| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/3/2006 9:00:52 AM | ^^^^I'm not sure who that post was directed at? I have a feeling that it is me as I changed my profile a while ago. Yes, taking a short break from the mushy gushy stuff. And keep in mind that alcohol and happy fuzzy feelings make us say a lot of stupid things. I never said I was in love, I asked if it was possible to fall in love with someone that you've never met simply because of who they are. And I do believe that it is possible if two people are open and honest and truly themselves. If given enough time yes I do believe that Shayne and I could really have something great...people get all freaked out and weird when it comes to emotions...so I agree that an in person meeting has to happen. I'll let ya all know next Monday if he was Mr.Wonderful or Quassi Modo.   | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/3/2006 10:26:07 AM | Hi Verissa:
just wanted to say that i hope all goes well with yours and Shaynes meeting of one another.
I have replied a few pages back about this whole situation, and my posts were lengthly. Dont know if you had read them or not!
The person i was involved with, was wonderful for such a long time towards me. Then a few instances happened where it was like he was someone else. we would get into some heavy discussions where we had differing opinions etc. But it would all change in the end, no matter what we still were able to make amends and continue with the positive aspects of the relationship.
Again, i dont know if i will ever meet him, sadly to say. Plans made, plans cancelled. I try to move on in my life. With what i have learned from connecting with him, may not have been on a physical level, but the intellectual, emotional, spiritual etc. has made a large impact in my life, more than anyone ever has before. And from that relationship i have learned what i dont want/need, and what i do want/need.
As one friend described to me before, there can be that one shiny apple, that looks so delicious, until one takes a bite and finds themselves a worm. Meanwhile there is that apple that may have a tiny bruise, that is overlooked, tossed aside, when in fact it could be the best apple you have ever had.
See what happenes, keep the boundaries there, one never knows. He could be a real person with real honest intentions, or he could be a player. I am hoping that he turns out to be what your heart has felt. Whether that leads to more or just remains as a special friendship.
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/3/2006 11:08:20 AM | Verissa,
I hope you when you finally meet, you listen to your head as much as you listen to your heart. Your heart will lead you wrong at times, but your head has much more sense. You are obviously listening to both now or you would not have posted this, so just keep listening. You are a smart girl. You will know what to do. Good luck. Hope to hear a happy ending either way. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/3/2006 12:58:21 PM | Dont know about love to the OP but to 'like' someone to the degree your stirred emotionally is definately possible. I think if you had the pleasure of hearing his voice and having dialogue over a period you can certainly feel a likeness that can be overwhelming.  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/3/2006 1:26:59 PM | October sky…I did indeed read your posts, as I have carefully read everyone’s and taken in consideration what everyone has to say. Thank you for your heartfelt words. I do hope that he turns out to be who I think he is..and as I told him when he said “what if you don’t like me?” I said “ahh hunny if I don’t like you, I’ll just drink more till I do” LMAO…yeppers I’m a smarta$$.
And Rmorn69…you’re too sweet for words..thank you.
Today is his birthday so well have some celebrating to do this weekend. Reservations are made plans are set in stone and my tummy is in knots just thinking about being able to really reach out and touch him. Friday night seems so far away and I’m not sure how I’m going to be able to focus on budgets and spreadsheets when a couple of towns over I know that he’s waiting for me….AHhhhhhhhhh… *loud thump thump thump thump in my chest*
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/3/2006 3:28:07 PM | Verissa I do think it is very possible, a meeting of the minds. My only problem with that though is you can't be sure the person is really honest, anyone can say anything online and with my experience I've had coffee with a couple of guys with whom I had chatted and they turned out to be the complete opposite of what they projected on line.
But I finally met someone that has the brains and wits as much in person as he has on line, so sometimes some people are really what they say they are!
So, go ahead dive in before you fall too much for him, arrange a meeting!
BREAK A LEG!
