| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 1:16:12 PM | | Shes focking a guy thats better than you. When he dumps her, she wants to come back to you. Leaving the door open in case the other guy doesnt work out | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 1:24:33 PM | That's girl talk IE >>it simply means she's found someone new and needs you out of the way.  | |
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exxess
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Joined: 1/31/2006
Msg: 53 | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 5:15:08 PM | here the email she sent to me last monday..
tell me what you guys think.. break up or is it a space thing... this is her own words
K I'm going to try and explain things to you the best way I know how. This didn't come all of the sudden my feelings have been disapating a for a while now. Its nothing that you did Matthew, sometimes people just don't jive that well. I'm feeling this with you. This is the second time that I have given this a try and first I was very optomistic that it would work out but after time my feelings started disipating again. When we were at your house for that one week I felt like you arn't the person I want to be with for the rest of my life...it didn't feel bad but it didn't feel right. I can't make it feel right. You have changed alot since the last time we've been together but you have to understand that you don't need to make changes even if you say you do. I would just like some space nothing you say or do will change the way I feel.....I just need to sort some stuff out in my head...without you please try and understand if the pain is to grave then leave I don't know what else to say at the moment...I dont' want to hurt you I care about you but I can't be unhappy either I'll call you tommorow to talk further. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 5:24:57 PM |
Shes focking a guy thats better than you. When he dumps her, she wants to come back to you. Leaving the door open in case the other guy doesnt work out
I didn't want to say it but this woman pretty much summed it up with truth. Better than you? No. A new guy for new feelings. That's all. He could even be a terrible lover. It has to do with her pathetic chemicals. Act like your going to catch her and then let her fall. Remember when we do this we are considered slugs, dirt, unable to commit, players, filth etc.
A woman is the epitome of a double standard. She will hold you to a standard that she has no intention of ever following herself. Learn it. Never accept a double standard. If she persists?......well her sister might be pretty cute. I have zero problems with this. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 6:17:47 PM | unlike stoneangelz, i don't think she was cheating on you MHW.
i'd take her words for face value. if she framed this note like "i need space", i wouldn't say this. she didn't say that initially.
i still say if you tell your partner you "need space", that's horseshit. you're really saying you don't value the relationship. just say that. your partner shouldn't have to read between the lines and figure out how you feel even if you have the intestinal fortitude to tell people things you think they don't want to hear.
it's only a guess. i say she's either thinking about seeing someone else, or already has another guy or guys lined up. like she went out one night not with you and had some guys come on to her. this is an easy scenario to picture. she says her feelings were dissipating, one evening i envision her doing a girls night out and batting her eyelashes all evening, and has phone numbers or given hers out to one or more guys.
don't give her a second chance. she broke up with you with iffy language and didn't have the guts to do it face-to-face. dump her. move on. live well, and if she looks for you, be polite, be bigger than her, and tell her no thanks, and don't give her bullshit reasons why you won't reconsider, tell her the way you really feel. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 6:37:51 PM | Baby Boy it is soooo over . Seek one who appreciates you more .. You are young ..don't be so serous ... Plenty of trolleys coming down the track ..the next one may be a better ride .
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Posted: 3/26/2006 8:07:25 PM | Wow, well said, I couldn't have expressed my exact thoughts to him any more crystal blue waters clearer than that exxess. Translation "I've lost my INTERST LEVEL IN YOU"
We have all been there at one time in life dude. I feel for you. But, move on and don't give any 2nd chances. She will bite you in the butt. And not the nice type of bites either. The mad dog bites with the locked jaw.      | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 8:20:43 PM | Umm, if that email wasn't clear enough, then I can sum it up in one word: Dumped
She doesn't dig ya. She said so. You don't "jive". 'Nuff said. Be thankful she's giving you that much to go on. Leave her in a cloud of dust and find the one who you jive with. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 8:23:59 PM | I want my space = I don't have enough babe-balls to end this, so I'm hoping that you will get the clue and end it for us, that way I won't look like the "bad guy" but I can still get what I want, which is to be out of this relationship... | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 61 | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 8:33:11 PM | Whitewine is right.
Some women just need more space then others...they want time for the girlfriends, time on their own, time for school, time for their passions...they don't want to be totally smothered by a guy. You need time apart to keep your own identity and independence alive. Give her some time to see if she misses you, and in the meantime, think about if you really miss her, or did you just not like being alone. And ask yourself if you were living too much of your life through her, and not enjoying enough of your own passions and independence. | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:12:52 PM | As I mentioned earlier, she is not worth it..I know it hurts now, but give it time, you will feel better , see your friends, do things you enjoy doing
You are young, the pain will go away trust me, I've been there.
