| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/16/2006 12:50:33 PM | I agree with you.
If a woman has been married for almost 20 years and has no clue how to date she can easily be fooled by those guys......sorry but thats how i see it. It is easy to be naive when you have had only one man in your life that long as you tend to think that all man will act the same. I wish all those married guys would wake up and realize how lucky they are to be with someone and f off and leave people who are single alone. Esp when you husband cheated; it is so not a turn on in any way...makes me sick | |
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iwoody
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Joined: 4/16/2006
Msg: 127 | |
| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 6/16/2006 5:47:09 PM | PJ you said it exactly you are all free to express your opinions on here, "BUT NONE OF YOU PERSONALLY KNOW ME OR HAVE HUNG OUT WITH ME..."
That is exactly the way I feel this thread has been towards me so we are both in the same boat. I would probably even sit down and have a beer with you PJ if I ever came to one of your POF bashes (but I get the feeling they are more of a singles party! lol!)
Anyways no hard feelings PJ and to anyone else I may have offend on this thread....can we pick a new topic now to debate???  | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/4/2006 12:18:47 AM | I have to rant for awhile  i for one, don't cheat if you read my profile, i lay it all out there....but there is a few players out there. and yes, you get your grill kicked in time to time, in fact, it is part of the game on these type of sites?....man up. if you think about it? was she really the type of person you wanted in the first place? i would'nt someone so closed minded? i just don't like so called open minded females that are so closed minded to the fact that some married people, are out here just trying to meet people and make friends.....and there is quite a few of you? who are just stuck man bashers...that just raises the question also? how do you jerkweed man bashing freaks ever get to know a potential man who is in general an open and nice guy. how do you court something open? and nurture a real relationship, if you can't even have a true friendship? married or not? just says, you are not ready to have a real relationship. and need sometime to mature and reflect on the way the grownups are not so judgmental at first. it also says, you too are a player of sorts? and as a married guy, being so open and bluntly honest about things, i get more emails on a daily basis than my counterpart? one site i have at least 180est. alone; and that is by married and single women. you could do what i do, and look for someone on your plain and your level of maturity. some girls are not ready for a true courtship, they are out here just fishing or trowling, and don't care about your feelings? it is just me me me and to hell with ya? i am 36 and in general look for sometimes 25 and up? and sometimes 34 and up? because, sometimes the person you are wanting is not always what you are attracted too? the older the better? more mature, already done did it, not into games, and ready to have a true relationship? regardless if it is romance, friendship, or whatever? growing up i rarely dated anything near my age? and most of the time i had a good experience.. now i have plenty of friends that pretty much blow the chicks on this site out of the water and we are very close. you know? at one point for about 10 years or so i had my best friend cry about how she could'nt find anyone like me the way i treated her or made her feel. and how she wished she could of had a relationship like mine and my wifes? she finely got married though. but, she was the loneliest person for about 10 years. and she only dated jocks, rich momma boys, pretty boys, and ivy leaguers..........and everyone sucked.... i am telling ya i know alot of barbie dolls and can just eat em up and spit em out, because you have to be (all women )before you get to play in my sandbox  that means for you jerkweed wanna be barbie walk on water types...some guys are just as picky or more picky about dating or friendships. and pj take your lumps and learn to play smarter, find someone on your level....happy fishing..For all you other guys, remember? you don't need judgemental twits, learn to be selective, there is nice girls out there? just look for the women who know what they want. and don't care what people think, who cares, if someone likes you? you will know, trust me? who goes on a free site if they are serious about meeting the so called right guy??? give me a break  i did better in a class, getting a dinner date, then actually getting to know the person. and she just so happened to be so heavenly perfect. and don't get me wrong i have also met some of the most geniunely nice and open women on this site also, you just have to be hanging it out there and just let it rip......that one that walks on water often drowns or is on here treading water from the last relationship; before she even met you...... think | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/4/2006 1:30:23 AM | 
Thank you! I just didn't want to be the one to say it because I didn't want everyone thinking I'm a one guy pity party. Of course, I'm not, if I wanted a pity party, I'd have ice cream...and chocolate. Damnit, now you made me crave ice cream and chocolate - a$$hole!  | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/4/2006 2:55:59 AM | To all who openly admit to being married, we appreciate your honesty.
