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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/14/2006 11:25:23 AM | AMEN Ponie, and very well said.
I got out, and never cheated! Things look good from that point of view where I sit now.
But, I was played a few weeks ago, its not a good feeling. Live Learn and Move on....what else can we do?
Most of the men on here that I have talked to, not judging them all, dont really know what Long Term means, if there is any honest ones out there close to me, send me some mail..it would be refreshing.
Long Term to most of them means, long term to all the women the are talking too at once...its not quite what i have in mind!
I am wondering if this online chatting is really safe, seems as though the men here are addicted to it and cant give up all the attention they get from many women and accept the attention from one true one. Their loss!
Any man can love many women, it takes a real man to love one woman and make her happy! Is there any real men left???
Good luck to all, we need it!!
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/14/2006 7:29:22 PM | iwoody, you're pretty defensive and you are sure trying to justify why it's ok for YOU to be looking. I'm a pretty non angry woman but I do agree with DW on this subject.... does that make me an angry and bitter woman as well?? I simply have no tolerance for a man looking for a woman on the side and if you can give just one good reason why that's OK, and why you are different and why it's so different for you... please do tell... please enlighen.
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/14/2006 8:09:58 PM | Hello Lookinlost
WTF, a woman is the one that forced a married man here. GET REAL, that is just so much shit, i could fertalize my garden with it. OMG did you read what you actually wrote.
omg actually you are a neanderthal who just got unfrozen RIGHT.
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iwoody
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Joined: 4/16/2006
Msg: 111 | |
| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/15/2006 12:14:40 PM | iwoody, you're pretty defensive and you are sure trying to justify why it's ok for YOU to be looking. I'm a pretty non angry woman but I do agree with DW on this subject.... does that make me an angry and bitter woman as well?? I simply have no tolerance for a man looking for a woman on the side and if you can give just one good reason why that's OK, and why you are different and why it's so different for you... please do tell... please enlighen. posted by Enchatability
I don't recall you saying all men should be kicked in the nuts and pushed off a cliff!
What I was refering to was her resentment and how she would like to treat these "guys"
There is a enough violence in this world do we really need more????I don't belittle the fact she does not like men who do this that is entirely her opinion and she is intitled to it!
As for why is it "ok" for me .....I don't recall saying it was ok for me. I know what I'm doing is a dishonest thing and I never tell people I'm not married> (I don't act like a player!).
I have been married to my beautiful and intelligent wife for 7 years (no this is not a 7 year itch) and together with her for 14 years! All facets of the relationship are perfect (except one obviously) I would say sex in our relationship occurs about 1-2 times every 4 - 6 weeks. (Sometimes longer as she is a work-aholic and cannot seem to concentrate on house hold issues when a work issue is present. Intimacy is something she has to build up to and unfortunately sometimes my patience gets the best of me and I end up doing what you all dispise! No she was never molested when she was younger or raped! We have seen countless therapists and doctors (for hormone levels) and things will shape up for a month where she'll "try really hard" to keep her head into it and it might be once a week for that time ...but eventually she slids back into her old routine and then I'm back to 1 in 6weeks or longer! I don't care that people don't agree with what I'm doing I love my wife but what I hate is when people look down their nose at me as if they are perfect in all aspects in their life!! And I certainly don't deserve to be kicked in the nuts and rolled down a hill .I don't try and fool people with my situation and I think that is better than alot of people in here from what I have heard from others! | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/15/2006 2:26:29 PM | ok ok I cant take this anymore .. I have to add my freakin 2 cents worth...lmao
so many on this thread have been ever soooooooooo judgemental GOSH!!!!
People are human they have desires and feelings
unless you have walked in their "shoes" you really have no right to be judgemental ...
YES you do have every right to voice your opinion thats why we have forums and why
we all enjoy our freedom of speech ...GOOD or BAD.
As too something Iwoody said and again a small misrepresentation he said
" I end up doing what you all dispise! " ....WRONGGG !!!
we are not all judgemental or despise what a married person is doing..
Now I quote his paragraph (hope you dont mind)
[/"unfortunately sometimes my patience gets the best of me and I end up doing what you all dispise! No she was never molested when she was younger or raped! We have seen countless therapists and doctors (for hormone levels) and things will shape up for a month where she'll "try really hard" to keep her head into it and it might be once a week for that time ...but eventually she slids back into her old routine and then I'm back to 1 in 6weeks or longer! I don't care that people don't agree with what I'm doing I love my wife but what I hate is when people look down their nose at me as if they are perfect in all aspects in their life!! And I certainly don't deserve to be kicked in the nuts and rolled down a hill .I don't try and fool people with my situation and I think that is better than alot of people in here from what I have heard from others!]
when someone (couples)has searched for an answer and both parties try to correct the situation and yet no resolve has come about then either party is left to come to their own demise...
I still stand firm that we as humans have desires and needs and if not being met we seek out many forms of satisfaction,self gratifacation,But at some time in this search the desire to actually feel a warm body carressed against your own sometimes outways the desire to be faithful ..
