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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/21/2008 5:54:29 AM | Too late OP - you crossed the line in the friendship and doubtful you'll be able to go back to the way it was.
As the old saying goes - ya can't have your cake and eat it too.
You want a booty call to stay a booty call, hire a prostitute or find a woman who has no intentions of wanting a relationship. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/24/2008 12:48:39 PM | | Okay, I'm going to tell you what I learned from experience. If you want to remain her friend you are going to have to give up the sex. My former friend with benefits, wasn't happy when I developed feelings for him. So I told him that if we were to remain "just friends" the sex would have to go so that I could be open to an actual relationship with another man. He didn't want to give up the sex so I got rid of him as a friend with benefits AND as a just plain friend. Because if a man can't respect where I'm coming from he doesn't deserve to be in my life. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/23/2009 2:40:42 AM | " now i have found she keeps asken if i want it to go further and asken if i love her and that type off stuff .what the hell do i do "
sounds like She's Just Wanting a LiL Commitment ??? Love ???
Well If It Was Me I'd search my heart & feelings for Her --> do You Love her ???
or is Just indeed a Booty call ??? That's what happened to Me ,,, Had a sweet sexy
Fwb ,,, booty buddy But made the Mistake of Falling In Love W Her & got my
Heart broken when she told me " I Love you But I'm not in love W You " Ouch
All I wanted was for us to Be together & Love each other Is That Too much to ask ?
I would Have Been Very Happy w Her If she could Just Trust Our relationship &
have a LiL commitment & lots Of Love ... She was afraid of getting hurt & hurting
someone - Me ? I would Have Loved Her till The day I Left This world & Beyond
still Brings Tears to My eyes & pain in my heart ,,, knowing i can never Have her The
way I really wanted :( | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/23/2009 3:20:11 AM | I was on the bad end of a situation like this just a month or so ago.
I seeing a girl for 2 months, she would come round 2-3 times a week, she would stay over we would cuddle, tickle, I would cook, watch movies, plenty of banter, have a few drinks at the weekend... we really got on well... turned out she only wanted the sex! The sex was great, but with all this other 'relationship type' stuff going on I understandably developed feelings for the girl and wanted more, she ended up telling me she just wanted sex.... wrecked my head totally !! I dont see her any more.
These things can never work for me, I assume most situations will end up the same. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/23/2009 11:17:01 AM | Booty calls can be exciting and fun, for a while. Lust is fun! Then it is likely to become disrespectful because one party takes the other for granted, because it is human nature to want more, and because lust fades over time.
Disrespect then causes resentment, which builds until someone interrupts the relationship. It would be unusual for both parties to have the maturity, skills, and comittment to put together a better relationship after that. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/23/2009 9:07:17 PM | Wow .... this is so strange .... the thread dies
one year later ... almost to the day its revived
then dies again
then one year later almost to the day
here it is again....
quite the strange recurring booty call this is.
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/23/2009 11:43:35 PM | Women aren't wired the same way as guys are. Your job in the big biology pic is: 'to go forth and spread seed' thanks to all those willing volunteers, we were born. Men's drives get them into trouble just as much as women's do, and both genders living in 'society' have to temper their instinctual urges
A woman's job, on the other hand is to have enough of an attachment to the babe to take care of it during gestation and nurture it after birth. Women have oxytocin after sex-the love chemical that MAKES us get attached. She thought she could overcome biology, but, surprise surprise, she was wrong! | |
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| why cant a booty call stay a booty call
Posted: 9/24/2009 4:44:54 PM | *sigh*
I can not even begin to tell you how frustrating this is.
You find a great lay in a great friend and all of the sudden they want more, you do not, feelings get hurt, friendship's lost ..and you need another drinking buddy.
Seriously.
Maybe it is easier to just be in a relationship out of convenience seing how the two like each other AND find one another sexually satisfying..
PS. Yes, I'm being sarcastic. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2009 5:22:18 PM | awww but it does NOT have to be that way!!!! you truly CAN have a best-friends-with-sex relationship..
the key? LOVE...
if you truly love your friend (or best friend) then you want them to be happy and you don't want to tie them down, or ruin them, or make them buy diapers.....
i think it comes down to selfless love.....you can mix sex with friendship, but you better really and truly love that "friend".......in a completely selfless kinda way | |
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Posted: 9/25/2009 6:17:28 AM | Were I into this "FWB" deal, I would be inclined, once my biology betrayed me and I started feeling "luuuuuuv," to turn it into a business transaction.
Him (calling): Hey you! What's up tonight? Can I come over?
Me: Uh, yeah. Sure. I'll be here.
Him: Okay , cool...see you in a bit.
:::we engage in the same sex we always engage in:::
Just as he's leaving...
Me: Here...(hands him an invoice) don't worry, you can pay within 30 days if you're too broke right now.
Him: What's this? WTF? A bill for sex! Are you serious?
Me: Hey, I decided that if I wasn't getting love out of it and I can have my OWN orgasms, this was the best compensation for my time and servicing your needs. You can pay by cash, credit card but no, I won't accept American Express.
Him: (slams door as he leaves shaking his head)
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| why cant a booty call stay a booty call
Posted: 9/26/2009 1:46:54 AM | Sex with no strings is only temporary, eventually love gets thrown into the mix and you will end up having to tell the girl whether you love her or not. Me and my ex a few months back decided to become friends with benefits until we find other people. I did not intend it to be anything but just physical. At first it was great, but then she became more attached to me, which led to a lot of problems. What seems as something with no strings, ends up a giant clusterXXck of drama.  If you have no feelings for the girl, end it fast or else you can end up breaking her heart. You might have no problems having sex with no feelings towards the girl, but that doesn't mean she will feel the same.  I could be completely wrong, but from my experience that's what I concluded.  | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/26/2009 11:03:08 PM | Do what I did, because yes woman have great booty calls too.
- Ignore, Ignore , Ignore. Eventually women get the hint, no matter how long it takes to sink in.
- Your Busy. The magic words of pretty much saying im done with you.
But alas, you can keep her as a friend. Despite what all these guys say on here. Its this way or the highway so you choose.
Pretty much you cut contact, call on your time, dont make plans together for two months(if you can go that long); if you appreciate her as a friend she'll get the hint. most women do. | |
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| y cant a booty call stay a botty call
Posted: 9/26/2009 11:26:49 PM | For the Love of God...............write your post in a Word document then force the Spell, Grammar and Punctuation Gods to assist you.
I just want to scream when I see the language slaughtered such a manner.
OP: Stop being so selfish. Man up and do the decent thing. Jebus, your mother must be thrilled with you.
^^BG^^ | |
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