| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:29:49 AM | | Hey dude......there is another dude. this is a common line used by people who are cheating/having affairs. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:38:35 AM | This is just a **** way of saying "its over". The reason why most younger girls use this game is because they are generally gutless and want to have a guy on a backburner in case her new guy (believe me, there is one... maybe a new acquaintance, a guy she met at a bar, school, whatever) doesn't work out. She could then come back to you. Be a man and kick the useless****to the curb my friend.
If you want to be really cruel and show you care as much as she does (which isn't much apparently), you could sleep with her one last time, then dump her after you get off hehe. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:52:17 AM | id say that its over hun, I know if I tell a guy I need space which isnt offen!!!
its a kinda way of breaking up with them cos you dnt want to say the words I dnt love you any more or its over, so its easyer to say "I need space" that way she doesnt feel so guilty and hopes that youll get the message. but thats only my opinion!!! | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 12:26:07 PM | Look when a girl says she needs space That means the man is driving her up the freaking wall and she needs time away from him.... | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 12:48:30 PM | Quite simply, it means TERMINATE and EXTRICATE.
Time to look elsewhere because she has no more interest in you. | |
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Titian
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Joined: 1/26/2007
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 1:28:54 PM | | HMM TO ME.............. NEEDING SPACE CAN MEAN.........I WANT TO DATE OTHERS AND NOT HURT YOUR FEELINGS OR....I G OT THINGS I NEED TO DO AND CANT GET THEM DONE...WHEN IM WITH SOMEONE 24 /7 ...AND JUST NEED ME EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE TIME... | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:39:44 PM | FRom experiance when she says she needs space she is looking for somthing else or checking someone out girls say that so they dont feel bad kinda like putin in there 2 week notice at a job lol but who cares anyways it sucks when they pull the need space thing this happends to people not living right i was in a 3 year relationship and that happend wasent living right i geuss but its a learning lesson  | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:24:53 PM |  You got it bad and sorry, she just isn't into you as much as you are for her...Now She is taking the cowards way out. which I prefer..it let's you down alot easier that way . All you gotta do is take the hint...let it sink in..understand if you crowd her and corner her to settle for what she knows now is not a good match it will waste too much of your time and her's for the one that is searching for you.
Do not take it personally, { easier said than done, I know} but she is doing you both a favor... let her have her space and make use of her time away by getting a new suit of clothes and haircut and charm the pants off some lucky lady  and go deep sea fishing | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:39:37 AM | Yeah, I've heard this one before, and I've found one answer works. Sever the ties right after she says it. Yes, do a disappearing act. Don't call, don't answer them, don't e-mail. Invariably, she'll wonder just what happened, and why you "disappeared." Tell her she wanted her space, and you granted it to her.
Most of the time, when a woman's trying to break up with you, she hates doing the heavy lifting. Basically, she's trying to spare a guy's feelings, not realizing she just made matters worse. | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 5:23:57 AM | I had the unfortunate experience last year also with my ex g/f who now has a profile here and does the forums, we were together for 5yrs and have 1 child together last yr she told me she needed her "space" and moved in with one of her girlfriends who she worked with at the time.
since we had a child together she didnt give me an address for where she was living at and would let me see my child on the weekends until one weekend when she brought our daughter over to visit she was severely bruised all over her legs....yes i did the frightened parent thing and went to the police and filed a complaint for child abuse and eventually DCFS had to get involved and investigate my ex g/f.
after being investigated she gave our child back to me to take care of which i had no probelm doing and did what i had to do as a father would do for his child.
during that time for several months we did what she called "reconsiling our relationship" during the time she was gone where she would come over and stay several days with me and our daughter and we shared the same bed again like we used to do but there was "no sex" while we were reconsiling.
she came back home to me in dec of last year after she got fired from her job and things werent working out with her and her roomate...so we got back together and things were fine as if we had never split up....did i have trust in her no i didnt at first but as things settled in that trust feeling was coming back until after the end of january
I found emails on my laptop from the guy she was sleeping/having sex with when we were "reconsiling" our relationship and she was sleeping with me during those emails some of which she did while she was at home with me
she left me again in the middle fo Feb saying she needed to have time to "destress" whatever that meant and moved back in with her girlfriend who she was having problems with before..go figure
so i got nosy and started checking the internet dating sites and found she had personal profiles on dating sites to include this one and sex personal sites also looking for guys to have sexual incounters with, needless to say it all came to a head when i confronted her about them ..all of which she denied she had and still told me she loved me and we were still together in a relationship.
this month she took me to court and got an " order of protection" against me and now i cant even see my daughter anymore because of it or go near her........5yrs together and 1 child down the drain.
when they tell u they want "space" its a BIG GAME and they play with your HEART guys......  | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:09:34 AM |
and if i cant handle it. then i should leave
There's your answer right there; leave. Even if she's still got SOME feelings, sending all this in an e-mail shows a lack of respect and emotion. It's marginally above "dumped by text" on the "how to dump people" totem pole. Face to face or on the phone, only ways to do it (unless there's a serious concern the dumpee might snap). | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 8:36:30 AM | So sorry :( It appears she's written you because she couldn't say it to your face - she obviously doesn't want to hurt you, but admitting that her feelings have been declining and asking for space is basically another way of saying that everything has changed on her side.
Try to keep yourself busy and go out with your friends, a lot. Don't sit around home "waiting" for her to contact you -- if she comes back, fine, but just leave the whole situation alone, don't contact her. If you call/email/text it will only push her even further away from you and could cause her to lose any and all respect for you.
She's asked for space, so let her have it and make yourself scarce.
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 5/2/2007 12:28:10 AM | | OP: it means the same thing it means when a man says it. The person sorta likes you, but you're NOT the "ONE." Sweetie, keep fishing. You'll eventually fine the "ONE" and it will be RECIPROCATED. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 2:14:41 PM | I agree with cee4 as well. My pet peeve is this situation we are talking about. I know both men and women do this and it is better to just be honest. If we are old enough to get into a relationship then we should have the courage to get out of one. This just happened to me recently and I was stupid enough to wait for 2 weeks while she was "sorting" things out and even after this she wanted to ignore the problem and still talk on the phone. I have always been honest when I get out of relationships, otherwise people usually can tell when they are being lied to. Have a great day.
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 5/2/2007 2:27:24 PM | | she said she needs space probably because your not sparking that emotion inside her any more, you stopped doing the thing that you were doing in the first place to attract her, you might have become to clingy, too nice, to predictable, wussie stuff. it happens to the best of us when we really like someone. whatever it was take it as one of lifes lessons and try not to do it with the next girl. move on cause there's plenty of fish in the sea. | |
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| when girls say they need space
Posted: 5/2/2007 3:50:23 PM | usually, when your girl says that she needs space, it means that you are not challenging her enough. i dont know how long you were dating, but all i know is in the beginning of a relationship, you dont want to show too much affection too soon. for some reason it drives them away. the challenge is over for them, and the excitement comes to a screeching hault. in my last few relationships, (none lasting over 3weeks,) that was my biggest mistake. i cared waaaay too much. to them, i had nothing else happening in my life, because i wanted to spend all of my time with them. on the other hand, if youve been dating for a while, you may have kept your cool in the beginning, but caved as time passed. do you do everything she asks without question? i highly doubt that her mom had anything to do with it. wouldnt her mom be happy if your girl was happy with you? anyways, theres my two cents. hope it helps.
best of luck in winning her back man! of course if thats what you want. | |
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