| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:39:17 AM | I did have this one person who I met online, we clicked instantly, and it felt like we had known each other forever, like a soul we knew from long ago. It was as if we had missed and not seen each other for so so long, yet we had not met yet.
When we did meet, it was everything we hoped for in each other. However life is funny, and circumstances beyond our control separated us. The details are not important. But the lesson here is.... when one has an open heart and truly open to the love you see, the sky is the limit, but the crash-and-burn can be devistating ~ but my faith in myself and in Karma/The Cosmos/God keeps me going. I am keeping the faith that my soulmate is out there, and I will continue to use this tool we call the Internet to do it!
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:50:24 AM | | Yeah, you can..... No doubt. As for the chance of deception and what not....well, that can happen when you meet the person, as well. Trust me, my boyfriend of 5 years had a whole nother "family"....I didn't find out for months.... Deception, lies, and danger are out there...but, no more online than in person. The one positive thing about this online thing is you talk and communicate so much more and you I am so comfortable on here... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/14/2007 4:28:29 PM | yes it's possilbe to fall in love with a man you never met but it's all fantasty. I had a penpal relationship for a long time made dreams of meeting and when it did happen that we met I thank God that it didn't happen cost me 2000. to fly to find out, country was nice but am glad it's out of my hair   | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/15/2007 12:17:24 PM | Just read this post and decided to put in my two cents worth. I personally have had the chance to meet someone through the P.O.F. parties and even though we haven't actually met, I feel something towards this fine woman. She happened to walk past me at a party and I actually felt like her ora hit me as if she passed right through me,you know that warm feeling you get when you feel comfortable with someone. Then reading her profile a second time, she actually described me to a tee. I don't want to rush into things, but I really don't want to miss my chance with this "Fishy". We do send notes back and forth and really wish she would give this "Fish" a chance to prove himself.  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 8:34:22 AM |
to be a buzzkill..but I've talked to guys who seemed perfect...their pics were nice...until you find out the pic isn't even them...and they look NOTHING like they said they did. When looks shouldn't matter...lies do...so trust me...you need to wait before you profess your love...until you physically meet
You said it! I was only here to find friends - people to hang out with - definately was not ready for that. Then a guy that I wrote to in another state turned out to be so wonderful and perfect and everything clicked and it was like he was the one Id waited for all my life! Everytime I asked the possibility if this could be real he would get upset - "lets just let it happen". Well turns out those were warning signs - he has a serious anger issues - and when I tried to call him out on it - he suddenly became unavailable for a week - with a new reason everyday - thank God I learned about this before we met! I really thought he was "Mr Forever" but you know there really are Plenty of Fish in the Sea and that guy is out there somewhere!
In fact DONT meet anyone just cause you click off the bat! If it is really meant to be he will hang around until you are comfortable with who he really is - dont rush it.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 8:45:59 AM |
yes it's possilbe to fall in love with a man you never met but it's all fantasty.
That depends on the people and the situation. I mean look I had my let down too - but I actually was more alert to things because I wasnt all starry eyed looking in his eyes! I was focused on every word that he said and when things didnt match up it hit me like a dart to the forehead.
THINK ABOUT THIS LADIES...This is the one opportunity to actually have a guy totally wrapped up in conversation with you - actually listening AND actually replying and not with half of his brain but the whole darned thing!
I have got to know some people online better in just a month's time then I did my husband in the 8 years we were together. I like the fact that online you are forced to talk to find something in common - or you dont have to waste your time.
The reality is that if 2 people are made for each other and they meet - it wont matter if they meet online, or in line at the supermarket, or out cruising on a Friday night - it doesnt matter how you meet someone it is how you spend your time - this is one someone else told me the other day - It Doesn't Matter How Much Love You Express In the Beginning of a Relationship. It only Matters How Much Love You Have in the End".....so true, so true.
