| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/30/2006 1:12:54 AM | going by her email she has told you its over and the 2nd one comfirmed it. good luck and you will find a girl who you will jive with. even though she did it a cowards way she was honest. to u. you had 2 goes at it dont try for a third go out with friends and you just dont know whats around the corner | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/30/2006 1:24:34 AM |
when a girl says she need space!! what does it mean?
when a Woman quotes this phrase to You.....what she really saying is......
....."I'm looking into the Future of My life..and???....I don't See You in it".......... | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 10:22:34 AM | | well its been 4 days now .. and im feeeling alot better everyday i do have that pit in my stomach. stil . you know its funny.. when me and my ex were togther she would be too tired to go out and be in bed by 930 everynight during the week.. .the last few days when i have gotten home from work i have came online...MSN and have noitced my ex online at around 1130 12 midnight which is funny too me.. b/c she was always in bed early when with me.. I dont saying then to her.. b/c im trying to cut off all contact.. but none the less i find it funny..how diifertn a person acts when they break up with somone.. just how they change litle things in their life...does anyone know what i mean? | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 11:00:32 AM | Cutting off contact means you delete her from MSN. Don't block her, just delete her off your contacts so you can't see her when she is online.
By checking out what time she is online you are basically breaking no contact. You will NEVER heal completely until you LET GO.
Please read my thread on second chances. It will help you immensely. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 2:56:08 PM | | i have delted her.. and i have read your thread on second chances.. but everytime iam out even with my friends i still think about her....wondering what shes doin and if shes thinking about me.. | |
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Posted: 3/31/2006 2:58:46 PM | So stop wondering about her. When you think about her, have 3 things readily handy in your mind that you like to do. Stop thinking about her and FORCE yourself to think about those fun things.
Wear a rubber band around your wrist. Whenever you think about her, pull back and SNAP that rubber band as hard as you can. Thoughts of her will be instantly replaced with the PAIN of that snap.
Those are just two examples of ways to stop thinking about her.
I also HIGHLY suggest going to Counseling. It works. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 3/31/2006 7:46:04 PM | Jar... it's much easier said than done and you know that. In time he will stop thinking so much about her, but it's still fresh.
With that said.. STOP THINKING ABOUT HER SO MUCH!!! She is occupying way too much of your thoughts, If she was thinking about you then she would be calling you!! | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 8:43:30 AM | | when a girl says that... it means that.... she just wants to get her stuff in order and relax alittle bit..... even though u do think about her alot doesnt mean shes not thinking about u.... just relax and see where it ends up... im sure she is thinking about u... but just think about how much better it will be when she comes back.... u will cherish her more and she will realize that she needs u more.... kissy kissy | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 9:04:56 AM | comes back? when a girl says the spce thing its 1 of 2 things in my experience. 1) shes a chicken sh|t and has been bored or wantonig out of the relationship for awhile but never let it out....or 2) same as 1 but shes spoiled and will come back to you because she knows she can.
move on.....deal with it....find a good honest woman, however rare they are. | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 9:15:26 AM | ok.. going to be bluntly honest here..
I need space translates to .. I'm done with you, but I don't want to hurt your feelings so i'm hoping by telling you I need space you will back off and eventually it won't hurt so much when you realize i'm not going to get back together with you...
so take it like you want but I suggest you move on..
good luck. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:22:12 AM | KR8 is right. saying you need space is a horseshit breakup excuse, plain and simple, no matter if it is uttered by a man or a woman.
got to disagree with you aria, waiting around for the "needs space" person is fruitless. guaranteed the "needs space" person ain't waiting around for you, they are selfishly taking care of their needs with no consideration of yours. i generally don't recommend that people seek relationships with selfish partners. thinking about someone doesn't cut the mustard. actions speak louder than words (or thoughts).
mesna, i don't doubt your sincerity about your lifestyle, i'm a fairly private person myself and i sense you are as well. if a guy is too clingy to you, don't tell him you need space, tell him "i value my privacy and you will respect that". i think this is what you really mean, so why not just say that? | |
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Posted: 4/10/2006 9:09:56 PM | bike man, I tell them many different things... I tell men in my life up front that I like my privacy and I MUST have time to myself. Usually when I say I need my space it is literally because they are IN MY BUBBLE!!! That means they are physically too close to me. I do not have a problem telling people I need my own time to myself. And sometimes it means I need some space. So I do not agree with you people who say it ALWAYS means a breakup coming. If that were the case, I'd say.. hey.. it's NOT working we need TIME APART or look we are just too different.. or in some cases.. HEY YOU, YOU KISS LIKE CRAP SEE YA!!!
