nowhere real at any point in the two years it lived?
Everybody has a definition of "love" and it is unique to each individual. Some equate it to sex. Some equate it to money. Some equate it to the pleasure realized by being together even if you live in a cardboard box. (I'm in that camp. Money, beyond the exact amount I need to live on, means absolutely zero to me. I have been told I am the definition of having the soul of an artist.)
Mythical and virtual relationships can fill a need for some people, but most need tactile relationships. At least, IMHO..... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 6:42:25 AM | | I'm almost totally blind, and the first time I ever fell in love I was hooked completely by the sweetness of her voice and the beautiful scent of her perfume weeks before i ever had the nerve to even ask to kiss her. I obviously believe it can happen. Sounds like you are going in with your eyes and ears wide open. Good lcuk to you, be962 | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 7:07:14 AM | H-E-Double Hockey Sticks ...NO WAY!!!!!
It is NOT possible to "fall in love" without seeing (by "seeing" I mean "being with") the person.
Anyone who "falls in love" without being with the other person is simply falling in love with themselves and their own imagination. They are free to "create" this person, this fantasy friend and lover. The other person is never there to let you know how INACCURATE your imagination is. You just go on and on and on fillilng in the blanks with your fantasy lover and falling deeper in love with your CREATION. Then ya meet in person you see their quirks, their cons, the way they lick their stubby fat fingers when they eat, and tiny little deformed teeth, and crossed eyes, and the way he gets impatient and rude with other people, the way they are a hypochondriac and always walk with a limp, and you say "WHO the hell are YOU and what did you do to my FANTASY?" Unless....you LIKE rude guys with a limp and slobbery fingers, weird eyes and teeth. uh ok.....
By the way I was NOT describing any of my former dates!! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 7:10:50 AM | Been there done it... was in love with an online man--- but, is reality- I was just in love with the fantasy of having him. Yes, I had pics and phone calls 6hrs long--- but, in the end, it took a real live enounter with another man to put things straight! Sorry, but if you think you are in love - but, have never met- you are not in love with your man- you are in love with the fantasy of what you think he is to you...- Cyber love only works when you can touch his skin and actually look into his eyes. Remember, eyes are the pathway to the soul- if you have not looked into his eyes- then it is NOT real.
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Joined: 3/22/2006
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:21:05 AM | Verissa & other cool people here:
1. YES, it is possible to fall in love, as it has happenned to You!  
2. However, PLEASE NOTE THAT chances of falling in love with the "wrong person" are higher if you have never met in real life yet. In most cases, in real life too, people fall in love too soon, with the "wrong person" - so are disappointed soon afterwards.
The bottom line is ENJOY LOVE  ,
but also TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF 
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 8:58:09 AM | | if you feel love, enjoy it, who cares how you met, or if you never have. if a connection is there, that is rare and very worth persuing in my opinion! True Love can triumph anything! Emphasis on the word true, though. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 10:42:14 AM | Hi eastsideeddie
i dont mind your thoughts on this matter at all. I knew that by writing what i did, there might be questions . Perfectly ok with me.
I was one of those people who did NOT believe in any sort of online romance or meeting up with someone. I was one who would tell others they were fools. Until..my situation occured in my life.
As mentioned in my post, the way i met this person was not from any sort of dating site. It was an interest group that i belonged to. Being new at the computer, i was trying to post a message for the group. By error, the letter went to him. (he was the manager of the group). He wrote to explain to me the proper way of sending my message for the whole group to read...etc. I replied with thanks and embarassment that i made the error. And then it went from there..he offered his help with any other computer questions i would have. That was the original intention.
I dont believe that i was consicously looking for someone, or needing someone. And i dont think he was either. We had a special friendship that turned into more unexpectantly.
Truly there was a connection, that was from the heart for both of us.
Many coincidences (no coincidences-my belief)) too many synchronisities between us. If you believe in any sort of past lives, or soul connections, that is what we shared.
There was spiritual, enlightenment, intellectual, caring, comforting, giving, being there for one another, the physical part wasnt important for us at that time. There are some people out in the world who can live without having sex, where the sex is not the most important. It is what is inside the soul. Ever read the poem titled "the invitation" ?
When you mentioned that i was left deflated - im not sure how to take that word - but i am not going to judge on that.
Dont know what to say about your question below:
...but was the pain in the final outcome really worth the somewhat satisfying relationship that was likely going nowhere real at any point in the two years it lived?
What matters most is that in my heart i truly believed that what we shared was real. The pain in the final outcome is very sad i am in agreement with that. My only regrets would be the ones where i had the opportunity to visit him, and i was the one who hesitated and about making a serious committment.
From a person who was so focused on certain aspects of life, i learned that there are other options, theories out there. We both learned a great deal from one another.
Interesting with your comment about :
(the definition of having the soul of an artist.) as that is how he was. Money, materialism wasnt on the top of his list in life. He accepted me for my circumstances in my life, when i never thought possible that someone would.
Some tactile relationships i would say are not happy ones. What is tactile without showing compassion, kindness, sharing, being sensitive. There have been ones in my life that when i felt their touch, my skin crawled. Why? Because they were not compassionate, not kind, not loving.
Honestly i didnt see the relationship i had as a mythical one, it wasnt fantasy for me, it was real. I know now what i want/need, what i will accept/not accept.
So for anyone out there - this is my opinion and we are all entitled to one - i truly believe that one can fall in love without meeting . Just be aware that once two people meet, their feelings could escalate or go into a downward spiral. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 1:11:24 PM | I think it's a little unusual that so many people are certain of their opinions on this. I mean, other than the "chemical" scientific theories on love, what exactly do you call love? It's entirely possible to fall in love with someone you haven't met, depending on what it is you think love is.
By some people's definitions, you may not be in love, but it's not really their opinions that count, it's your own. If you feel you are in love, then you are, regardless of what anyone else thinks of it. Because love isn't any one thing, it's something each of us defines for ourselves. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/23/2006 1:28:38 PM | | Is it possible, sure, is it likely, perhaps. Do we all want to believe it can happen, again, maybe. What is true for one person may not for another. I agree with some of you, and being skeptical about this on-line dating I have my doubts. But who am I to pi.ss on your parade? What do I know about you? If you're in love, then love, and to hell with what others think. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/24/2006 12:47:05 PM | Can love happen if you dont meet but connect on levels/needs ect...
there are so many levels of love...we all will hopefully feel them one day but never know until you have looked into their soul ...To truly feel the "love" you have been searching for..right now it feels great...Granted its all you may have been looking for ...but its in the look, in your kiss...if you feel the same feelings you have now after thats been achieved you will know then at that moment.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:13:46 PM | i my self have done this felt alot for a guy only by the phone talked for a few monthes turned out after we finaly met that i saw him kiss his ex and then tell me he was inlove with someone else he had been talking to online for over a yr i just want to tell you u becarefull and keep your eyes open and heart under a shield untill you meet and then go from there but good luck to u girl if its works out for u | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/24/2006 4:25:18 PM | | ummm yes it is possible to feel like you want that person and their faults are oh so cute. but meeting can change all that. 1 week, one month 1 year, 10 years of someones quirks is alot different. no offence intended. i have felt kinda similar. but be careful/relaistic. not so much pressure on either of you. just mmet and see. go slow if possible. get to really know each other. instant passion can be fun-but its often not long term love. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 3/28/2006 8:51:35 AM | I'll answer my own question now. Wow am I an ass or what? A few drinks and some giddy happy feeling from someone that you think is wonderful... Well I still think that he's wonderful. No not in love...but it could have been under the right circumstances...  | |
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