YES I said FAITHFUL
at the same time I say that I still say unless you are in that persons shoes ....YOU have NO RIGHT to be JUDGEMENTAL !!!!!
These are my feelings on this matter sorry if I offended anyone that is not my intentions and mind you these are...
MY OPINIONS...
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Posted: 6/15/2006 6:29:06 PM | pjbrown you are a little pathetic. don't blame your failure to attract a woman on guys who cheating
oceans you hit the nail right on the head! And PJ...you can't blame having your MANY profiles being deleted on problems with uploading your photos.
And OMG: You say you're going to report oceans to the MOD? Come on! You're not 2 are you? I'm telling!!!! | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/15/2006 7:12:19 PM | | Wow op, suck it up man. Marraige is a farce. I am so glad I am divorced and that it didn't take up more time of life than it did. Some are staying together for the kids and that's noble but if they can't seem to make sparks happen in their own relationship anymore than all the power to those who do what they do. | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/15/2006 7:21:23 PM | Grrrrrr.... I can't believe my obsession with this thread. It's making me crazy!! I'm just going to post my final post and then go off to my happy place... never to return to this evil thread again...
To Creamy...I have every right in the entire world to be judgemental. I have never been through it personally but have literally lived it through close friends who have gone through the pain of finding out that their husbands have cheated on them. I have seen some pretty amazing beautiful women lose themselves through the experience... lose their trust... lose their dignity... their self esteem, their pride... Had their husband's had the courage to tell them upfront that they were not happy... that they needed more... that they needed out, they would have retained their dignity... they wouldn't have ended up feeling like they were the lowest of low. Maybe you should walk a mile yourself Creamy before you judge.
To iwoody...I'm sorry... I read your explanation and really tried to understand but I don't. While there is a wee part of me that feels for you, the rest of me wonders how you can love your wife so much but have no problem sleeping with other women. You're on here publicly complete with picture so it's just a matter of time before your beloved wife finds out and then what? I am pretty much the most open minded person in the entire world... my brains should fall out of my head, I'm so bloody open minded... each to their own is my true motto in life... BUT there is HUGE exception... each to their own as long as you're not hurting another person. You are going to hurt another person... that beautiful wife of yours that you love so much. I truly wonder how you sleep at night.
That's IT!!! I'm done with this thread... I'm going to my happy place in my wee little brain where I'll keep telling myself that people have some integrity and strength of character.
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Posted: 6/15/2006 9:15:13 PM | OMG! A REAL MAN and GENTLEMEN out there! They say your only "played" if you allow it, but guess what, been there done that! It's not your fault when a guy strings you along telling you and SWEARING to you he's not but then you catch him on other sites or on phone calls with women AFTER he tells you he likes you ALOT and wants to see where it goes! I don't understand anymore, if you find someone you REALLY CLAIM to like, why do you need to look further, correct? Why do guys need to lie like that? Be STRAIGHT up and don't advertise LONG TERM when you really mean HIT IT AND QUIT IT! Or keep it on the "hit list"!!!
YEAH, unfortunately, I gave my heart away to a man on here after talking for 2 months on the phone and meeting up about 10 times and got attached only to get burned! Live and Learn, right?
Thank you for your comments above, BRAVO TO YOU!!! | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/16/2006 12:26:01 AM | People!!!Just take a chill pill,,OMG,,
BTW,,cdn grl,,i was told by one of the mods that i was a victim of a crazy filter,,no one was out to get me.
I have no hidden agenda on here,,other than to promote my parties and meet new people.
So chill out,,dont take this thread so seriously | |
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iwoody
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Joined: 4/16/2006
Msg: 122 | |
| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/16/2006 5:08:22 AM | This is for PJ. You are going to do what to Ocean???? "Report him to the moderator" come on give me a break what are we in Grade 1 ??? He just gave an opinion of what he thought based on your posts on here just like everyone seems to give there opinion.
Does that mean DW and I should run to the moderator on here because we have been at each other?? I'm sure DW and I can agree to disagree (unless she has already reported me and I haven't been told!!!  )
But really just because you are angry 'cause you can't get any girls on here" and Ocean told you why he thought you weren't getting any hits you are going to switch your anger to him because he told you something you don't want to hear!!!
Be a man and stand up for yourself or just ignore him but don't go running to "mom | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/16/2006 9:24:23 AM | | Pj - why do you keep telling everyone to chill out? they are expressing their opinion. no one is upset. look you need to stop blaming others (like married men in this case) and look inward. your reasoning your not meeting any women is because you expect them to feel sorry for you because married men are ruining your chances. i doubt most single women or women in general are going to cast generalizations on all men. like i said before get some confidence, and a little bit of dignity and you will be fine. | |
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Joined: 5/7/2006
Msg: 124 | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/16/2006 10:46:39 AM | Hello all,,Well i do have confidence and dignity,you are all free to express your opinions on here,,but none of you personally know me or have hung out with me or have been to my POF parties,,
Im not upset,not depressed,,and yes i have met lots of cool people off of here.
so im fine,
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