When I say I need space or I need some Debbie Time then that is what I mean, therefore I obviously like the person enough to let him know he can't be around me all the time. I want the person around just not to the point they like it. I know it sucks but relationships have to be on my terms because of my life style and my schedule. It makes it hard to have a good relationship when they can't depend on me to be at their beck and call.
I'm not sure any of that made sense, I'm just too tired tonight. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:34:25 PM | | Dude, give yourself a break and move on. I have been there before, It's obvious she has some unresolved issues with in herself you can't fix it, she has to do that for herself. Now go out and get to know another girl and accept it for what it is, you can't change people but you can change yourself. If she tries to contact you tell her your not interested and have moved on and suggest she do the same. just my two cents. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/10/2006 9:39:24 PM | | ok, well haven't read all the posts, but basically yes it means time to move on. She has lost attraction for you and is trying to spare your feelings by not being direct. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/11/2006 1:08:39 AM |
Then again, in "space," you cannot hear each other scream.
A slightly altered quote from ALIEN  | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/11/2006 3:02:32 AM | K now heres a question. What about when your wife says she needs space & at the same time moves out with her mom who hates your guts?
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Posted: 4/11/2006 3:45:58 AM | | or maybe the girl just wants space 2 see if she does wanna b with him ive had 2 do this myself i didnt know what i had till i didnt have it no more dont tar everyone with the same brush were all different and do things with different reasons | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 4:07:21 AM | | In my opinion, cause I have actually said this to a guy. It could possibly mean that you were to clingy??? or insecure in your own mind about your relationship with her. She may just need to find some time on her own to decide if you are the one. trust me me don't hold on tighter it will just make her move further away. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/11/2006 4:33:22 AM | Take the ring back! Go to the nearest "meat market" and find yourself another girl... get over her already... she has moved on. For all you know she already has someone else full time!
I think Cee4 has it right... | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 4:36:55 AM | LOL at Leafcup75
When YOUR wife says she needs space... SHE REALLY needs it! Some husbands are just suffocating! And the men always have their SPACE, boys night out.. the garage ect.. WHEN do we GET OURS? I am thinking MOMS house.. was just nice for her LOL.. hahahaha | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 5:03:53 AM | I once told my wife I needed some space and she locked me in the back yard.
Which is a large part of why her first name is now EX.......
The term "I need some space" in geneal means "I see you too much. You are smothering me." If you see her every day and nobody else, she is asking fro physical space, and I understand it. If you see her once a week and she still says that, she is asking for emotional space, and I hope you kept your little black book. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 8:15:49 AM | you know mesna, i never thought of a scenario where two people were in too close physical proximity for too long. in that instance, "i need space" literally means "i need physical space".
i still say there are better ways to express yourself than "i need space". how about:
"i need my privacy"
"i want some time away from you, i'll seek you in x hours or days"
"i feel claustrophobic, get away from me"
if you feel smothered or if your partner is clingy, just say "you smother me, stop it", or "your clinginess is a turnoff, change your behavior".
in general, "i need space" is used as a breakup excuse, it doesn't mean they need "physical space". i'll agree with mesna, there are exceptions, but when a lady tells me she needs space, or if i read about that here on PoF, my radar tells me "BS breakup excuse". | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/11/2006 10:28:36 AM | | I agree with most other posters when ANYONE (male or female) coin the phrase " I need space" it is usually the beginning of the end. People often wish to leave a little contact in case they change their mind and want you back ... why let her string you along for months. Ask her to decide, accept her descision and move on. You are cute and there are obviously more fish in the sea. | |
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