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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/6/2006 10:58:13 AM | In a nut shell no,i mean i go weak at the knees when i see orlando bloom.I think we have to remember why most of us are on here to start with,some lonely,for fun hoping to find mr/miss right,and most of us vulnerable.Its easy to be fooled by words,and lets face it thats all we can offer on here,but its the action that show when a person loves.Also people love differently,i cant be in love with someone i havent kissed,held,made love to,and felt what its like to get it back.When i do meet someone i can fall in love with,i dont want to stop falling in love with them.You have to spend time with the person,see how they act around friends,children animals etc.How considerate they are to your needs and others.these things and many other can only be seen when your actually with the person,and ive noticed than most who say it has worked for them,have also said the relationship has ended in a couple of years,hardly worked to my standard,more like the time it took to get to know the person and realise you didnt love them in the first place.
I also have met someone half way round the world,he in canada,me in australia,and yes i have feelings for him,and for what its worth i love the parts of him that im familiar with,but im not IN love with him,and it will take more than making me weak at the knees to fall in love.If we/when we meet (hopefull in the fall)he is the person ive been talking with for all this time,and he gets along with my children,hold my hair back while i vomit down the toilet etc etc,then maybe i will consider falling in love. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/7/2006 1:49:04 PM | ^^Interesting theory...sad, but interesting. Please keep in mind that it doesn't matter how you meet people fall in (and sadly out) of love all of the time...and awww sure I'll hold your hair hunny..we women do that for one another it's one our most endearing qualities as females the ability to take care of a fellow female without having ever met them..lmao I hope that things work out with your Canadian gentleman...we Canadians are pretty great..well some..again lmao(there's a bad egg in every carton no matter where you live). | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/7/2006 2:11:27 PM | | I think what ppl fall in luv with is the idea of the person, we all get a picture of that person in our heads, but when it comes to meeting the person n being in their presences sometimes things change im sure we've all been there. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/7/2006 8:56:36 PM | But isnt that just the fantasy,or the idea of being in love,dont forget why were all here,i would love for someone to convince me its possible to fall in love without meeting,my guy tells me he does,hes gone thorough the loss of my child with me,and ive seen him cry for me,does that mean he loves me?.i miss him when i dont talk to him,i dont cheat on him,i have his pic as my wallpaper,but i cant be in love with him,i have never felt him,or smelt him,he might hate my kids or my dog,or my house and friends.He would have to accept all that,my love of the ocean,my friends on here,my beliefs and respect me for who i am.
I know he physically likes me,but there is more to me than that,and untill he gets to know that side of me how can it be love.
I know we have feelings,and i get what your saying,but love is in doing not just thinking,its actions and not just words.But plz go ahead and tell me im wrong,then i know im not going crazy. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/7/2006 11:13:38 PM |
Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
i beleive that this can be done.
with my latest X, we met online(not here). we talked on messanger for a long time b4 meeting. we talked about everything from our past to our future. when we finally met, it was walking through heavens gates, meeting the angel on the other side of the messanger.
it is very possible to fall in love with someone that u havnt met. just have to watch out and make sure they arnt fake. | |
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Joined: 9/22/2004
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Joined: 4/7/2006
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:38:29 AM | To all of those that said no, it's not possible... As I said and posted earlier, I would have answered this question the same way amd maybe even laughed at the notion of it ever happening. But it happened to me. It happened and I was not even looking. It took over a year of just knowing this woman before we even began some one on one serious talks that led to us both falling in love. Deep love, very real love. it took over 2 years to finally meet in person. That only made the love that much deeper and for allof those that say you need to touch, smell and be around a person...well, as I said, it only got better.
So I conclude that none of you have a clue as to how, why or the possibilities of it happening until and if... you ever found yourself getting to know and trust one person on line for as much as she and I got to know each other over time.
Trust me when I tell you this.....If the break up, the loss of that love and how I dealt with it, what it did to me emotionally and even how I feel today is any indicator of what love is, then I was very deeply in love. I had never taken a loss of anyone as hard as I did when she and I broke up. Don't try to tell me it was not real or was a fantasy. No, I am not crying over her today. In fact, I am now very glad it's over. We are both better off since it came down to us never going to be able to be together. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/8/2006 6:55:24 AM | back to the future..or........Tangled in the Web
Tangled in the Web, by Dr. Kimberly S.Young @www.netaddiction.com...is the title of a new book outlining in detail some of the dangers that await in the sometimes predatory world of "online dating". Type in love addiction into yahoo's search engine and it yields 12, 320,000 entries.........apparently, quite the problem for some folks.The ease with which someone can assume an identity....completely opposite from their own, lend itself at best to pranksters, and in a more sinister way , predators.
Dr Brenda Schaeffer, on her excellent web site Essential Wellness see website www.loveand addiction , says that the neurochemistry of love can become a drug as difficult to control as alcohol or cocaine. She also states that the paradox is that love addiction is an attempt to gain control of our lives, and in so doing, we give up control ,by giving personal power to someone other than the self(for love addicts).
Under romance addiction,she charts a cycle which if viewed only topically,very much resembles a typical e-mail, instant messaging type... online "romance". 1. obsession 2. the hunt 3. recruitment 4. gratification 5. return to normal (meaning urge is temporarily off) 6. justification 7. blame (well, this just isn't working out!) 8. shame ... 9.despair ..10. promises .. Never again etc.!.....then........... return to number 1..... | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/8/2006 7:45:30 AM | I don't know about it being love I definitely agree that you have to meet...that thing has to be there.
I think what we may fall in love with is the feeling of comfort we have known or wish we have known. I think we want acceptance!
Everything the human experiences is in his or her own mind. Thoughts, perceptions.
Think about the people who have crossed your path while on your journey. The first thought that we all remember is how they made us feel. These are what we choose to see.
