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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/14/2007 7:35:01 PM | | I WANT TO TELL YOU,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,NO FUUCCKKIINNGG WAY ! | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/14/2007 7:42:31 PM | I agree with all those who have spoken about the difference between falling in love and fantasy. We've probably all heard stories (maybe all urban myths?) like "We really clicked on-line, wrote and talked for hours on end. It was a great long-distance romance. Then he/she flew out and we met, had dinner and he/she checked out of the hotel and was gone the next day without a word said."
I don't think anything can replace the physical charge of being together. It either works physically and chemically or it doesn't. I believe you can get all hot to be with someone, but not fall in love. | |
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xica
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Joined: 5/1/2006
Msg: 1253 | |
| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/15/2007 12:00:44 AM | | YES IT IS. I DID. I ONLY SAW HIM THROUG WEB CAM BUT OUR CONNECTIONS WAS FANTASTIC. WHEN WE ACTUALLY MET IN PERSON WE COULD NOT TAKE OUR HANDS OFF EACHOTHER. WE ARE GETTING MARRIED IN SEPTEMBER THIS YEAR. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/15/2007 8:11:12 AM | Y-E-S! Call me hopeless romantic or maybe just plain hopeless but i would like to believe in the idea of " I knew I love you before I met you". You/I may not have been in that situation before but that doesn't disprove it's possibility.
If you think you are in love with the person without meeting him yet, then maybe you are one of the chosen few who has found his/her soulmate. The meeting of two souls and the joining of twin hearts has happened in you. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/15/2007 9:00:46 AM | I think we fall in love with the "prospect" of what we fantasize as the "ideal" mate. Its easier to see all the pro's and not see the con's when we are online. Even phone conversations, although more telling, are not the same as experiencing being together with someone....
Its like what they say about marriage...how you never really know someone until you are living with them every day...well...online we dont deal with ANY of that...no uncomfortable habits showing, no weight of daily frustrations and stress....we get all the glamour here...you dont "see" the real person... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/17/2007 7:37:21 AM | WOW, I just read your post, and I guess the word I'd use to describe my feelings...is vilified. I met a man online and we chatted for 2 months, then we finally met. YES, he was just the same in person as he was online.....we had a great time together, laughed, talked, he showed me pictures of his sailboat, his kids (he's getting a divorce....oh, yeah, right).....couldn't wait to see me again.....and then.....no more emails, no more calls, nothing.
What the f+++? I'm rather new at this, but not new at life..so I feel duped. At least I didn't invest all the time that you did. I guess more stories are out there, so I don't feel TOO stupid.
Thanks again for an eye-opener.
D. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/17/2007 7:50:12 AM | I think we fall in love with the "prospect" of what we fantasize as the "ideal" mate.
Bingo!
I have an online friend like that. Two actually, but I'll just focus on one for a moment to make my point.
He's yummy, he cracks me up... we're actually quite a bit alike except that he's more cynical than I am. We live too far apart to even consider a relationship and we're both almost convinced that if we met.. we'd probably end up totally bummed. Not bummed by eachother exactly... I mean honestly... we're pals, and assuming we've both been totally honest about ourselves and what we've presented to eachother, we'd get along famously... but the fun unknown element'd be gone after meeting. The exciting PROSPECT. The FANTASY.
Wow.. am I even making sense? | |
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N8VSON
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Joined: 5/14/2007
Msg: 1259 | |
| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/17/2007 10:44:46 AM | From another who "smiles" through his eyes.
Nope, sorry to disappoint you....not gonna "bash"ya. What you have actually said and what you really meant to say was/is; YOU.....don't see it as possible. There are simply things that happen beyond the physical plane which some of us don't get (you). There are different levels of spiritual growth and with that growth comes the ability to "sense." Some refer to it as a "woman's intuition." This is close enough for the purpose of responding to your comment. In fact, this "intuition" is not exclusive to women (I am a he). Don't forget the operative word here; POSSIBLE! Who among us is qualified to say that anything is im-possible? Because you personlly don't believe it can happen, doesn't "make it so." (Captain Pickard - lol). Skepticism has it's place but NOT in the affairs of the heart. Centuries have passed. Poets & bards have yet to describe what happens within the human heart. Maybe you just need a (spiritual)  Now, reach around behind you, place both hands on your buttocks (one in each hand) and VIOLA! You just had your "ass" handed to you with kindness!