But a few questions follow:
1. Is your spouse aware of your profile? Are you being honest with him/her?
2. How would you feel if you discovered he/she has a profile posted and has been or is persuing outside gratification?
3. If sex ceases to exisit when you marry, why get married?
4. Why would anyone feel it is their "GOD GIVEN RIGHT" to trick anyone into sex?
We are human, we have weeknesses but.....vows are made when you marry.
Were you being honest when you said them or was it just surface honesty?
Bring it on. | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/4/2006 2:48:36 PM | I consider myself an openned minded person, However, I am not going to judge a married
person for being here, But I am going to keep judging myself, how? if a married woman
were to approach me, for a side fling, Answer would be, no thanks.
off topic, dishonest is not considered a great trait to have. | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/5/2006 5:35:51 PM | iwoody
Married men are not cowards! I have in my profile that I'm married and don't try and pretend I'm not! The whole comment get the F out if you are not happy is pretty easy to say from where you are sitting!
if you are not a coward then step up to the plate and tell your wife what you are doing. | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/7/2006 6:26:00 PM | Yup I agree.
We shouldn't try and approach women that openly state "no married men"
(By the way it WOULD be nice if you included that in your profiles, when applicable)(ladies...could save us time....)
Problem is...a lot of you don't.
I usually try and approach those that I suspect (by their proflie) are either married themselves or don't care.
Quite a few women are seeking married men. (Regardless of what their profile states)
I have been messaged by a couple of women who I didn't initially contact first because of the "no married" statement.
Look at the advantages:
We have held at least one womans attention long enough to get married. Therefore must be somewhat appealing.
We are easy to dump, experienced, and usually disease free (and needing to keep it that way)
If we miss-behave revenge is a phone call away.
Married men frequently have and therefore interact well with children and are house broken etc etc etc.
I think that a lot of people are just too self absorbed to even consider how the other parties are affected. Thing is guys if you have to lie to get a girl in bed...you might as well be getting her drunk, drugging her or simply attacking from a dark alley. It is still a violation. Why steal someones dignity or self respect.
It's like you never even scored with her. She went to bed with the person you PRETENDED to be...
Do these guys also pretend to be pilots, astronauts, secret agents.... (Pretty lame...) | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/7/2006 7:36:47 PM | hey i am a player but let me tell u something, i became a player becuase of some ladies and now i enjoy playing on them.
one more thing i am proud of being a player,
common dont hate the player, hate the game
yours player | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/7/2006 11:32:40 PM | amiurfish,
If you really hate the game...here is a thought....
Stop playing it by their rules...
I play but, I'm not a player.
Son, I looked at your profile.
You are like..19?
I'll bet you have few responsabilities and even less life experience.
You got played by a girl?
What did she do?
Steal your lunch money?
When I was a teenager I was a walking hard-on without a care in the world.
(I'd have had sex with a snake if I could get it on its back)
The girls I was with were much the same.
And, I liked it that way. I was a kid.
We met, we partied we had sex and we moved on. Perfect...
Sure most of em were pretty slutty but then again I was (at that time) basically counting on that.
The last thing I was doing was allowing myself to get so involved with any girl that she could play me.
Go out. Have fun. Enjoy.
But...
The problem is eventually you find someone and start to care.
They make you want to be a better man than you are and you fall in love.
You don't really have a choice...it just happens.
They play you...it hurts...and you become bitter.
You can choose to take revenge on women you have not even met yet or...you can get up, dust your self off and try again. Walk it off...Suck it up and soldier on Digger!
She was just not the right girl for....you.
The real measure of a man is not by his conquests but by how he handles defeat.
You lost. So what?
Not every girl is going to fall for you...
What did it cost?
Time (you have lots left)
A few drinks, a ring maybe? (trinkets)
What you gained was an opportunity to find the person you are meant to be with.
Besides, when does it stop?
Being a "player" might be fun but it is a self fulfilling prophacy and...wrong.
My advice...
Get some life experience.
Quit feeling sorry for yourself.
Do, build or create something other than a pile of dirty cloths for your Mom to wash.