And who is mean enough to end it via email.... I mentioned before you are worth so much more....take you time, meet other women...... and find the right one for you
Both parties have to feel the same or it doesn't work....
Chin up, be yourself and you will find '' The woman for you "
You will love again, but it will be better, she "whoever" will love you back
You will see and feel the difference. Don't give up.......someone will come along when you least expect it
Take care of yourself, remember you are #1 | |
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Posted: 3/26/2006 9:31:15 PM | I'm going to jump on the agree train. Sounds over, been there done that myself :(
sorry and g'luck | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/26/2006 10:16:22 PM | U got more than i did man.
Mine just said she needed space and wouldn't explain it any further.
I still to this day do not know why that relationship took the proverbial sh*t. Happy one day, and needing space the next. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2006 8:22:48 AM |
Some women just need more space then others...
true . . .
but when a woman says this (a guy is less likely to phrase this bullshit excuse like this) at any point while listing breakup reasons, THIS IS THE KISS OF DEATH.
Now if she states the actual reasons why, like affection said above, like "i want to concentrate on school, work, unshared interests", I could go along with it. throw "i need space" into the mix, what's she's really saying is "i'm going to that all that stuff anyway and get a new guy, i'm #1".
"i need space" should be listed with the top BS breakup excuses, it's up there with the "it's not you it's me" crap. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2006 8:55:12 AM | Based on what she said it's definitely over.
A woman can not control her attraction (well, for the most part she can't). I went through something similar. The only thing I could do was "let go" and move on. It's not easy but she's telling you that she doesn't have the kind of feelings for you that she needs to let the relationship progress.
Read my thread on "Second chances" if you want to learn how to get over her in the shortest amount of time possible. | |
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Posted: 3/27/2006 9:02:53 AM | Hey MWH, walk away. She just sounds like she doesn't have the courage to sit down with you face to face and talk about the truth. It just sounds like she is taking the coward's way out. And why would you want to wait for someone like that?
AND I strongly suggest that you read Jarbarian's thread on "second chances". I followed similar advice a while ago and after three months I didn't even want my ex back in case you may be hoping that happens. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/27/2006 10:16:05 AM | Mine gave me the vague "need space" thing ... then a gazillion and one petty little things that changed every day. Between the lines? I read: you were just another gimmick to make my ex-husband jealous and now that you're onto me, it's time to start screwing this new stooge. CYAss
Steve | |
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Posted: 3/27/2006 10:43:33 AM | To quote the Monty Python boys.... "Run away! Run Away!"
and, lest we not forget...
"Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition" | |
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Posted: 3/27/2006 10:50:43 AM | | yeah sorry dude im afraid so.....if she said if you cant handle it leave that is a good indication...some women do need space....but to end the email in that manner is not a good way to say that.... | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/27/2006 11:06:20 AM | | its been a week today.. last monday she said give me a week!!.. I heard through people that she was " probaly" goin to call me last night ( sunday march 26).. but she ended up goin to see a movie with an old g/f from college in which she hasnt seen in along time | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/27/2006 2:08:54 PM | I hate to say this MWH but the going out with an old friend from college act was played on me too a long time ago. And what if she was going to a movie with an old friend. Why couldn't she spare five minutes to say hello and say that she can't talk at length with you.
Do yourself a favour and walk away. You are just looking at weeks or months of heartache.
You really don't need this, read Jarbarian's thread on "moving on" and I promise you it will help. In fact, after you are through following that advice I can almost guarantee you won't want her back even if she wanted to. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/27/2006 5:44:16 PM |
Shes focking a guy thats better than you. When he dumps her, she wants to come back to you. Leaving the door open in case the other guy doesnt work out Give the lady a door prize. While she may not have been "focking" anyone, I'd guess she was at least playing the field. Saw something that caught her eye, and didn't want the drama of a love triangle. You need to leave her alone, if she comes back, forget it. You going back to a relationship like that will be tantamount to telling her that she can do whatever the f*ck she wants, and when it doesn't work out, you'll be there waiting for her. Stop thinking about her, and open your eyes. If it's one thing I've learned, it's that moping around can cloud yur vision of a good thing that's right in front of you. Good luck mate, sorry for your troubles.  | |
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