P.S. Write back and give me (us) your definition of "true" love. Then bottle it and make a trillion$$$$. Nobody else has accomplished this so maybe you'll be the first. Good luck!  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/17/2007 10:49:38 AM | | no its not,, and for one very important reason, you have never met face to face, touched that person, and they can write anything on a computer, or anywhere else for that matter, i have seen many threads stating they hid things or were married or in other relationship, separated,, , cant love someone you cant feel, you cn have an infatuation with who you think they are,, but until you see them and really get to know them in a real world kind of way, love is not possible, | |
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N8VSON
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Joined: 5/14/2007
Msg: 1262 | |
| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/17/2007 10:56:22 AM | To: Funnygirl9380;
Not so funny, really. I'm a 64 year old male and can proclaim in no uncertain terms, that I am no prude. What I believe is this; the English language provides more than enough words to adquately express everything we need to say. Your comment shows you are without class and lack command of the English language. Since you seem predisposed to display your ignorance in a public forum, suck up this rebuke and live with it.  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/17/2007 11:40:01 AM | I think it is safe to say that most people who seek a relationship online are lonely. From lonliness comes a level of anticipation and expectation beyond reality. This is easily triggered into full tilt fantasy in an online situation. Lonely people, in general, love the idea of being in love. They love the possibility of finding perfection. That perfection is an exaggerated commodity online. People behind a screen can be whoever and whatever they want to portray themselves as on any given day. Vulnerability allows for skewed perceptions. Skewed perceptions allow for false realities to be formed. We tend to see what we want to see, and believe what we want to believe. There are some who become good at saying what others want to hear. Love on line is not much different than love in the real world. Users and players are not limited to the internet. They exist everywhere. There are also some truly honest and decent people searching for happiness .
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you have never met? In an unrealistic fantasy of wanting perfection and finding a reasonable facsimili of it , yes, I think it is possible. When pulled into the glaringly bright lights of reality, it may not be "real love". It may not be "lasting love" but there is no guarantee that any love is "forever". The definitions of love are subjective. What it boils down to ,I think , is what are we willing to settle for? What are our expectations? What are we willing to explore in our quest for romance and emotional fulfillment?
Some of us are jaded to the point where we automatically say no.. won't happen, can't happen. Well , it won't and can't happen for those who deny it. For those who embrace the possibility, then it is just that, a possibility.
I am not willing to say it will never happen, or that it hasn't already happened for some. Life is strange and who is to say what works for everybody? Why close a door that may open to a wonderful opportunity? As in the "real" dating world, be careful, be smart, be safe and above all else be kind. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/18/2007 3:35:38 AM |
... To sleep, perchance to dream ...
Of course it's possible to fall in love with someone you never met (since, as others have aptly pointed out, it's actually your imagination falling in love with a "virtual" person, as opposed to reality ...).
However, the REAL question remains whether you "still are in love" once you actually meet them
... Whether it is meant to be ... or not to be ... That is the question ... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/26/2007 8:47:33 PM | The net, as you say, I find "sh___ty" most of the time. and the mean on the net i have met, well, not to sound toooo disgusted, but most of them shall I say, are only looking for a good time. And nothing wrong with that if you advertise yourself that way, but to say you want a "long-term" should mean just that -- not a "long term casual sex relationship".  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 5/28/2007 6:22:01 AM | | I personally feel its impossible to "fall" for a man or woman we've never met! I used to talk to a guy some time ago too and he seemed like the perfect man of my dreams! We'd never met but this man made me feel complete and whole! He had every quality that I wanted in a man and I was even thinking that we would eventually be together! Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww if this was only "real." I've since grown up and realize that this was all a silly "fantasy" of mine and this guy and I were never going to meet! So you need to "grow up" and realize that you can only be in love with a real person, a real breathing person you can actually hold and touch! Don't worry it happens to the best of us! | |
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Nen
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Joined: 3/29/2007
Msg: 1272 | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/3/2007 9:35:51 AM | To: A BlueyedBabe,
I know this is a comment from a post that u made back on May 18th/2006 but if youre still reading the thread still, i just wanted to let u know that i was almost scammed by a few men from other dating sites that tried to get me to send money or help them come to Canada. Also one guy tried to pass himself up as an actor which i thought was too good to be true so i just went on Google and clicked on images and typed in "italian men" and "poof" his pic showed up. So of course u know what i did to them right? You got it, i got rid of their a$$e$. The things that i look for when im sent a picture of the guy im talking to is:
1. that it doesnt look like a model shot
2. that it has some kind of background on it (such as couch, table, etc.)
3. that sooner or later he has a cam to show me himself on it to prove to me its him
4. if you have to question the pic then you know its not real
As for the original poster of this thread it is possible to be infatuated with a man to a point where u think its love but that there has to be caution taken. Im in the misdt of meeting a man that i met on another site and we plan to meet in July this year and that will be all the proof i need once i do meet him. So for now im keeping my guard up and being very cautious this time around as i have two sons that could be affected if things dont work out. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/3/2007 9:39:00 AM | it is possible
because i never thot it was and i met my boyfriend on here, and i fell in love with him before we met. so it is definitly possible. and no can tell you its not because you are a totally different person then everyone else on here.
=] good luck | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 6/3/2007 10:43:21 AM | Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but rather at looking outwards, in the same direction. I feel for you as it has happened to me. It's as beautiful at first as it is devastating in the end.
Enjoy him through the skies as nothing will ever compare.
Name it: "The Best Love Affair I Never Had"
God, I miss him still. | |
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