Start owning responsability for your actions instead of transfering your pain on some poor girl who hasn't even met you yet. (She might just be the one...) | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:42:44 AM | can't be bothered to get into this argument as all the married men are alway's going to find an excuse for there disgusting behaviour and lack of respect for there wife(and children might I add) but just wanted to say Enchantability and Sibesrul,I applaude you well done and I am 100% behind your views.It has frightened me to death now the thought of getting married again after reading all this,and yes my ex husband cheated on me and no I would not give him a second chance,he was outta the door straight away,why would I want his c**k near me once it has been else where?yuck,and no I don't mean before we met,we all have a past,I mean since he has been with me,and for the record our sex life was great,except he couldn't stand the thought of not having sex for a week after having my daughter under a section,divorced two months now and he is still whinning to come back,yeah like hell,I just hope all you married men get what you deserve one day(std or loneliness)
oh and an after thought,if your not getting enough try talking to her about it or get divorced or the other option is to use your hand like other people when there frustrated instead of shagging the nation | |
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SPL
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Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 142 | |
| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/10/2006 8:27:44 AM | THANK YOU PJBROWN...It is so refreshing to hear your words. Sadly, they are very true and it is people like that, that destroy the whole point of sites like this one. Yes, it is a fact of life that where ever you go and whatever you do, there will always be someone eager to use and abuse someone's trust and challenge their belief in society and mankind...but somehow, we all tend to give it yet another chance in the belief that perhaps...just perhaps not this time.
I am only looking for friends and have been completely honest about it from the start...not that it has made any difference really...no one believes that anyway!!! I have attracted a married man with a spare SIM, someone who became a "friend" until he realised that he was not going to get any sex out of it and a third, who can no longer be friends because the girlfriend he has had for 2 weeks is the jealous type...fair enough!!!
But here I am, still trying...perhaps because I do not really want to allow the few to destroy it for the rest of us, or perhaps because I just need a brain transplant!!
Thank you again...it restored some of the faith. x | |
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SPL
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Joined: 6/22/2006
Msg: 143 | |
| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/10/2006 8:51:37 AM | | Woody babe, "freedom of expression" does not just apply to you...it applies to DW as well! In addition, attempting to justify your rights and opinions by picking on a particular person and start destroying their profile and character speaks louder than any words you may be capable of... or attempt to create. You have just lost your argument babe! | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/10/2006 4:46:58 PM | unlike some men i put the fact that i'm married on here,so the ladies should read the profiles,and the men shouldn't lie about being married.
some women like married men.
good luck,here with your search.
niteowl11 | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/11/2006 10:37:54 AM | If I had an attractive wife who treated me right...then why would I cheat? The thing you are missing is that if someone is not getting what they "need" (want is something different to MOST people) they will go somewhere else and look for it. And that is one fine way to drop a nag bag, but that is another story.
If a women is telling you that she has been hurt by too many players...she doesnt like you. Guess what? The majority of the time women are playing the guys. Before one of you Feministas get mad at me, I said majority. Women are smarter than men in relationships and conversation period. A woman who liked you would keep that to herself until she got to know you because it would most likely turn you off. The OP is just taking his lack of game out on people who know how to play.
If someone gets "Played" then live and learn and stop crying about it. Who doesnt? The key is to pick your self up and keep going. If you want sympathy, you sure better know what you are talking about.
I play and guess what? Women try to play me all the time and when I drop them like the waste of time they are they respect me. The key is what you are playing for. Having a hot babe who does not like you out on a cheap date (haha!) to help you find a hottie who DOES...I think that is just giving back what you get.
If you do not like the game, then go somewhere else and cry. Its a jungle out there. | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/11/2006 11:04:11 AM | | You are so right thats why i stopped looking on here all the married liars were to much for me. I didnt need it. Its hard to see who is for real on here and almost all the people i came accross were married and pretending not to be sad and sick | |
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| To Every Married Man or Player Seeking A Side Fling on POF
Posted: 7/11/2006 11:08:49 AM | | This is a dating site and married men have no business on it. I wish to hell POF would bar them and thier stupid excuses for thier selfish actions and pain they cause both thier families and the poor women they feed thier line of bulls#@t too. SNAKES!! | |
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