GOOD LUCK TO ALL IN FINDING YOUR DREAM
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 9:32:02 AM | | I find it highly unlikely. Right now you are connecting with someone and that's awesome, but don't make it any bigger then it is. Sure, you're having all these emotions and I know it can feel amazing, but don't mistake it. You need to meet and get to know each other face to face and spend real time together before you can even think about the possibility of love. So many people end up hurt and broken by moving too fast and I'm sure you don't want that to happen. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 12:35:51 PM | | There are so many factors that affect a person's capacity for and ability to love , that in all fairness no one can absolutely say nay or yea. Different people have different criteria and different emotional responses to things. Read Elizabeth Barrett Browning's autobiography and you might be surprised how people fall in love and stay in love. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 1:11:19 PM | | Yes, yes absolutely yes. In this day of modern IMing it changes thing a bit. You know, the ease to lie about yourself cause everybody wants to be a player now. But when I was in the navy I started writing to a wonderful woman my age who I didn't know. I was out of the country for a long time, so we didn't meet for years yet with every letter she sent me I was more and more in love, and her too. It got to where we were writing every day and when we finally met it wasn't sparks nor fireworks. It was like a nuclear bomb! I wanted to marry her, she wanted to marry me, and when we were together it was like we had spent our whole lives together loving each other. But career paths can sweep you away from each other like an overflowing river. Now over 20 years later, a marriage to someone else and two kids, there hasn't been one single day that I haven't thought of her. I really have missed her so much. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 1:24:20 PM | i think it is great that you have found that but i think this subject is a very gray area
so i think people will be for our against this idea of love but by the sounds of it what are feeling is very much real
the world is full of strange and wonderfull things in which we do not understand yet
i wish you all the luck he sounds nice so just meet up
take care
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 1:39:06 PM | | OP: I see that as being in love with the idea of being in love with someone. A small distinction, but is it true love if you don't know someone? No intention of insensitivity there, just my emotional armour I guess. I've certainly felt something close to love for a small number of women I met in the past when internet gaming was really starting to pick up. I can count them on one hand and still remember their names, but that really only gives them a improved chance of getting a real date, whereas a girl I have loved in the past could get just about anything from me. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/18/2007 4:06:02 PM | | Yes its possible!! It happened to me. I felt through our messages that he knew me , got into my Soul. I asked him at one point if he knew me, and he sent a photo. I did not believe it was him I thought perhaps that he had used a photo of his Grandfather or someone else. But ahh he does exist. But from afar. This wonderful man helped me learn and know what I want, because of the questions he asked me. I fell in love with him, in reflection of who I am. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/6/2007 1:59:57 PM | hey there! hun you know i have been cahttin with a someone for a long time the catch is this he lives in england me in canada.. well i have fallen for him completly..he says so too... i think anything is poosible.. but beware.... i might have a player here too.. who knows..lol.. he said he was coming here and at the last min said he was going somewhere else to clear his head... he said he would cal me but didnt... but for some reason he is making up excuses.. i cant figure him out... wot you think.... seems like he is hangng on and meeting every day faithfully and we are 7 hrs apart... has me baffled.. any way yes you can fall for someone on here... but is it worth it.. or will it cause heart break in the end....
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/6/2007 2:07:30 PM | | Is anyone keeping score? There are over 1200 posts on this thread. My vote is no, you can't. You can have a fantasy but you MUST keep your head until you actually meet. When you see their eyes when they smile and see whether their picture is a lie and find out if they ask you for money or a horizontal folk dance, you just don't know. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/6/2007 7:39:59 PM | | I think its possible to be very attracted to someone youve never met.. i dont believe you need to touch that person to know if you're going to have chemistry with them.. if you have spoken and emailed and matbe looked at them on cam and chatted that way,.. you get to know them over time, same as you would chatting on dates.. if they are being honest with you, you CAN be very attracted to someone that way.. can you be in love with someone you havent met?.. No.. Love comes after a while of being with that person.. attraction and fascination is not love. hey, I can be attracted to Alan Rickman playing professor Snape in the Harry Potter films(swoons) but do i love Alan Rickman? No, He doesnt know me and I dont know him.. what Im trying to say verissa is just be aware that the fantasy and the reality may not match, sure you'll be attracted to him.. but you will have to meet him and know him really well before you can say 'Its love'. best of luck to you, xx | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/7/2007 2:48:52 PM |
hey, I can be attracted to Alan Rickman playing professor Snape in the Harry Potter films(swoons) but do i love Alan Rickman? No, He doesnt know me and I dont know him..
Point of fact, though, is you have not been talking to him on the phone or emailing him. No one here is talking about crushes, I don't think.
The one time I did it, we were on the same blog for a long time, I certainly was attracted to his mind and personality. After we took it to email, I became very in love with his soul. I met him six weeks after falling in love with him. We were together until he died. He wasn't handsome or attractive in any ordinary way, but his soul was gorgeous. It was the best, bar none, relationship of my life. His, too.
What IS necessary is that both people be blazingly honest about who they are, and what they are feeling. That is really no different whether the connection starts in cyberspace or in a bar, or a meeting, or church.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/14/2007 4:45:08 PM | | The Friendship between 2 people in a relationship, means that you can tell each other anything and work it out in a way that makes both of you satisfied. It is a partnership that is given 100% from both parties involved. It is being able to show each other affection no matter what the situation is and where you are. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/14/2007 4:46:06 PM | | I don't believe you can fall in love with someone you've only spoken to by email or telephone .You haven't met them,you feel attracted to them, or develop a crush or infactuation. They'll tell you what they think you want to hear. But never really know a person until you actually meet face to face. Also they may not look as good as the picture they show of themselves and they may have a lousy personality to go along with it. I say take this man with a grain of salt until you actually meet him. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/14/2007 7:23:41 PM | LOL This is an interesting topic. I can see how you could get a little close to some one through any site if you spend the time to get to know them. ..there is a lot of us that have met some really good friends on these sites. To those that have really cloes friends on here Know what i'm saying or they would not be your friend as being on the net.
For me I can not see myself ever thinking I could fall in love with anyone on any site. To think that that would ever happen an when it comes to that time to meet..What happens if your not attracted to them when you actually meet? See your putting all your eggs in one basket and not really knowing what will really happen, an nobody will ever get to really know someone til you actually spend that face to face time. Chatting is one thing but to me action speaks loader then words | |
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