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:06:29 PM | | Yes, yes and yes. It's happened to me. I met someone online, we talked for months on the phone, logged many many hours. He lived 980 miles away in North Carolina, I'm in Ontario Canada. When we finally did meet, it was electric, just as I thought it would be. I had been in love with him for months. We spent only one night together then parted company. Five weeks later he quit his job and moved up here. We lived together for almost 2 years. Even though it's over, he's still the love of my life, always will be. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/4/2006 4:15:38 PM | | Yes I believe its possible. I quite enjoy an Texan.We share the same veiws on a lot of things. Same interest in life. We have talked about marriage, children. Men and women roles. He is very supportive of education. We have both discussed relocating to Idaho or a few other places in the pacific northwest | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/5/2006 4:42:51 PM | I think it is very possible and does happen.
My sister met her husband online while playing a video game together.
At first their characters would team up together and they chatted.
Then they started talking on the phone they exchanged pictures.
He switched servers once. Also called a shard.
And she suspected he might be chatting with another girl.
I've never seen her so jealous in my life.
I knew then she was in love with this guy and in the future I was gonna have a brother in law.
They celebrated their 3 year aniversary not long ago.
But they lived together for a while before getting married.
Another long distance relationship success. :) | |
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Posted: 4/5/2006 5:56:54 PM | PLEASE, PLEASE, BE CAREFUL! I was just informed by the "man" I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with (even conversed over the webcam) that I was an experiment by an organization out of Canada and the subject felt I was getting too serious. This "subject" was supposedly making plans to move in with me and alledgedly answering help wanted ads in this area. Could have been just his way of backing out but I still felt emotionally raped!!  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/5/2006 6:02:48 PM | | no one should bash you for that...it's true. you may sense a "special" connection, but until you holdsmelltouchtastefeel that other person it's just words.can't see what the eyes tell you via net or phone.............. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:01:16 AM | | It is very possible. It happened to me. It lasted a little over 3 years. It took us over 3 years to finally meet. We had only been together 2 times in all the time we shared. Mostly on IM, the phone and web cam. But in the end she ripped my heart out and walked all over it. Long sad story. But I can tell you, the love was very real. Now nothing left but memories. When she and I both realized we were falling in love, we both laughed at the fact that both of us would have laughed at the idea that anyone could possibly fall in love and not even had met. We both learned the hard way how wrong we were. For those of you that doubt it is possible...trust me..it is. I am living walking proof that it was very real. And now that it;''s over, I am more convinced then ever. Would I do it again? Yes.......but the first meeting would happen a whole lot sooner and one of us would have to move in a short time. I never knew such heart ache as this relationship caused me in the end. That's real..that's the proof. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/6/2006 7:53:21 AM | Hi Jim
Reading your reply, i could feel that ache in my heart for you. Must have been difficult for you to finally say goodbye, to let her go. I have never met the one that i was involved with for three years. The two years almost daily contact, phone, emails, messenger, webcam (not regularly)actually not even until after 6 months that we were talking to one another...
Our relationship was genuine, spiritual, there for one another , we connected in ways i have never connected with another before..
Alot was learned from this relationship. And as you had answered YES to your question:
"would you do it again" my answer would be the same. But there would be differences, such as first meeting guaranteed to happen, unless a major emergency that was genuine came up, and plans put into place that are acted upon rather than talked about.
And i was like you, where in a million years would i ever think of meeting someone over the computer.
Sorry that your heart got crushed. My heart has been crushed too, even though there has been alot of pain, i am glad of the experience as i now know what i want and dont want in my life. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/6/2006 8:02:56 AM | | I would love to fill you with hope...and say YES YES YES...but, my heart and experience tells me NO NO NO...I hope for you it is not as my experience was but, same scenario ...different guy...met...and turned out he was a player...he was the kind that told you everything you wanted and needed to hear...yes its sad that anyone could do this men and women alike...but, they do so...don't fall too hard until you really know for sure...let him prove himself to you first...all talk and no action = nothing | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/6/2006 10:41:33 AM | ^^^ Dude that’s just sad...well at least you have another silent twin to go with it! 
Well I'm not too worried about being alone so if it doesn’t work out oh well. It’s the journey that has been fun no matter the destination. Infatuation is a watered down version of love and maybe a little infatuation is the hearts way of preparing you for the real thing! | |
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