Sex is in the mind. Think about that someone that sooooo turned you on, that you'd never touch again. Did they change or did you change your mind about them?? We always hear someone say he/she wasnt like that when we first met...when what were saying is: he/she isn't who I thought they were....who I thought they were.
I've learned if it doesnt work....it is what it is and has no count on who I am / or who I am not being. Rejection simply is not about you but about the other person's idea of you. Its not about what we lack.
I hope you fall in love with yourself....you cannot give what you don't have!
If someone else makes you feel good you will never feel good without someone else!
Have you two met yet? If not, is it the fear of reality?
If so, whats the story? | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/8/2006 4:04:32 PM |
yes and it does appear that even the ones that claim it can happen,those relationships dont last,so it cant be love,or they would.
Sorry andromedam31, that makes no sense at all. So with your opinion, I guess it is love ONLY when it lasts right? Of course ALL relationships born out of meeting local and seeing each other everyday last forever right? I have seem many relationshios that were not lobg distance last less then mine. No, I was very much in love. And I know she was too. it did not work out. But to say it was not love is rediculous. How would you even know? You don't know me or her. I don't mean this in a mean way towards your unexperienced situation. Walk a mile in my shoes and then you will know me and what was and was not real.
But love takes many forms in many ways including on-line and long distance. Some of them do last, some of them, like mine don't.
I did not meet my wife on-line and it was not long distance, and it did not last either. Does that mean I did not love her? Or her love me? After 18 years of marriage based on what you said, that must not have been love either. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/8/2006 4:42:50 PM | | Verissa, until you've lived with the person or even seen him in action in the way that he treats other people and goes about his daily life, I think it's just wish fulfillment. He could be just telling you everything that you want to hear, that's not difficult to do online. Much more difficult is to live up to it day in and day out. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/9/2006 5:08:19 AM | Hi Verissa...
Yes, oh yes, it is possible to fall in love with someone you never met. I'm talikng from my own experience.The same think happened to me its 2 years now..
Ever since he walked into my life, I have been smiling. There hasn't been a day when I have gone to sleep with a frown on my face or a song in my heart, and it's all because of him. Yes, I was glad when he came into my life. I have always wanted the love of my life to be understanding, loving, caring, faithful and most of all someone who would accept me for who I am. I thought that I found the person I was looking for. My heart told me that he were my Beautifull prince and he was the one that to said hello to me at first. I didn't hade to think twice when he told me that he loved me. I don't think that there is, or there could be, anyone better than him out there for me. Those were my thoughts about him lol...
I loved him with my whole heart. I have never trusted anyone the way I trusted him. In away In away I knew always deep down inside that he will break my heart or would let me down in anyway. And he did.. I'll never will understand him, never why he lied to me, and never told me the truths about his marriege or what ever he had with that someone..I was devastated after 3 months of intensive mailing to one another, when he told me that he can't meet me, because his life in the past 2 months fell apart for him..His ex-girlfriend had a little stroke and it affected her judgment.. That he has to work 12-14 hours a day, that he lives with his mother and he have no home of his own.. and that lives on pain pills because of his hip are killing him.. He told me that he just doesn't want any commitment or responsibility more then he can handle.By the way on his profile it says that he is single. Until today..He never changed it, and his age was also a lie.. He said I don't know when this will all end !!!
Good luck to you and thats all i can say.. After he said goodbye to me, about a week later he wrote again telling me, that i was the love of his life. And that I have him all wrong. He is doing the right THINK....I DO LOVE YOU AND I WANT TO SEE YOU IN PERSON--- SOON....
It has been almost two years now, and I'm still waiting for him to meet me lol.. I guess it never will happen...Right now he is in love, has a new life and he is very happy. with a woman that could be his daughter. She is 34-years old and him 60..That was his last mails to me, just a couple of days ago..All his lies all his threttenning to me i get tired of to listen to him... I begged him for two years, please meet me just for a coup of coffe and a little chat.Instead of agree to it, i got a threttening mails from him, that if i won't leave him to live his life, he would go to the police and get me arrested.. He made me or thought me not to believe in anyone anymore. He was a charming old men i guess, and i felt for it.. My dear Verissa i had the same thoughts as you have.. But be careful thats all I can say, because some day he is gonna breake your heart, as he broke my heart.. With words everything is possible, my dear.. Reality is a different story..
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/9/2006 5:57:25 AM |
PLEASE, PLEASE, BE CAREFUL! I was just informed by the "man" I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with (even conversed over the webcam) that I was an experiment by an organization out of Canada and the subject felt I was getting too serious. This "subject" was supposedly making plans to move in with me and alledgedly answering help wanted ads in this area. Could have been just his way of backing out but I still felt emotionally raped!!
If true!! That has lawsuit written all over it. | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:33:21 AM | If "they " feel it's love, it's love. Just because some have to feel the other person, doesn't mean we all have to. There is such a thing as love at first sight and the fact we are all different, means there are differing levels of passion, lust or love for another person. Go by your own instincts. Trust your heart, but use your head ! 
Good luck to EVERYONE in their search for true love.  | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:54:21 AM | Why question what already exists in peoples hearts. It may not be exactly the type of love we seek but that doesn't make it any less important to those that are experiencing it as we speak.
There is no shortage of love in this world. Let LOVE exist and blossom in the hearts of all of us any any way that it finds itself.
Love, peace and happiness....Happy Easter & Passover,
Bandito | |
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| Is it possible to fall in love with someone you never met?
Posted: 4/9/2006 6:55:19 AM | | You never really know a person until you actually meet them in person and then it takes awhile. You can fall in love with their persona online but that's like a fantasy, you can picture them to be however you want and then when you get to know them, it could be totally different. It could happen but not very likely. | |
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